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Jealous boyfriend
I've been dating this guy for about 3-4 months, and I'm absolutely head-over-heels for him. But one thing has got in between us, he's been jealous of my one friend, Alex.
Alex and I have known each other for a few years, but have just started talking recently. At first, he was very flirty and would say things like "You deserve better than what you get" when I'd have fights with my boyfriend, or if I was having a bad day. And.. I told my boyfriend about it and what not, and of course he got upset. Don't get me wrong, I understand that.
So, I told Alex to back off and that I was sick of his flirting, and he hasn't done it since. He even messaged my boyfriend and told him that he hopes we stay together for a long time and stuff. Alex supports me a lot, with my writing and my problems. He's as sensitive as I am, and I think of him as a good friend, nothing more.
Well, he's coming back to town. I haven't actually seen him in a year. My boyfriend is upset about me hanging out with him, although he said I can. But now.. I feel like if I do go, I'd be upsetting him, and I'd feel guilty about it.
Any Advice on this situation? D:
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I have been in your boyfriend's situation quite a few times, I know how he feels. He feels replaced, he feels unspecial even if he can't say it himself. I'd suggest you get him and Alex together and if you have to meet Alex alone make sure your boyfriend is ok with it, in the end if he isn't and you go anyway he will be upset and you know it. I know you don't want him to be upset cos then you will end up feeling like shit yourself and it will end up in another fight over the same exact thing. Definitely talk to your boyfriend as much as needed and more about the things going on, basically he has the right to know what's going on and I'm sure you respect honesty in your relationship, just try and include your boyfriend and try as much as possible to make him feel like regardless of whoever is coming to town, especially Alex, in this case, he is still the one you care about the most. Good luck =)
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Maybe invite your boyfriend to come along so he wont feel like you are leaving him behind..they might kick it off as good friends...but personally if he doesnt want to go, i say if you really feel its right for you to hang out with him then do so. but then dont get mad wen your bf hangs out with his female friends..it all depends if you are willing to sacrifie not hanging out with alex, and making your bf happy or vice versa.
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