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E-mail: sia.d.sus@hotmail.com
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Age: 20
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how i can make women to like me? (link)
theres really no magic way to make women like you.
make sure youre clean, shower regularily and dress nicely. be a gentleman. so sensitive, considerate but dont be femanine or overly sensitive.girls like to feel safe. they like to feel loved and feel like theyre protected and that everythings going to be ok and you need to make them feel that. but most importantly you need to be yourself.
make sure you make nice style
your not trying too hard and go out more.meet new people and youll meet some nice ladies


okay so my boyfriend and i have had sex, hes never been fully hard and hes fingered me and eating me out too. they say you're supposed to have a sharp pain, or bleed. well i don't re-call the pain, or any blood. and i can't go to the Dr. because my mom will freak out. i'm so afraid. i know im not pregnant he pulls out way before hand, but i wish i knew to tell if i had my hymen broke. please help (link)
hey thank for your question. when having sex every girl is different. Your hymen may have already broken throughout your years. people who bike ride or horse ride etc breaks down the hymen muscle through time.
the thing is that guys have pre cum which is small amounts of semen coming out before the full ejaculation.
Were there any other symptoms that make you feel that you could be pregnant?Cravings, increase breasts size, miss of period etc?
In the future pleaseeee use protection!!pulling it out before he cums never works. its just a myth...you need to use a condom which also prevents you from getting STD's...keep inmind that condoms are only 98% safe...You need to go on the pill just to be extra careful!


I went to my doctor because my vagina was itchy and weird and he said I had a yeast infection. We were talking and he told me that if I had gotten soap up there when I was washing then it could have started the infection basically. Ok, so does that mean I shouldn't be washing with soap in my vagina? I'm confused because I thought you were supposed to put soap in there and squish it around to get things clean and not smelly? Please, help. I don't want to call back and sound like an idiot. I just didn't think of it at the time of the appointment because of everything going on. (link)
there is soap at shops that are especially for down there,its for sensitive areas...it should be in the same section you buy your tampons from


Ok ths is a question for the women .I want to know what a woman thinks about her man .my problem is iv been in a relationship with my fiance for 6 years now and at first our love life was great .now its not so great .its been way over a year now that we haven't made love ,cuddle, or anything to that matter .and I just can't figure it out .I give her everything she could have ever wanted .I'm a hard worker I work 2 jobs to provide her with anything she wants and I'm sure a lot of women whould kill for a man like that .and all I ask in return is to make love from time to time but all I get is the cold shoulder .iv talked to her before about this but I don't get anywhere with her its always an excuse .I'm on the rag or it hurts to have sex .I'm at the wits end ! What do I do .don't I have needs ? I feel rejected and I feel like I'm only here for a paycheck .please anyone out there give me some feed back as to what I should do ,thanks ,,,,, (link)
I agree with what the other person commented,another thing you could do it woo her...get dressed up,take her out to a romantic dinner buy her flowers,i know you do alot but try to make her feel beautiful again..make sure its a night shes not on the rag lol


I want to really show my girlfriend that I love her a whole lot. I always tell her I love her but I want to prove it. What are some great ways to show my girlfriend who much I really care for her and love her? I want her to know that I completely and totally love her with every cell in my body. How can I prove that love to her? All idea are accepted and appreciated. (link)
aww thats very cute!!!buy her flowers,take her out on exciting adventures...surprise her..and dont forget about the RE FOR HER :) shes a lucky girl


hello im a 17 male and today was me n my girlfriends 6 month aniversery and i was going to go hang out with her but instead i went and hung out with my friend and i met this other girl and i ended up cheating on my girlfriend not anything serious just a few kisses but now i like this other girl alot and confused about what to do and who to go with (link)
dont lead your gf on,she doesnt deserve it...if you cheated on her obviously your not happy with her.kissing is just as serious,a cheat is a cheat...id probably break things off just until you know what you want instead of hurting them both...try not to cheat next time


My girlfriend is really pretty and we've been dating for 4 months. Before we started actually dating she told me about her passed and that she's hooked up with a lot of guys. She told me that it was "more than a dozen" guys she's had sex with before. I love her though and I told her it didn't matter and I loved her anyways. Well, lately she is been hanging out with these groups of guys. I know for a fact she's had sex with some of the guys more than once because she told me that before. I told her that it hurt me she was spending time with these guys that used her and she told me that it makes her happy to be able to spend time with these guys. I'm really actually getting mad because I'm hurt by all this and she doesn't understand what it's like to hear her laughing on the phone when they're out and me not knowing if she's REALLY safe from these creeps. I want her to have friends, boys and girls, but not the people who she has had sex with? especially that this one guy she keeps hanging out with told me (at school lunch break) he's been having sex with her when they get together. I don't believe him but I do think he's been hitting on her and that pisses me off that she lets that go on.

What do i do about this mess? (link)
eeekkk i think you have to put her in a situation where its either your or them...ofcourse you should be angry these are guys that she had physical contact with and ofcourse you trust her but do you trust them?no i didnt think so!
I think you should lay it all out on the table,tell her that i know they make her happy but you should be the one making her happy...also let her know that other things make her happy too,she doesnt need anyone to make her happy she just needs you.tell her that you trust her but dont trust them because they spread rumours and just tell her about what one of those guyys said but mention that you dont believe them...she needs to realise that your the one getting hurt...i would be too!


i am 11 yeas old and i asked this guy named branden to go out and hi sed hed think obout it and my bff shelby caled him later that day and asked him if thay can go out an he sed yes to her what shuld i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
dont be angry about it...dont let guys come between you. There will be plenty of boys out there trust me..its not like you and him were going out,he wasnt your bf..he said hed think about it and the fact that he said yes to your friend shows that he liked her and wasnt sure about you.sorry if this sounds harsh.i dotn mean to be mean...i think you should forget about him because there are plenty of guys out there...if he was your actual bf then you have the right to be angry but he wasnt bub :)


How can a girl tell if her cherry has been popped? I'm 13 and I never had sex but I let a guy eat me out a couple of times, been fingered some, and I finger myself a few times a week. This guy asked me last week if my cherry had been popped already and I told him I didn't know because I really don't know. I can't remember if I ever bled after doing anything so yeah. Is there a way to find out if my cherry is popped? And is it good to get your cherry popped when you're young so it doesn't hurt as much? (link)
i think the guy meant to ask if you have ever had sex...your cherry can pop if you have been fingered,depending on how hard you get fingered...sometimes you bleed and sometimes you dont...i think the best way to find out is if you go see the doctor then they can tell you for sure. I think if you tell people your cherry has been poped means you have had sex so i think the best answer would be no your cherry hasnt popped :)


How can I become pretty? I'm not ugly or anything but I can't seem to really find my own beauty and pop out. If anything, I'm probably thought of as a plain jane. I'm tired of being plain. I want to be PRETTY or BEAUTIFUL.

I try to wear nice clothes that aren't baggy or anything. I have long medium brown hair and brown eyes. I'm 5'3" and 14 years old with light skin color and heart shaped face. I wear make-up pretty often but the makeup doesn't seem to really help me become really pretty or beautiful.

I am really needing some beauty tips, girls. Please? (link)
Look after yourself,its not always about makeup and nice clothes...exercise,eat healthy,moisturise your skin use scrub to exfoliate etc...beauty is also on the inside not just the outside...be yourself, be nice to people,make people like you then all your flaws disapear



Sometimes when Im at home, I cant see anything for a few seconds and then I can see again. It happens a lot everyday. Its been happening for a while and its gotten worse. I cant see anything but the dark for a few seconds. what is this?

sometimes when I stand up I loose all vision and get light headed. I do wear contacts. Why do I go blind sometimes?

Sometimes i got blind for a few seconds, like ill stand up and ill get this weird feeling in my head and i wont be able to see for about a second or two.

I get dizzy, cand black dots start to appear everywhere & then my ears start ringing & everything goes dark (link)
when you stand up quickly the blood to your brain decreases causing you to feel light headed and dizzy which causes the black spots. When you stand up you need to stand up slower...otherwise you will blackout for a few seconds sorry hope this helps


I am a 30 year old female in a new relationship with a 35 year old male. I called him last night and he said he was on another line with his son and that he would call me right back. he never called back. the next day I asked him what happend and he said he fell asleep. shouldnt I be deserving of a text message or aquick call to tell me he isnt up for conversation especially since he said he would call me right back. (link)
OFCOURSE YOU DOOO!!you deserve all the respect you can get from your man! I guess because this is a new relationship and hes a guy hes still in the first stages of the relationship where hes not clingy and still getting to know you. If hes like this from the start then it worries my!I think you should play his game and play hard to get, maybe even try to get him to chase after you instead of making the 1st movve. Wait till he txts you or calls you first,get him to do the chasing around for abit!Thats what you deserve. Hope i helpeddd



I had to cut off communication with someone I had known for a long time,as she was married,and at the same time really out of control sexually,(swinging,involved in prostitution,leading me on,etc),and incapapble of honest communication with me.Honestly,though I had known her for many years,this last year I was getting intense anxiety attacks around her.Now,she is spamming me constantly,(I see her IP address),and coming around all the places I go to ,with her husband,places she normally would not go to,as she lives 24 miles away.I gave up trying to communicate with her months ago,as I never got an honest answer.We used to talk daily,and I stopped because she admitted that she was just leading me on,would not explain why she let her father in law feel her up in public,and a lot of other things that I thought were pretty gross.Why is she coming around and also spamming me? How do I handle this? (link)
wooow!she sounds knocked in the head,no ofence!!!!
have you tried to change your email?or number?I know its so annoying to have to do that but it may just work!if not then threaten to tell her husband about everything (even if you wont really do it) try get a restraining order against her if she wont leave you alone...or even try talking to her one more time,maybe she needs to hear it one more time calmly,just say its over,leave me alone or i will get a restraining order against you or explain why you dont want to talk to her again.Hope i helped!sorry your in this creepy situationnn


So I've dyed my hair before. I have experience in it. I've dyed it brown, burgundy, and even a bright blue. I've had my natural hair for about two years now (it's a brownish/reddish/blonde color? Lol. Don't know how to describe it.) and I've grown incredibly tired of it.

I really want to dye my hair like this:
http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash2/hs214.ash2/47691_149825795036108_100000260658581_379542_5314705_n.jpg

http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l8b0b2ftef1qa7ir4o1_500.jpg

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l88kw33mW31qc2hweo1_500.png

http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l7vipg4DzO1qc88vzo1_500.jpg

And here are some pics of me:
http://i270.photobucket.com/albums/jj85/GhoulOnParade/1-5.jpg
(girl on the right)

http://s270.photobucket.com/albums/jj85/GhoulOnParade/?action=view¤t=Picture012.jpg

http://s270.photobucket.com/albums/jj85/GhoulOnParade/?action=view¤t=2.jpg
(girl in back making stupid face)

Anyway...all my friends/friend's parents/etc. say they think it'd look REALLY good. I was basically just wondering what you guys think? Think I should do it? (link)
i agree.think the colour will bring out your eyes!!i like your hair style btw itll match the dye


20F.

I'm a skinny girl ..5'6 and weigh 118lbs and I have CELLULITE. I have it on my butt and a little on my legs. I don't understand this ..it came out of nowhere. I've always been skinny ..what can cause this? Are there any exercises to help make it less noticeable? For some reason I've heard running helps it go away a little bit. I'm not up to using any creams or getting any surgery or anything, I'm just wondering if I can make it go away at least a little bit with exercising or SOMETHING. This is the only part of my body I am not comfortable with, wish this would just go away :( (link)
cellulite comes from eating artificial sweatners, what happens is everyone is born with the same fat cells and when you eat sweatners and foods full of artificial foods the toxins get stuck between the fat cells causing cellulite, doing loaads of running all the time helps as well as eating heaps of healthy food, that is natural.stay off diet cokes etc because they are full of artificial sweatners. DRINK HEAPS OF WATER and if you want soemthing thats quick you can try a treatment called Ionithermie,it's expensive but works.I tried it and helped me a lot. Im not sure if it's recommended for skinny people because it also enhances you to loose weight.


hi, i am 18 years old and have just found out i am pregnant. My boyfriend is 20 years old, we have been together for a year and he is being incredibly supportive. I am meant to go to university in october but i do not know my options in regard to this? If i keep my baby i still want to go to uni but how? i know i can defer a year but after that what are my options? if i start in september i would be due in feb/march so would i be able to take lectures from home etc after christmas and then start my second year proprely? if anyone has any information or knows anywhere i could get this information from i would be so grateful as it may determine me keeping the baby or not. Thanks. (link)
Hi
Firstly congrats on your pregnancy!!!
dont worry at my university there are alot of people who get pregnant and still atend classes.there are no rules to say you cant be pregnant and still not atend uni.The onnly problem is that you might not be able to fit in a seat whith your big belly. The distance from the chair and the table might not be enough for you in the lecture rooms.
I think you should go for it.start uni and go for as long as you can. Find out when your due and maybe take that semester off. Its going to be very hard jugling uni and a kid at the same time but if your bf us supportive im sure he can help you out.
You should ask the university for more advice too.im sure theyll be able to help you


I was just wondering, what is a good, not too expensive product to use after waxing/sugaring to prevent ingrown hairs/pimples anything like that.

Usually after I have my brazilian wax, it gets reall itchy down there. Is there any way to avoid this?

Basically, I just want to know a good product as a waxing hair-removal after-care.

I live in Brisbane, Australia. So if you know anything from here please do share.

Thank you. (link)
it sounds like your skin is sensitive to the wax your using,i would try using a sensitive skin wax. the good wax to use is a creamy pink colour thats usually for sensitive skin. after you wax i wouldnt have a shoawer or bath till the next day because the warmth can irritate the area. A good thing to use for ingrown hair is a loafer(hope i spelt that right) and just use it in the shower before you clean yourself with soap. It wont make all the ingrowns go away but its the best thing. For me personally i use aoe vera gel after (it may sting) but its good to prevent spots
hope i helped :)


Crap. I was going through my mom's drawers because she use to put money in there when I was a kid and I ran into this thing. I didn't know what it was at first so I picked it up and examined it.

It's her vibrator. It isn't like a dildo though so you can't blame me for not knowing what it was at first! But still! Eww!

What do I do? Should I tell her I found it? I feel weird around her now! (link)
lol just put it back and try to forget it ever happened...its best to avoid even more awkwardness..its natural to masterbate...she migth become really embarassed and angry because you went through her draws


My girlfriend and I were fooling around a few weeks ago and she let me finish ON her vagina area. She's a virgin and hasn't wanted me to pop her cherry yet so we always do stuff like that without having sex. Plus we so totally don't want a baby because we're young.

Anyway, she had told me that sperm dies when it hits air. Something about oxygen kills sperm or something. I'm not really sure. I'll be honest, I didn't really care at the time because it was in the heat of the moment and you know how that is.

So, today, she calls me and is freaking out and panicking. She said she just read online some place that sperm doesn't die when it hits air. I mean, we've done this thing a lot the past couple of months and so I didn't know why she suddenly looks it up online. I asked her why she was so worried and now she's all being like her period is late. So...

...Does sperm die when it his air or not? (link)
she is not pregnant unless she poked herself with sperm on her hand.Sperm does die when it touchs air.If her cherry isnt poped then i dont think she can get pregnant but she can have her cherry popped by riding horses or bikes etc sex isnt the only thing that can pop her cherry.its good that your not having sex because you dont think your ready to risk to have a baby


I need the real answer to this and not some sugar coated lie. If a girl gives a guy a blowjob (head, oral sex, sucking, whatever you wanna call it) and he finishes up in her mouth then can she get pregnant if she swallows it?

My friend just got a blow job and the girl spit it out. She told him that she does that so she doesn't get pregnant. Is she lying or telling the truth? (link)
you cant get pregnant if you give a blow job but you can still get STD's.if the man has an STD then it can be con tracted to your mouth.Just like if you have an ulsore in your mouth you can transmit it to him.You will get pregnant and may get STD's if you have unprotected sex.Please use a condom and make sure you are old enough to have sex.




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