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Are you being fake if...?
are you being fake if your being too nice to a person you dont like? lets say you dont want to talk to them but when the person starts talking to them you end up talking to the person you dont like because you are too nice to say "i dont want to talk to you" so you talk behind that person's back?
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Funny timing... I very recently passed a couple Harley riders sitting in the shade of a local park. One of them had a flame paint scheme that I knew a cousin was interested in getting for his own bike.
I drove my cousin back to talk to the bikers, and was there for the conversation. He was all nice and pleasant - (and they struck me as good guys.)
Once he had the information that he needed, name of the paint shop, etc., we took off. On the ride back to his house, all he could talk about was the dirty "scumbags" who almost certainly sold drugs to kids to buy those bikes. (They were probably actually wannabe dentists.)
I guess that's a little off track, sometimes I ramble. It's not a perfect world and we're not going to like everybody that we meet. You don't have to go out of your way to converse with someone that you don't like, but there is no reason to not be civil, either. You can always find an excuse, if necessary, to break away from the conversation. I wouldn't recommend, however, talking about the person behind his back - that's not good for them OR for you.
I know that this will sound horribly cliche, but cliche's are around for a reason. (There is some measure of truth to them.) It seems as though you may start off as being "fake nice" to someone, but if you give them a chance you may find your attitude has changed and they're not so bad after all.
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Be yourself, and if you don't want to talk to someone then don't. Follow the age old advice...if you don't have something nice to say don't say anything at all. If this person finds out you are talking behind their back it will make things worse.So yes it seems that you are being fake.
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i would consider that to be fake.i also think you are kind of being two faced. i understand you are a nice person person but you shouldnt allow people to step all over you. if you dont like someone tell them or leave them alone or cut the conversation short. the way i see it is you have three choices either tell the person to leave alone in the nicest way possible or you just leave them alone or stop talking to about the person behing their back.
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thats not necessarily fake, but it's not nice either and for you to right it here, then you understand that it's wrong as well. if you don't want to talk to someone simply say you don't want to talk to them instead of pretending. the person might be angry, but they will be happy that you were honest.
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You are absolutely being fake for one reason.
To be nice to someone you don't particularly like is to be a decent, civil human being. Yeah, maybe you don't like them, but being nasty won't get you anywhere. If you do this, then you don't have to worry about them finding out what you really think of them, which avoids a lot of stress and drama.
What you're describing here, though, is worse than being outright rude to the person. To be nice to someone's face and nasty behind their back is an awful thing to do. They can't defend themselves that way, and they feel like you actually like them when other people know you don't. The big problem with this is that you look like a huge jerk for being two-faced, and other people will think less of you for it.
You're best off being distant but polite to people you don't like. That way you're not pretending to be super-friends with them, but you're not being an outright jerk.
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I don't necessarily think that's fake. You can control what other people do, and if the person you like comes up to talk to you. Just be straightforward, blunt, and don't egg on the conversation. I do the same thing when someone comes to me I don't like, I just don't sit there and say "Don't talk to me" or "I don't like you", I answer there question or I say very little so they get the idea. I wouldn't talk behind there back though, but if someone asks you about the person you can honestly respond "I don't like him/her" or "I don't even want to talk about him/her" and leave it at that. There's nothing wrong with being polite, but don't be over the top nice.
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