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Regret?
(19F)
Last night I stayed at my cousin's house with her and her boyfriend. I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years and just recently met another guy. This new guy is amazing. Well, last night he came over to where I was staying and we hung out. We ended up going to get some drinks and when we got back we fooled around in his truck. Later on, after my cousin and her boyfriend went to bed and we ended up having sex. He stayed with me almost all night and I thoroughly enjoyed what we did, but this morning when I woke up I was feeling regret.
I want to stay with my current boyfriend, should I tell him what happened or should I leave it alone and just move on?
Thank you
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Tell him what happened.
You know that you have made a mistake, and you know that if you keep it inside, the guilt will eat at you. You need to tell him ASAP.
Chances are that he may break up with you. He might be thankful for your honesty, but if he dumps you, you had it coming.
To me, cheating is a way of saying that you're not happy in your current relationship and that the person you hooked up with has something that your current s/o doesn't. Do not blame this hook-up on the alcohol because even though you were drunk, you still made the decision to have sex with someone else.
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i think you should tell him because you cant live a lie and looking him in the eye and act like nothing happend you wouldnt want him to do that to you.
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I think you should tell your current boyfriend even
though it will probably hurt him if your regretting then you'll start feeling bad & gulity he has
a right to know you've got to be truthful & honest with him i'm sure if he would of done the same thing
he would of told you i don't think you should leave it alone & move on you'll drive yourself crazy doing so part of being in a relationship is being able to trust one another & being truthful there's
a possiblity that if you don't tell him he could find out some other way or from another person that
isn't yourself i don't think you should keep this from him you've got to tell him the truth(:
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Tell him, What you did was wrong and he deserves to know the truth. You made a choice to how much you drank and you made a choice to go through with what you did. If it were the other way around you would probably want to be told too.
Actions come with consequences, You owe it too your boyfriend to tell him the truth.
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As I have heard from many sources and people: Do not tell him.
I'll explain.... When this happens, you have to assess the situation (as it seems like you have done already). Think things through. Do you love your boyfriend? Do you want to stay with him? Do you see a future with your boyfriend?
And the more intense question to ask yourself - Why did I do this? (or What made me do this?) This might take time to answer. Once you know why this happened, you can come to the right conclusion of whether you definitely want to work things out with your current boyfriend or you don't want to stay in the relationship. Mistakes happen, it's human nature. There is no reason to bring this world of hurt onto your boyfriend if you are POSITIVE that it will not happen again. 4 years is a while, and change (like a new guy) can be thrilling and desirable, there's no shame in that. You just have to decide what you want for yourself, and do it. I know you might be feeling guilty and telling him everything will make you feel better, but it will ruin the relationship forever and will not be the same no matter what you or him do. Let go of the regret and guilt, and work on being a better girlfriend, and showing him you love him.
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It's really truly up to you. And I'm sure you're going to have different advice concerning your question. But my opinion is I wouldn't tell. Because from my own personal experience men seem to be less forgiving than women.
But... morally you should tell him... What you did was wrong and I'm sure you no that, that's why you titled your question regret. Deal with what you've done and move on or simply come clean... And hope that he will forgive you.
And if he does your relationship may drasticly change. He won't trust you and he will be deeply hurt. You've been togeather for a very long time, and you should also consider the relationship that you're in.
Is there something in your relationship that's lacking? Why was it that you cheated on him and went as far as sexual intercourse with someone else?
I've never cheated personally, but I've been cheated on. And it's not a good feeling. When I was told by my ex that he cheated once before. Our relationship really suffered a low blow it was as if we really lost something. And we ended up never recovering. I'm not telling you what to do. But if this guilt continue to eat at you maybe you need to relieve yourself and tell him... What ever you decide I wish you the best of luck and always
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