Guaranteed...I'm probably younger than you think. I know there's a time and place for everything so at times I seem pretty mature and serious. But believe me when I'm with my friends I'm the biggest goofy goober around XD. Don't let my scary girl picture fool you. I'm just wise beyond my years.
Life is unpredictable. All the mysteries and surprises, you never know what may come your way BUT that's exactly what makes it worth while. So don't panic because you don't "have it all together" because in all honesty no one truly does. We all need advice sometimes and I love giving it out. Don't be afraid to inbox me because I'll be more than happy to try to help you with any problem. In closing: Peace, love and happiness.
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My boyfriend has a gift. He can comeup with a billion cute things to call me all the time. I have like three and they are all kinda lame.
Can you each give me like your top 10 cute nicknames for your boyfriends?
If you don't have 10 that is cool but could you please just tell me what are some cute nicknames you call your boyfriend AND HE LIKES THEM.
Thank you!
I will give everyone a rating! (link)
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-Stud Muffin =)
Lol.
-Mr. Awesome
He seems to really like that one (ego boost)
-Sexy Man
Call your guy whatever feels right at the moment.
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I want to do something super nice for my boyfriend for Valentine's Day but I can't think of a single thing! I thought maybe I could make him dinner but I don't know if that is too cheesy or what. I need some good, creative ideas for things I can do for my boyfriend for Valentine's Day. Money is kind of low so something outrageous, please!!! (link)
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Why don't you make him something? I'm pretty much horrible when it comes to buying my boyfriend gifts so this year for Valentines Day I'm making him something. Try something he'll like. Does he like cookies? Make him some heart shaped ones. You could try making a huge collage of pictures of you guys and cute things. Add some poems and nice things about him to it. I just basically gave you my idea lol, I hope this gives you an idea on what to do for your guy.
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I didnt know them well personally.. but occasionally I'd check their facebooks when i was bored.. like Im sure most people do on facebook anyways. and there were some pictures of them like drinking alcohol and stuff.. also with some other people and other people smoking and stuff.. everyone underage. i told the entire guidance department using a fake email.. and im not sure whether to feel like i did a bad or good thing? cause in 1 way its like i prevented them from really ruining themselves like some teens who never had someone intervene, even their parents. but on the other hand it was snooping.. stalkerish to do.. and now they have to go through stress with the administration now about it. they are all really popular kids at my school. but at the same time its not like i reported them to police.. i definitely wouldn't do that.. i think the school would handle that sort of thing better. i am also worried on being found out. i know if they find out im fcked for life socially. and i'd lose a lot of respect and people's confidence maybe. or they'll just think im a creepy stalker. but people have albums on facebook for people to see them so its not really an invasion of privacy i think. i just do not know what to think. i just feel pretty guilty right now.. ughh whas this a mistake or the right thing to do? (link)
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You may rate my answer low for what I'm about to say but I'm not here to sugar coat things or help people justify the things they've done...
Yes what you did was the noble thing to do according to a lot of people but let's be real about it..it wasn't your business and in no way was it affecting you. Listen to your gut...its a reason why you're a feeling guilty. If deep down you didn't know you were wrong, you'd be more proud than anything. It would be different if you truly did care about these people but considering you don't really know them makes me have doubts. I knew people (friends at that) who were underage --> smoked weed and drank alcohol. As a matter of fact the majority of them had very good heads on their shoulders. Just because someone drinks and/or smokes while underage doesn't necessarily mean they are on a destructive path.
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my boyfriend hasn't called in 4 days. i have no idea why. usually it has something to do with me being a bitch or something along those lines, other times its just him being busy, but even then he'll call after just a couple of days. the last time we talked was when he told me that we couldn't get together on new years, and i was pretty upset about it for a while but got over it quickly.
like i said, usually if he's acting like this, i know the reason or have a pretty good idea. but as of right now, i am COMPLETELY in the dark and totally confused. should i wait for him to call me, which might be never, depending on why hes mad (if he's mad), or should i wait for a certain length of time and call him? anyone have any ideas? (link)
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It seems like you don't really call your boyfriend and usually he's the one doing all the calling. That is what I used to do...wait for him to call. Once one of boyfriends didn't call me for a whole week. Why? He was testing to see if I would call him and I didn't.
What are you waiting on? Just give him a call and ask him what's up. Actually you should start calling him more often. Don't put it all on him.
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so,i want my boyfriend to eat me out but i dont know how i should look "down there." im embarrased but i want to do it at the same time. (link)
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You can't go wrong with a low trim. I have to meet a guy who doesn't like a low trim. Some guys don't like blad...some guys don't like really hairy. A low trim would be your best option.
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Is there anyway in the world that I could contact Justin Bieber? ANYWAY!?!?! Please, please, please! Email, Facebook, Myspace, cell, ANYTHING PLEASE!!!!!! (link)
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Send him a twit on twitter. Here's his twiiter page...
twitter.com/JUSTInBIEBER
I think twitter is your best chance in contacting him.
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Just come vital information: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. I just recently lost my virginity to him. Things have been really good, and I love him.
We both have separate lives. We like it that way. My friends, and his both consist of guys and girls-- even if we've dated them.
He called me earlier today, asking if he could go visit one of his friends in college for the weekend. She goes to Boston, which is about 4 hours from me. She made it very clear that me coming with him was out of the question. She says they haven't spent much time with each other, and that she has the right to spend the weekend with him. But I don't like this.
I'm not typically a jealous girl, especially with him. But he lost his virginity to her. I'm afraid that even with full trust in our relationship, the chances of feelings regenerating with the two of them is always possible. Therefore, I want to tell him I don't want him to go, but also don't want to come off clingy.
Am I being insecure?.. or do I have a clear argument here? (link)
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I don't think you are being insecure at all.
Its good that you guys have trust in your relationship but you aren't being naive about things. The way you said she put things didn't sit right with me at all. So I can only imagine how it makes me you feel.
"...she has the right to spend the weekend with him", that may be true BUT you have the right to say no. If him leaving 4 hours away to be with some other girl, friend or not, makes you uncomfortable then please tell him. You need to be open with your boyfriend about this, I'm sure he'll understand. Apparently he must not have thought it was all good if he asked you for permission. Don't hold your tongue on this because believe me, it will turn you into a paranoid wreck that weekend he is gone.
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Ummm I'm 15 f and I have a bf and he wants to know when I'm going to kiss him and I told him he has to earn it first...I dont know why I told him that I guess its because I'm shy and I didnt know what else to say at the time but now he wants to know how can he earn it and to tell the truth I'm kinda nervous because if we do kiss it will be my first kiss but what do I tell him??? And where do I kiss him??? and how do I kiss him??? sorry if some of these questions sound dumb but I need to know. (link)
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Be honest. Tell he'll be your first kiss and you're a little nervous. He should understand that and if he has kissed girls before, he will probabl take the lead during the kiss. Kiss him whereever you guys will be comfortable. If you're feeling nervous I suggest somewhere alone and quiet. How do you kiss him?? First of all, don't over think it. It will come naturally. If you still feel unsure, try practicing on your hand. Sounds silly but it helps. Need more further information?
Lean in towards him, tilt your head slightly (to avoid bumping noses lol), pull him in and smack one on him.
Hope I helped some. Good luck girly =)
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I'm love my boyfriend and he loves me. Neither of us is religious so we don't really believe in the whole "wait until you're married" thing. We've done everything except sex. He wants to have sex, and I do too, but I'm kind of scared it might change our relationship. Lately all we've been talking about is having sex, and I'm afraid once we do, there's not really going to be a meaning to our relationship anymore. I brought this up to him and he said that he doesn't look forward to sex as much as he looks forward to seeing me and just hanging out with me. So maybe I'm just paranoid, but does sex change a relationship? Did it ever change yours? Please don't tell me "if you're asking questions then you aren't ready for sex" because I think it helps to ask questions so you can prepare for sex :) Oh and we're both virgins if that helps. Thanks! (link)
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You sound just like me when I was 16. My boyfriend and I were together for a while and our hormones were going crazy. We both wanted to have sex but I was afraid that it would change our relationship for the worse. We were both also virgins like you guys. Long story short, eventually we did have sex and it didn't change our relationship at all. Its no different except we get to have a little more fun every once in a while, if you know what I mean *wink, wink* =)
Do whatever you feel is right. If you feel like your relationship is strong enough to handle a milestone such as sex then go for it. Best of luck.
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My question is pretty self explanatory. Long story short I was in an amazing relationship that began in July and ended well in September. I ended it with him because I couldn't all the drama that came from it (not from him but the catty girls and his dad thinking I didn't like him for him because I was so pretty, his brother thinking I'm a ****, etc.) and I still liked him and it killed me to do it and I still miss him a lot. My friends are all like you're too good for him blah blah the usual. I've hooked up with eh about 15 guys so far at parties, mixers, etc and no not like blow-jobs, or having intercourse or any of that. Just you know making out and stuff. I'm by far one of the classiest girls at my school and I still have looks to die for. Anyways yeah and I'm still NOT over him. You'd think after 15 hookups one including an American Apparel model that I'd be totally over it but nope. Can you guys help me out? (link)
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...Hooking up with guys at parties will not help you get over someone you really liked, no matter how many guys. All you're doing is trying to put a band-aid over a wound. I have no idea where you got that idea from but it doesn't work. You honestly think made a mistake by breaking up with him and deep down you know it. You should have stuck it out if he was a great guy. The best thing I can say is maybe talk to him, hopefully it'll make you feel better and give you some closure so you can start to really get over him.
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I am a slut. There is no denying it really. I am 18 years old and I have slept with five guys! The subject came up at a friend's party and out of 17 girls I had slept with the most guys. I just burst into tears and cried!
I used to believe the "everybody is doing it" thing but now I found out that all the girls around me were SAYING they did things to seem cool and I went and did them so I didn't feel left out or like I was missing out on something good. So now I am a slut to everyone I know. I so wish I hadn't been the first one to answer how many I had slept with.
So now I feel like no guy will ever want me again. No good guy that is. I mean I would never date a guy who slept with more women than anyone else he knew so why should a guy look past what I have done?
Has anyone else 18 or yournger actually had sex with 5 or more guys? Am I the only one? :'(
Help! (link)
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You are not a slut but I can tell you one thing. Sleeping with guys to seem cool is not the best route to go, actually its the wrong way to go. You owe yourself much than that. I'm not going to go on and on about because you see that its wrong. I don't see anything wrong with being with 5 guys itself though. I, personally, have not had sex with 5 guys, only one but I'm not judging you for it. For future reference though keep your private affairs private, its no ones business how many guys you've been with but your own. Doing such will avoid situations like the one you went through.
As I said you are NOT a slut, by the time I was 16 I knew girls who had sex with more guys than you have. Let's face it, times change and we in a more sexually open era. As long as its safe sex, I say go nuts BUT with precaution because we are also in a more time where STD's and STI's are on the rise. I think I'm rambling on a bit now so yes hopefully I answered your question.
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My boyfriend of 10 months broke up with me last week. At first it was almost unbearable and I was a total wreck. But the second day I knew I had to talk to him, so I did. The number one reason he broke up with me is because he said that his love for me had disappeared. He was in love with me at one point, but somehow he just doesn't feel that way anymore. He just sees me as a friend. This part I understand.
BUT i don't understand what he means by me not "really acting like a girlfriend". I mean, I would try to. I kissed him in public, hugged him, told him I loved him, made him gifts, held his hand, and spent most of my time with him. I thought I was doing an okay job, but apparently he says that I'm "not capable of having a relationship". But he says that he doesn't want me to change for him. But I'm still wondering what he meant. Any ideas? :/
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Being in a relationship is more than public displays of affection, material things, "I love you"'s kissing and holding hands. Its more than that. Its that feeling you give that other person, the little things you do for them, and what they do for you. I've been in my relationship for a year now and I'm still learning myself, no one is the "perfect" girlfriend. Your main goal is to make your partner happy though, listen to their problems when everything isn't going right, cheer them up, and just always try your best to be there for them. When the time comes always be honest. If he need a reality check, give it to him. Sometimes us girlfriends have to help our guys by being straight up with them. Be thoughtful. When they are wrong, tell them. Acting like good girlfriend is all those things and more.
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15/f
okay, so i have been seeing my boyfriend for 3 weeks now. we just hungout a couple of days ago and we started making out and he fingered me and i gave him a hand job. first time giving someone a handjob. okay so now i have finally realized what happened. and i feel disgusted in myself. i notice that its probably way too soon to do any of this. now i feel depressed and now im avoiding him because when i told my friend she said that she gives us 2 weeks until we have sex. im scared of having sex but when we get into it, hormones take over. so now i dont know what to do. and i can't tell him the way i feel. i am number one person who can't do confrontations. (link)
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I'm not going to say that you're friend is wrong but just because he fingered you and you gave him a handjob doesn't mean you'll have sex soon. BUT if you have a problem with telling him no, she does have a good point.
You really need to work on your confrontation issues because when you are in a relationship you have to be able to tell the one you're with how you feel. If you don't you are probably going to be one unhappy girlfriend. Right now, the main thing you must do is tell your boyfriend how you feel and that you want to start to take your relationship slower because you guys are moving too fast. If you don't you'll be left with that self-disgusted feeling a lot more often. I hope that I helped.
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I have 2 questions to ask you.
1.) I have 2 ulcers on the inside of my upper lip. My bf told me that they came out because of kissing, is it true that if you frenchkiss you can have ulcers? (he doesn't have ulcers in his mouth, so they couldn't be spread from his mouth).
2.) Yesterday my bf fingered me for the first time. He was with the clothes on and he didn't touch his penis, so he couldn't have sperm on his fingers right? His nails were a bit long and he hurt me and also he didn't wash his hands before!!
Next time i'll tell him to cut his nails and wash his hands. What do you think? He only did it once! (link)
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sia basically said everything that needed to be said. I was also going to suggest the salt thing. No pain, no game lol seriously it does help though.
If he didn't touch his penis then he probably didn't have any sperm on his fingers when he touched you. As for the whole nail thing, definitely have your guy cut those things. Longs nails can have dirt under them and he could have scratched inside of there accidentally. Tell him to keep them low and keep them clean. And remind him to wash his hands if he wants to even come near your lady part.
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16/f
so i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. he's 19 about to be 20 and turning 17 in december...well i can't decide if i want to be with him anymore. he's my first love but it feels like the flame is slowing dying and there's nothing i can do about it. plus he's going into the navy soon and i don't know if i'll be able to handle that. and i'm starting to develope feelings for another guy. and this guy flirts with me all the time. i just feel like i'm only with my boyfriend to make him happy and not myself. he wants to get married right after i graduate from high school but i want to go to college and have a steady job before i think about getting married. i love him i really do i just don't want to regret not seeing if there is anyone else out there for me. i will never regret being with him. it seems like we are always fighting and i think a relationship should be effortless and it's not. i just don't know what to do anymore... (link)
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Here the first thing I wanted to point out "i think a relationship should be effortless and it's not" No relationship is effortless, you have to work at it to make it work. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Do you feel your boyfriend is still worth having? Do you feel he is still right for you? Do you feel the relationship is still making you happy? If yes, then fight for it. If not, stop wasting your time and end it. I understand you don't know what to do, I've been where you are now, unsure of what the future holds for you and your man. The best thing you can do is...
-Tell him exactly how you're feeling, exactly what you told us. w/o being arguementative. Just be 100% real with him. Now is the time to put it all out there...your fears and your doubts that you have in the relationship.
-Figure for sure if this relationship is what you want.
When I was in your shoes, that is exactly what I did. I talked to him and we ended up breaking up BUT we both realized we made a mistake and got back together. The reason I tell you this is, instead of breaking up we should have stuck it out and work through it together. I hope you know where I was going with that, good luck.
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Okay so Im a virgin
but i love my boyfriend and he rubs me down there and he went down on me for the first time yesterday. Only problem it didnt feel as good as i thought it would or what my friends told me.
I masterbate with an old vibrating tooth brush on my clit only though (dont judge me)...I think i have orgasmas with that but im not sure..but it feels real good.
Could this be a reason why when me and my boyfriend mess around it dosent feel that great or could it be that im not comfortable doing it yet because we are 16 and have to sneak around to do this.?
sorry for grammar and thanks ahead of time:) (link)
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Are you talking about actual intercourse or getting fingered/eaten out?
Well I know what you mean if you're talking about having sex. I had this big idea that it would be pretty much amazing. It built the whole idea of sex up so much I was certain for disappointed (I didn't see it like that until AFTER I had sex for the first time). And disappointment is exactly what I got. Well maybe not disappointment I just wasn't what I expected. I hope you see where I'm going with my story. I was the same exact age you are now and yes we were also sneaking around. My advice to you (again lol) is to relax, live in the moment. You already breaking "the rules" so you might as well have fun while you're doing it. You masturbating isn't what's causing you guys having sex or him eating you out/fingering you to not feel good. Just tell him what you like while he's doing it. Make it enjoyable for you.
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f/16
My boyfriend rubs me down there and yesterday we did alot of first time things.
Its not the first time he has tried to finger me but everytime he tries to go near my sex hole it hurts bad and feels uncomfortable. He says im really sensitive down there and tight. He ever tried his pinky and it was soooo uncomfortable. Is not like there is no lube because i get wet but its just I dont know whats wrong. Is it because im uncomfortabe because we sneak around and do this but still when i try to relax I cant do it.
What should I do?
Whats wrong with me?
sorry for any bad grammar...
and thanks ahead of time (link)
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There's nothing "wrong" with you. Its normal to experience pain your first times being fingered. You really must relax your muscles down there so he can ease his fingers in more. I definitely suggest lube even though you get wet. It can help you out a lot. There is a chance you just aren't wet enough though. My best advice I can is you is simply endure the pain because you have to get past that to experience the pleasure. In conclusion, relax and try lube. Hope I helped.
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Hi, My name is Brittany well i wanna have sex with my bf he is so omg cute when ever i see him i feel nervous and i feel like ima have an orgasm just from looking at him and we spend a lot of time togehter alone cause no ones home or is sick and we kissed once but it was on accident and i wish it wasn't and whenever he just pokes me i wanna jump on him and rade though his parade and omg like i belive in marriage before sex.what should i do before i reveal myself in so many new ways to him.
Please i need advice fast! (link)
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From what you just wrote I can already tell that all you have with your boyfriend is a physical attraction and nothing more. You never even mention that you liked the guy. You're only thirteen, you have the rest of your life to have sex. To wait until you're married sure does look good on paper but let's get real it rarely happens. I really wish for you to wait until you are sure of your feelings though. Your hormones are going crazy right now so don't make any rash decisions. Wait until you are 100 percent sure.
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what is the beyonce song with her hula hooping in the music video? i saw it on americas best dance crew and now its bothering me that i can't remember what it is (link)
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Beyonce- Work it Out.
I hate when I can't figure something out, it bothers me too lol.
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13/m
ok so im 13 and since sometime last yeaer i have had pubes but its getting really bushy i reckon and i want to trim it but not really shave it all off i dont really want to talk to anyone i know about it cause it would be pretty weird...yea
so would it be normal or ok if i was to trim the pubes with scissors
thanks
ps i know its weird (link)
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Its not weird at all, its perfectly normal. I think all girls go through that eventually. I understand you not feeling comfortable to talk about it. If you feel they are getting out of control then by all means, just trim w/ a pair of scissors. You could even line up down there with a razor...you know so the hair won't stick out of your underwear.
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