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Im a slut! :'(
I am a slut. There is no denying it really. I am 18 years old and I have slept with five guys! The subject came up at a friend's party and out of 17 girls I had slept with the most guys. I just burst into tears and cried!
I used to believe the "everybody is doing it" thing but now I found out that all the girls around me were SAYING they did things to seem cool and I went and did them so I didn't feel left out or like I was missing out on something good. So now I am a slut to everyone I know. I so wish I hadn't been the first one to answer how many I had slept with.
So now I feel like no guy will ever want me again. No good guy that is. I mean I would never date a guy who slept with more women than anyone else he knew so why should a guy look past what I have done?
Has anyone else 18 or yournger actually had sex with 5 or more guys? Am I the only one? :'(
Help!
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Okay yerr 18? Your definantly *NOT a slut hunn. Im about too turn yerr frown upside down. I promise. My friend. No names but her last name is Carter. Is only 14 & Has Gave head too 14 guys & Has had sex with like 10! I kid you not. Guys should look past it becuase its in yerr past. &That was then this is now. &Maybe try too make yerself not as easy. Hope i helped! Let me knoe how it goes!!
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You're really writing us males off by saying "no good guy" would ever like you again. That's BS and you shouldn't believe it. Not every person knows about your past. New partners may have had previous sexual partners too. Guys aren't out to judge and will fall for you or not based on personality.
Having had 5 sexual partners at age 18 or higher does not a slut make. You thought you cared for them and them for you. The only mistake you made was that you did it to feel loved and be accepted by others by doing it.
You've since grown up and realized the mistake and will only have sex when its right. If anything you were emotionally needy or trying to fill a void in your life by doing it for the wrong reasons. You may need counseling to deal with what transpired and to move forward with relationships that are healthy.
You also learned a hard lesson to keep personal info to yourself no matter how much people prod. Put them in their place with "I never kiss and tell" or "this is inappropriate" or "that's really not your business" and leave it at that.
They might say things at school but will be over this really fast and on to the next thing if you don't acknowledge it. So, to recap you aren't a slut, have learned some hard lessons and will move on from them. Guys will still like you as long as you like your own self.
If you kept having sex without reason with tons of guys more than 15, 20 etc. etc. than that's being promiscuous and cause for alarm. As long as it's a miniscule number such as 5 and you don't keep having sex for all the wrong reasons you're fine. But yes you're using sex to fill a void or deal with emotional baggage. You should talk to a professional and learn how to get into healthy relationships and be weary of bad choices.
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If it makes you feel better, my friend is 18 and has slept with approximately 10 guys.
I wouldn't really call you a slut unless you slept with them just for the sake of sleeping with them..
hope this helps.
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You are not a slut but I can tell you one thing. Sleeping with guys to seem cool is not the best route to go, actually its the wrong way to go. You owe yourself much than that. I'm not going to go on and on about because you see that its wrong. I don't see anything wrong with being with 5 guys itself though. I, personally, have not had sex with 5 guys, only one but I'm not judging you for it. For future reference though keep your private affairs private, its no ones business how many guys you've been with but your own. Doing such will avoid situations like the one you went through.
As I said you are NOT a slut, by the time I was 16 I knew girls who had sex with more guys than you have. Let's face it, times change and we in a more sexually open era. As long as its safe sex, I say go nuts BUT with precaution because we are also in a more time where STD's and STI's are on the rise. I think I'm rambling on a bit now so yes hopefully I answered your question.
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Well, you know how people tend to befriend people that are like themselves? Maybe the birthday girl/your friend hasn't done anything yet, and possible has friends that are on the same level. Maybe you slept with the most guys within your FRIEND'S circle of friends, that one small sample of people. The sample size is not necessarily representative of the sexual activity of the population of girls in your age group as a whole. Maybe this is just characteristic of the area you live in. Wow that sounded way too scientific/mathematical, but anyway, nobody knows your number unless you tell them.
I'm not saying to lie about your number, but it's not like a guy you meet automatically knows how many guys you've slept with in the past. This kind of information is something you might tell him if he asks or you wish to tell him because you feel comfortable enough with him to. And by that point, you guys would have developed a close relationship and he wouldn't judge you just because of that. There shouldn't be some double-standard between guys and girls. As long as you play it safe, it's not an addiction, or way to validate your self-worth due to low self-esteem, don't worry about it.
As for revealing your number to these group of girls, they don't know your situation. Maybe you truly had a connection with these 5 guys, who knows? It sucks that saying it first and no one else was as high, but you can be careful to wait until you see what other people say the next time in a social situation. You've got like 1 or 2 more years to go before you're out of high school? into college, where you can start anew.
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hey my advice to you is dont beat yourself up how were you suppost to know they were just saying that to big them selfs up but also remember not to just follow the crowd from now on remember your an idividual and i know lots of people at this age who has slept with more people than you so dont go thinking your the only one to make mistakes or be fooled the only way you'd get a name about yourself is if you let people call you that and just dont do it because you feel like you need to fit in i know younger girls and older girls who have ended up fallin pregnant due to occasions like this and it cost them there freedom and well you can still avoid this and your not a slut just mislead by a group of people
making them selfs seem something there not .
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