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Q: Does anyone have a list of really good anime shows like;
Fruits Basket, Naruto, Inuyasha.
With some romance in it?
Please don't suggest anything currently being aired on Adult swim.
Love Hina

Q: I listen to grooveshark ALL the time, it is the source for my music... as it is for many others I am sure. I heard the song Perfect by P!NK on the radio, only it was edited of course and it didn't have the F word in there. I checked grooveshark and they don't have a clean version of the song available. If anyone who uploads to grooveshark would upload that song I would GREATLY appreciate it. :) Or if you know how I can suggest the song to grooveshark some how... THANKS
i found it on grooveshark. just search for "pink perfect clean". using terms like "clean" or "edit" or "radio edit" can help =)

Q: Recently I've discovered the one-woman singer LIGHTS.
She's electro-pop. And I love every single one of her songs.

I also like Ke4ha and Owl City.

Does anyone know any really good electro-pop singers/bands?
One that speak english please. Found a few japanese ones.

Preferably really goods ones that aren't really well known?
Passion Pit. La Roux. Shiny Toy Guns. C.S.S. Justice.

Q: Does anyone know any trusted websites where I can buy japenese/chinese/korean style clothing from?
With an easy-to-read size chart?

I found
LOVE it, but sizes are unfortunatly too small for me.

Trusted websites:

=] enjoy!

Q: so all my freinds like hip hop and rap but i think its kinda stupid.i like metal better.i also look like a headbanger too like i have a mowhawk,slipknot jacket, and the whole nine yards, but im kinda startin to like those other stupid songs but i dont want to.i couldnt imagine dancing n stuff to that kinda music and i feel weird when they play it but i really am starting to like it so please give me any advice possible.
I have to say, I embrace all kinds of music. I have an eclectic taste so I can see where you're coming from here.

Haha you can call listening to rap and hip hop a "guilty pleasure" of yours. You don't want to like it, but you can't help it. You can just listen to it in the privacy of your own room and don't tell others about it if you don't want to!

But I think it's good to be open-minded about all genres of music. Even if you don't like the genre as a whole, you may like certain songs from that genre, but it just won't be your favorite. Your favorite will still be metal. I don't see anything wrong with liking Slipknot and, for example, KiD CuDi at the same time. See, your heart will still lie with Slipknot, but you still occasionally listen to KiD CuDi. Whether you public admit to it or not, it's your choice.

I used to be all "you can't spell crap without rap," but it's not cool to make fun of someone else's interests because you wouldn't want them to make fun of yours, right? It's a good thing that your friends have different interests and help you venture out of your comfort zone music-wise.. introduce you to new things. I would take it positively. You could also show them metal too, they might even like it!

Q: is there any other song that is similar to the song so i thought.
According to

People who listen to this also like:

Flyleaf - There For You
Flyleaf - Sorrow
Fireflight - Unbreakable
Paramore - Let the Flames Begin
Paramore - We Are Broken
Three Days Grace - Never Too Late

Q: Do guys get turned off if a girls never made out with anyone?
No, I think this just calls for more practice.. haha and the guy will prob be glad to know that they will be your first! And truthfully also they won't have to worry about getting a disease or anything either.

Q: What are some signs of an eating disorder? (generic)

Thanks! =D
Since someone already basically answered your question, I just want to show you a video that shows a little trick that some people use to "hide" an eating disorder in public.

If you are asking this for the purpose of a presentation, you should totally show this in class. It's a clip of one of my favorite TV shows lol:
Start at time 1:20

Please don't answer if you are just going to tell me stupid **** okay? Because quite frankly, I don't care.

Well, I've only been high a handful of times but whenever I do I don't like it at all. When I get high all I want to do is go to sleep so when I wake up the feeling will be gone.. because I don't like it. Now, I wish it didn't affect me like this. I wish I could enjoy it but I can't. I just get really tired. How can I make it more enjoyable? Or is this how it will always affect me?

Should I just stick to drinking? Because when I drink I actually have fun..
If you've tried it and it's not for you, then don't do it. There's not really a way to make it more enjoyable if your body doesn't react to it well. It may be because the stuff you got is poor quality, but honestly I think your reaction to it will be roughly the same whether it's good or bad stuff.

I'd say it would be better to stick to what you know "works" lol. If you drink, just be safe about it. Hopefully you know what I mean by that, I'm not going to get into it. Don't get drunk, the tipsy stage is the best stage anyway, imo.

Q: i accidently called my gf fat what do i do ?
Say you meant to say "phat" as in "cool" not F-A-T but P-H-A-T!

Q: My boyfriend has herpes. He told me before we ever did anything and I accepted him for who he is and this disease he has had to deal with. He hasn't had any sores or anything since we been together but we only been together for like 3 months and he says he usually gets sores like 1 time a year or maybe 2 if it's really bad. We always took precaution to make sure he wasn't going to infect me. I looked over his penis and we made sure we were both freshly cleaned and he always ALWAYS used a condom. So 4 days ago I was feeling weird on my vagina and BOOM theres a freaking sore. I freaked out and went to the clinic and they tested me and it came back positive for herpes. I know I got to deal with it and stuff but...How did that happen?
No one else has brought this up, but do you also do oral sex with a condom as well? If not..

Q: I have a Sony VAIO desktop computer. I share this computer with my mom and dad. Lately my internet hasn't been working on my screen so I would like to transfer my songs to my mom's screen so I can add more songs. I got an Itouch but before that, we rebooted the computer and tried to get all of the songs on my ipod onto the computer but my dad somehow erased all of my songs(I was pissed). So my dad downloaded itunes onto my mom's screen and I think even put my account name in there but my songs don't show. So, how do I get my 34 songs on my screen to my mom's screen? Please help me if you really know now because I do not want to risk losing all of my songs that I paid for again. Thank you for your help. And also if someone knows if I will still have my songs when we switch companies because we now have FIOS but we're switching to Optimum on Wednesday so will that interfere with itunes?
Hold on, what do you mean by screens when you only share one computer? I do know that you can transfer the songs from your iPod back onto a computer if you lose the original files on the computer. You can't just go to iTunes and get the files off that way, it won't work. Use the program called Pod to PC:

Q: im making treats for my bffs birthday. what should i make?i want it ti be unique.
CAKE POPS! =D You can customize them to whatever your bff is into. I bet no one else will make them.

Q: how do you tell if a guy is a virgin or not
Unfortunately you can't. There's no physical surefire way to tell. There are signs that may indicate that he might be, like premature ejaculation, nervousness, etc. Like for girls, it's not 100% either because the hymen can be broken by horseback riding, using tampons, and other reasons.

Q: Okay, so my mom just saw me publicly swear in a comment of a picture I was tagged in and now she's all up in my grill because I said the f word on Facebook. Aside from this, it's really annoying how all my family members are friends with me on Facebook. I seriously don't know what to do. I feel like I'm choking. I'm thinking about making a new account and just add family members there, but that'd be too obvious. What's the right thing to do?? Please help! I'd appreciate it bigtime.:(
to prevent future things, you should put some privacy settings on, seriously. don't forget that your parents can see your comments on another person's facebook profile if their privacy settings aren't preventing them from seeing them. enable wall posts by friends and create a list on facebook with your family members and prevent them from seeing your wall posts and don't forget your statuses and such.

Q: i love eating pizza. its my favorite food ever. i like to put everything on it. like everything. like green bell peppers, onions, tomatoes, green and black olives, mushroom, pineapple, spinach, canadian bacon and ham, sausage, and pepperoni. and lots of cheese too. is this bad to eat? my mom said pizza is fattening but i dont know because i get like a lot of my food pyramid in by eating it like that right?
it's only because of the cheese and oil that pizza is so fattening. you can try a healthier alternative and make your own using less of those two ingredients and more of fruits and veggies and some meats. or low-fat cheese or a more healthy oil. you can try putting the works on a bagel or an English muffin.

Q: I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!
thank you for putting a question in my inbox. i must first apologize, i don't have a great deal of experience when it comes to relationships. i can only offer my limited opinion. don't worry about long questions at all, it is good you provided detail.

do you know if there were people in the group or was he the only one? like your mutual friends? (like your bff?) you should ask one of them if the group is still up. i am surprised no one came to tell you. this is terrible. i'm sorry this happened to you. =(

it is kind of strange to me that he would make a facebook group about your relationship, which is something that should be private and between only you two. and it is definitely wrong of him to just now hide it from you. it does not matter what he posted, to reiterate, your relationship is your relationship and no one else's business.

i think it is suspicious that he would hide something like that, if it were harmless. you are right in confronting him about this, and giving him a chance to explain himself. he needs to be honest with you, and if he cannot come forward to you about something as small as this, it is potentially worrisome because what else is he hiding from you? your gut feelings are usually correct. there must be something more that you both need to address. you should discuss with him that you just need complete honesty if you guys are to have a future in this relationship.

i don't want to tell you what you should do about your relationship, but i think this is a major breach in trust. i mean, he could have just kept a diary of some sort for himself or something, but a facebook group is something public, as you eventually found out. something anyone could have accessed. the fact that he was secretive about it and denied its existence is something you really need to consider when making your decision about either staying or leaving.

Q: I am sorry to trouble you, but I really need to know how to tell if the eggs I have are safe to eat or not.

Can anyone tell me how to find out if your brand of eggs are being recalled?

Thank you!


P.S. I also asked this question about how scared I should be if you can answer that it would be great:

Thank you again!
If I were you, I would buy eggs from local farms instead of big retailers because it's the nationwide company eggs that are getting recalled because of possible salmonella contamination.

Q: What the heck can I wear with brown jeggings? Like what kind of shirt? I'm really drawing a fashion blank here.
What shade of brown? I think you can wear any kind of top as long as the color matches. Try neutrals. Colors like olive green, gray, white, or a lighter shade of brown would work. Jeggings pretty much look like skinny jeans.

Q: i've heard that there are "silly bandz" with the names demi, selena, jonas, miley, etc like all the teen stars. its not the brand "silly bandz" but its the same concept. anyone know where i can buy these? someone told me they have them at a kiosk at their local shopping mall but we dont live in the same state or anything....
They literally sell these everywhere now. Any store in the mall, any store anywhere. The state doesn't matter. They will usually have a sign or something saying that they sell Silly Bandz. If in doubt, go to 5 Below. However, I'm not sure where you would the ones with the names on them, I haven't seen those..

Not sure if this helps any, there are Justin Bieber Silly Bandz: but not with his name.


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