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pics with other girls
me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a year and 4 months. hes 18 and im 17. he jus recently like 2 or 3 weeks ago started night school. well today he uploaded a couple of pics on myspace and they are of him and 2 girls from school. there not touching there like sitting next to eachother like in class. but one pic one of the girls is wearing his hat. im not sure if im over thinking which i happen to do alot. but i remember how he used to post all these pics of him and these 2 girls that lived by him and him with a couple of his friends that are girls. hes one of those guys that every girl likes and he has a bunch of friends that are girls., but im like 99% sure he wont cheat on me. but lately alot we been fighting and getting into arguments and stuff so i been trying to stop acting all the way i been i kinda blame me cause i overthink way to hard about things that dont matter to him. i used to have a whole album on myspace of me and a buncha different guys and he never said anything about it cause to him it was just pictures. nothing more. and im not sure if im just over reacting like how i always do. someone please help me./ i dont want to mention anything to him cause it will jus cause more problems. he already thinks i dont like him having friends. =[ please help thanks in advance
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I don't think it's a matter of him looking to tick you off, I think the guy just simply has friends that are female and you are a little paranoid about the situation which causes you to become defensive. If your boyfriend is paying less attention you, Ignoring you and not seemingly as affectionate as he was then there is a possibility that he may or is loosing interest in the relationship. Look for the signs of cheating without making accusations and jumping to the obvious by seemingly suspecting something is up. Study him, Are these girls all he talks about? How does he act when he does bring them up? Is is nervous? Does he act like he is hiding something? Quick to change the subject? If so then I would start to become suspicious to whether something is going on or not. Making assumptions when you don't really have much proof to go by (Not including what I just said) is only going to make him think that you don't trust him. Trust is 99% of a relationship, Until he starts giving you reasons to become suspicious chill out. Act like you are fine with it and it doesn't bother you but keep in the back of your mind that you are looking for clues and signs of cheating. You can do that without seeming so obvious and jumping to assumptions. If he is cheating, Then clearly he wasn't good enough for you and you need to end the relationship.
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I don't know if you know this, but boyfriends/guys do this sort of thing to get under your skin. He's doing it because..... HE WANTS IT TO GET TO YOU ! He knows you'll see the pictures and get jealous. The best way to react to this, is to not react at all. Show him you could careless, and that his (girl)friends don't bother you a bit. He'll soon realize that his tactics to get you jealous/mad are not working, and he'll probably stop. I've had a boyfriend who was the outgoing, funny type that had many girls that were friends, and yes, it deff got to me and I know how you feel. I wouldn't mention anything to him though, just let it slide. The only reason to get mad or when it is time to speak up, is IF the pics start getting inappropriate and make you uncomfortable. Try letting the small things go, and don't get mad and you'll see the arguments lessening. You guys have been together for over a year, don't let petty things ruin what you have and don't get bothered by random girls, be strong and confident.
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