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Hi! I'm Dani, I am twenty years old. I was attending college but took some time off. Like any other twenty year old girl, I love fashion, partying and going out with my friends. I moved to California for awhile, but decided home was better for the moment :-) Recently i've learned that things don't always work out the way you would hope, & I would love to help people through this beautiful disaster we call LIFE.

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hey.. so im 16f and wanting some advice on a guy and sex.. so ive known this guy, lets call him john, for a while and we've liked eachother on and off,we havnt talked alot he moved and cuz i started talking to one of his friends which i still am. but me and john want to hangout soon and first im debating on wether i should or not.. me and him always had the emotional aspect of a relationship but we never experienced the physical with eachother. so i know if we hangout we're going to get physical, and i want to have sex with this guy but i cant, im a virgin and i dont want to be that easy and other reasons, so how do i know when were about to have sex..? like are there specific things that he will do that shows like hes ready to have sex. and when we are about to, how can i stop that from happening without like crushing him and killing the moment? lol. other than that i want to get physical with him, just NOT regular sex.

Okay, well any guy will automatically try to see how far he can go...its like a male instinct. lol So when it gets to where you want to stop, just tell him to. What I do when I don't want to have sex with a guy, is be up front with him. Now, when you are ready to lose your virginity, you'll know. It sounds cliche but its the truth. Do whatever makes you comfortable and remember not to let any guy pressure you into anything. Most guys understand that a decision like that is the girls, he should be alright with it. & if he isn't then he isn't being a good guy. Sex is a big deal, so play it safe. Hope this helps..good luck!

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when ever i go to go on facebook it comes up with the log in page asusuall but when i put my password an that in nothin more ever comes up an its annoyin me now, anyone no how to fix it ?

Sometimes facebook has a glitch like that, it's happened to me before. First try refreshing the page. Sometimes i've had to google a website instead of directly putting the address in, that might work... just search facebook login. Also check and make sure that there isn't a security block on for the website, that could cause it to not properly work. Hopefully one of these works! :)

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okay,
so I have long-ish brownish hair.
I never have enough time in the morning to do anything to my hair.
I usually go to school with my hair looking like crap.

Sometimes i'll show in the daytime :
then let me hair air-dry and then straighten it at night.
(my hair takes an hour to straighten because its naturally very curly and thick)

So, some ideas of what I can do thats EASY and doesn't take too long.

& please don't send me to a website, because I could just do that. I want somebodys personal opionion.

=)

I completely understand where you're coming from.
When I didn't have time to straighten my hair, I would just style it as much as possible to make sure it didn't look frizzy. After you get out of the shower just towel dry your hair a little bit, put a little mousse in it, scrunch a little bit and blow dry it, then I normally straighten my bangs. This literally takes about ten min. Super quick! I've found that the wet2straight hair straightner works best on my hair(curly&thick) like yours. It straightens the quickest out of all the other ones i've had. Hope this helps :)

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Whats the best curling iron for thick hair?

I have really thick hair and I love my Bed Head curling iron. It wasn't expensive either :)

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15/f,freshman
There is this boy in my class who I've constantly fought with.He insulted me and stuff...and then 2 weeks ago our teacher made us sit together in class.I was really frustrated in the beginning but after a few days we actually started getting along and now I've fallen for him.I don't even know when it happened.I heard from my best girl friend in class that at the end of the first term,he asked her to help him get with me.She started complimenting him in front of me but I said I'd never like him cause he's mean,and apparently he heard it and got really disappointed,so he tried to get my attention by insulting me,and he told her to stop trying.The problem is now I like him,I'm not sure he likes me back after all and I desperately want him to notice me.Yesterday he was looking at me when he thought I wouldn't see (but I saw him lol),talked randomly to me,smiled,I caught his gaze a few times...we held hands for a bit after a high-five,I jumped on him,he held me but didn't protest,we wore each other's jacket...and I kept wondering why he didn't complain at all...My friends say they think it's because he likes me.Then,today he almost paid no attention at all to me.I've been told that it's just in my head.I feel very lousy,because I want to show him how I feel,but on the other hand I do not want to get rejected or laughed at for my crush...I can't figure out if he likes me or not...all I hear is "don't worry he does" but I have no concrete proof and honestly I'm sick and tired of being rejected...what should I do?I have no courage to confront him about it...yet I'm not sure how long I can wait to see what will happen...

His actions clearly show signs of him liking you :) He is probably just as shy about admitting it to you, which is why he asked your friend to help him get with you, instead of just telling you himself. You shouldnt worry about being rejected. Some of the best things in life come from taking a chance. So my advice is if you like him you should directly let him know, that way you aren't waiting around to see what's going to happen. If you don't feel comfortable saying it to his face, maybe write a note, or message him online or something. This will also help your confidence level in these types of situations later on in life. Good Luck!

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my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over four months. i thought we were happy, but recently i found out he doesn't know what he wants anymore or whether he's even happy. in the beginning, we used to talk for hours on end. gradually things changed. he's never had a serious relationship before and i think that maybe he's afraid to be a part of one. when we're together, things are really good... but it seems like the closer we get, the farther he wants to push me away. i really care about him and his happiness. i suggested a break so he would have time to sort his thoughts and feelings. if you have questions, so you can get a better understanding, let me know. otherwise, what is your take on this? he's really sweet and he's a good guy.

Well at least he realizes that he is hurting you by keeping you in "limbo" about the relationship. There could be external problems going on aside from you guys that is causing the behavior. It stinks but if you don't come to a solution soon together it will make it worse :( The best thing I can tell you is to keep try talking, and make sure he knows how you feel about everything.

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