My dog is reactive towards people running. Today I took my dog out to use the bathroom and I saw a kid running down the sidewalks. When my dog saw him she barked and lunged at him and he turned around and barked right back at her. Before he crossed her path I told him to slow down because I know she is reactive towards running and he slowed down but still kept going. Then he turned around and taunted her and he came closer to her. I've had her since she was 10 months and haven't had a bite incident, but if he taunts her again I don't know what will happen. I've taken her to a professional reactive dog class, and there were no results. (I live in an apartment complex)
Rahzie had some great advice. I just want to touch more on the dog training aspect. There are tons of different dog training guides online you can use to see if you get any results. Many of them have very similar steps, such as sit commands and getting your dog to focus his attention on you instead of whatever is causing him issues, in your case, people running.
My dog is also pretty aggressive towards people, but his biggest issue has always been chasing cars. I have him on a leash when we're out, but he'll still try to go after any car he sees. The one thing that helped me in this situation was realizing that he just wasn't getting enough exercise. He had all this pent up energy, and chasing cars was an outlet for him. I started taking him for runs more often, and he would completely ignore any cars that drove by. I'm not sure if this applies to you, but it may be something to consider.
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I had a dream about this boy I know that lives in my area. He's very nice polite and always comes up to greet me when he sees me however he's only 16 and Im 24 and I had a dream that I was in love with him. It freaks me out I feel like a pedophile what should I do?
Everyone has weird dreams sometimes. It probably really doesn't mean anything, just one of those random things. I wouldn't take it too seriously if I were you, unless it becomes a recurring thing. Then, if you believe in dream interpretation, you may want to look more into it. However, most people will tell you that your dreams don't mean what it shows on the surface. They're typically symbolic, so in reality your dream could mean something that has nothing to do with the boy. But again, that's only if you believe in those type of things.
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I have a FAFSA loan thing that I have to do for school. Do you know how long I have until the deadline for it to be turned in?
If you're asking about the deadline to turn in the forms to apply for a FAFSA loan, the website says between January 1, 2014 and midnight Central Time, June 30, 2015. Some states and schools, however, have their own deadlines in place, so it may be a good idea to check with your school as well.
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I live in an apartment complex, and the apartment above mine decided to overload their washer, causing massive leaking from my ceiling. I have come to notice than when my one year old son and I are home, we are very congested, but when we leave, within minutes, our noses are clear and we can breath just fine again. I have spoken to the maintenance man about the possibility of their being mold, but EVERY time I bring this up "Oh you don't know what mold looks like. It ain't mold" I had lived in an apartment before this one, where there was NO ventilation system installed in the restroom, and yes, I dealt with black mold before. I know what it looks like, and what effects it has on me. I was mostly wondering, what organization would I get a hold of to hopefully get this situation properly taken care of? I am worried about my sons health, and speaking with the buildings management seems to do me no good. I can't move out because I can't afford to break the lease and to find a new place to live on my salary. Any and all help is greatly appreciated. For easier references, I live in the state of Indiana, and my apartment is supposedly owned by the IRS, so they say. Thank you for your time.
I'm sorry to hear that your landlord isn't probably looking into this for you. Mold is definitely not something to mess around with. One thing I would recommend is possibly sending your landlord a letter stating your complaints and that you would like them to be looked into, so that if you have to take legal action in the future, you will have documentation that you tried to get your landlord to look into the situation. Otherwise, it may help to contact your local health department. If they can't help you, they should at least be able to direct you in the right direction. If the problem persists, I would recommend contacting an attorney.
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So i am 15 Years old, and people in my year have started becoming more sexual. There is a guy i know and like who wants to do more than kissing but i am too insecure about my vagina to do anything. It hangs down alot and im worried he will be grossed out. Help:(
I won't lecture you about your age or anything like that, I'm sure you've probably heard it all before. I will say that you shouldn't do anything until you're absolutely, 100% ready and comfortable for it. Don't buy into peer pressure. There's nothing wrong with not becoming more sexual when everyone else is. But, if you do decide that you're ready for the next step, there's nothing to be insecure about. Everyone is different. All vaginas are different. Some are smaller, some larger. Some hang down more, some don't. There is no "normal" when it comes to that. Insecurity happens, though. I still go through it from time to time. But I can pretty much guarantee that if a guy is into you, he's going to have no complaints about how things look down there. And if he does, don't waste your time on him.
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i don't know what to do im 15 and desperate for sex does that make me a slut? what should i do to have sex?
It doesn't make you a slut at all. At your age, your hormones are in overdrive, so a high sex drive is normal. I wouldn't necessarily recommend acting on these urges, though. I know it's frustrating to have such strong urges, but you should be careful not to do something potentially dangerous, or that you might regret later. Don't have sex until you're positive that you're ready, and if you do decide to go through with it, be safe. Take steps to protect yourself from pregnancy and STDs.
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Hey! I need some help.
I have this guy friend I know for like a month and a bit more? And well earlier we used to talk like everyday! Even with out shitty time zones he talked! I'm in Germany and he's in America and we used to Skype a lot! And he was so cute to me and told me he misses me when I was offline. But now...we don't talk as much :( and when I ask him we should skype he only says 'Yeah we should!' 'yeah it's been too long!' And in the end he doesn't skype me -.- Am I annoying him?
And he doesn't spam me anymore and doesn't tell me he misses me..he also sometimes ignores my snapchats :( what should I do? Should I talk with him about this? Thanks! x
Sorry for the delayed response. I'm not quite sure what exactly your relationship was like, whether it was purely friendly, or with feelings involved, so it's really tough to say what might be going on. In most relationships, people tend to go through the "puppy love" phase, where they're infatuated with the other person, want to talk to them/be around them all the time, but at some point, this wears off and things usually settle down. That could be what's going on in this situation. But, there could also be many other reasons for your friend's strange behavior, so it's hard to speculate.
I would definitely recommend you talk to him about it. Just be straight-forward, tell him you've noticed you guys haven't been talking as much lately, and you want to know if you've annoyed him or offended him in some way.
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Му friend told ме she throws up to lose weight,she's 13,female. But now she told ме she threw up after eating lunch about twice then about a hour later she made herself throw up again,then a hour later again and after that again then she ate supper and then threw up again. Is this even possible? Му main question is,can чou throw up on a empty stomach? Like a few hours later after eating can чou make yourself throw up? Or can чou only make yourself throw up straight after eating? Thanks xx
You can throw up hours after eating, but if her stomach is completely empty, chances are it would either be dry heaving or vomiting up bile.
I'm much more concerned about the fact that your friend is making herself throw up. She has bulimia, which can be extremely dangerous, especially if she's making herself throw up after every meal. She'll get dehydrated very quickly. Bulimia can cause many many health problems, and can be fatal. It can cause stomach ulcers or ruptures, problems with the esophagus, heart problems, and tooth decay, to name a few.
Your friend should seek help, whether it's by talking to a parent, counselor, or doctor. Along with the many risks of bulimia, she could also be depressed, which is extremely worrying. Please encourage her to seek help.
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I'm a guy and I dated my best friend. She just told me she was bi wat should I do? I don't want to ruin this relation ship
Her being bi shouldn't really change anything. It doesn't mean she's not attracted to the opposite sex anymore, it just means she's attracted to both genders. You say "dated," which I'm assuming means you dated in the past, and she is now your ex. If this is the case, then her sexuality shouldn't be a cause of concern. Keep doing what you're doing now, be her friend, be there for her, don't judge her. If she wants to discuss it with you, let her. If not, don't force her.
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20/f last year I was raped by my ex boyfriend, long story short we drank (he led me to believe he was drinking but in actuality I was the drunk one,) when we went to bed I remember waking up to him doing the act. To this day I have not told anyone except a good friend, and my new current boyfriend (of almost 9 months) at the very beginning of our relationship, but I toned town the story a bit. Nobody actually knows everything that happened, and I can't seem to get over it. I have brought it up once to my boyfriend, and he consoled me (as well as wants to kill my ex) but I feel badly about the topic if it is to come up again, I don't want him to think I still think about my ex. Should I be over it by now? It makes me feel dirty and sick to think about it, I could cry.
Thank you
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Thinking about it has nothing to do with any sort of romantic feelings about your ex, and hopefully your current boyfriend will understand that. What happened to you was an extremely traumatic thing, and it's extremely common for rape/sexual assault survivors, as well as survivors of pretty much any traumatic event, to have memories of the event. Everyone has their own healing process, and if talking about it is what will help you get through it, then I can't imagine your boyfriend having a problem with it. I would like to recommend a site that helped me tremendously when I was going through a similar experience. It has various articles and resources, as well as a forum and chat room, both full of supportive people who have gone through similar experiences. http://www.pandys.org/
I'm not saying you have to visit the site, that's completely up to you, but if you ever need to just get things off your chest and talk to people who can relate, that's an amazing site to check out.
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Okay, so I found out in October I was pregnant by my boyfriend at the time. He didnt want the kid and he claims he fell out of love with me, a few days after I told him I was pregnant. We live together so one of us couldnt just move out right away. But he emotionally moved out. He started taking other girls on dates and wouldnt take me on dates. Wouldnt talk to me. Basically only came home late from work to have sex sometimes and then sleep, and pack a duffel bag of clothes for the next few days he would be whereever...avoiding me until he wanted sex again. This went on until February 1st, when I moved out. Enough is enough! So this one girl he's been dating things shes hot shit or something. She found my email address, and emailed me, asking me who I am and why my email is in my boyfriends contact list. I replied saying, "I'm his pregnant girlfriend, I live with him, he's leading you to believe he's this awesome guy but I bet you you don't know anything about him." To this she replied, "I can see why he doesn't dig you, since your hair is hideous, and you're mentally unstable. Don't blame him for wanting someone better. Just because YOU had unprotected sex, you're crying and whining to strangers online. Luis and I are glad he will not be wasting any more time with you."
Like wtf? What kind of woman is this? I don't know how she could think that my pregnancy is 100 percent my fault. Why is she not holding Luis (my ex) accountable? Why would she want a guy who exhibits these qualities? She must be naive to think she can change a person. I'm not even a contentious woman, and he left me. What he is doing to me is a shitty thing to do, abandoning his pregnant girlfriend when the relationship gets tough.
She's not holding your ex accountable because she's a jealous child. Unfortunately, this behavior is ridiculously common. She had absolutely no reason to start drama with you other than for the sake of drama itself, because she obviously views you as a threat to whatever sort of relationship she has with your ex. It's not her place to tell you that your ex won't be spending time with you anymore, that's your ex's responsibility. I think you've made the right choice in moving out and not being with him anymore, and I'm sorry to hear that the father of your child is behaving in this way, but you're better off not involving yourself in their childish games. Be the bigger person and ignore her. If she continues bothering you, tell her that you have no need to talk to her and if your ex has anything to say to you, he needs to man up and tell you himself. Then block her from communicating with you. You don't need this drama in your life.
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I babysit his two boys, who are incredably sweet kids. Anyways, he asked if I wanted to have dinner sometime, just us. I am attracted to him, and he is really nice, it just never crossed my mind because of the age difference. I'm probably gonna give it a shot either way and just see how it goes, but I was wondering what someone who isn't involved would think. Is it a weird age difference or situation, from your perspective? Just curious really.
I personally don't see a huge issue with it. Be cautious, of course. Some older men seek younger women because they want to just "mess around," essentially, to avoid any form of serious relationship. Not saying that's the case here, just something to watch out for. Other than that, he is basically your boss, so you risk losing your babysitting job for him if something goes wrong. But, if you like him, go to dinner and see how things go. You're both adults, so the age difference isn't anything serious.
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This guy and I are stuck in this weird phase... Like, there's a weird feeling whenever we hang out that we're not friends, but we're not in a relationship either. It's mutual, you can tell, just one of those things you know the other can feel too. We met through work, and things got increeedibly flirty there. But he recently went on educational leave. We still see each other because we go to the same community college, we see each other A LOT. I'm a habitual person, and everyday after classes I like to sit in a common area and do my homework (I can't do it at home, too many distractions). A week after the first semester started he caught me in the common room, we both were surprised to see each other. Then he kept catching me everyday, and he soon realized this was my routine. So everyday after classes I'll sit somewhere, and when his classes are over he'll come and sit next to me. And it's for hoooouurs. On average it's like, 3 hours. The longest we've sat there together was for 6 hours. We talk about a large range of stuff, a lot of it is deep stuff from politics to our problems. And we recently had mid terms, so this has been going on for a while. But the weird thing is at the college is all we ever hang out at. We text every once in a while, but when it comes to anything else it gets weird. Like, I could NEVER ask him to a movie or something because he'd get all tease-y like "Ooo, is this a date?" and he can't suggest anything either 'cuz he feels I'd do the same. When other people come around he gets so flirty and tease-y with me and tries to bring me into the conversation. Like if a friend of his stops by and talks about a crappy math test, he'll be like "You sound like Cynthia," (me), "she's terrible at math!" or "Oh yeah, this one here thinks that teacher is annoying." and he acts more daring and silly. Like I was showing my friend a Youtube video on my laptop, and walked over and leaned his head down in front of the screen blocking it with his head to see. He would never do that when we were alone, though. I don't know things are so weird and confusing with him! I don't know what to do. This weird flirty phase has been happening for over 5 months now. I hate being in a world of unknown, I like things clear and out there! One or the other, friend or boyfriend. So what should I do, should I friend zone him, or confront him? Grrrr.
I vote confront him. He definitely sounds like he's interested, although I could be wrong. He could just be afraid to make a move because it might make you uncomfortable. Regardless, even if it turns out that he's not interested, at least you know, and you don't have to stress yourself out with the constant "what ifs." I would say be straightforward and ask him if he's interested. Good luck. :)
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My boyfriend of about eight months and I have been having sex somewhat regularily. There's a bit of an issue (always has been) throughout all my sexual experiences, it hurts to have sex. I feel like every time we have intercourse, I'm a virgin again! ( and sometimes still bleed!!) he stretches me out with his fingers first but that never seems to help. Any advice as to how I can go about just being able to have sex without pain? When he is penetrating, it sometimes feels good and other times its like he rips my vaginal walls open. I really just want to be able to have pleasure sex, and every time we have it, it takes at least a day or two to recover. Please give me any advice you can!
Obviously, there is always a risk of it being caused by something more serious, like an std or infection, but this sounds like it could just be from lack of lubrication.
Make sure you include plenty of foreplay, and that you are completely relaxed and comfortable before intercourse. Use lubricated condoms, and have a bottle of lube nearby in case you're still too dry.
If the problem persists, it may be a good idea to see your doctor/gynecologist.
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my mom grew up in a bad enviroment and she says i can tell her anything but she isnt always so compasionate and im an emotional 13/f. how can i tell her what i need to?
I'm sorry you're in such a difficult situation. I completely understand being emotional, especially at your age, but if you want to tell your mother things, you should focus on trying to keep a level head. Come to her calmly and be honest with her. Tell her exactly what's on your mind. If she doesn't react well, then remind her that she said you could talk to her about things, and it's difficult for you if she reacts in that way.
Also, try to understand that, in certain situations, tough love may be what your mother views as the best way to handle the situation. It may seem unfair at the time, but if you don't understand, try asking her to explain her reasons for reacting in such a way.
The key is to keep open lines of communication. Let her know what your worries are, and see if you two can't figure out a way to better handle these situations in the future.
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so in discussing visits and about using the prison as a teaching tool, my wife said not to sugar coat it. She said when I bring my daughter, to make a few comments to her how hard you'd think it would be to have a year behind bars. How her mother will be taking orders from others and can't do anything or go anywhere, how she can't spend holidays or her birthday with her family, she will spend them inside a prison cell, how she won't have privacy and how can't do everyday things like use a cell phone and call people
while this seems like a good idea at first, is it possible telling her the reality of it could either make her think even worse of her mother (that she put herself into this situation) or she ends up worrying about her constantly then?
I can see both sides of this. Telling her those things could very well cause her to either think worse of her mother, or worry about her, but it's really hard to tell how someone might react. I always stand by the fact that honesty is the best policy, though, and ultimately, it may be best to listen to your wife on this one. At her age, she'll find out the truth about what things are really like there at some point, and it could potentially cause issues if you lie to her about it. Let her know that your wife is safe, and while she did make a mistake, she deserves to be forgiven.
I think telling her the truth about things could make her think about her actions in the future, and that could be a huge help as far as keeping her on the right track.
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I have been hearing a lot about using my wife's incarceration as a teaching tool for my daughter, does that mean basically show her the place or tell her about it in detail?
It could really be either one, or both, depending on what works best for your family. I think the main lesson to teach her in this situation is that actions have consequences. It may help to at least give her some idea about what prison is like, to show her that it's not somewhere she wants to end up. Ultimately, it's really up to you and your wife to decide the best way to go about teaching her.
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Really am not understanding my daughter. She and her mother had a good relationship but she is expressing indifference and a little bit of joy at the idea of her mothers incarceration. I guess it is maybe due to her age? If she was a little older maybe she wouldn't have such childish thoughts
It does seem a little strange that she's handling it in this way, especially since her and her mother haven't had a negative relationship. It could definitely be her age, and the thought of possibly having a "vacation" from her usual rules and responsibilities, and there is a chance that, once her mother goes to jail and the reality of the situation sets in, she could become very upset about it. I would still recommend talking to your daughter about her feelings on everything, and keeping open lines of communication with her. That would be the only way to really know for sure how she's feeling about the situation.
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What's the best way you think she can avoid trouble. Is it best to
Keep to herself and not talk to anyone? I would say so
I would think that would depend on the type of people she's around. I don't want to give the wrong advice, since I'm really not sure what the best way to conduct herself would be, but depending on the person, not talking to anyone may actually do the opposite. Not to mention that she may really need to have someone to talk to while she's there. If I were here, I wouldn't intentionally ignore everyone, but I would try to stand my ground if necessary. But since I have never been to prison, I'm probably not the best person to ask.
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In real life do inmates constantly assault or beat up
Each other? I hope not and I have a hard time believing it since won't that possibly add more to their sentence?
While it does happen from time to time, I don't think it's anywhere near as often as it's made out to be in movies and television. I'd imagine it would add time to their sentence, and, from what I've heard, if two inmates sharing a cell assault each other, they'll be separated. I would imagine prisons and jails want to avoid fights between inmates as much as possible.
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