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First Question: I slept next to this guy and he wanted to have sex. I kept saying no, But he wouldnt get off me and I was still saying no when he ripped my clothes off and penetrated me. But I layed there and Let him do it because I wanted him to leave me alone. A couple times through this I said no, and tried to push him off me, but It didnt work. Is this considered Rape?
Second Question: I havent told anyone about this until now, and it happened a couple months ago, So theres no physical evidence left. But Ever since then Ive felt empty and numb to feelings and intimacy. Should I see a Counselor or therapist because of this?
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Technically according to US law if you said no that many times and resisted this would constitute rape, but...
1.Realistically you waited a long time and still have never reported it
2. You slept with the guy of your own free will (obviously a big mistake)
3.As you said there's no physical evidence so legal action at this point may be harder on you than on him and probably won't follow in a conviction. It can literally take years.
4. In the future try not to put yourself in situations where you tempt boys in this way. It would pay off to be more proper
A councelor would be very good for you and I think the sooner the better. They can help you sort out your feelings, guide you for your future, and make you realize that one bad experience doesn't have to ruin your life.
GL TheMaster
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Yes, this fits every legal definition of rape.
You should most definitely go see a counselor. Speak to several, try to find one you're comfy with from the start, that makes everything work better.
Don't start criminal proceedings. At this point, it would be a he said-she said situation, and you'd waste your time and slog through the mud for nothing.
But a counselor is a definite yes. There are going to be issues that crop up for you, and addressing them now can make alot of things easier for you in the long run.
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Something similar happened to me with my ex boyfriend. I felt so bad that I convinced myself that I was okay with him doing it and it wasn't rape.
I figured then I didn't want to have another relationship, it didn't seem like it was worth it.
When I had to go see a counselor, it was too awkward. I didn't say anything to her.
After 3 months, I told my close friend. He really helped me realize a lot of things. And after so many months, I started to like him. And we've been together for almost a year now.
It took some years to really get over it. But I'm somewhat okay now...
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Something similar happened to me with my ex boyfriend. Yes, it was rape, & I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's a terrible thing to have to deal with. A counselor or a therapist is a great step towards healing. Another thing I found extremely helpful was this site: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). It's a message board for survivors of rape & sexual assault. It has amazingly supportive people & lots of threads including steps for healing.
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Yes you were raped, I'm very sorry.
If you said no and didn't agree to it and he continued to do it than it's wrong and yes it is rape. I would try and talk to someone who can help you like a therapist
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BahaiMa22
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Sweetie yes you were raped. And I'm sorry that that happened to you, no one deserves to be raped. You said no and tried to push him off so it wasn't consensual.
I think you should tell someone close to you. A parent or maybe your best friend and seek professional help. A counselor or therapist just like you said.
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