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he keeps coming back
Sorry in advance if this is a bit long.
16/f
I was with a boy for 7 months. Our relationship was great. We loved each other. However, he told me that he felt like he couldn't make me happy and I deserved better and dumped me. He broke my heart, however eventually I moved on and got over it. 5 Months pass by and he decides to re enter my life! Wanting to give things another try. I lost my virginity to this guy, therefore I feel so attached to him. I take him back and give him another try.
The 2 months we're together is awful. He didn't treat me nicely and refused to tell me he loved me. I told him we should end it. Another 2 months goes by.. and guess who decides to enter my life AGAIN! I was firm with him and told him I couldn't do this again. However, like an idiot I give in.
He told me things i've never heard him say before and that he really did love me blah blah blah.
We hang out again.. and he decides we should be "together" He told me he wants to take it slow to avoid hurting me again. Every time we hangout it gets sexual and we've been "together" now for 2 weeks. He doesn't text me too much. I wonder if
anything will change. My mind is so confused and
I just feel so attached to this kid. Any suggestions of what I should do?
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Every single one of my friends who are girls have this problem and I know you won't listen to these answers. You should dump him and never talk to him. But you won't. Every time he comes calling you'll be there. I have the same problem with a girl. But she doesn't come calling anymore. That's the solution
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No. Dump him. Nothing is going to change about him, ever.
He's just using you and taking advantage of you. He doesn't care about you and he probably never will. He's saying all this shit because he knows that you'll believe him. Kick him to the curb, and don't give in to his pleas (of lies) anymore. He's a jerk & you shouldn't concern yourself with him.
You need to move on and find someone that truly loves you. You deserve it.
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I was in your same position just a few months ago. i kept letting this guy who treated me like shit (excuse me haha) control my life and come back over and over even though he was never good to me. We had 8 months together where i thought he was the best but he changed. Guys change so easily and fast. He ended up breaking up with me over voicemail after all that time! i was crushed and of course as soon as he came crawling back to me i let him right back in because i was still in love with him. he ended up breaking up with me every couple days then we would take a break for awhile and then get back together and he would do it again after a few days of getting what he wants. He NEVER treated me the way I should be treated or any girl should ever be treated. I let him come back on and off for 3 years to use me for my body just because i hoped that maybe we would be more than that :( i finally got strong and now im with the most amazing guy in the world that im crazy about and love and he treats me like im sent down from heaven haha. hes so good to me:)
Trust me DONT GIVE IN TO THIS GUY! he wants one thing and he will continue to lead you on until he gets it. i know it will be hard for you cuz it killed me but we are strong! it takes some time to get used to but you can do it! falling into his traps can ruin your self esteem and it takes awhile to regain it.. you deserve someone sooooo much better! someone that would never ever mean to hurt you and wont break your heart!you will find him :) he's out there trust me and hes deff not the right one for you! any guy for you should text you all the time and always make an effort to talk to you. Drop this kid and dont take him back. he needs to be taught a lesson. YOU CAN DO IT :)
i really hope you take this advice cuz ive been through it and if someone had told me this it would have made everything so much easier.
good luck!
erinn:)
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Honestly I've heard about people like him for so long and I'm so sick of it. You were an idiot to let him back in over and over again and I know you know it as you said it yourself early in the question. I also agree with you calling him a kid at the end, because that is all he is, a kid. It is natural to feel attached to your first sexual partner, the first time is always special ... regardless of how messy or awkward it might be =). The best thing for you to do is get on with a better life without him or anyone else like him. Find someone new, someone that will make you feel how you deserve to feel, happy! You need to remember that you will never please this child because all children ever want is more and you are not a bloody sex despenser ... say "NO!" and mean it. Good luck =)
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he will keep coming back and saying all the right things to get what he wants. stay strong and say NO. and as hard as it will be to move on, you have to do it.
and you will find someone who treats you right, and you will be very happy.
steph 21 =]
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Sounds like he is taking advantage of you, Not only does he like to toy with your feelings but he likes the sexual part of it too. I wouldn't take him back, Infact I would leave him he doesn't sound worthwhile. Remember this is about your happiness, You said the two months were awful therefore it's pretty clear that nothing is going to change. Dump him and move on you deserve better and if it didn't work out with a second shot then forget any future trys.
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He is just using you and playing with your emotions, i know you feel attatched to him but you have to stay strong woman! say no i will not be used!
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