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Complicated boy stuff... Ughh.
Alright. Here is the thing. This past summer I got involved with a total ass(it happens) and he hurt me becuase I found out he was only trying to get in my pants (have sex) and when I told him I wasn't ready (I was fourteen when he asked me! Granted, he was sixteen at the time but still. Fourteen... now way) he dumped me... Yeah. Anyway, that's a whole nother story... I pretty much moved on and I am now dating this awesome guy and we have been for a little over a month. The summer jerk we'll call T and my boyfriend we'll call C. So C and I are doing fine and dandy but just last night we got into a little fight and I hung up on him. We were cooling down when wow, would fate have it? T texts me. Just a casual "hey, what's up? :)" and normally (cuz he's tried to call and text and see me a few times since we broke up but ive been hesitant cuz i KNOW what his intentions are) i just ignore him but since I was mad at C I was like what the hell and I started chatting with him. It was just texting so its not like it was a big deal and we were just catching up but I still feel bad... C knows about my past with T and he would be pissed if he knew I was talking to him. I don't want to talk to T either. But... I kind of want to try and be friends with him. Is that possible?? I mean. Yeah he hurt me and he never apologized but maybe he didn't know how much he hurt me. Maybe we can work it out and be friends. I'm tired of being angry at him and I want a friendship to work (oh by the way, T goes to a different school than C and I do) But there are a few problems with that... Number 1: C could quite possibly get mad. Number 2: T was an ass, what if he's a sucky friend too?? Number 3: What if i start to like him again...? That CAN"T happen. I am crazy about C but I have always had this thing for bad boys... I don't know... I'm just so confused and I don't know what to do so any help would be great thanks. But I do want this friendship. I'm over T but I'm not over what he's done to me and I think I need to be his friend to finally work though this bad blood with him and help myself. BEcause I feel like until I work this out I'm never going to be able to get closer to C or anyone. I need to be able to trust again. Btw, I am fifteen and C and T are both sixteen.
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Wow, I just got out of a "t" relationship. We both agreed to be friends still. I don't know how thats working, because we won't even talk to each other now, but I think it's cool. My opinion, Don't talk to "t". What's done is done. Move on. Guys'll hurt you and you might hurt guys. But why hurt (c) if your soo crazyy for him?
My advice to you is, just ignore T. If you do text back or whatever it's cool, I mean I don't think that'll mess anything up but don't hang out with him or anything.
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Im glad you kept an eye out for yourself as you can see people can be very cunning at taking advantage of opportunities...with that said you should not forget to keep that eye open. This t guy i dont understand why you would even want to even have any relationship with? If c is such a great guy then why would you get mad and fight?
one of you is not being understanding or patient. t on the other hand is just being t and will be doing what he always does wait for the right moments to slip your panties of you and spread the gates to your legs open to get to your pearl..i wouldnt even try him as a friend. You're a smart girl...stay smart and loyal. you know once you tell t about your problems about your relationship youll only give him a scent of the flesh he can devour...again be smart and stay smart dont hurt c...i mean he is a great guy right? and he hasnt hurt you right? so does he deserve for you to go get a bad friend just because you both could not agree on something?
think about it...
and remember you can always have sex tomorrow....today may not be the right time.
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I really strongly suggest sticking with your bf and not making friends with the summer jerk. why risk a relationship with a great guy over a friendship with someone who does not deserve it anyway? You said it yourself, if your bf finds out he will be mad. Its not good to go behind his back..and I definitely agree that the summer jerk could quite possibly be a sucky friend. You do not want to set yourself up for major boy drama..the summer jerk trying to lure you in, then you getting feelings again and leaving behind your nice bf.
To avoid all kinds of sticky messes, end the convos and possible friendship with the summer jerk, he is totally not worth it. When you tell the summer jerk that..just say it honest. you have a bf, you care about him, and the other guy is a jerk and dumped you just because he couldnt have sex with you. not a good sounding friend or love interest.
hope this helped, in the end it is your choice though.
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