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Worrier of sex
I am a total worrier
But the one thing I worry about is sex really.
So here are some questions
1) What position are you usually in if your being fingered - what should you do ? where should your hands go?
2) And if your making out and you want to actually do it and he puts on the condom - doesn't that like kill the mood a little?? Like your all in the mood and then its like wait, let me put one on..how long would it take?
3) Can you tell me of how it feels for the first time? What it's like?
4) Being fingered ; does it hurt?
5)Do guys ever look at your body naked whilst your having sex. I never go into relationships because I hate my body and I wouldnt want someone else looking at it
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1 the girl can be laying down while the guy is on top of her or to the side. the girl can be standing up, while theguy is standing as well in front of her. the girl can be sitting on thee guys lap facing him, lots of different ways. your hands can go anywhere..around his body, through his hair, squeezing his butt, down his pants, etc
2. it doesnt really kill the mood. if your really into it he puts the condom on, once its on you can go back to passionate kissing and touching until he puts it inside.
3 you need to be relaxed and it wont hurt as much. touching/kissing foreplay etc helps it will get you wet. he needs to take it slow and be gentle at first.
4 it can hurt if the guy is too rough or doesnt know what hes doing. hopefully the guy is good at it and gets you wet,then it will feel good.
5. dont have sex with someone if you arent comfortable wit them looking at you. wait for the guy who loves you and your body..and doesnt care about minor stuff like that.
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The first thing you need to know is that you cannot plan in advance how to kiss, where to put your hands, or how to act. Sex is an-in-the moment kind of thing, and the only way to really know what to do is to just do it. Also remember than when you do decide to have sex, it's not going to go smoothly. Not the first time, the second time, or the thousandth time. It's just an awkward act in general, but when you're with someone you love, it doesn't matter.
1. The girl is generally on bottom, and the guy is usually on the side or on top. But there are many positions you can be in. Your hands should go where they feel like going. You probably won't be thinking about it when you actually do the act.
2. My boyfriend and I personally don't use condoms, so there is nothing to ruin the mood. But we did use condoms when we first go together, and when you decide to have sex you should definitely use one. If you are in the mood, taking about 30 seconds to put on a condom isn't a big factor in mood-killing. However, later on in the relationship there are fun ways to incorporate condoms with sex. Using flavored condoms and putting them on with your mouth for instance.
3. It hurts a little at first, and there is some soreness afterward, but it's not bad if done correctly. Being well lubricated, and having foreplay before sex can make it less painful.
4. Being fingered doesn't hurt when done in moderation. For instance, one finger when the girl is calm and in the mood feels good, it doesn't hurt. But if the girl isn't in the mood and is dry as a bone, then yes it will hurt.
5. Yes, they do. You shouldn't be in a relationship if you aren't comfortable enough to show the guy your body. That's the first sign that you aren't ready. So learn to be comfortable in your own skin, and be with someone who isn't going to care about a few imperfections on your body.
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1. Probably laying down on your back because you wouldn't want to be sitting.
2. I don't think it would kill the mood because you're being safe about it. Would you rather end up with a disease or a baby?
3. Can't answer.
4. Maybe the very first time but not after that.
5. And, no. I mean they're too much in the mood to really look at it
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I don;t know if your asking because your planning on having sex or if your just curious, so i'll say this first. If you have never been fingered then you are deffinatly not ready for sex :-)
1. If your being fingered it's usually while your standing up against a wall (usually this is if you are outside).
if you in the house then laying down whith the guy next to you but leaning over you.
Or he can be on top of you while fingering but this can be a bit uncomftable for him.
2. It doesn't kill the mood because you know the reason he's putting it on is because you'll be having sex anytime soon.
If he's never put on one before it can take a few minutes but the more experience he has the less time it takes.
3. When you think about losing your virginity you think you'll feel so different and grown up afterwards...truth is, you don't.
If your in love with eachother then it will make you feel closer, which is lovely.
If your doing it with someone and there's no love there, then afterwards you may feel abit "oh, is that is?", "i wish i'd waited", and feelings of guilt and abit dirty (personal experience).
4. When i was first fingered it did hurt, quite alot, but he was rough and not conciderate, so again, it deprends how much he loves and respects you.
Having said that, it was more a pleasure/pain thing.
As you get wetter though and more used to it it will hurt less and less untill its all pleasure.
5. They do, but it depends on the position. If your on top then he can look at your breasts, or you can lower yourself so he can just see your face, or you can kiss and his eyes will be closed.
If he's on top then he'll only be able to see your face.
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1) What position are you usually in if your being fingered - what should you do ? where should your hands go?
1) Personal preference. Whatever feels best. Commonly either lying on your back, or on your hands and knees with your rear end facing the person fingering you. Hands are either supporting yourself, if kneeling, or doing whatever they want. They can be by your sides, helping make sure he doesn't miss, or helping him make sure you have a good time.
2) Not if you help. "Mood" is anticipation, passion, kissing him while he opens the foil packet. Condoms don't take very long to put on, but it shouldn't be rushed. Trapped air in the tip of a condom dramatically increases the probability of breakage = b.a.d.
3) I can't answer this one.
4) I don't know with regard to virgins. I've heard that the first few times have the potential to hurt, but it is the same for penile sex. After that, it shouldn't hurt unless s/he is being too rough, or too vigorous. If it hurts, SAY SO.
5) "Do guys ever look at your body naked whilst you're having sex?"
Darling, if they are whistling and staring up at the ceiling, then you shouldn't be having sex with them. Likewise, unless you intend on having sex fully clothed (a little difficult), YES, he will be looking at your body.
"I hate my body" is another problem. You should try looking up advice about body image. There are two things you can do about your body:
Realise it's not so bad, maybe even really great, but you just have a low self-image of it
OR fix it: for example if you thought you were fat, don't shouldn't just say "I hate my body, oh well..." instead say "I hate being fat, I'm going to f#@$# DO something to slim." and then do it.
Lastly: your question indicates you avoid relationships because of your body.
You sound like you don't know heaps about sex, or relationships. From that, and the way you speak, I am guessing maybe 15-ish. Relationships are not only about your body, and letting other people see you naked. That's the kind of thinking that "your grandma would be ashamed of you" for. But it's not because Gran is old, it's because Gran was young AGES ago, and has had A LOT of time to think things over. Good relationships are great friendships, with natural physical attraction added in. If you get into a REAL relationship, by the time he sees your naked body, he should be able to make you feel beautiful by just being near him. If you're worried, you're not comfortable enough with him.
-K
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