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tips for finding a boyfriend
16/f.
Now I'm not a relationship kind of girl. It just doesn't really interest me. I'm very independent and don't feel like I need someone constant in my life. I also have insecure attachment disorder (it's not known well, but it's a psychological thing, about 30% of the population have it) which basically means I can't bond with people and always feel a strong sense of detachment from others, which obviously makes relationships hard for me.
I've only had one relationship, and that only lasted 4 months, and was a complete disaster. However, I did fall in love with him, we had a thing going on for about two years.
Anyway, I've been single for about two years now actually, and as I've said, doesn't usually bother me, but recently I've been feeling like I'd quite like a boyfriend. I'm very fussy and have no idea how to go about it.
So any tips on how to meet a guy?
Thanks, x
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this is a good clip to listen to.there are heaps of clips on youtube to help you out
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well dont believe and apply that you have something that can prevent you from blovcking you from having a healthy and healthy relationship.
hearts break but you were made to be strong and to heal.
and it does interest you in having a relationship or else you wouldnt ask , and dont take me wrong its cool the youre asking.
You should say that basically you cant bond with people cause we both know the reality
you can
its more of a ...You dont want to bond which is different and a choice i respect from you.
Now you dont have a psycological issue what you have is
you are caustious and thats great having the care for yourself is a good way to preventing mishaps in your life.
I really dont advice people on how to fiind the right person but more of the opposite
how to avoid the wrong person
i have mentioned this before...way before (and if interestes you see my history) that training yourself by writing it down
and eventually memorizing it
to a certain point making it law in your life on the guy or girl (if you go that way) you should avoid
we tend to always want as human beings and thats ok but that wanting is what gets us into trouble try instead what you dont want in a guy
dont like freaks?
avoid freaks
dont like players?
avoid them
dont like a flirty guy
avoid him
dont want someone violent
well you know the drill avoid them
make a list read it silent
read it outloud
read it before you go to sleep and remmeber the list when you meet a guy
that will be your own personal guide of what you will not tolorate and be willing to give in
dont want a sexual relationship
then put yourself limits
try it it might work and if it doesnt
at least you opened your self to a opinion
not a dude in between you
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