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Non-romantic boyfriend
I've been with my boyfriend for three years. We are absolutely in love with each other, but of course I've got a couple of complaints. He's not romantic, at all. I've asked him to take me on dates, or go do something romantic for a day, and eventually he may take me on a date (after me repeatedly asking and basically planning it). But he has never done anything like that without me asking. I can live with him not being romantic, but I think every girl dreams of a little romance in their relationship. How should I handle this?
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This is coming from an old geezer of 54 - but I've been very happily married for almost 33 of those years.
If there is any ONE thing that I'd have to say is important in a relationship, it's COMMUNICATION!
It's critical that couples talk. Speaking from the male perspective, I can't fix what I don't know is broken.
I know that this is a bit crude, but if my wife never told me that she feels that my snapping her bra strap is demeaning, I might have continued doing something that I thought was just "in good fun."
Here's the point of all this: tell your guy what you've told us - he's the one that matters. He can't fix what he deosn't know is broken. If he cares about you, he'll go out of his way to make you happy.
Note: Some guys are simply not romantic by nature. I was blessed to have a father who was, and I learned by what I saw every day. Anybody, however, can LEARN!
Best regards...
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wow i almost thought i wrote this quesetion lol its so me. Well my bf takes me on a date and we end up at lowes or some manily store lol. Just be happy he loves you i know thats not that answer you want but its true. Or text him sweet things and you be romantic he will catch on. My boyfriend is really bad about not being romantic but he is very playful if i push him into being it, so just keep trying. good luck ( be happy you have some one that loves you and your life will be wonderful :) )
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Ok..
if you feel that somethings wrong, then something's wrong..
girls have intuition which means that we can feel when something bad's happening or is going to..
follow your heart even though it hurts. in the end, it'll be the right choice.
good luck!
-Kissme623
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Sadly, most men are not romantic beings, now it isn't their fault they just aren't wired that way. You will probably be asking him to do romantic things for you for the rest of your relationship. Your best bet is to sit down and attempt to have a conversation about it with him, this may or may not help. I have been with my husband almost 3 years and have known him for almost 8 years, and I still have to ask him to do romantic things for me. I know he loves me, but he shows it in his own way. You are correct, every girl dreams of a perfect romantic relationship, sadly that doesn't exist. The best you can do is to compromise and realize that no one is perfect and to love someone is to love their little imperfections as well.
Hope I Helped :)
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Guys are simple creatures, lol. For right now, you're going to have to ask him to do those kind of things. Let him know how much you want to go on a nice date, and tell him it doesn't have to be all romantic, just a chance for the two of you to be together alone and have fun. Once you do go out on the date, let him know how much fun you're having. Be nice, sweet, flirty and show him that him agreeing to the date was a great idea. Once he sees how happy it makes you, AND how nice you're being to him, it'll connect in his head and he'll realize. It's positive reinforcement. He'll want the same good feelings and good time to repeat itself, so those dates you want to go on will continue. Good luck!
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