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My ex boyfriend's new girlfriend he's been dating said something strange?
Okay, so I found out in October I was pregnant by my boyfriend at the time. He didnt want the kid and he claims he fell out of love with me, a few days after I told him I was pregnant. We live together so one of us couldnt just move out right away. But he emotionally moved out. He started taking other girls on dates and wouldnt take me on dates. Wouldnt talk to me. Basically only came home late from work to have sex sometimes and then sleep, and pack a duffel bag of clothes for the next few days he would be whereever...avoiding me until he wanted sex again. This went on until February 1st, when I moved out. Enough is enough! So this one girl he's been dating things shes hot shit or something. She found my email address, and emailed me, asking me who I am and why my email is in my boyfriends contact list. I replied saying, "I'm his pregnant girlfriend, I live with him, he's leading you to believe he's this awesome guy but I bet you you don't know anything about him." To this she replied, "I can see why he doesn't dig you, since your hair is hideous, and you're mentally unstable. Don't blame him for wanting someone better. Just because YOU had unprotected sex, you're crying and whining to strangers online. Luis and I are glad he will not be wasting any more time with you."
Like wtf? What kind of woman is this? I don't know how she could think that my pregnancy is 100 percent my fault. Why is she not holding Luis (my ex) accountable? Why would she want a guy who exhibits these qualities? She must be naive to think she can change a person. I'm not even a contentious woman, and he left me. What he is doing to me is a shitty thing to do, abandoning his pregnant girlfriend when the relationship gets tough.
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I am not going to get in between you and your ex and his present girlfriend on this.
What I Am going to do is advice you to see a lawyer. As much as your boyfriend thinks he can just walk away from you and have no responsibilities to you or this child he is sadly mistaken. The law is on your side on this and you need a lawyer to draw up the legal papers to have the courts enforce his responsibilities on him. If you cannot afford a lawyer see the legal aid Society for help. They have lawyers that will do the work free.
As I was saying your boyfriend is responsible for this child until the child is 18. among those responsibilities are monetary child support, medical health insurance, visitation if he wants visitation and any other support the laws of your state and court may order.
See a lawyer now before someone wises him up to his responsibilities and he skips out and cannot be found. As for the child support that is generally ordered as a garnishment of his wages so he cannot fail to provide that support. The child comes first. If that means he has to live in his car that's just tough isn't it. He had his fun making the baby now he has to step up and be a man and support his son or daughter.
See a lawyer now before the child is born so the papers are filed and the court can act as soon as the baby is born.
PS. Change your email address for I have a feeling once he is served with the papers the present girlfriend will be on you like flies on honey.
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Get off your high horse.
You lied to this girl for your own selfish purposes: You are not living with him, and he broke up with you months ago. Doesn't matter that you both choose to kept on having sex despite the break up - you also both knew the relationship was over.
You tried to cause drama by lying about your connection with your ex boyfriend. You could have been totally honest with her and simply said, "I'm his pregnant ex girlfriend." but you didn't.
Yeah, she's a drama queen who called you names and wasted her time going through his contacts. What she said about your pregnancy is both nasty and stupid. Who the hell knows why she likes him, or what she sees in him. We can only guess.
So what. You are free of him and of her. You don't ever have to respond to her, or speak to her. You can take the high road and leave her totally out of it. She's nothing to you unless you join in in the drama (like you just did).
Just be grateful you are out of the bad situation you were in with your ex. If this girl also brings him drama, well, clearly he has a type.
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She's not holding your ex accountable because she's a jealous child. Unfortunately, this behavior is ridiculously common. She had absolutely no reason to start drama with you other than for the sake of drama itself, because she obviously views you as a threat to whatever sort of relationship she has with your ex. It's not her place to tell you that your ex won't be spending time with you anymore, that's your ex's responsibility. I think you've made the right choice in moving out and not being with him anymore, and I'm sorry to hear that the father of your child is behaving in this way, but you're better off not involving yourself in their childish games. Be the bigger person and ignore her. If she continues bothering you, tell her that you have no need to talk to her and if your ex has anything to say to you, he needs to man up and tell you himself. Then block her from communicating with you. You don't need this drama in your life.
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