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ex boyfriend and being friends
My boyfriend broke up with me two months ago because he stopped liking me as much and just started seeing me as a friend..probably because i was so into him and my whole world revolved around him so quickly and that probably turned him off. Now we are still friends because he likes me a lot as a friend but we are TOO good of friends. We chill every single weekend and sometimes in the week. Sometimes alone but rarely. Sometimes he calls me to hangout and other times his brother will either call me or my best friend and our groups of friends will just all do something together ,so we always are around eachother. During school,i have a class with him and we pretty much only talk to eachother. I'm still crazy for him,but im still there for him to lean back on. So he hasn't had enough time to miss me since he see's me every single day and he even admitted he hangs out with me more than his best friends.I feel as though half the reason we aren't together is because im just so avaliable to him and i want to be harder to get but i don't know where to begin since we are around eachother so much! We only have about 2 more weeks of school and i was going to just wait out those 2 weeks and then when summer starts write him a note ,telling him how i feel and how we cant talk anymore because it hurts me and how i'll miss him,etc. in a nice way...or should i try another approach? help!
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Well, it seems you nailed it right on the head. Guys do not like it when a girl is too available. Since the beginning of time, guys love the chase and the challenge of getting the girl. Being friends right away with an ex is never a good idea and never ends well. Someone always still has feelings, and someone always gets hurt, and it may ruin chances of ever being friends OR of ever starting something up again. Tell him that you two should spend some time apart because of everything thats happened. Let him know that you need this time to focus on yourself. Try hanging out with your group minus him. Your friends should understand you need some distance from him, so maybe you can hang out with a few friends from your group and they can split time between hanging out with him and with you (just don't put them in the middle!) Space and time is exactly what you need, please let yourself have that. If a few weeks go by, and he starts getting ansy and misses you, see where it goes and try hanging out with him, but don't say 'how high?' when he asks you to 'jump'.
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