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My boyfriend acts like he doesn't care anymore...

Question Posted Monday February 25 2013, 9:24 am

My boyfriend acts like he doesn't care anymore...

F/17 Everything started out perfect. He was the most amazing person I had ever met. We would never argue, we were so close and connected to each other, he was my best friend. But now he acts like he doesn't care about or the relationship anymore. We argue a lot and that's because I'm constantly trying to tell him that he's making me feel unhappy and unwanted. The communication is awful, if I don't text him first, we don't speak. I tell him he's changed, and he tells me that I have also, because I'm always going on and on. But, what am I supposed to do when he's acting distant and I'm fed up of his behaviour? I've got to say something. We have been together for 5 months now, this has been happening for about two months. Over these two months, I've ended our relationship so many times, and he just lets it go. He never tries to get me back, I think he understands and knows what to expect from me, that I'm going to come running back to him after a couple of days, falling back on my words. He can make me happy, and when he does make me happy, he makes me really really happy. It's like he blows hot and cold sometimes, one minute he seems like he cares, and then the next he doesn't. I can't describe and explain the feelings I have for him, that's why I really can't let him go and I'm always running back to him. I try to make plans with him, he seems to always be busy. I really am trying my best with him, but I feel like I'm the only person trying in the relationship. But, if he didn't care about me, then he wouldn't stick around the way he does? He would just tell me, that he doesn't care about me and that he's moving on, right? But he's still here, in the relationship, he tells me he cares. But, that's the thing... Only if I mention something to do with "love you" that's only when he says it back. I'm really confused, I thought I could speak to him about anything like at the start, but now... I feel like he doesn't understand me, he see's me as some emotional moaning girl. I've been reading a lot over the internet, on the relationship stages people go through... Infatuation stage, etc. I'm really confused, is anyone going through the same situation as me? Can anyone help me and tell me what I should do? I feel that I can't give up on him, I always find myself coming back to him.

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mercury answered Wednesday February 27 2013, 7:48 pm:
You just said with with your own words,hon. You are the one who 'provides' on this relationship. You're the one who actually cares. He's so sure that you're always gonna be there that he feels he doesn't have to do anything. It's the typical behaviour of most men and some women; but most of all men. It's the same thig that happened to me for such a long time with my boyfriend. Stop caring so much. Have him to do something about your relationship, since it's the two of you, not just you. Tell him you're not ready to raise a baby, that you want a man who trully cares and who's willing to take care of you. Hope it helps a little:)

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