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In need of affirmation and a spiritual compass - family confrontation?
I am 28 years old and feel spiritually devastated.
I was raised by a catholic mom and an agnostic dad (my mom is in denial). I have 6 siblings who are also either very religious or also agnostic/ undecided. All of my immediate spiritual role-models seem dysfunctional... and I probably am too.
I was confirmed at 16 as a Catholic but have never felt moved by the religion or any of its doctrines. I avoid spiritual conversations with my family at all costs, as it usually leads to confrontation (especially with my mom).
I don't believe homosexuality is wrong.
I don't believe sex before marriage is a sin.
I personally can't fathom an abortion, but feel others should have a choice.
I don't know that I believe in a biblical Hell or Heaven.
I don't know that Jesus was anymore the son of God than you or I...but I believe he was a wonderful and true person.
Other than that - I'm at a loss. I believe I am a moral person. I feel very strongly about the things I believe to be right and wrong - but as far as I can tell, I don't fit ANYWHERE in mainstream spirituality.
However, I need to believe in something and feel it is right. I definitely feel like a spiritual person, just not a religious person....
Should I be concerned for my soul?
Should I confront my family about my spirituality and risk being disowned?
Lost,
Wanderlust23lost
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I am very similar to you in the way that I am spiritual but just not religious at all. To me, I'd rather live on the grounds of respect. I respect Buddhists because I think they are very good people and very smart people and they do not harm anyone with their belief so why not? I respect Christianity and Catholicism as a concept but in practise ... personally, I think they've made too many mistakes but I was raised a Catholic so maybe that's why I struggle to accept it too much. Religions I do not respect are those that harm others, Jihad is another word for Pride and Ignorance to me and I say it proudly because if I had to die for respecting religions that don't harm people, so be it. I can argue about pretty much almost any religion out there because I spent very long trying to understand this fascination humans have with understanding the unfathomable. I just accept that it is all not a coincidence but if anyone's god decides to punish me for not following a particular doctrine and respecting everyone than I'd rather not know that god anyway.
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I have all the same beliefs as you or at least all the same as the ones you listed. My mom wasn't as religious as yours but I have probably only been to church 5 times in my life. My family wasn't really dedicated to a religion and for a while I liked that but as I got older I wanted something that I could be a part of. I found paganism..its not exactly a mainstream religion and no, my parents don't know but they don't know a lot of things about me. Not going to lie when I first thought paganism I was thinking 'ok great I have the same ideas as tree huggers and hippies and those gothic kids' but I started learing more about it and found more people who didn't fit the stereotype and I'm at the point where if someone asks me what religion I am I would think pagan and say agnostic. I'm not trying to preach because you have to make your own decisions otherwise you're going to be unhappy if you suddenly realize its not what you want. Do the research to find what's right for you but just remember that religion has nothing to do with morals because no matter what you believe spiritually you can still have the same morals.
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