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Am I playing myself short
I am a 26 year old female... Ok here goes... About two weeks ago I met a guy... We started talking on the phone and that following Friday we went out to a resteraunt... And afterwards he took me home and that was that... So the nextday he called and we talked heavy all day on the phone... I found out things about him and him me... And what I really liked was the fact that he was ten years older so quite naturally I felt that he was ready to settle down... So the next day which was Sunday night I came over his house and we watched a movie... And then I end up having sex with him... And afterwards I felt thaat it was way to soon and I felt stupid and cheap... But what made me feel better was, after he dropped me off he called me and we talked about an hour later... So I felt that he just didn't want sex he wanted more... I work and I go to medical school so I leave out of the house 7 in the morning and I'm not home to after eight at night... And so that Monday night I called him and he asked me to come over his house so I got in the shower put on clothes and then I came over... And again we watch a movie and we had sex... So everyday until today I have been going over his house doing basicly the same... But somedays I been over there I have been noticing things... He gets a lot of calls on his cell phone... And sometimes he'll go in the other room and I'll here him saying that he'll be over in twenty mintues... And this is at two O'clock in the morning... ?his phone is always on vibrate... And other times since I go to med school and I work I come home really hungry and when I get home I quickly shower get ready and go over his house... And so I'm hungry and he never offer to take me to a resteraunt or he never have any food in his home for me to eat snack on whatever but... It's times that before he pick me up from his house that he actually gets food and dont offer me anything when I'm on the phone complaining that I'm hungry... So since Monday threw Friday I'm so busy all day so I didnt mind spending time with him late at night... So Satuday no school no work so quite natrually I assumed that we will spend the day togeather going out to the movies or out to eat but... he barley answered his phone and when we did talk it was briefly... S about 9:30 to night I called him and he told me that him and his guy friend were at a resteraunt... And he told me later on he'll come pick me up to go over his house... OMG that reaally hurted my feelings here I am starting to fall for this guy and bascily I feel I'm not even worth his time... And the crazy thing is I never seem him in the day time... And I really dont believe he was even out with his friend... So from what you heard about my story how do you feel especially sinceit's almost twelve and I still havent heard from him yet and my feelings are so hurt... Please give me your advice... Ps: Thanx for listening because I need to know am I playing myself short...
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Honestly I think you are. Going to med school working wow, it seems that you are a smart independent women! And you don't need someone like him that treats you like a bootycall. Yes booty call are you familar with the slang. Ok I google the definition of a booty call, Ima give you there definion and then Ima give you mine. Booty call- A telephone call usually the sole purpose of which is to elicit a spontaneous or casual sexual encounter with the person so contacted. And the recipient of such call usually USED of a person who accepts or typically accepts the callers invitation.
My definitoin of a booty call is, A women or man that uses there partner for only the company of sex. As far as calling you with only a invitaion in mind for sex. Does that sound familar to you? Ask yourself that question? Everytime you are togeather you're over his house at night. You went out one time, and call me old fashion or not but, my idea of a date is going to the movies out to eat, mall, sight seeing, amusement parks, picnic, walks on the beach, park etc.
And it seems to me that he's uses you for different reasons. And one thing you need to realize is age isn't anything but a number. Just because he's older than you doesn't mean he's more mature than you. It's not a persons age but a person true self. Some guys thats in there early twenties has a more mature and settled mind than this guy.
And yes honestly I believe you played yourself short giving in sexually to early. You're way worth more than that, And you can't always put a time limit on when to have sex with a person. Because it's some guys out there that would have still respected you. But we put time limits on sex because of the guys like him that want respect you and will only use you for there own sexual gratifications and needs.
Yes! he's talking to other it's so odvious. And a guy that really cares for you is going to want to see you happy. He's going to pay attention to your needs and wants and desires. And if he can he's going to fullfil your every need the best way he no how. This guy is not simply because he don't care about you at all. I know I might sound somewhat harsh but I simply tell you the honest truth. You are no more than a booty call to him... A vampire date- A person who's only taken out in the dark of night. And you're not a cast member of "Twlight" so you need to think twice.
Learn from your mistakes and use wisdom for the next guy that comes in your life. I hope What I wrote hepled and I wish the best of Luck to you and always...
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You have just hit all the signs of cheating...When men cheat they try to "hide" it every way possible. They put their phones on vibrate, They don't answer it, They go in other rooms etc. These are the main signs. The thing you really messed up on is you really should not have given yourself away so soon. Some guys are willing to say and do anything to get what they want out of a woman and hun to be honest with you it sounded like he spoiled you to stroke your ego. Think about what I am about to say here....He was going somewhere at 2am and his phone was on vibrate? Unless someone he knew dropped dead on the floor there is no way in hell that isn't suspicious. Honestly, It's not that you aren't worth his time it is the other way around. He isn't worth your time, You are a successful young lady who deserves a man and someone who is going to respect you. A guy that strokes your ego to get a piece of the pie isn't nothing but old dirt. We all make mistakes, This is valuable lesson I hope you will take into consideration for the next one you meet. Never give yourself away so soon, Make sure the guy really respects you for who you are. All in all I think you should move on you are better than that.
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