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Ugh. Stuck in a flirting phase. Should I confront him?
This guy and I are stuck in this weird phase... Like, there's a weird feeling whenever we hang out that we're not friends, but we're not in a relationship either. It's mutual, you can tell, just one of those things you know the other can feel too. We met through work, and things got increeedibly flirty there. But he recently went on educational leave. We still see each other because we go to the same community college, we see each other A LOT. I'm a habitual person, and everyday after classes I like to sit in a common area and do my homework (I can't do it at home, too many distractions). A week after the first semester started he caught me in the common room, we both were surprised to see each other. Then he kept catching me everyday, and he soon realized this was my routine. So everyday after classes I'll sit somewhere, and when his classes are over he'll come and sit next to me. And it's for hoooouurs. On average it's like, 3 hours. The longest we've sat there together was for 6 hours. We talk about a large range of stuff, a lot of it is deep stuff from politics to our problems. And we recently had mid terms, so this has been going on for a while. But the weird thing is at the college is all we ever hang out at. We text every once in a while, but when it comes to anything else it gets weird. Like, I could NEVER ask him to a movie or something because he'd get all tease-y like "Ooo, is this a date?" and he can't suggest anything either 'cuz he feels I'd do the same. When other people come around he gets so flirty and tease-y with me and tries to bring me into the conversation. Like if a friend of his stops by and talks about a crappy math test, he'll be like "You sound like Cynthia," (me), "she's terrible at math!" or "Oh yeah, this one here thinks that teacher is annoying." and he acts more daring and silly. Like I was showing my friend a Youtube video on my laptop, and walked over and leaned his head down in front of the screen blocking it with his head to see. He would never do that when we were alone, though. I don't know things are so weird and confusing with him! I don't know what to do. This weird flirty phase has been happening for over 5 months now. I hate being in a world of unknown, I like things clear and out there! One or the other, friend or boyfriend. So what should I do, should I friend zone him, or confront him? Grrrr.
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If you think you'd like to date him then go for it.
Ask him how about we go watch this movie. I heard it was good. If he teases and asks if it is a date, say sure if you want it to be! Just see what he says.
It doesn't hurt to ask someone how they feel. So if nothing else, just ask him. Tell him you are getting some mixed signals. It sounds to me like he does like you a lot. He tries to include you in conversations with his friends. He wants to be included in your convos with your friends.
Give the dude a nudge! :)
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I vote confront him. He definitely sounds like he's interested, although I could be wrong. He could just be afraid to make a move because it might make you uncomfortable. Regardless, even if it turns out that he's not interested, at least you know, and you don't have to stress yourself out with the constant "what ifs." I would say be straightforward and ask him if he's interested. Good luck. :)
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