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Vaginal discomfort
My boyfriend of about eight months and I have been having sex somewhat regularily. There's a bit of an issue (always has been) throughout all my sexual experiences, it hurts to have sex. I feel like every time we have intercourse, I'm a virgin again! ( and sometimes still bleed!!) he stretches me out with his fingers first but that never seems to help. Any advice as to how I can go about just being able to have sex without pain? When he is penetrating, it sometimes feels good and other times its like he rips my vaginal walls open. I really just want to be able to have pleasure sex, and every time we have it, it takes at least a day or two to recover. Please give me any advice you can!
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I agree that you need to see a doctor. After 8 months of sexual activity you should not be experiencing painful intercourse or bleeding.
Schedule an appointment with a Board Certified Gynecologist. As the other adviser said it is possible your Hyman is still intact or partially intact, or there are other causes for some of your problems. The problem that I find most worrisome is the bleeding. That should not be happening after all this time.
Just in case you under 18 and still living at home and worried mom will find out you are sexually active. There is a Federal Law known as HIPPA. Within this law is a section covering the reproductive systems of anyone 14 years of age an older. Under this law anyone 14 years and older may seek a doctors help for anything related to their reproductive system without parental knowledge or permission and with full medical confidentiality.
What this means is you can schedule an appointment with a doctor without a parents permission. See and be treated by that doctor including asking for birth control and not need parental permission. Your parents cannot be told what you are being treated for or anyone else without a written release from you to the doctor to do so. If a parent is with you when you visit the doctor they may not be in the exam room while you are being examined.
This law was written so young people would seek a doctors help for problems with their reproductive system. So that they could speak openly and frankly with their doctor and receive proper medical treatment. If you are covered by your parents insurance you would still be covered for these visits whether your parents approve or not.
So please see a doctor as there is definitely something not right that I believe a doctor needs to take care of.
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You should see a doctor.
All the regular advice applies: Buy and use a good lube. Lots of foreplay and take your time. Use positions that put you in control of the depth and speed of penetration if possible...
But, you should also see a doctor. Why wait until something gets worse? Just go now. Get the ball rolling on possible solutions.
It's possible your hymen never 'broke' properly (there are a few different ways the hymen can stick around and cause trouble) and that could be responsible for the pain and blood. It's also relatively easy to fix.
You should see a doctor to rule out that, and to check on any other physical issues that could be causing the pain.
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Obviously, there is always a risk of it being caused by something more serious, like an std or infection, but this sounds like it could just be from lack of lubrication.
Make sure you include plenty of foreplay, and that you are completely relaxed and comfortable before intercourse. Use lubricated condoms, and have a bottle of lube nearby in case you're still too dry.
If the problem persists, it may be a good idea to see your doctor/gynecologist.
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