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did i do the right thing??
i am wondering now if i made the right decision; to start with im 17/f and my x bfs 18. we were friends for a year before we started to date and we ended up dating for 4 months. he ended the relationship because he said he wasnt sure what he wanted anymore. i was really upset because i liked him a lot but i respected decision. he said he really liked me still and it would take time to get over me. i think the real reason was that he doesnt want a relationship, he never really lasts in relationships - i was his longest. more to the point; he asked if we can remain friends and at first i said yes. a few days later he text me and we were talking. it really hurt me speaking to him knowing that i can only be his friend so i told him i couldnt be friends with him for that reason. he seemed really angry and upset when i said this and he said he thinks i didnt care much about him to begin with. i know this isnt true but do you think i made the right decision to break off contact with him completely??
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Well, when I dated a guy for two years he broke it off and asked if we could still be friends. I said yes but but a few days later I was feeling the same way you're feeling. I couldn't be friends with someone who doesn't want to be with me romantically, especially because it wouldn't help the healing process. You definitely did the right thing, talking to him daily would only lead you on and miss the relationship. I feel like he's saying that you don't care about him or never did because he's feeling guilty for hurting you. So right now, just worry about your own happiness. Take time for yourself and once you feel like you can be friends wtih him, let him know.
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I would of probably said something along the lines of
"I agree that we can continue to be friends but I think I might need a few days to clear my head, I am still getting over the break up I think we should keep the contact to a minimum"
Rather than completely cutting off contact, I think he probably felt more hurt because you two agreed to a friendship and you cut the contact. Relationships are not easy, Both friendship and relationships take work. Most of all communication is the big key to working things out these days.
I would call him back and explain to him that you are sorry for what you said, You were confused and hurt. Take it from there
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