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HEYYY :D i'm in college and i'm a psychology major. i've had many experiences with boyfriends, crushes, friends and family. i know quite alot about sex and sex related issues, so feel free to ask me anything about that! i will be completely honest because i would want the same in return.if you drop one in my inbox, please try to be as detailed as possible (like your age & gender) so i can be as helpful as possible :D
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I heard this song on the radio. I think I've heard it before but it seems like a long time ago. I am thinking it might be an old song. It repeats a lot of numbers a lot. I think it's like a phone number but a made up one, of course, for the song. It says, "Jenny, I got your number...I got your number..." over and over too.
Who sings this song?
And does anybody have some lyrics they can give me on here too for it?
THNXXX
This should easily answer your question!
Pick and choose which is the one you like :)
http://search.letssingit.com/cgi-exe/am.cgi?a=search&l=lyrics&s=Jenny%2C+I+got+your+number
17/f
So me and the guy im talking to (*codey*)were in his room fooling around. His dad and me are good friends when we make small talk and i can tell he approves of me. I'm just scared his dad thinks im a whore now because everytime i go over there codey always wants to go to his room and hang out so i do. Well yesterday, we were fooling around and my boobs were hanging out and his dad walks in right at that moment. I was so freaked out. Now im scared to go over there again because im so ebarrased. I dont want his dad not to like me but he probably thinks im a slut or something. What do i do?
First, I'm so sorry this happened! But trust me, this happens to the best of us.. and months from now (or years from now) you'll be hysterically laughing about it.
It's probably better that his dad walked in, rather than a mom, because mothers are not so understanding when it comes to their sons and their girlfriends, and are especially not understanding when they walk into a situation like that. At least you can be a little relieved about that. The thing is, your friend/boyfriend (whatever his relationship is to you) should speak on your behalf. Let him know how embarrassed you are and ask him to please tell his dad how upset you are about the incident. I know it might seem weird for him to apologize and do all the talking, but if you approached his father, you'd both be embarrassed and it'd be incredibly awkward, putting his father in that position. Make sure this guy expresses to his dad how you are not slutty in anyway and things just got intense at that time. Good luck!
i broke up with my boyfriend of a couple months because i couldn't feel that "spark" that i had with my ex. he's soo hot and fun to hang out with and good at hooking up haha but i just can't see myself in a relationship with him. like some things he does just aren't ok with me and i don't want to fight about things i want to enjoy summer and not have to worry. we still hook up so i guess were more of the friends with benefits deal. he really wants to get back together. he is a good kid but we fight alot and he smokes alot, doesn't have a car (so i have to do all the driving), and he's the "bros before hoes" deal. i don't want him blowing off his friends to see me but its the complete opposite, like he would blow me off to hang out with his friends.
do you think i'm doing the right thing or just leading him on?
Only you know if you did the right thing. Do you feel better/happier/freer now that you are broken up? A spark is important, but it's not everything. Sometimes the 'spark' is only in the beginning of a relationship, and sometimes that spark just pops up out of nowhere while you're already in one.
The question about leading him on, is simple. Are you confused about what you want from him? If yes, then that's leading him on. If you are sure you just want to have fun/hookup and be more of the friends w/ benefits, then you have to let him know that's all you want and that's all he's going to receive from you. If he knows that and accepts that, then it's not leading him on because he knows what he's getting himself into. Remember, both parties have to be on the same page! Honesty is key.
Okay so i've never done it before and I just want to do it once because i'm so pale that its embarrassing to go outside like this. I'm not gonna go crazy over it or anything and I know it can be dangerous but I dont think going once is a big deal. I just have a few questions. How long should I stay in so that I don't get burnt or orange or anything? Do I wear spf? tanning oil? If i wear spf what strength should I do? What do I wear? I kinda want to just go naked so I dont get any lines but I feel like that would be so awkward! Like would anyone see me naked or anything? and is that even sanitary? Also what about the goggles? I know you need to use them but do you have to buy them too? since i'm only planning on going once i dont really want to buy them but I also dont want someones nasty eye infection. Also what's it like in there? Like how do you get out and how do you know when to get out? Is it hot? Claustrophobic?
Sorry I asked so many questions, but I tried looking up stuff like this online and I couldnt find anything too helpful. Any advice is appreciated, but please make it relevant (no tanning is bad speeches)
OK, I've been tanning for years. (I know it's super bad, but I only go in the summer and I always get checked for suspicious moles and whatnot.) I use the tanning bed, and to be completely honest, one time is not going to get you tan AT ALL. When I just started, I thought after one tanning session, I'd see something, anything, but you don't. You have to keep going, and you won't see results until after about a week or so (of going everyday or every other day at least). If you really want a result after one session, try the airbrush/spray tan at whatever salon you go to. (Hollywood Tans rocks, that's where I go, never had a problem, always helpful). The spray tans look real and is not orangey and of course, is safer. When you go into the salon, the people there are paid to help you and to answer all of your concerns. Whatever you ask or feel, someone has asked it before or has felt the same way, they've heard it all!
If you do however, want to go ahead with the tanning bed. Yes, wear tanning lotion with some sort of spf in it (some contain like 5% spf) You did say you were very pale, so you're going to want to start off with a low amount of minutes. Again, the tanning salon experts know more than I do and can tell you how many minutes is right for your skin tone. It is not claustrophobic (to me and at my salon though, because the bed does not close completely) yes you will have to buy goggles (not expensive) When your specific amount of minutes are up, the sun lamps shut off and you know to get out (you will be able to tell the lamps go off even with goggles on because they're so intensely bright, but DO keep your eyes closed) No sweat! Though it does get hot, the more minutes you stay in there. Any other concerns, remember ask them there! Hope everything works out :)
A guy That saw me walk buy one day when he came to my job asked his friends for my number. He got it and started texting me, finally he asked me out but wanted me to come to his house I said no and explained why I did not think it was appropiate and told him I'd meet him somewhere for a date. He then got ome and texted me to come to his house again so I just did not reply and went to bed he called me later but I did not answer.
He called me the next day we spoke and then he asked me for a picture I sent it to him and he did not call since. Do you think the main reason he didn't call is because he thinks I am ugly.
I'm sooo glad that you stood by your morals/boundary line. A guy inviting you to his house for a first date (when you two barely know eachother)? That is not right and a tad creepy. I definitely do not think he thought you were ugly, because he did see you before right? So never think that, because he noticed you and asked for your number. This guy was just looking for an easy lay or something. Don't change your morals for anyone, you should feel empowered. Don't worry about it either, if he really wants to see you and likes you, he'll ask you out on a real date.
me and my bf have been together for 2 and half years. I live with him and we are totaly in love. well today my friend called me and told me to check his exs facebook. i do and she put up pictures of them kissing and together these pictures are old but she just posted them the othere day. why would she do that ? it irritates me because he has a issue with her not leaving him alone. Should i tell him that she has the pictures up or let it go. It makes it look like he is cheating on me becuase she just put them up?
I completely agree with the other advicenator. This girl is so obviously trying to make you jealous/angry/irritated, all in one. Don't let this chick get to you, you are with him and happily together, so she wants to destroy that - misery loves company, ya know. If you want to mention it to him, that's ok, but don't be angry about it or make it seem like it really got to you.. you could say "Did you see that [her name] posted old pics of you two? Kinda creepy." And leave it at that, and let him handle the rest, since he is the ex. Don't let anyone destroy what you two have, especially a delusional ex.
I was out swimming yesterday and didn't put sunscreen on or whatever and got sunburned really bad. I've never been sunburnt like this before and it hurts and is ugly. I don't want to finish out the school year with nasty red skin. How can I get rid of a sunburn really fast or overnight? Is there anything that can get the "burn" out of the sunburn too because it hurts? :(
When I get a really bad sunburnt, I use aloe vera. You can find it any drugstore, but the specific one I use that has always helped both with the appearance and pain of a sunburn is Banana Boat After Sun Lotion with aloe vera. Check out the drugstore aisle that has all the suntan lotions.
I've been with my boyfriend for three years. We are absolutely in love with each other, but of course I've got a couple of complaints. He's not romantic, at all. I've asked him to take me on dates, or go do something romantic for a day, and eventually he may take me on a date (after me repeatedly asking and basically planning it). But he has never done anything like that without me asking. I can live with him not being romantic, but I think every girl dreams of a little romance in their relationship. How should I handle this?
Guys are simple creatures, lol. For right now, you're going to have to ask him to do those kind of things. Let him know how much you want to go on a nice date, and tell him it doesn't have to be all romantic, just a chance for the two of you to be together alone and have fun. Once you do go out on the date, let him know how much fun you're having. Be nice, sweet, flirty and show him that him agreeing to the date was a great idea. Once he sees how happy it makes you, AND how nice you're being to him, it'll connect in his head and he'll realize. It's positive reinforcement. He'll want the same good feelings and good time to repeat itself, so those dates you want to go on will continue. Good luck!
are you being fake if your being too nice to a person you dont like? lets say you dont want to talk to them but when the person starts talking to them you end up talking to the person you dont like because you are too nice to say "i dont want to talk to you" so you talk behind that person's back?
I don't necessarily think that's fake. You can control what other people do, and if the person you like comes up to talk to you. Just be straightforward, blunt, and don't egg on the conversation. I do the same thing when someone comes to me I don't like, I just don't sit there and say "Don't talk to me" or "I don't like you", I answer there question or I say very little so they get the idea. I wouldn't talk behind there back though, but if someone asks you about the person you can honestly respond "I don't like him/her" or "I don't even want to talk about him/her" and leave it at that. There's nothing wrong with being polite, but don't be over the top nice.
My boyfriend broke up with me two months ago because he stopped liking me as much and just started seeing me as a friend..probably because i was so into him and my whole world revolved around him so quickly and that probably turned him off. Now we are still friends because he likes me a lot as a friend but we are TOO good of friends. We chill every single weekend and sometimes in the week. Sometimes alone but rarely. Sometimes he calls me to hangout and other times his brother will either call me or my best friend and our groups of friends will just all do something together ,so we always are around eachother. During school,i have a class with him and we pretty much only talk to eachother. I'm still crazy for him,but im still there for him to lean back on. So he hasn't had enough time to miss me since he see's me every single day and he even admitted he hangs out with me more than his best friends.I feel as though half the reason we aren't together is because im just so avaliable to him and i want to be harder to get but i don't know where to begin since we are around eachother so much! We only have about 2 more weeks of school and i was going to just wait out those 2 weeks and then when summer starts write him a note ,telling him how i feel and how we cant talk anymore because it hurts me and how i'll miss him,etc. in a nice way...or should i try another approach? help!
Well, it seems you nailed it right on the head. Guys do not like it when a girl is too available. Since the beginning of time, guys love the chase and the challenge of getting the girl. Being friends right away with an ex is never a good idea and never ends well. Someone always still has feelings, and someone always gets hurt, and it may ruin chances of ever being friends OR of ever starting something up again. Tell him that you two should spend some time apart because of everything thats happened. Let him know that you need this time to focus on yourself. Try hanging out with your group minus him. Your friends should understand you need some distance from him, so maybe you can hang out with a few friends from your group and they can split time between hanging out with him and with you (just don't put them in the middle!) Space and time is exactly what you need, please let yourself have that. If a few weeks go by, and he starts getting ansy and misses you, see where it goes and try hanging out with him, but don't say 'how high?' when he asks you to 'jump'.
what are these black tight things and where do i get them:
http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l2for0RrN11qza6kro1_500.jpg
They look like thigh highs. (Basically stockings, but only go up to your thigh) I had a pair and you can buy them almost anywhere that sells lingerie/bras/underwear. Any department store and maybe Victorias Secret.
I met this guy at school a while and we've texted a lot and we've tried several times to hang out, but they all kinda fell through. We don't really see each other that much at school - big school, no classes. About two weeks ago I asked him if he wanted to hang out and he said he didn't really want to anymore. So I figured, okay, whatever, I''m pretty sure he found someone else, but I could be wrong.
Welllll, he texted me last friday and said "so this may seem kinda weird but I miss you."
I was just like... what?? I'm so confused! He said we should hang out this week or weekend (im not sure which he meant). So I said sure and that he should text me sometime this week when he wants to hang out. I said it very clearly, that HE should text ME.
The whole week has passed, and I still haven't heard from him. Maybe he forgot? (it's happened before) Did he change his mind again? I just don't know. Should I text him? I don't want to be desperate or annoying, which is why I haven't. Should I wait until after the weekend, and if I still haven't heard anything, should I maybe text him on Monday?
Other people said he's probably leading me on or wants me 'on the side' of a girlfriend.
I don't know, I don't want to think that, but it might be true. :/
He was always so sincere and kind, and we really opened up to each and had great talks (through txt, but still).
I don't know, I just really have no idea what to do... I'm really confused by him
I think you should start listening to the "other people" that keep trying to tell you. From what you have said, it seems like they are right. I've had my fair share of guys flip flopping day to day with their feelings. It never turns out good. This guy just wants you to be there whenever HE wants you, or wants to hang out with you. Don't let him get into your life like this. A guy that truly, really likes you.. makes the effort. If he liked you and wanted to hang out with you, he'd text or call you, no doubt. This guy is just one of those everyday jerks you need to avoid. You might be too close to the situation to see it, but as someone looking from the outside, I know how you're feeling and I know how this situation ends. Don't text/call him at all, it'll only add to your frustration. If he decides he really wants you, let him come to you.
18f.
so my birthday is next week .. yay! :) there is this guy who i've always had a crush on but we're just good friends right now. well he can never remember my exact birthday for the hell of it. he remembers the month and around the day but never the exact date hah .. boys! well my cousin always reminds him like did you remember to text sam for her birthday? this year I don't want to just be like .. thanks when he texts me. i kind of want to say something like .. "thanks for remembering .. or did nate remind you (my cousin)" something so i could maybe talk to him for a little bit and be a little flirty at the same time. any suggestions? thanks!
There's just so much that you could say...
If it were me, I'd say something along the lines of:
"oh you actually remembered this time? niiiicee"
something like that or...
"wow i'm impressed you remembered!"
Whatever you decide to say, keep in mind to keep it short and sweet! Don't say like more than one question or line. Hopefully he responds back and you can keep the convo going!
waht are puppymills? becasue i read a sign in a petstore that sayd they dont buy from them :\
It is basically a dog breeding facility. You can definitely google it and get more info on it, but it is not a good place at all. Puppy mills breed dogs regardless of their health, and keep breeding them until they can't reproduce anymore. The puppies are treated horribly (abused) most of the time, and live in very cramped, dirty conditions. Vidoes of puppy mills are frightening, heartbreaking, and disturbing so I suggest not watching them. The owners of puppy mills care more about the money they receive from mass breeding, then the dogs, and generally don't care about them. Pet stores usually get their puppies/dogs from puppy mills, so the store you saw, advertised that they did not (which was a good thing).
Hi , I was wondering what happens if you do not have sex or masturbate for a long a period ? is it unhealthy for the sexual organs ? like make them inert or inactive or something ?
There's no health problems, if that's what you're worried about. For a female, (I'm assuming that's what you are? if not, then sorry!) it just takes time to get back into sex.. it's hard to describe, because I did go a year without having sex, and then when I did finally do it again, it actually hurt and took some time to get back into it. That's the only problem I had, so it doesn't bring any significant health problems. Though sex IS healthy and can boost your immune system and decrease depression (so lots of pros!) I do suggest though if you go awhile without sex to masturbate. That's also healthy :)
Hello,
Theres this song i've been trying to figure out for so long it's an old song maybe 2001,1999,2000 or somethinglike that all i can remember from the video clip is his bald and hes on a rooftop ? the girl has short blonde hair in the video clip and h mentions britney spears i think he says something like "like britney spears in a magazine" please help if you know it?
I did a little searching and a found this video:
Abs - What You Got. If you look it up on youtube, but it's a little diff than your description, but you should check it out.
So I went to prom with my friend and it was kind of just a let's go together thing. And so we went and we ended up dancing and grinding together the wholenight and during the last slow dance we kissed. Nothig major just a simple kiss but he's not a player or anything so it's not like he does that a lot. Then after the song ended we walked back to the table he kept his hand on my back and everything and the next day we like held hands and stuff. And like we've talked since then so it's not awkward or anything but I was just wondering if I seems like I could have a chance with him because I do like him but I don't know if it was just a whole prom thing.
I would agree with the other advicenator. It's more of a "see how things go" kind of situation, rather than a "tell him how you feel right away". You don't want to bring it up or tell him you like him, because he might not know how to react. It deff seems like something is going on between you two, so keep flirting and hanging out and maybe something more will develop!
Also, he might have used the whole prom thing to get closer to you & to use an excuse. For example, if you came and asked him "what was that kiss all about?" he could easily come back with "oh, it was just prom and we were dancing.." as to not look stupid or anything. He might have used prom as his excuse, ya know? It was smart of him! lol But the outlook looks good :)
Hey there.. okay so I saw you featured and I thought id ask you something as well I don't really wanna post it publicly! I hope you dont mind.
Okay so Im 16/f almost 17 my boyfriends 17.
weve been together 7months and decided we wanted to have sex..
so ive two problems really..
the first time we did it I dont really count as we stopped because we thought someone would walk in (he was sleeping over at my house) and also because the condom wouldnt stay on?it kept like slipping?so obviously I didnt want to continue..do you know why that is I mean are we putting it on right or what?
so last weekend we decided to try again no one was home and it felt more the right time initially the condom stayed on which was fine but heres my second problem.(this is kinda embarassing)
it doesnt feel like anything?!it doesnt hurt or feel plessurable..is this cos im just getting started?Like I feel like theres something seriously wrong with me..it doesnt feel like anything when he fingers me either I prefer to be like rubbed towards the top..even then I find I dont exactly cum I just get an intense feeling over my body.
When he goes down on me nothing! what the hell is wrong with me?is it me my boyfriend or what?its seriously frustrating will I ever be able to enjoy sex? have you had any similar experiences?
so yea theres my two problems :(
Id really apreciate any advicethank you!
x
I can understand your frustration. And yes, this has happened to me and I figured out what the problem was.. the problem in my situation was I was not comfortable having sex with the person and didn't feel it was right, etc.
Sex is supposed to be fun, but also serious, so it should be able to be talked about openly with your partner. I don't think it's embarassing AT ALL. Friends have told me the same thing, and it has all worked out. It's a combination of the right person, the right positions, just the all around right situation.
I would deff make sure the condom is on correctly though, make sure it goes alllllll way on first. Is it both of your first times? Because if it is, that could be the big main factor in why. The inexperience of both of you can combine and not make sex pleasurable because you're both trying to figure it out (guys are more easily pleasured PSH!)
If you know what makes you feel all hot and bothered, tell him, I'm sure he'd do it gladly. Guys love hearing what you like sexually. You WILL enjoy sex. Make sure you are completely sure about your boyfriend being the guy, and make sure when you are doing it, you feel comfortable and you're not stressing about a million diff things. Stress can deff harm or ruin a sexual experience. Relax and take things slow. Try different positions and see what you like (and maybe what he likes!). I can't say enough about relaxing, and not tensing your muscles and having your mind race. Focus on the moment. Again, figure out your body and all that you like.. and let him do it to you. Sex consists of two people, so let him in on what you're feeling and thinking. Everything will work out.
(19F)
Last night I stayed at my cousin's house with her and her boyfriend. I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years and just recently met another guy. This new guy is amazing. Well, last night he came over to where I was staying and we hung out. We ended up going to get some drinks and when we got back we fooled around in his truck. Later on, after my cousin and her boyfriend went to bed and we ended up having sex. He stayed with me almost all night and I thoroughly enjoyed what we did, but this morning when I woke up I was feeling regret.
I want to stay with my current boyfriend, should I tell him what happened or should I leave it alone and just move on?
Thank you
As I have heard from many sources and people: Do not tell him.
I'll explain.... When this happens, you have to assess the situation (as it seems like you have done already). Think things through. Do you love your boyfriend? Do you want to stay with him? Do you see a future with your boyfriend?
And the more intense question to ask yourself - Why did I do this? (or What made me do this?) This might take time to answer. Once you know why this happened, you can come to the right conclusion of whether you definitely want to work things out with your current boyfriend or you don't want to stay in the relationship. Mistakes happen, it's human nature. There is no reason to bring this world of hurt onto your boyfriend if you are POSITIVE that it will not happen again. 4 years is a while, and change (like a new guy) can be thrilling and desirable, there's no shame in that. You just have to decide what you want for yourself, and do it. I know you might be feeling guilty and telling him everything will make you feel better, but it will ruin the relationship forever and will not be the same no matter what you or him do. Let go of the regret and guilt, and work on being a better girlfriend, and showing him you love him.
me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a year and 4 months. hes 18 and im 17. he jus recently like 2 or 3 weeks ago started night school. well today he uploaded a couple of pics on myspace and they are of him and 2 girls from school. there not touching there like sitting next to eachother like in class. but one pic one of the girls is wearing his hat. im not sure if im over thinking which i happen to do alot. but i remember how he used to post all these pics of him and these 2 girls that lived by him and him with a couple of his friends that are girls. hes one of those guys that every girl likes and he has a bunch of friends that are girls., but im like 99% sure he wont cheat on me. but lately alot we been fighting and getting into arguments and stuff so i been trying to stop acting all the way i been i kinda blame me cause i overthink way to hard about things that dont matter to him. i used to have a whole album on myspace of me and a buncha different guys and he never said anything about it cause to him it was just pictures. nothing more. and im not sure if im just over reacting like how i always do. someone please help me./ i dont want to mention anything to him cause it will jus cause more problems. he already thinks i dont like him having friends. =[ please help thanks in advance
I don't know if you know this, but boyfriends/guys do this sort of thing to get under your skin. He's doing it because..... HE WANTS IT TO GET TO YOU ! He knows you'll see the pictures and get jealous. The best way to react to this, is to not react at all. Show him you could careless, and that his (girl)friends don't bother you a bit. He'll soon realize that his tactics to get you jealous/mad are not working, and he'll probably stop. I've had a boyfriend who was the outgoing, funny type that had many girls that were friends, and yes, it deff got to me and I know how you feel. I wouldn't mention anything to him though, just let it slide. The only reason to get mad or when it is time to speak up, is IF the pics start getting inappropriate and make you uncomfortable. Try letting the small things go, and don't get mad and you'll see the arguments lessening. You guys have been together for over a year, don't let petty things ruin what you have and don't get bothered by random girls, be strong and confident.