Ask and it shall be answered by.... TheMaster
Member Since: March 11, 2009
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Last Update: March 25, 2009
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15/f
I have never made out with a guy before and i really want to. The thing is, i dont know how.
I know that me and my boyrfriend will be using tounge but what do you do? Do you start out as a regular kiss? Then do i put my tongue in his mouth first or him? What do i do when he puts his tongue in my mouth? I need steps please. I need to know exactly how to do it and what i do with my tongue and when he puts his tongue in my mouth. What do i do? Please help. (link)
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Hi, You must be smart for 15 because even though your question is simple it's also quite difficult. Why? Well because it's not like there is "A book of Official Kissing Rules".
What I mean is, some people like it hard and passionate, and messy, and crazy, blah, blah. Others like it gentle and sexy, and provocative, etc...So what I'm saying is that sex and kissing are like people, everyone is different and everybody likes something different. That being said here are some average basics.
1.With a Kiss the holding, hugging, touching is just as important as your lips. Usually the closer the better
2. Start with shorter kisses and graduate to longer ones. Be carfull not to bang teeth together. Kiss straight on then his head to one side and yours to the other
3. Try to get him to french kiss you first by teasing his lips with your tounge
4. Like I said the the hands and the hugs during all of this are just as important as what your mouth is doing.
GL TheMaster
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Hey i've got a boyfriend who knows all the perfect ways to turn me on without really getting outta first base. ya know? but ya see i kinda feel like i'm not returning the favor. I'm pretty much clueless and how to turn a guy on and i was hoping i could get some suggestions on little things i could do that would do the trick. If your a guy thats an even better plus (link)
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Hi, I wouldn't be that worried about what turns him on. This sounds strange but I'll tell you why. I am married and I know from experience that much of what turns me on is SEEING HER GET TURNED ON!
The more excited she gets, the more excited I get. So really all you have to do is just let him do all of the things he's doing and don't be afraid to ask him what he likes. Most guys are more than willing to tell a girl what they like (with a big smile...like Oh boy, she wants to do what I want...GREAT!)
Just be effectionate and be your regular HOT self and you will be fine. Always remember if things get "to fine" use protection. Unplanned pregnancy is not where you want to go if you can help it.
GL The Master
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when cooking instant noodles, why does it matter if you wait until the water is boiling to add both the flavoring and noodles in? (link)
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Because if you add them all together the heating water will partially cook the noodles before it bolis, causing the noodles to be mushy and overcooked on the outside and cooked normally on the inside.
GL TheMaster
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How old were you when you lost your virginity? (link)
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I was 19. Today this would seem kind of late to some teens, but I don't think age matters. When it happens it happens...don't ever force it.
TheMaster
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i have been friends with taylor on and off for more than two years. me and a few frriends will stay over her boyfriends house on weekends and part there random weekdays too. we always have a lot of fun, we are all exactly alike and just wild teenagers and twenty yearolds. i was shopping with our friend melissa last night and she told me thattaylor told her a story of how one day taylor was in stop and shop and when she came out i put condoms all over her car as a joke and she had to pick all of them up..., never happened. she also told melisaa that one time i put a bumpersticker on her car that said somehting funny.. never happened. and she also tellls me she has her nipples pierced but she tells me not to tell anyone else. so she clearly doesnt. she also told melissa i called her a pervert because she madeout with a 17yearold. and to be honest i dont care, its sort of funny. there are so many more stories like that, its just so aggravating. what can we do? (link)
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Usually people lie either for attention or to obtain a quick desired result. Teenagers may lie to be the center of attention and to be funny or interesting when they really don't have much funny to say.
I would just talk to her and say....look, I'm your friend but I would like to know why you constantly tell people stuff that isn't true, especially when it's about me? Get her to tell you why she lies. She may not know. Usually kids get it from thier parents or someone they know that lies alot. Ask her if she knows the Ten Comandments? One of them is "Thou shalt not bear false witness."
When all is said and done there must be consequences if she just will not quit lying.
You and your friends will have to tell her you love her but you won't hang out with her anymore if she won't stop the lying....simple!
GL TheMaster
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16/female
normally i dont need help but this is like serious haha. my exboyfriend & i went out for 2 years.. im finally over him after 6 months. of course there are a cute guy in atleast 1 of my classes, but most of the cute ones are in honors.. surpisingly. haha well this one boy lets call him shae, is in my math class but sits on the other side of the room. hes REALLY quiet, but i kinda am too cause i dont talk to alot of people in that class. ive only talked to him twice lol. i asked him if he talks and hes like yeah i do i just have no friends in this class.. and i asked if he got a haircut and he said yes and i told him i liked itt lmao. i really dont know how i'm spose to talk to this boy who sits on the other side of class.. same with alot of other boys. & we have assigned seats. s0o how do i talk to the boys that arent in my classes.. or sit on the other side of the room lol =) (link)
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Have a friend of yours slip the guy your phone number. If he calls you are in! If he doesn't call you try to catch him on the way out of class and say,
"I told my friend I thought you were nice so she gave you my phone number. I'm sorry, I hope you are not mad at her."
He'll probably say, "Oh no, that's OK, I don't mind." If he says that then you know he probably likes you too.
Then you say, "Well, as long as you already have my number I guess you might as well call me if you want to. (then tell your friend not to tell on you)......great plan...OK....GO!
GL TheMaster
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I do some disgusting things during sex. I have a sever foot fetish, I like getting urinated on and drinking the urine, bondage, torture, strangulation etc....I have very severe depression. Is it conected? I love what I do in bed but other people think im sick... (link)
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Sexual perversion (which is what you describe), is actually quite common. It's very possible that these fetishes are related to your depression.
Although when you could cause serious injury or death to you or a partner this could turn out extremely badly.
You love what you do in bed because it somehow satisfies secret urges from your inner mind. You could also have a chemical imbalance in your brain. I would seek treatment if I were you. There is no future in killing yourself or getting life for killing a sex partner. Then again you would probably love prison sex.
GL TheMaster
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Okay before I start this I'd just like to say that I know this is bad, but I'm looking for advice, not for people to criticize me and tell me what a horrible person I am.
So about a month ago, this guy that I was pretty friendly with told me he liked me. I'd already known this for several months, but I guess I was hoping he'd get over it so when he told me, I panicked and rejected him. After I rejected him, things got weird between us and we basically stopped talking. I hated that because I really liked talking to him since he was nice and understanding and he never judged me, and I missed it. So two days ago I decided enough was enough and I told him that. And then we started talking about when he told me he liked me, and I don't know why I did it but I convinced myself that I liked him, and I told him that. Now I realize that I JUST liked talking to him, not him. But he still likes me, and now he thinks I like him back. And I don't know what to do, because I've already hurt him and I'd really hate to have to do it again, especially since this time he got his hopes up. He's really sweet, and I guess it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world to go out with him, but I don't know. Should I tell him what I did (and break his heart), or should I just try to live with what I did and give us a chance?
By the way, 16/f. (link)
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I would just explain to the guy that you thought he was a very nice sweet guy....and because you are such a caring sweet girl you felt the need to make him happy....so, you kind of jumped the gun and told him that you liked him and actually your feelings for him are more as a friend.
This obviously will not be what he wants to here, but, just be nice to him if you can and introduce him to a friend of yours who needs a boyfriend! ha ha
GL TheMaster
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what is a really good, really professional voice editor and song maker program for computers? (windows, not mac) like, you can compose your own songs, and edit singing voices to make them sound alot better and proffesional. ive tried a few, but havnt found a great one. any suggestions? (link)
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Q-bass is a great PC work station to create music. If you look hard enough you may even find a cracked version of it on the web. My friend did. We just did a CD on Q-bass. It sounds great.
GL TheMaster
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what do you think the definition for "mentally unstable" is? I've searched google and havn't found a good one. To me, if you're "mentally unstable", you're psychotic, or suicidal, insane, have a severe mental disorder, can't think straight, that kinda stuff. but im not sure, can anyone help? (link)
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Hi, I will break this down:
Unstable....the opposite of stable. Stable being steady, predictably even, level headed, able to make rational decisions and perform rational actions with normal emotion.
Unstable.....would be to NOT be able to do this
to not be steady or level headed
to not be able to do all of the above.
Mentally unstable would be a term used to describe someone that would all of a sudden do strange,emotional, or sometimes violent things and then seem to get over it (quickly or slowly).
There are actual scientific terms for all of these mental problems, like bi-polar, and there are many phobias also.
If you consider yourself or someone you know unstable I would advise getting some counceling as soon as possible to help. Usually mental problems left unattended only get worse.
GL TheMaster
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First Question: I slept next to this guy and he wanted to have sex. I kept saying no, But he wouldnt get off me and I was still saying no when he ripped my clothes off and penetrated me. But I layed there and Let him do it because I wanted him to leave me alone. A couple times through this I said no, and tried to push him off me, but It didnt work. Is this considered Rape?
Second Question: I havent told anyone about this until now, and it happened a couple months ago, So theres no physical evidence left. But Ever since then Ive felt empty and numb to feelings and intimacy. Should I see a Counselor or therapist because of this? (link)
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Technically according to US law if you said no that many times and resisted this would constitute rape, but...
1.Realistically you waited a long time and still have never reported it
2. You slept with the guy of your own free will (obviously a big mistake)
3.As you said there's no physical evidence so legal action at this point may be harder on you than on him and probably won't follow in a conviction. It can literally take years.
4. In the future try not to put yourself in situations where you tempt boys in this way. It would pay off to be more proper
A councelor would be very good for you and I think the sooner the better. They can help you sort out your feelings, guide you for your future, and make you realize that one bad experience doesn't have to ruin your life.
GL TheMaster
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So, today I did a bit of eyebrow waxing and just above my eyelids, on both sides it pulled off skin. This has never happened to me before and it looks horrible.
How can I make this heal as fast as possible and also how can I prevent this happening in the future? At the moment I just put some Aloe Vera on it...but yeah, any suggestions? I'm desperate!
Thanks! (link)
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Maybe you could get a skin graft! ha ha....just kidding. you can't leave the wax on so long. Maybe you should just pluck them the old fashioned way. Aloe is great especially if it's the REAL PLANT LEAF. Get an aloe plant.
GL TheMaster
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Dose anyone now a good store to get diet pills from at a reasonable cost that REALLy work? (link)
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You can go to WalMart and buy several well known brands of diet pills. You can try a few...but, the best way I've found to lose weight is cut out the sugar and starchs. A low carb diet works if you stick with it. Google "atkins diet" or "low carb diet" and do some research. I've had several friends that took the herb Hoodia also. I've heard it can help.
GL TheMaster
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how come gay guys are so nice to us girls? (link)
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It's really very simple. Gay men are nice to girls because they are girls...sort of. Many gay men are quite femenin and enjoy being around the girls just like you enjoy being around your girlfriends. Girls like guys...they like guys, they are like one of the girls!
GL TheMaster
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ok so saturday(3/7/09)i called my friend to see if she wanted to hang out. just to let you know i havent talked to her since before thanksgiving. but any way the third time i called her dad answered. he asked how i was doing then he told me the bad news. my best friend had moved into an assesment home. it was required by the court,because she was in adoption and got adopted in 2005. anyway i cried for like three hours because i had just lost my bfff. and the fact was that no one decided to call me and tell me. i am on her call list so she couldof called me. but anyway she is bipolar. and my mom talked with her mom and she said if i called her she might just tell me to f*** off and i am affraid to call her but i really need to talk to her any advice about how i should go about doing this???? (link)
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You could go to the drug store and get a freindship card. Write to her your feelings and that you wish she would call you and you miss her. Then mail it to her. It will get to her in a day or two.
If she is bi-polar she will get over her down time and when she feels better probably see the card and call you.
Life is hard. People can be fragile. Try not to be to hard on her. All you can do is offer your love and help. It's up to her to respond.
GL TheMaster
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well my boyfriend or ex boyfriend ( we were dating and went on a break but are now trying to figure things out because we still love eachother but we arent officially dating again) whatever he is, has been talking to this girl he used to hook up with ALOT. he pretty much hooked up with her all while we were talking. and he told me about it and it sounded like she was just another girl. so i didnt care because me and my bf wernt even dating at the time. we were just best friends so he told me everything. well from what he told me, he had stopped hooking up with her a week before we started dating. while we were dating she always told me he talked to her and when i asked him, he didnt deny it. she said he would ask her how she was and he would tell her about the problems we were having in our relationship. so i thought maybe she wasnt just another girl to him and it made me mad that he was telling her all this. then he told me that he cared about her. well he has always been a player and never cared about any girls he had hooked up with except for me because we started out as best friends so this kind of made me a little weirded out that he suddenly cared about her. well now that we are on a break, she told me that they had been talking and he tells her alot of stuff about our relationship and about me. she came up to me today and said he had told her something about me that she couldnt tell me. this really pissed me off. i want to know if they have started hooking up again. i mean i guess my bf or ex bf whatever, can hook up with people now since we are broken up. but we still act like we are dating and are trying to make things work so we can date again. but i really dont know what to think. i dont want to seem like the jealous clingy ex because he tells her everything and i guess it is like him telling any other friend about it. but they had a thing so its not like theyre just friends. me and this girl are friends, or i pretend to be just to stay on her good side. i dont know what to do because i think maybe she is influeincing him to leave me. she tells him stuff like love at this age isnt real and other dumb things and i think he listens to her. i dont want her to take my spot and i hate how he talks to her about me. what should I do? (link)
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It sounds like this is all way more his fault than it is hers. or yours. I mean if he is pouring out his heart to this girl telling her intiment details of your relationship then this situation is on him.
You say he is a player, so it sounds like he is once again "playing". If "hooking up" involves having sex then this gets even more complicated.
Maybe it's time for a new boyfriend. Have some fun, go out. Tell him you care about him but you're not going to wait around for him while he "PLAYS YOU" The other girl just wants him. If he's dumb enough to listen then let him go for it. Don't let it get you down. Bust out and make him regret it!
GL TheMaster
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My boyfriend recently lost a lot of weight, because he was ill.
Problem is, he was already almost underweight.
Now he's 5'6 and 110 lbs.
We both agree that he needs to get back to his old 130, at least, he looks sickly now.
Does anyone on here have any ideas as to how he could gain this weight back in a healthy manor? (link)
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Do alot of walking and eat nutritional meals. Weight training is excelent for toneing up and gaining muscle.
I don't care what the vegatarian people say, there is nothing like red meat to give the body quick strength. Steak! Eat...work out...eat!
Some people are naturally slender so just be happy with being who you are and get healthy!
GL TheMaster
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Alot of my friends are virgins, but I'm not. I've had a few sexual relations actually. I don't feel the need to defend myself or feel bad about it because I'm 21 and on the right path in life. Now, my best friend is becoming good friends with one girl who hates me and is also a virgin! For the first time in my life, I feel slutty. They basically advertise to everyone how "good" they are and I know this other girl will talk bad about me to my best friend. My best friend has never judged me, but I feel like she will now. It's my life and I feel like they have this virgin club going on, and I'll just be left out. What should I do? Let this all go or salvage my friendship? (link)
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Although I am not necessarily condoning sex before marriage, I also don't think that in today's world "a few" sexual encounters" at age 21 is abnormal. Actually I think to be a virgin at 21 would be more unusual.
Maybe you misjudge your friend. Maybe she won't judge you. Regardless, the Bible says, "Judge not lest ye be judged" meaning that God is the only one that has the right to judge you. Neither of them do. You do not answer to those two girls. Your life and/or virtue will not hinge on what they say or do not say.
Love yourself for who you are and the kindness you show others. Never let a friend go. If anyone lets go, let it be her, not you.
GL TheMaster
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I have a neighbor that built a fence between the front yard of our house and theirs which i did not pay for. At the time I did not have the money nor did I want a fence there. I have a 4 year old son that believe that belives everything he see is his and says to me one day that the fence his, with out think that it was a big deal I said the fence was mine. The neighbor that paid for the fence over heard this and took my statement as a statement of ownership over the fence. He came to me a few days afterward and had to tell me that I do not own the fence and that he over heard me and son talking about it. I tried to explian to him what was going on and after talking to him figured the problem was done. Than yesterday he had a crew come out and move 4 out of the 5 sections of the fence to his property. They left the last section because it would mess up a gate he has. Well after seeing the fence and the way it looks I now want the last section moved off my part of the property. My neighbor is a lawyer and likes to push the law in my face. I need to know if I can require him to move the last section of fense off my side of the property line. (link)
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If your neighbor has no legal lease or easement for the fence and it's on your land then you yourslf can remove it (or have it removed)
If he built it on your land without your permission you can take him to small claims court for reinbursment of your cost with this.
You should consult a city or county code enforcement agency in your area for specifics.
GL TheMaster
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My sister just moved out. Her room was in the basement, and used to be a kitchen so there are cabinets and a sink and a stove. the owner refuses to take it down. I want to make this MY AREA! i plan to put in a futon, tv, maybe my computer and just have it be my "extra" room. The walls are white and the bottom half is light wood. I am not renovating, just redecorating/painting. I want some tips on what color I should paint the top half, the bottom is light stained wood. i want a relaxing but bright tone. It is in the basement with no window! What color do you suggest. Remember warm, inviting color that still brightens up the room? (link)
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Color is personal preference. When there is little outside light.......light is usually right!I suggest looking through home remodeling books, home magazines, etc to find a color that you can see in a photo that looks great to you. Also paint stores or Home Depot have tons of home decorating pamphlets and color samples. Take a cabinet door off the hinges and take it with you to match colors.....or bring samples home. Wallpaper books in these stores also have many pictures of decorated interiors with all kinds of schemes and colors.
You'll find something great that way and maybe get even better ideas for your area!
GL TheMaster
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