I have a little babysitting business with 60+ kids but durin the holiday season it certainly slows down so i was thinking of doing a holiday speacial of some sort. Except I don't know what to do. Should I do 1 hour free or 2 hours free? Also, should I have rules that go along with it? If its 2 hours free, I need to be there for 5 hours or if its 1 hour free I need to be there for at least 3.. or what?
Thanks, and all tips and advice is grealty appreciated.
Do a 1hour free when you sign up for..
or get 8 hours for the price of 6 or something like that
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HI i'm 14 and my penis is 6.5 inches when i'm erect is this good or bad??? Please somebody tell me!
it means you are trying to get attention.
So whats your question? is it bad cause? good cause?
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female.
this may be a weird question .. but i was wondering .. is there a certain way to hug someone thats more "flirty, cute or sexy?" a hug that shows that your interested in someone? like putting your arms around a guys neck instead of his waist? i dont know!! suggestions??
I think be respectful and kind light hug that always will be in my opinion sexy...expecially if you have an intimate ( sexual ) life with that person...its always more flirty and hot if you do that behind doors not in fron of everyone else...i guess it depends if you like to share with everyone else your "flirt" or if your a more personal person
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Ok so i have a crush on a guy i know from work. im pretty sure he likes me too. We talk all the time, and i feel so comforable aroung him. how do i drop hints that i like him without being totally obvious?
also- i would love to hear some opinions- there is a significant age difference. hes 17 and im a 21/f. i dont think it is illegal because of the 4 year difference, but i lways though the guy wsas supposed to be the oldest. i would love to see some opinions. thanks so much.
the age diffrence isnt a legal issue or so i think it isnt and it wouldnt matter whos older male or female if its illegal it illegal. But this isnt your case. I dont think you should hint anything. the good old rule of thumb is be yourself just be careful how you express your self you dont want him or any guy at work thinking your easy or a "plastic" ("bourgeoisie")
but you do want to let him and any other guy that your a playful friendly happy, responsible, respecting and resposible young woman as you are. you wont go wrong with you being you. Whe i hear of girls flirting it makes me wonder why flirt if you got the goods in other words you dont need anything to sell cause your not selling yourself instead you want to be what you represent because in the end thats really what and who you are. Being a co worker and letting him choose you over everyone else with great respect is what i would want to accomplish not be just another flirt. I hope this helps if it doesn let me know
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There's this kid that I had a little thing with for a few weeks.Then one of his best friends randomly said he "doesn't like me anymore." He tried to talk to a few of my friends ,but they denied him.And he knew I was interested in him.He isn't good looking or popular ,he actually hasn't had a girlfriend since 8th grade and we are in 11th.I do actually like him a lot ! The reasons I think he likes me are : he talks to me on IM every single night (he talks to me first) for like atleast 2 hours ,he texts me when he's at work just to say hey,he asks me to chill every weekend and sometimes during the week,and sometimes his friends ask me about "us".Yet whenever we have long deep talks (which is almost daily) he gets into how he doesn't bother trying to get a girl and how he isn't trying to "talk" to any girls and how he believes in "love at first sight"..which tends to confuse me.Yet,I never hint that I like him either and I kinda go along with what he says just so I don't sound dumb.This has been going on for about 1 month and we kissed one time when we first started talking.He says he talks to me the most ,(out of girls) so idk...
i need advice! and i'm to scared to bring up "him and I " as a topic unless he brings it up first..HELP!
Wow...good Job!! caring for your feelings. I think its best to wait and to remind yourself not to fall deep, to keep some distance from him let yourself breath. The thing you do not want to do is reveal to someone feelings that they themselves do not feel the same. I personally would not let this subject come up, if anything id let talk to me about it BUT he has to not winn you over but more of give you trust and change, you should remind yourself what kind of man/guy you want in your life BUT mor importantly remind your self what kind of man/guy/boyfriend/lover you do NOT want in your life.
i hope this helps if not let me know
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We are going to have sex soon and we really need to know the least painful way to take virginity. Can anyone help us make this a better experience or do we just do it and hope for the best?
Thank you!
I know you wont like what i will say but you asked for an opinion and my opinion is what you will get...ehemm...
I honestly think that can help is to not rush into the "sex" craze, rather than worry about the pain you or she will feel concentrate more on the feelings and the consequenses this step will make on your relationship. It really doesnt matter what position you do or how hard you push or how dry or how darn turned on you are, i personally would rather focus on knowing that i can assure my lover that i trust them and they can trust me. i can trust them not to pressure me and they can trust me not to pressure them, we both can trust each other emotionally, and physically and thenot only trust but respect each other... you might say man i didnt ask for a lecture and im sorry but its not, see the answers that im telling you how its all in there.
If YOU want it to be less painful consider this
You can always have sex tomorrow ...today may not always be the right time....what??!!
ill expalin .if you dont want it to hurt be willing to STOP when it does start to hurt not every vagina is the same not every hymen react the same and not every female will bleed but every female does have feelings and every female want to feel loved and secure and no female wants to be used or even feel used, its tough enough for them to have to be spread open have their most precious and intimate parts of their bodies explored and fondled it'll be worser if a guy just thinks about his feeling and needs. so when it starts to hurt stop again today may not be the right time, take it slow, were not talking a an ear piercing were talking something sacred...Virginity
I hope this helps if its not what you wanted to hear its ok ill understand why you low graded me.
thanks
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okay well i have this boyfriend and we've been together for three years. i_m and he is also and i think its time we took it to "that level" if you know what i mean. but thing is. i've only done it once with another guy and i'm not the least bit experienced. and he's a virgin and said he wouldn't know what to do. and i want him to take the lead cause i don't wanna be on top:-( but what could we do to help? cause he said he doesn't want to suck at it. and i want his first time to be special :-) unlike my first time which sucked a hole
Well to be honest its going to be special only if its really what you want and if there will be no bad conscious. If you both have talked about the choice and the resposibilities that sex brings into a relationship then dont think and worry about whos going to do what, if you really enjoy it and he does also it wont matter if you are on top or if hes on top, it wont matter if he sees you completely naked or he sees you down there and you wont feel embarassed, it wont matter if you do oral or if he does oral on you or if you try anal nothign will matter, No one is born knowing NO ONE! its our own natural instinct to reproduce that leads us to have a sexual life, but our desires to be emotionally and physically fullfilled is what can make us so darn addicted. the high you get knowing that you might get caught, that feeling of knowing there is no true commitment, only the "hit it and split it" satisfaction is what sometimes makes us go do things that without thoroughly thinking leads us to regrets, and guilty feeling knowing we could/should/ and can do diffrently. im not trying to lecture you...you know exactly who you will allow to enter your body, why, where and when only you. Just remember that you do know that sex can be nothing like everyone makes it appear to be...my opinion in which i have said before here is ..sex in my opinion in just one of many benefits in a serious and commited relationship and benefit that i think should be thought carefully, and should never be rushed into. You can only receive benefits from a job/employer if you work for them and if you pass a probationary period..even the employer thinks and analizes your atttitude, commitment, duties and resposibility before giving you some benefits being holiday pay, or sick days or dental, vision, etc, etc, ...I think you should consider this example to your boyfreind...i know i know 3 years together and im glad its going ok but you still dont know him...do you? if you guys have done great without being sexual before then why now?..If he is the one then do you see him as the one to be your husband?..im not trying to tell you what to do or when to have sex just never stop wondering if it is really important...will sex save or effect your relationship in a negative way? If hes been patient and has proven without doubt in your mind that he will always be there and be patient,understanding,loyal,respectful,loving,family oriented and you see him as one day your husand then i say this you got to keep him and DONT RUIN IT! lol..i hope this helps and if it doesnt let me know.
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Kinda like it says up there! I feel like I might be pregnant but I bled like I was having a period. I don't feel like I had a period no pms or anything.
So what are the chances of being pregnant and having a period?
Thank you!
The chances of you bleeding during pregnancy is becoming more and more common but there is a difference in bleeding and spotting. It really all depends if you had sex with out the use of a birth control either a condom, pill, jell,foam,insert,film, vacinne or IUD although alot of women/females/teenagers will have sex the great majority will not get pregnant but keepp in mind that its a risk that can result in Unplanned pregancy. one of the highest successful results are from IUD users but like all prescriptions please talk to your medical professional for all advice. If you do feel that you might be pregant try tking a over the counter pregnacy test...but in answer to your question yes it is possible to spot and or bleed if you are preganant and it is possible to be on your period and get/be pregant and it is your most fertile time. I hope this helps
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a few days my mom came home early and walked in on me and one of my friends making out the friend was a chick and needless to say my mom freaked out and now things are just weird between us she barly looks me in the eyes and when i do try and talk to her she ignores me me and were very close and i just want things to go back to normal and be able to talk to her about the way i feel how do i do that?
I dont think your mom "freaked out" i think what happamed is that she got shocked and is still in the shocked stage. i mean its your mom she never thought that things would go this way, you are and will be to her you baby she understands that you will grow up and eventually leave the nest but for what i can she at least right now is that she doesnt understand whats really going on and thats why she is still in shock, i think what you really need to do is not give up she is your mom and your true best friend, and i think she also feels hurt that you never talked to her about your feelings...i can only imagine it not being easy to watch you child kissing and swapping saliva...you got to admit it isnt easy ..so imagine her would it be easy to see her make out with a stranger? have sex with a stranger?... wouldnt you also get "freaked out"? ( Shocked)
i think so... if you really want to go back to the way things were this is my opinion... 1. dont give up 2. work on gaining that trsut back 3. dont pressure her..rememeber shes not pressuring you so dont go there 4. consider her feelings..remember shes always worried about you and has done that all of your life she does deserve for you to be patient with her..you do owe it to her right? 5.stop doing what ever it is that will interupt your goal to bond with her again and regain the trust. 6. communicate 7. talk talk talk and talk 8. try to undrestand her and not be hard headed or stuborn 9. accept that she has the right to her opinion 10. be willing to change bad habits into good actions 11. dont give up. it is possible to love your mom and have a great relationship with her and be young.
I hope this helps if it doesnt please let me know
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During the summer, I met this guy. And for months we have been hanging out, and our relationship is growing very strong. The problem is, I'm 14, and he's 17.. And he's leaving for university next year, so we've decided that we're not going to become boyfriend and girlfriend, just be a couple.. Well, the thing is, he wants to go all the way with me.. And I don't know if i'm ready! I'm still a virgin and I don't know how I can be sure that I trust him enough, to know he's not just using me for a piece of "skin" please help!!
Well to be honest you will never know...only time and alot of patience will help you determine your next moves. I dont agree with him asking you to do something you dont feel or think or want or should do. I do beleive that if a guy really cares for you and is mature he will keep integrity and respect and honor towards you and your family ...why family well many people forget how important it is to have someone who is conscious towards the family of his love it represents just how much respect is important and how much he will see you in his future but also how he feels sees them in his future. I can tell you this ...Your are NOT ready!!! the biggest mistake for you to make is to think that he is and will be the only guy/man in your life...i can clearly remember people with more experience talk about how in the good old days girls would see their daddys as the main man in their life and how they would base their ideal future significant other on them...obviously times have changed but what will still remain is the respect you also have to give towards your dad or your mom. I also see it this other way if you have sex or do have a SEXual relationship via vaginal, oral, manual, anal relationship with this guy it will be just a random person...you wont see him again and is that really what you want? to experience a sexual relationship with a person who will not give you what you deserve???--> a dedicated, devoted, loyal, loving, respecting man?? I dont beleive he respects you if he did he would not ask you to "go all the way" and i dont see him caring about you, your feelings or your body or else he wouldnt ask you to again " go all the way" You can never trust him because hes not trusting you...say what!!!??? let me explain if he would trust you then he wouldnt put pressure on you..again let me expalin...when we love a person with an honest heart we never ask them to do anything that would effect them or ourselves, a good example is our parents when we trust them we dont mistreat them nore do we expect them to mistreat us but when you trust someone you will not do anything or ask anything that would cause a heart ache. I hope im not confusing you.. ive said this before you can always have sex tomorrow..today may ot be the right time. Sex is so much pressured these days and i think it needs to stop sex is useless if you have someone who is taking away from you that experice that you will only be able to live once and that person has no feelings for what hes about to do has no heart of the change that he will inflict on your life once you have sex and he leaves you..alone. think about what you want to do, then think again before you do it, but think about before...not after.
I hope this helps if not let me know
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ok there is a type of physical girls take. i dont remember what its called. when the doctor check in there vagina and all that.. well my question is...
what all do they do can you please explain in deep details. ive never had it done before. im 17 female. and im a virgin so im scared to get it done but if someone can tell me what to expect. thankyou
Well my opinion on a pap smear on a virgin is diffrent than for a female that has had vaginal sex and is having a sexual life. Unless you are having symptoms or concerns or as mentioned having sex i wouldnt agree on a pap smear. Id still talk to a gynocologist for the valuable medical advice but as far as i know there no medical reasons just to have a papsmear. It is scary and it can be uncomfortable and even hurt im not trying to discourage you from ever haveing a pap smear but what i am saying is that i dont think you need one of course im no doctor but for what i have researched and studied i dont see a reason for you to have one done just beacause. I will always recommend professional medical advice, and my questions will be why do i need to have a pap smear if i dont feel any symptoms and i dont have a sexual active life? there is a virus that many are concerned about but let a doctor explain the story on that. If you do not feel youre ready or that you do not want to have a pap smear test performed on you dont as to how the proceudre is done is as follows
make sure you are seeing someone who specializes in pediateric gynocolgist ( for minors)
Usually the exam consists of
Examination of external genetalia
Papanicolaou ( pap) Test
Binmanual Examintaion
Rectovaginal Examination
In complete detail i can send to you via email. just ask
I hope this helps
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Is it possible if I just leave it alone and stop having sex that a yeast infection will go away completely untreated or do you have to go to the doctor and get something to take care of it?
there may be some types of yeast infections that your body might be able to get rid of, but there are some that wont go away, they either stay dormant or active but will not clearly leave your body, some yeast infections can be transmitted to diffrent parts of the body or to others. Over the counter medications are not anways going to work most of them are there to reduce but wont work to cure. I strongly recommend to seek medical professional advice. Dont forget that at least 1 a year see your gynocologist for a pap smear and always do self breast exams at least once a month.
i hope this helps
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whenever i masterbate, i stimulate the clitoris until climax. my boyfriend and i have had sex a lot but we're always interrupted after at least 15 minutes or so. so obviously, neither of us have orgasmed.
i was just wondering, what does a VAGINAL orgasm feel like? and what usually happens? will i pee, because i know that would be a major turn off, but sometimes when we would be doing it for a little while, i'll already feel my bladder about to explode and i really don't want to pee all over him during in an intimate moment O.O
Well a vaginal orgasm does not cause you to urinate although it is a fetish to alot of women ( who are into this) to feel the rush/high of the realief in the pressure of a full bladder.
You wont pee but what you might feel is you heart rate rise, your temperature rise, your breathing could get deep and even to a point be tough to breathe, your body will contract, you might even loose mental and eye visual focus, and dont be surprise if you gasp and cross your eyes or close them your thighs might tighten up and you might even quench your vulva but you will feel a sensation all over your body and it will drain you physically you might even get knocked out youll feel low on energy and might even lay there still not knowing what hit you. Many many women like it when their lovers perform oral sex and then mount them on top allowing the girl to manual rub their clitoris and as the male pumps and thrusts his penis inside them the female will orgasm, another postion is after receiveing oral or manual sex from the male women like the "doggy style" position so that then man can penetrate them while they play with their clitoris until they climax. try tightening your vaginal muscles as he penetrates you, that might build up the pressure to help rocket you into your climax.
I hope this helps
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what does it mean when your boyfriend acuses you of having sex with other guys?
I haven't had sex with other guys! I just gave a few handjobs and some head but I am only going to have sex with my boyfriend. What is he so mad about? Oh i did have anal with a guy but i was at a party and a little drunk. I am still a virgin so what is my boyfriend upset over??!? I have had anal with him and head and handjobs just like all the other guys i have been with but i am saving my virginity for him.
It all depends. did all of this happend recently or did this happened before you ever met your boyfriend? Also I dont mean to offend you but you are NOT a virgin...not analy and not orally you have had sex you might call it somethig else but you have performed SEXual acts you have done Oral Sex, Anal Sex and have given manual sex. You may not have had Vaginal Sex but if any guy went down on you or tasted you or fingered you...you have also received oral and manual sex. No offense but you havent even saved your virginity to him im not talking vaginal sex am talking about the sex you have had and like i said if you did all of this before you met him then he really needs you to leave him before you hurt him and he hurts you, this relationship is not going to end well if you did all of these actions while knowing him. being drunk is no reason to say it was ok. Sooner or later you are going to get very wet down there and you will have to decide to let someone penetrate you with a penis and then what will you have to say?...I know im going to get burned on this so in advance i will say this Im sorry for not saying something you wanted to hear. I really hope this helps in anyway
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16/f well i have this boyfriend and in 4 days we'll have been together for 2 months. well he's VERY sexually active & wayyy more experienced then me [he's 16 also] but i've only done it once. [& it wasn't what i expected. i had a straight face & i stopped the guy in the middle of us doin it. he was kinda small] but back to my boyfriend. i'm not saying that we're going to have sex asap. cause i don't wanna rush it cause i really wanna be with him. but i'm just asking for when the time comes how would it go. [like kinda give me pointers on what to do and stuff] cause it'll feel weird him knowing what he's doing & me just being clueless. ohhh and moaning. does everyone moan ? cause i don't wanna be a moaner lol but i don't want him to feel like he's not doing anything. but idk i don't really like moaning sounds & i think i might sound weird . so tips on that ?
tips tips tips ?
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i think you need to learn more about anyone before stepping into having a sexual relationship.
For what i can tell your new boyfriend wants sex.. if this is what you really want in your love life then no matter what my opinion is you wont care..but as i was saying i really think youre not doing the wrong thing in really taking the time to really think about sex. If you base your relationship on sex then thats all that will exist in your relationship just sex and a booty call...sorry but thats the truth. Have sex when you are ready not when you think youre ready, and always remember you can always have sex tomorrow now may not be the right time. beofre you decide to have sex think about this sex is a benefit in a relationship and just like you can only have nebefits at a job you work for you will need to also have a lover that will work with you in your feelings, thoughts, beliefs, goals and Future see yourself with this guy as a long relationship? or will it be a booty call? would you give benefits to a worker if hes not going to be loyal, dedicated, commited, resposible?. If you think about it as much as possible it wont be difficult for you to express yourself and be sexually aroused with humger to be filled with satisfaction by your lover, and that will clear up any feelings on how you will moan, enjoy, and feel compltely satisfied.
I hope this helps, even if you low grade me.
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I just have to know. I have had nothing but pain with guys who have big dicks so why are all the other girls making such a big deal out of this?
I dont think women like big Penises. I think they like a full errect penis. all women want to be penetrated during sex ..all!! if not then why have sex? but alot i mean ALOT of men cannot acchieve a full errection...so i guess this raises a qestion why cant men get fully errect? health is one of the top main reasons. They dont make a big deal out of it if they have had the chance to have sex with someone who knows how to sexually satisfy them. they do make a deal out of it if they have hade sex with someone who doesnt know and has a errectily disfunction. The vaginal depending on size of the woman will vary in depth but can stretch and adjust itself for the penis many many women have complaint of lovers that are too hard or are too erect..it hurts them the penis can poke their uterus and thats not apleasant experince. which also raises another question why do men like tight "Pu_s*"? questions questions and more questions
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Some boy at school held up two finger like a "V" I guess and put his tongue between them. What does that mean?
Unfortunatly its a bad sexual gesture used really to insult but can be used as humor
the "V" represents the way two fingers are used to part the Labias (vaginal Lips) and the tongue is used to represent the action that is made with the tongue to stinulate the clitoris or vulva for sexual satisfaction used as a sexual intercourse act. Sorry if this is explained in such detail its just that i think its not cool for guys to walk around and do this to any girl he sees it can be seen as VERY Disrespectfull.
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ok, i'm 19f. i dated this guy [19m] on and off since i was 15, mostly on. we were both virgins when we started dating and still are. he was my 1st for everything else [except kissing] and i was his. we've been broken up since march, but everytime we see each other, which isnt too often because we still have problems, mainly with him always being with this other girl who he claims not to like and says he still wants and loves me, yet shes always saying she loves him and stuff [theyve never even dated], anyway whenever we're actually in each others presense, we're fine with each other and usually fool around.
so fast forward to now. im in college 3 hours from home. two weeks ago i met this guy at a bar and have seen him everyday since. he's so sweet, caters to me in every way he can, and i enjoy spending time with him. he wants to date me, but i dont want to rush into something serious, so we're still "talking". he's been with 17 girls! which he said is a thing of the past and now he wants a relationship, and feels bad because i usually pick at him for having such a big number ha. but he knows im a virgin and is fine with the fact that i told him i wont be giving it up to him any time soon.
the problem is, i've always said i'd regret it if i lost it to anyone but my ex. we have almost 4 years of history together, we were each others first loves. he'd be so disappointed if he knew i gave it up to someone else, and i think i would be too. he was a big part of my life, and i still want to lose it to him. everytime we're together, it almost happens, and last weekend when i saw him, it really almost did, but didn't. i just dont know what to do now. if i lose it to my ex and my new guy finds out, im afraid he'll be crushed and leave me, which i dont want because im really starting to like him a lotttt and could see myself officially dating him pretty soon. on the other hand, my ex doesnt know about my new guy. and im afraid if i lose it to him and he finds out ive been talking to this other guy all along, he'll be pissed. but im more concerned about the latter. what to do here? by the way, im not trying to rush anything. i am 19, and it's bound to happen sooner or later.
Way to GO!! Good job!! Im glad to read you really are taking the time to think about this...even though many say its not a big deal just have sex...i dont agree. Honestly my opinion is this dont ever have sex with someone because you feel you owe it to him or her. Sex is tha act but love..ah..love is the "thing" the motivates you through your hearts true emotional feeling. If your ex is not ready to commit to you honestly and sincerley with a willing truthfull heart then i would do what you are doing ...just wait and not have sex, constantly remind yourself this is not what i want i dont want to loose my virginity or have sex in this way. alsway remind yourself the things you do not want in a man, remind yourself everyday train your heart and mind to reach that goal. Just like when we want to be a doctor, architec, or any goal in life you stay focused you dream you feel it heck you even can smell and taste the victory of your hard works accomplishment and the satisfaction of voctory is the feeling you get when you finish the race you once began. I dont believe in using sex for leverage in my opinion you should never enslave anyone including yourself because of sex..i have said this before you can always have sex tomorrow now may not always be good. The only thing i see that you owe your ex is the respect towards what you and him once had the memories and the testimony of the way he was with you. THATS ALL!! nothing more nothing less !. with this new guy i would be EXTREMELEY CAUTIOUS!! I have said this before sex is and can be very additive...dont get lost in it. This new guy in the way it seems likes you BUT!! he also really wants to have sex again, maybe with you or maybe with someone else but who knows?? who knows not me and not you but what you do know is that its your body and your feelings that is YOUR responsibility to care for now pain you will never be able to avoid but you will be able to control the amount of burden that you choose to take. This new guy may be sweet and treat you well but you dont really know him youve known your ex for over years and you still dont know him see what i mean? I would like to also say this to you and all women/female/ young girls out there...sex is a benefit in a relationship yes many now days dont like to hear about marriage so i wont go that route... but sex is a benefit like a job benefit now when you work most employers give you some kind of benefits right? health, sick days, vacation, some even discounts right? wel sex is part of a benefits package and just like the benefits package an employer would offer you they would only offer it to you if you work for them right? so why in the world you you give someone those benefits if you are not sure that person will be resposible and commited?...i hope you understand where im going with this..whomever you decide to share you sexual experience or encounter please make sure you think about it very well...once you do have sex that 1st experience can never be relived make sure the person whom you will give that sexual benefit being vaginal oral or yep anal is working with you and is dedicated, loyal, commited and is going to respect you your body your feelings your mind your hopes your dreams your family your all, we as humans are not perfect and thats ok but theres a diffrence between imperfect and screwed up you decide what path you want to go. Also theres a whole world out there and many people too just like you once thought your ex was the only one that existed that deserved your love... you know see yourself falling again for someone else...keep an open mind not open legs (sorry if i offended you with that comment) and see that it is possible for you to have choices and options....because you do.
Thank you for the time and the opportunity to give you my opinion. I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know or email me thank you.
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We have co-ed gym in my school and when we get in there sometimes you can see the girls breasts like it was some kind of wet t-shirt contest. (I wish they would make them wear bras!)
I guess you can guess what happens next. Yep! Boner in gym class. Lucky me!
Can you guys tell me any mind tricks or something to keep this from happening? I am not thinking any bad thoughts or anything but you know how it is you see boobies and your body does the rest. :(
I think one of the best ways you can reduce your bodies natural reflexes is by understanding why you achieve an erection and how it happens and also scientifically/medically whats going on in your body. Although it can be difficult to control your sexual reflexes your mind is a very powerful tool. The penis requires blood to errect and the heart usually gets the signal to pump more blood, without that blood supply the penis will not get errect so doing excercise before seeing "boobies" or pushups or a good cardio before seeing the boobies might help put a load on your body and get it tired so that the body delays in achieveing the errection. also you have to also understand that its not the visual only that is stimulating you its also the smell the aroma of the young hormones and pheromones you are being exposed to. their bodies are releasing invisible smells that are in my opinion the ones that are making you get the errection. Try smelling something that you find offensive like a male cologne that you know you do not like or a car fresner that you find offensive and carry it with you. or garlic scratch garlic. you will not be able to get rid of the female scents in the air but you will be able to change the air chemistry and that might work what you will need to do is interupt the signals in the air that are stimulating you and your friend. Hey i hope this helps if it doesnt let me know
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Hi, i just read some advice you gave and it was a breath of fresh air, you are full of realism and that’s what I need. I'm a dominican girl.
I met a boy seven months ago who happens to be my boyfriend. I decided to have relations (sex) with him shortly after I met him. He is my first boyfriend and my first at all. He is a very nice person and a nice boy. But sometimes I feel like I’ve made a huge mistake and rushed in to all, I mean I love him, but I'm having doubts about the having relation thing. I think I wasn’t prepared and now I can’t get out. I feel trap and I’m trying to make it work because it was my decision and have to assume consequences. Sometime I feel very happy with him but sometimes I just want to stop and be like we used to be before (having relations) and I have talked to him about that, to stop having relations (sex), but he gets upset and different, he says he trying to forget and that is hard to be “normal”, and I understand but he gets to the point where he doesn’t want to even kiss me, so I decided to forget about me and like just think I’m being overdramatic and to just do it. But right now I don’t feel so good about myself, because, it has happened a couples of times where he gets upset with me because it has passed a whole week and we haven’t had the time to “do it” and he gets a little indifferent to me during that time and I feel used, like if he only loved me for that, but then we talked about it and its all good again. Right now I just want to know if he cares about me, if I’m too young and not mature enough, or if I’m asking for too much (to stop having relations). I’m 21 years old and he is 22. Please please my head is not ok, I’m not in peace because of this situation, I can’t talk to nobody about this. And I don’t feel ready to introduce him to my parents even though he wants to. What does that means?
Thank you again for allowing me to give you my opinion. I will start by saying this its ok. I can understand why you no longer want to continue on having a sexual relationship with this person and i am sorry for the way things are with him, i will say this try not to let anyone ever use sex as a tool leverage, it hurts our feeligns and hurts us spiritualy and it will hurt us physically I know he is your first and the first one in many many discoveries besides sexual experiences, however i dont agree in what is in my opinion bad behavior. You are so right in stating that you might have rushed into sex so fast at such a young age and its ok, really its ok its going to be ok dont feel bad we all learn diffrently and i know that if you had the chance to go back and take your time you would have sex in a very deffrent way, now in my opinion i think you should reassure yourself that you Do NOT want to have sex until you feel that you are sure of the steps you want to make ,...in other words make sure you dont want to have sex until YOU want to have ex again. NO one i mean NO ONE shoudl ever pressure you into having sex NO ONE if they love you they can love you with out sex.
I am not saying to need to break up with him but you will have to be strong and accept that you might have to. I have said this in the past...sex can be addictive and i think thats what he is going through. If you dont feel good about yourself after you have sex with him then its not your true desire and i dont agree with him making you go through that, he really needs to be a man and accept you for who you are but most importantly LOVE you. He is making a lot of mistakes and i think you can see them and that discourages you. A question to you from me would be Do you love him? and do you see him in your future..his behavior, his ways, his thoughts, and his ways of expressions do you see yourself happy with them? does he physically hurt you or is he emotionally hurting you? so many questions i know but what im trying to let you do is think about what you really want and to support your decision.
You are not too old or too young you are just right but is HE the one right for you? If he ever threatens to tell your family or publicly humiliate you ..leave him its his word against yours. If you dont feel he has worked hard to earn your respect then do what you have done...dont let him meet your parents he needs to straighten up his behavior. I mean what if you marry him? is this what he will do? A husband has no right demanding and forcing his wife into sex...its called rape....and if hes your boyfriend and pressuring you or forceing you to have sex with him ...thats also rape. Hes not your husband he has no right to that benefit. I say this to you and please i dont want you to feel bad because i dont want to offend and hurt you but i finish with this sex is a benefit in a relationship along with respect, dedication, loyalty.... if you have ever had a job the great majority of them offer some kind of benefit...vacation, sick days, discounts, holiday pay or something right? well only if you work there are you intitled to those benefits right? i mean you cant get the nebefits if you dont work there right? ....well if his not working with you emotionally, physically then dont give him the benefit he has not worked for. remember that you will have to be willing to let him go, there are going to be people out there willing to love you and start a new begining with out the sex being the most important subject. If you start a relationship based on sex it will always be just that a sexual relationship. Love can exist without sex being the fondation of a relationship.
I hope this helps, and feel free to contact me.
I thank you for your time to ask for an opinion. I would like to offer you my email should you feel the need for a more private conversation its
oktalktome@yahoo.com you will be more than welcome to email me at your convenience. I will answer your question in private if you wish?
I will await for your responce. thank you
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