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I'm in the typical high school drama situation and to be honest, I completely asked for it. It was my mistake. Now, I need help getting out of it.
17F
Long story short, my "best friend" (I use quotes because I hate saying those words) went out with this guy for 1yr+ and he recently dumped her.
She started going out with a new guy but she still has feelings for her first boyfriend. She wanted to preserve her friendship with her ex, but she felt like he didn't want to be her friend anymore.
Unfortunately, I have a crush on her ex (BUT NOBODY on planet Earth knows) and so I thought I would try to help the situation by calling him and talking to him about it. He said nothing new except that he's annoyed with her (she's genuinely concerned about their friendship) and that he can't trust anyone because rumors will start.
I really, really want to get him to realize that he can trust me while still maintaining my friendship with my "best friend." I think that is an impossibility but now I think for whatever reason I've gotten him to dislike me or trust me less because he's afraid I will leak information to her.
I just don't know what to do. My mind is telling me to immediately get out of this situation and let them handle it, and that's exactly what I told him. I, like he, cannot trust anyone, which is why I'm asking on this site. At the same time, I really want him to like me more than her. I asked him and he said he has ABSOLUTELY no feelings for her at all as a girlfriend.
I think she needs to move on from him and realize she has a new boyfriend and she should stop worrying about her friendship with him because he never said he didn't want to be friends with her. He said he would call her, but I know at this point I cannot butt in.
What should I do? I do not ever plan on telling him I like him because I cannot date him. My feelings for him should have no influence on any of my decisions. I'm just confused and afraid that he dislikes me because I transmit information to her like a good "best friend."
I feel like he wants to trust me but he can't because he knows she'll get all the info he tells me, and I don't want him to feel that way and I told him that but he's just forcing himself not to trust anyone because he's afraid. Should I try to hang out with him alone so he can open up? Would that be weird? We're good friends but I don't want him to think that the only reason why I want to hang out is to talk about his ex... I'm just so confused and this whole situation has escalated so much.
You have two options
1. Continue to talk to him take the risk of you two both liking each other loose the friend and run into a load of drama
2. Get out of the situation and let the two of them handle it and avoid the drama
First of all I'm going to be completely honest with you, It wasn't your place to call him and try to solve a matter that did not involve you. If you want to stay friends with your "best friend" than if I were you I'd end the calls with the guy now before you dig a deeper hole. You are asking for it if you continue to talk to this guy. Your friend has just got out of a relationship with him there probably is a lot of tension between the two of them. Whether people say they are completely over someone or not only they know whether it's the truth. If you don't want this situation to escalate anymore than it already has than I would avoid talking to the ex boyfriend for awhile and let him be. A best friend is someone who should be there for one another this guy is only a crush and god knows what would ever happen down the line if you two were to have a relationship anything could go wrong. The question is....Is he worth risking the friendship?
Okay i have a girlfriend, and I'm bisexual (mostly gay) and she doesn't support me at all. I want to break up with her so badly not that i want to hurt her but for 6 months now I've put up with her downing me. She lives with me and her family moved out of state, i want to break up with her but i don't want her to be on the streets or end up moving out of state. Because i want to still be friends and i slightly don't want to lose someone that's close to be. But when i think about it i get depressed. But i can't live my life like this and i don't want her feelings hurt either
Her feelings matter too, so please i need as much help as i can get.
Love Beau
The number one thing you need to understand is that if two people can't support each other no matter what the circumstances are than there is no relationship and that meaning friendship as well. If you feel that it would be in your best interest to end the relationship than you need to have a sit down with her and let her know how you feel and why you feel the way you do. It takes a lot for someone to come out and tell someone that they are gay/lesbian/bisexual and it is even harder when we tell the ones we love the most because we are afraid of rejection. 6 months is a long time to be put down by someone, I give you credit for lasting that long but the truth is it sounds like it is time to approach her. The more you think about it the more depressed, stressed, and drained you will feel. Nobody needs someone who is going to be a downer on them and the truth is if she doesn't support you now than she probably won't support you as being your friend either. I understand that everyone has feelings but sometimes you need to put yourself first.
latley my boyfriend and i have not ben nearly as close, weve talked about it alot and have stopped fighting as much but how can we become so close again? also i might have fallen out of love with him :'( i dont want to talk to him on the phone anymore i find an excuse to hangup, id rather be with friends instead and so on. how can we become close again, i love him but idk whats going on.
today i went to kitaro and asked for an application and the waiter an i talked for over ten min and we both kept catching ourselves ,dare i say, flirting, the other guy never came back with an app so after a while i just said i had to go il come back some other time. i wasnt going to cheat but i felt so much more love out of him than out of my boyfriend of a year n a half.. any tips? :( 15/f
If you no longer have feelings for your boyfriend than you at least owe it too him to tell him in person. A year and a half is a long time you two should at least have a strong enough relationship to at least communicate and tell each other how you feel. If you think you have fallen out of love than tell him. However 10 minutes is not long enough to fall in love with someone, Instead you could of just simply developed a crush. Do you know anything about this waiter? Does he have a girlfriend? If you love your boyfriend and really want to work thinks out with him than you need to talk to him. Tell him how you are feeling and think of ways that you two could work on it. Sometimes all a relationship needs is work, Everyone goes through it but communication is number one.
16/f
hes 20/m
alright, me and my boyfriend broke up about 2-3 months ago. if it was a normal circumstance, i could just tell him to f*ck off and leave me alone... but i cant, im havin his kid :/
i broke up with him because he was very manipulative, he lied (even tho he wouldnt admit it, it was obv) about the stupidest stuff like winning fights all the time and where he was, he kept me on a leash, he ALWAYS talked about how many girls wanted him to make me jealous, hed always accuse me of cheatin and turn everything around on me. i couldnt take it anymore !
but i found out i was pregnant with his kid, and then he wouldnt leave me alone. i told him just to give me some time to breathe and then id call him. the first month hed call me every 3 days to a week. he didnt understand i just need some time by myself, because im the kind of person who needs to sit and think about things for a while before i act on it.
finally i agreed to let him over my house FOR A LITTLE WHILE so we could talk about things. basically, he just came over to win me back!! which i made it a point that i would not ever ever get back with him. he starts makin a scene and cryin to me... then tellin me that he cheated on me so many times. when i didnt have a reaction he said he was kidding... then he went on to say he did indeed cheat on me...then took it back again... THEN, hes like 'well can i call this girl im talkin to from your phone?' and im like 'YES if youll leave after that'. so he calls her...but it ends up not bein a girl he was talkin to but his ex girlfriend that has aboyfriend who hes NOT talkin to. WHAT THE HELL!?
so finally after 5 hours of him not leavin, i finally get him outside the door. hes like 'will you kiss me?' and i said 'NO! leave pleaseeee' (im cryin and exhausted because he just wont leave). and then he says 'well, if i cant have you..then have a nice life.' and i said 'oh youre not gonna be in your kids life? okay...' then he forcefully grabs my arm and says 'call the judge call the cops i dont care im dippin somewhere' and i just said 'okay, good luck with that.' turned around and tried to close the door.
then he wont let me close the door and starts yellin into my house, i dont even really remember what he was sayin because i was so mad. but i was just yellin 'PLEASEEE LEAVE PLEASE I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE!' and then finally my mom had to come out. he still wouldnt leave. finally my step dad came out and pushed him out the door.
now he keeps callin to come over and im like 'hell no after what you did at my house...' but he wont leave me alone. he sends me messages on myspace talkin to the baby!!! its soooo weird and i just get stresssed out everytime i hear his name.
now i think hes like crazy, and i dont want my kid goin over his house all the time. he thinks hes gonna see it everyday or somethin, sayin he 'doesnt wanna be a weekend dad'. and i cant handle seein him that much, ill go nuts!
someone help me find a nice way to tell him to back off... i cant keep ignorin his calls but he just stresses me out so much its not healthy for me or the baby.
THANKS :(
Okay breathe...
All I can say is if he is manipulative than good for you for ending the relationship. Nobody needs to be manipulated and told what to do all the time. You have a child on the way, You need to put your focus on that child because the more you stress yourself out the higher the chances of a miscarriage. If this guy won't back off than you might want to seek a restraining order against him in the meantime. I hate too tell you but from the sound of it this is something that might very well become a matter of the court. If you need time to yourself than you deserve to take time off for awhile. This guy needs to back off and the next time he steps a foot on the property warn him to leave and if he doesn't than have him escorted off by your parents or the police. If you think it is best than BLOCK him, Don't answer his calls, text or none of that. This guy sounds like an immature ass who needs a reality check. You are pregnant and anymore of his childish behavior can put you and that child at risk. Sometimes people change after a breakup and their true colors start to show. Does he sound like father material? If you ask me...No he doesn't. In the meantime remember you can be the role model, the mother, The hero...and always remember that mother is god in the eyes of a child.
i usually don't have a lot of discharge, and its always clear. well today after school i went to the bathroom and i had soo much it was like creamy and wet and disgusting. nothing hurts down there and i'm not having sex but i do get fingered, but ive been getting fingered by the same guy for awhilee. so i dont think thats it. so heres the embarrasing part, i'm like farting out of my vagina alot...if that makes any sense, and i feel it all wet and gross so has this happened to anyone before? and what is it what does it mean?
It's normal it is called a "Queef"
Down there is all opened, When air gets trapped down there we queef. A more easier way said "Air bubble" This is completely harmless and normal
The white and creamy stuff sounds like a discharge which is also normal a lot of woman get it every so often.
Make sure you shower often, You also may want to see a doctor they can possibly give you something to clear it up.
Hi, I'm a 22 year old girl.
I just broke up with my emotionally abusive (now ex) boyfriend of about four years...over four years? Literally, about an hour ago. Right now, I'm feeling pretty free and good about it, but I know it's been an addictive relationship, and I'm worried that I'll second-guess myself and talk to him if he tries to contact me, and wind up stuck again.
I got my key back to my car and apartment, so he can't get in. I don't think he has any malicious intent...but I also don't think he believes that I'm serious about the breakup.
So...
When it sets in for both of us, I'm pretty sure we'll both be really upset, and I know I'll miss him and want him back at some point.
You guys have any suggestions to avoid that?
I appreciate any ideas you can give me. =)
It is good that you got out of the relationship if it isn't healthy. What should you do? REPORT HIM, CALL THE COPS. If you don't say anything you are only telling him it's okay and you only put more woman at risk.
1, The first thing you need to realize is that you come first, This about you and your safety. This is NOT about him. You need to stay away from him. Don't buy into his guilt story when he says he is sorry, He loves you and all that other crap.
2, People who abuse their spouse are NOT in love, The more you feed into it the more he is going to know that he can get away with it. Love is NOT when you hurt your partner, Call them names, Make them fear for their safety.
3, You need to stay away from him, Cut contact, Stop calling, Cut complete contact. Now only will this help you too move on but he will eventually see that you are serious. Do NOT go back to him
4, Sometimes it helps to think of all the bad things that were done too you, How he made you feel, Things he has said you too, How he acted, and use that too move forward. If this guy has hit you, called you names, threatened you or even made you fear for your safety than this guy is no good for nothing but too sit in a jail cell where he belongs.
You are better than this, You do not deserve someone who is a worthless piece of crap. Sorry for my language but it really angers me too see guys treat woman so badly. You need to stand your ground, Don't give into him. You have a life to live and you are young. Occupy yourself with things you love to do, Spend time with friends and family and if it helps seek some therapy. Do NOT let him back into your apartment and if he continues to show up that is when you call the police and get a restraining order against him. You are too good to be abuse by a worthless man who doesn't respect your feelings.
well okay 15/f well ii have been in and out with this boy and i really like him we have been together for 9months and we broke up and i went back to my ex and then we broke up and i went back with the other guy now and i still like my ex and i really wan to go back out with him but i end up goin back out with thwe other one and now that i still like my ex and he likes me i dont know what to do hahah wow i get really confused who to be with i got two questions
should i tell my boyfriend that we are over and go with the other guy?
or
should i stay with my boyfriend and just wait till the time comes?
I think you need to decide who you want to be with. Personally, I think maybe you should stick with the boyfriend you have now. Your ex boyfriend is an ex for a reason and like I've said many times before if it didn't work out the first time didn't work out the second time than more than likely it will not work out the third time. If you keep breaking up with someone then eventually they are not going to want to be in a relationship with you any longer. Many guys would rather be with someone who is serious and is not going to keep playing with their feelings than continue to go back forth between breakups. You need to decide what you want but like I said if you keep breaking up with him it's only a matter of time before he moves on to someone new.
18/f
I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago. I don't regret it, I needed a little break. He didn't understand the concept of a break. He didn't get how that if I loved him how I could break up with him. Anyway it was a big mess for a few weeks and he said he never wanted to talk to me again. But then late at night (around 2am) he started texting me. First it was once a week, then twice, then almost everyday. Wouldn't really talk about much, just filling each other in on our lives. Well now he has a new "girlfriend" but his friends, sister and mother all agree that its just a rebound to get laid, she is also using him as a rebound. So its not like the relationship is going anywhere. I'll be seeing him when I come home from school over thanksgiving break, I'm going to pick up my stuff from his house. While I'm there I want to tell him that I want him back. Not immediately though..he has to change a little. Since we broke up he started smoking pot again so that he's stoned 24/7 and he's in this depressed unmotivated all time low since the break up. You're probably thinking 'why the heck would she want to get back with him?' Well he wasn't like this when we were together and he wasn't like this before we met. All his friends say that I'm the only ex he's kept in contact with. I truly think that he would stop smoking for me, no doubt it'll take time but he's done it before.
I don't want to wait to have this conversation but I would prefer to have it in person but I won't see him for another 2 weeks. And I'm at college 4 hours away.
I basically need a little coaching through this. I've never wanted to get back with an ex. But this one's really special, deep down in there and I'm willing to fight for it. We had a really good relationship for 8 months up until the last week or so and thats only because I was getting stressed from school/work and it was affecting our relationship.
So how do I bring up that conversation? Should I call or text him now and tell him that I want to talk?
Okay let me lay out the facts
1. You originally broke up with him
2. He has moved on from the relationship
3. You live 4 hours away
4. He gets high often
This relationship doesn't sound like it has any success, You broke up with him if you wanted a break you should of said "I'm feeling the need to have a few days to myself but when I'm ready I will call you maybe we can do something together. I just need a little time to relax to myself" Sometimes breaking up and actually taking a break from the relationship are two different things. Moving on...Now he has a new girlfriend and the truth is despite what you've heard from others it is this simple "He has a new girlfriend". Whether it is serious or not he has moved on from the relationship. Now for his drug problem...You can't stop someone from a bad habit there is an old saying "You can't help someone who won't help themselves" if you two were ever to get back together it doesn't mean he will side his habit with being with you. People who do weed tend to have no or little motivation never mind often depression. On the other hand, If he is with someone new than it really isn't your place to try and get him back because what it all comes down too is you broke up with him. You can try to explain your case but remember be prepared to take the worst.
so on my laptop i keep getting all these internet explorer windws poping up advertising different things im really not interestd in an its really annoying. anyone no how to get rid of them thanks
Go to the "Tool" menu on the top of the screen in your browser. Click "Options" then go to were it says "Contents" and check off the "Block Popups"
17/f
I know that who ever reads this is going to have the impression that i'm cheating and not being fair and that i'm not a good person... but i need help. so before you go on thinking that i'm a horrible person, listen to me and see if you can help me..
I have a boyfriend. he's my age and we've been going out for 5 months. I really like him. he makes me happy and its going well. well he introduced me to one of his other friends, who is 2 years older (19) and at first, i thought he was a cool guy and good friend. but after talking to him for a while, he told me that he likes me. and my reaction was like "wow.... holy crap what am i supposed to do?? i have a boyfriend...." and so after he told me he likes me, i kinda shook it off and was just like "whatever. lets be friends" but then... after a few weeks, i started to realize that i really like him... like a lot.. ahhhh i dont know how to describe it. we've hung out quite a few times and i have so much fun around him and i can be myself and he makes me feel special etc. after a few more weeks, he got the courage to tell me that he loves me. and then it hit me, i love him.. but then again.. i also really love my current boyfriend..
now, i've thought about this A LOT. and my decision is to stay with my current boyfriend because i love him waaay to much to just leave him for another guy. even if that means risking not to be with my true love. and i told *jason-(19)* that i wasn't going to leave my boyfriend for him. and he is perfectly fine with that and he told me he would wait for me. even if that meant after i graduated college or until i'm 40. he will still wait for me. and i know that some guys don't keep their promises, but he told this to my face and he stared into my eyes for such a long time, that seemed like forever.
so thats that. i'm staying with my bf and *jason* is going to wait for me. meanwhile, jason and i are still hanging out frequently. and yes, it is hanging out. but occasionally there are a few kisses here and there between me and jason. i know that's really bad... but i can't help it. i'm in love with him.
another question i have is- whenever jason and i kiss, i have this feeling. its a sickening feeling in my stomach and it almost feels like i have to throw up. i have NO idea what this feeling is. i've NEVER had it before... i dont know if thats a good feeling or bad feeling? its not like i feel this way because his kisses suck or something. his kisses are AMAZING. i love them!! so it can't be because they're gross or something. i think its either- A. love. or B. feeling guilty for kissing him behind my boyfriends back.
i don't know which one it is.. can anyone help me? also any advice you have for me? opinions? stories?
thank you.
and i know you're thinking, wow shes a horrible person because she's cheating... but i can't help it.
also, this doesn't happen very often... so don't get the impression that i'm a slut/skank/whore or anything. because i'm not.
You are not a bad person, but the choices you are making are certainly not the smartest choices.
If you feel that you are in love with someone and you want to be with this other guy that you owe it too your boyfriend to be honest and tell him the truth about how you really feel. If you are kissing your boyfriend and you feel a sickening feeling than either you fell out of love or your feeling guilty. We can still have strong feelings for someone but not truly love them. Imagine how you would feel if this situation was reversed. If you want to be with "Jason" than be with him but do it the right way by telling your boyfriend that you have fell out of love. Dating your boyfriend when you have future plans to being with "Jason" is not only leading him on but as time goes by you will likely start feeling guilty and being in the relationship becomes a burden for you. Talk to your boyfriend
18/f
I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months during the first weekend of October. A lot of things were just building up. I went to college four hours away and he didn't go to college at all. I'm in a major that requires a lot of time in a studio. Sometimes I don't get back to my room until 2 or 3 in the morning, sometimes I don't go back at all and he didn't really understand how dedicated I was to it then whenever I would get home I would call him and he'd still be with his friends..at 3 in the morning. And I'm not saying it was just on weekends or a few days a week. It was everyday! I loved him dearly, more than anyone before and he was the one I lost my virginity to. But our relationship basically existed through texting and then whenever one of us could visit all we'd do was have sex. Well I started to fall out of love with him and didn't think it was fair to drag him along in a relationship if the feelings weren't equal. So I said "I love you but not enough for this to work" and he took that as me not loving him at all. It was a nasty break up and he was angry for a while and I got a lot of hateful texts from him and the drunken phone calls and he used to make me feel like shit for hurting him and all I kept doing was apologizing until one night he really pissed me off and I told him I was over it and I yelled at him a lot for being such an ass. In the 8 months that we dated he NEVER saw the angry side of me towards anyone so when he got me angry it sort of slapped him in the face and he woke up and apologized. The other night he texted me just to say hey and I'm not the type of person who can just ignore him. Well he kept bringing up random topics to keep the conversation going and even admitted that he was just trying to make conversation with me. I'll see him over thanksgiving break to pick up all of my stuff from his house and it'll be the first time I've seen him since we broke up. I know a part of me still loves him. And I think a part, or all of him still loves me, he's never kept in contact with any other ex before. I never felt like breaking up was 100% the best decision but I just figured our time was up. Now that I'll be seeing him I don't know what's going to happen. I don't know if I'll be able to resist kissing him and I really don't know if I want to get back together or not but I don't want to give him false hope. Another rather huge part of the story. We had unprotected sex a few days before we broke up and I'm about 90% sure I had a miscarriage a few weeks ago, and I talked to his sister(who's had a miscarriage) and she said it sounded like I did. He doesn't know about it though.
So two questions.
Should I talk to him about how I'm feeling?
Should I tell him about the miscarriage?
Personally it is up to you whether you want to tell him about the miscarriage. There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to that. However keep in mind that you are no longer carrying the baby and unless you have a good point in telling him I would probably just leave it at where it is. If you have told him that you feel out of love than he should know enough to get the point instead of harassing you with nasty text messages. For one, Good for you for putting yourself first. Do I think you should tell him how you are feeling? Yes and No. If you no longer want to be with him keep reassuring him that you are moving on. A relationship that is basically text messages is not a relationship that is going to be successful. If you two had sex when you two met all the time than clearly that is all it was. I'm not saying that when he text you saying "I'm not the type of person you can just ignore" was a threat or what but if he doesn't stop bother you maybe step up to the plate and become more direct and stern with him.
I'm a 22 year old female, my boyfriend is 24. We've been dating for about 10 months now. We are exclusive. I recently moved back home with my mother in Los Angeles. I was in San Francisco. My boyfriends still in San Francisco, but his family lives in Irvine. I'm not really sure if he thinks we're going to be together for long. He told me his mom said I can't go to Utah with his family for Thanksgiving. That really hurt me a lot. He also isn't coming down for my birthday because he says he has to study for school. The thing is my birthday is on a Saturday and he has the Friday and Monday off. He didn't come to my graduation and my mother's birthday. He didn't invite me to his White Coat ceremony. The day after, I went with him and his family wine tasting. His cousin asked me why I didn't go to the White Coat ceremony and he answered that I was working. I was working, but only because he didn't invite me to the White Coat ceremony. Valentines day was terrible because he said he was going to do something special, but we ended up spending it sitting around and going to sizzler with his roommates. I doubt I will be invited to his parents home for Christmas. There was always an excuse of his mother said he can't go or he has to study. He says he loves me and cares about me, but I'm starting to see that he doesn't include me in his life. Am I overreacting? Is this normally how people treat their girlfriends? I was in a serious relationship in the past and it was different.
Sounds like something I've one experienced, You need to move on. A relationship can not work if only one spouse puts the effort into making it work out. If he did not invite you to important events than I would start to think that maybe he lost interest in the relationship. Is he serious about the relationship? No. It could be he found someone new or is trying to tell you he isn't interested. Personally, The guy sounds like a jerk, If he doesn't want a relationship than he should at least talk to you about it and let you know instead of leaving you on the sideline to figure things out for yourself. You are not overreacting at all. If the relationship was serious than he would be glad to have you come to important things, He would want to spend time with you and he would be excited to see and talk to you in fact you'd usually be the first one asked to go. I think you need to talk to him, Ask him what his problem is but either way I would move on.
Good Luck
ok i always talk about how i want kids right now.. and im 17 female and my bf is going to be 18. he told me at least wait til im 18 so our parents cant tell us anything cause they already tell us stuff and were both still virgins! so they just act stupid! well anyways i have a baby brother that is going to be 4 in december..everytime he is around when my boyfriend is wich is like every single time! my boyfriend gives him like 98% of his time and attention wile i only get like 2%. it super sucks and ive already tried talking to him abotu it. and he says well hes a kid he needs attention too!
well when my baby brother is with me and were by ourselves hes all nice and loving and cute! then once he gets with me and my boyfriend of almost 11 months then hes all mean to me and stays in his arms the entire time! and he bees mean to me so i be mean back then my bf starts telling me crap. well he never fails to mention.. "and u want kids? you cant even handle your own baby brother" and i say well its cause hes my brother! its suposed to be like that. any other kid i can. he doesnt believe me. but when i try to be nice and sweet to my baby brother to show him my baby brother keeps acting up with me. so its super hard. what can i do to prove to him i can handle kids. i want them id be a good mom, and i want to live my life with him and our future kids?! someone please help me.
It's not just about wanting kids and being able to handle the pressure.
You are 17 years old, Even 18 is still way to young to even be thinking of having a child. A child should have parents who have a strong steady go, A providing home and the income is enough to support that child and by that means a full time job that doesn't pay minimum wage. A child needs a doctor, food, crib, clothes, and a whole lot more. Imagine having a good couple hundred dollars and just ripping them in half in just a weeks time. Formula alone these days are NOT cheap and depending on what brand you buy diapers cost a good 18-20 bucks. No matter what kind of child you have someday it will not be easy. Every woman experiences a loss at one point in their lives were they feel the need to have a child and this feeling often comes at a young age, This is were many people get themselves when they are not ready for it. I suggest spending time with someone who has children and by that two, three kids..and see if you still want a child. It is much more than cuteness, having a child is not a puppy. Do I think you would be a good Mom? No, not right now but in the future sure I don't see why not.
so i have this short part of a song stuck in my head and i cant figure out what songs its from.
its like "na na na na , na na na na na, na na na na na. " and repeats. cant really explain . kinda an upbeat song. pleasee help!
I'm going to take a wild guess at this...
There is a song called "Manamana" that was sung by the muppets
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hTkGXuiT55w&feature=related
Maybe it is an oldies song you are talking about?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jsaTElBljOE
I got a text from my girlfriend last night saying that her parents are making us break up because they found out that I touched her in innapropriate places. She is only fifteen and I am eighteen. I need to know what to do to. I don't want us to break up but her parents can get me in a lot of trouble if I don't obey their wishes. If I could have a second chance, I wouldn't touch her anywhere. Right now, I just think I need someone to talk to. I have had suicidal thoughts and that's not normal for me and I don't like it. Please please tell me what I can do!
I agree with the first person
Right now your only option is to respect the parents wishes. She is a minor, You are the adult.
At the age of 18, Dating a minor is not only illegal but you are taking a risk of being caught. Right now you need to ride it out. Killing yourself is not the answer, Not only will you hurt the ones you love but life is no more and you can't take it back. You are 18, There will be many more woman that you will date in your time. Right now I think your best bet is to stay single for awhile and when you are ready to date again look for woman of age. I'm not going to sugarcoat but you need to except what you did was wrong and forget the second chance with her. If her parents are trying to break you two up now than second chance doesn't look like an option.
21/f and he's like 23 or 24...
Okay I was talking this guy named jose back in june of 2009. He found me on a website and the conversations were good. I was actually interested in him and vice-versa. He always complemented me and told me all the sweet things I don't hear so much. So I allowed him to talk to my friend samantha because I wanted her to see if she thought he was a good guy for me. HOWEVER, he was sitten here telling her the same things he was telling me. So I busted him we he tried to jump stupid with me (and that was about meeting up with him cause I'm not to fond about meeting up with people I don't really know). So he felt like crap and pleaded to me that I am the only one he wants and blah blah. He admitted to his mistake and apologized for it. Then I randomly messaged him in August of 2009. We started talking again, and it was like the connection was stronger than before. So I finally decided to meet up with him. He was nice and all, but he kept touching me (and it was irritating me), then he wanted to make out like every 5 seconds (and that irritated me too), not to mention that I wasn't even attracted to him in person. He just pretty much smothered me and I felt like he was rushing things which was not what I wanted. Anyhow, shortly thereafter, I stopped talking to him again....
Now he found me again on his phone. And I figured what's wrong with being friends with him, so we ended up talking on the phone for like 2 hours! (Mind you, I HATE talking on the phone).... he kept telling me to let him prove to me that he is a good man and he want's to cook for me and start things off fresh again. He told me that I am the most wonderful girl that he's ever talked to because other females are not on my "level".
I simply just live for success. Failure to me is not an option so I am very pro education. I'm in school, work at a school, and studying to be a teacher.
Anyhow, I am trying to figure out why God has put him back into my life. Don't get me wrong, his personality is what I perfer but I am kinda not attracted to him. I mean is attraction important? I'm not fine but not ugly either (So idk what he sees). Should I talk to him again and see where it goes? I seriously have my guard up because I've been single for 3 years and have been used for sex by guys that I thought LIKED me. I'll be honest when I say I am sick of it and my heart has turned black. I TRUST NO MAN. But as other person sometimes it get's lonely. So I was wondering try again or move around? Thanks for your help as it is GREATLY GREATLY APPRECIATED!!!
Sounds like the guy is all for sex, Some guys are funny like that. You mentioned you've met the guy off the internet this makes me ask how well do you really know this guy?
1. You weren't attracted to him
2. He had already raised a red flag by flirting with your friend
3. If he really was into you he would probably respect you enough to slow things down instead of trying to get in your pants.
Sometimes guys who are desperate to get something out of girls will do just about anything and say just about anything to accomplish their goal. Obviously the guy is a sweet talker, Doesn't sound trustworthy, All for sex and maybe somewhat of a stalker? I think you sound much smarter than that. Move on
18, Female
I have a job interview this Tuesday at Rue 21 (a clothing store). Subway is the only other job I have ever had, and I was related to the manager, so getting the job wasn't an issue. The problem now is I have no idea what to expect at my interview.
I am really stressing out, because I have been putting in job applications for the past six months, and this is the first call back I have received. I don't want to blow this. What should I expect? What questions will be asked? How early should I arrive? What should I wear? I definitely don't want to be underdressed, but I also don't want to look stupid by getting all dolled up.
Help?!
Tips for an interview:
Make sure you look good (Clean clothes) nothing baggy, ripped, short, or too revealing.
You should always arrive at least 15 minutes early (Gives a good impression)
Try not to act overly nervous, Stay calm
More than likely you will be asked..
"Why do you want to work at the store"
"What didn't you like about your last job"
"What did you like about your last job"
my boyfriend and i were laying in bed together, and i gave him a handjob. he didn't ejaculate, but he almost did.. soon after, i was laying in the same spot where he was with no underwear or anything. also, he fingered me after. i've heard of something called "pre-cum" and how it could get you pregnant, so is it possible that he could have "pre-came" and it could have gotten on me from the sheets or his fingers, and i could have gotten pregnant?
You should be fine, If he was inside you without a condom than I'd start to worry.
so i was with this kid for a year. then he went to college and we broke up shortly after, basically because he wanted to be single but he said it was cause i deserved better. we tlked for a little while after we broke up but eventually i told him it was too much and i just needed to stop talking to him for a little while so that i could get over him and be ok on my own. he asked to get back together the other night but said that if we get back together i have to deal with the fact that when he goes out and parties girls are gonna dance on him and grind on him and its just the way it has to be. so i said no and said i dont deserve that and didnt go back to him. so its been a few days and im a complete wreck. its now been two months sense we broke up and i cant get over him. i dont know what to do. no matter what i do, i cant get over him, i cut him out of my life, and i still cried myself to sleep about it every night, and i still missed him everyday. i dont know what to do. i want to get over him, and i want to stop loving him, everyone says it just takes time but its been two months.. i just want it to stop hurting.... help me please.. :(
Healing is time, It doesn't happen overnight. Despite how long we have been with someone everyone heals at there own pace and we all grieve in our own ways. Two months has passed it's good you've cut contact but now it's time to move on to the next healing process which is focusing on yourself. Spend time with friends and family and keeping yourself occupied. You have a life to live, There will be many more guys that will come along but right now you need to relax and breathe. Try not to think about it, As hard as that is to do it will only cause you more stress.
my guy friend who ive dated a few times and broke up with long complicated stuff, but today he had to leave and he was like bye squid. what does that mean? lol please help=]
LOL! sorry
I have no idea...but a squid is a fish. I would ask him what he meant by that maybe you misheard him?