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You heard it right! I can't believe it but I am very allergic to earrings. My ears are pierced so what do I do now? Do I just let them heal over or is there something else I can do?

It could be an infection.

I wasn't allergic to nickel until around 5th grade. It would be constantly irritated, crusty and itchy. You could try soaking your ears in sea salt to soothe it and help it heal. If it doesn't get better in a week or so. You should try getting titanium or hypoallergenic earrings at like Walmart/Target/Other cheapy jewelry stores.

http://www.simplywhispersstore.com/

You could go to a real piercing/tattoo shop and get good quality titanium earrings.

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I am looking for a new line of hair shampoos/treatments. I need a new line that suits my hair, which is frizzy, very dry and damaged, straight but poofy and has a lot of kinks in it.

so far i've found

Pantene Pro-V
-time renewal
-hydrating rinse
-deep treatment
-anti-frizz serum

Aussie
-3 minute miracle
-moist shampoo and conditioner

Garnier
-smoothing milk
-leave in cream/serum

Sunsilk
-thermashine shampoo
-pin straight shampoo

Herbal Essences
-hydralicious shampoo

can anyone give me recommendations or their opinions on any of these lines and products? which ones work better?

thank you!!!

Anything with sulfates will dry your hair out more. If you must choose out of those, I'll go with the Aussie.

Damaged, frizzy and dry. You need to shampoo less and condition more. Use leave in conditioners. I would leave a mix of extra virgin olive oil and sulfate free conditioner in my hair overnight. Mix in a bowl and heat it up for 10 seconds in the microwave. Hot oil treatment!

Also poofy! You probably need to get a trim, layers or get it thinned out.

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What is wrist banging? I heard girls talking about it but they kinda shut up when they noticed I was listening. Is it like sexual? Orrrr....?

Thank you!

Wrist banging is another self harm method :/ You get a bruise instead of very visible cuts.

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15/f

I have a funeral coming up and I dont have anything to wear. Does anyone know where I can get a black dress for a funeral?

Wearing black or a dress isn't required. Just tone down your wardrobe. Any teen clothing store should carry a black dress but if you can't get your hands on one, wear a dark coat/jacket over jeans.

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hey i have dry and oily skin, i get breakouts easily and my face is not evenly toned. What's the best facial product that's cheap but really effective??

and do facial masks really work??

please help!

18F. phil.

Sounds like my skin!

There's no best product, use whatever works for you.

You need a good oil-free moisturizer and an astringent/toner for the oily part. Get a facial wash with beads to exfoliate. Like Clean & Clear's Morning Burst for example. I also used their astringent since it's gentle.

Exfoliate to even skin tones. People with oily skin tones have dead skin cells build up and improper and harsh exfoliating can damage your skin. You don't get instant results so there's always makeup. Concealer or powder. I've tried everything and it just didn't give me the results I wanted. So I've been using Jergens natural glow daily moisturizer on my face. You can use a little opposed to going out all tan. My nose and cheeks are no longer red. My upper lip, chin and eyelids are no longer a shade lighter than the rest of my skin.


I've never had good luck with facial masks because they are too drying on me. I've been hearing raves about Queen Helene's mint julep masque. Based on reviews, it seems worth a shot.

I would only use masks for spot treatments. I've been using that tiny mask from Proactiv for my breakouts!

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I work with a hot guy at work and i want to be more than friends . the only problem is that he has a girlfriend he says there not serious but i want him.

If they aren't serious, he wouldn't be in a relationship or he would have ended it by now. Something is keeping him together with her. Whether it's actually her or sex, who knows? It sounds one-sided. Almost like he's picking up or at least flirting with other girls and keeping his girlfriend on the sidelines because he knows she will stay.

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okay, so i've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. we've tried to have sex a couple of times but we can never seem to get it in. i end up getting frustrated only show it and give up. i really want to share this experience with him - is there a way to get his penis inside of me easier? we've already tried fingering.
he claims it was in before when i was on top - but i didn't feel anything. is it supposed to hurt?
thanks!

Fingering with 2-3 fingers should do it.
Lots of lube with a lubricated condom will help.
Relax and wait, he needs to push it in harder. Usually the head isn't easy to get in at first, but once that's past.. it shouldn't be a problem.

It didn't hurt for me but I definitely felt it, so maybe just the tip of his head got in.

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How much blood comes out when you pop your cherrie? Because I had some blood in my underwear and I didn't get my period and it was like the size of a quarter. Did I pop my cherrie?? Thank you!!

You can "break" your hymen and not bleed. Most girls "break" it by doing some sort of activity. I didn't bleed my first time. The blood could have been anything, like spotting (period!) You won't know until you go to a doctor to get checked out.

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I masterbated about everynight for 3 nights, in april, and i haven't had my period since april 7th, and its already june 6th, could something be wrong? or is it a miss period or irregular? i know i can't be pregnant because i NEVER had sex in my life, or even got near a penis in my life time, so what's wrong? does anyone know? im kinda scared, what about yeast infections?!

Irregular. I didn't get mine for months in the beginning. It slowly changed to a week difference or a few days off. Irregularity is normal. I don't know why people think it's not because so many women are like that. There's nothing to worry about unless you don't get one within a few months. If you want a regular period, ask to go on the pill. I was on it for more than a year and now I'm regular without it.

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my the flabby bit of my vagina (i dont no the real name for it) is sort of split in 2 u can pull it apart sort of. Also its really dangly. I used to masterbate by rubbing my vagina on a bed post and it really felt like i was having sex. I am really ashamed of it and i dont do it anymore. could this of affected my vagina?? or maybe even affected the start of my period as i havnt started yet and im 13. And looking at me you would think i had. PLease help because im really worried.

That's how a vagina is. Every girl's is different.. Longer "lips" or shorter.. Some people start later than others. If you haven't gotten it by late 16 or 18, you need to check in with a doctor.

You can't just look at someone and just assume that. A certain age or appearance doesn't mean you got your period.

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well i've been wanting to get something done on my face for awhile now, and at first it was going to be a stud on the nose. but then the whole universe decided it was a good time to get that done, so eh, i thought maybe a lip piercing isn't too shabby after all. most people are against my decision, saying it'll look bad. but i really want to get it done, regardless, so i ignored those remarks. but one grabbed my attention, my sister who knows quite a lot about piercings had told me i could chip my tooth on it, it could destroy my gums, i could swallow the back. so i was wondering- are these really as big as they sound or is it just an over exaggeration? and before i get it done, what are some things i should know? thankyou.

I've had my lip piercing for a couple of months now. A stud is easy and best to start out with. A ring constantly moves and isn't good for healing. I don't know anyone that got a chipped tooth from a lip piercing. If you go to the GOOD place (read reviews or get recommendations) then they will pierce it in the correct spot so it won't give you gum issues. It is possible that you can swallow the back part of the jewelry, just like how you can swallow a loose tooth, etc. You can always go back in and get them to replace it. But they tighten it pretty well.

My tips are
-Don't touch it at allll. Use a q-tip!
-Sea salt soaks mouth rinse with 1/4 teaspoon of sea salt and cup of warm water
-Alcohol free mouthwash only for the first few months
-Soak the outside with sea salt too
-Rinse and brush after every meal for the first few weeks
-Get a large gem on your stud
-Try to avoid spicy foods
-Brush your jewelry too

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how do you have sex in the water.

It's no different. It may feel uncomfortable for the girl though because of the water and pressure. It's not good for the vagina, think bacteria. So don't do it often.

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He's being really weird around my girlfriend, and she doesn't know it, but he flirts with her all the time. I am afraid if I say something about it, my girl will get mad at me. What should I say without making my problem worse?

I am 16/m

Don't talk to your girlfriend about it. She's not the problem. If she doesn't recognize it, it's not considered a threat. It depends if he acts like that around other girls too. Maybe he's just like that. You can tell him to stop by doing a few things like holding her hands or being somewhat closer to her when he's around. If he's not taking the hint, speak up.

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I would like to know, which is better at cramps, midol or pamprin? If you have an answer, that would really help a lot.

I've always used Midol since the cramps disappear super quick !

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Okay so I have a lot of guy friends and they all love talking to me. I have a crush on a few of them, and I'm pretty sure they like me at least a little bit. But there's always some girl who is hotter than me, or cooler than me that they like more. How can I make myself sexier? What do guys consider hot?

Confidence is hot. Don't doubt yourself. What is hot and sexy is totally up to the guy. But really, some guys think porn stars and celebs are sexy but they would not want their lover to look like that at all. Natural, confidence and a cute smile. It's different for every guy so if you are highly interested in one.. you need to start flirting :P

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yo, how many girls in the 7th grade think shave there vaginas..like..do most do, or do most not

When I was in middle school... this topic came up in the lockerooms lol It's either trim or shave. The hair peeks through swimsuit bottoms so it's best to trim and wax/shave bikini area if you are interested.

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what are you guys opinions on someone getting drunk to lose there virginity. because im thinking about doing that cause im scared its really going to hurt. and i dont want to have to deal with the pain. and by the way im 16 female. thankyou in advancee

Some of my friends have tried this and it does not make the situation any better. You may not even remember it or it will hurt.


Honestly, sex should not hurt that bad. Just wait for it. I was 16 when i lost mine and I'm still in the relationship two years later. Sex is uncomfortable but if you are with that right guy, then they will do their best to make it comfortable for you. It did not hurt for me at all. Just open up and get into foreplay. Warm up and take your time. It's great :] The important thing is to relax and get into the moment. It only hurts if you are dry and tight(not relaxed/comfortable) That's it to it. You should try lube + lubricated condoms. It really does help!

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How do you become a fun person to hang out with? None of my friends are very fun to hang out with, so I'm afraid when I hang out with other people that I'm not fun. What makes a person fun to be around?

It just depends on so many things. You can't change who you are. If you are happy and make jokes, make people feel comfortable .. then it's fun. Sometimes you just need to try something different like hanging out somewhere else and other people. Sometimes it's just the group, try mixing friends and hanging out. Things sort of click that way. I had two friends from different schools and they hit it off well when we hung out. I know some certain friends of mine are better suited for a movie night opposed.. to the mall or even dinner. You must be fun if people want to hang out with you. If people don't blow you off for something else, you are fun.

It's not something you should worry too much about. If you weren't interesting enough to hang out with, people would come up with excuses not to.

Just have fun and laugh. If you can be silly around people, it's good!

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okays sooo, ive been on birth control for like two years now, and i have never known the answer to this question, ive tried to ask my ginocologest but she didnt really answer me.
butt.. when your on birth control, can the guy like cum in you and you wont get pregnant. Like im not stupid me and my boyfriend still use condoms every single time and were still going to, but im just kinda curious casue if not then what does birth control do?

Birth control regulates periods, reduces cramping, helps with mood swings/makes it worse, reduces bleeding days, can make you lose or gain weight (cup size!), calm down your hormones so less acne OR increase in acne, etc. I know people that do this and don't get pregnant, there's always a chance it will. Birth control is protection, it isn't 100% effective so you could have unprotected (condoms) sex but there's a chance you'll get preg. That's why the pill and a condom together is effective. A condom alone is still good protection but if it breaks, there's no "extra" shield like the pill.

The pill is hormones, chemicals, etc. It controls out bodies. Basically it keeps your ovaries from releasing eggs and getting contact with sperm. Which is what I meant by shield. The pill also thickens a woman’s cervical mucus which blocks sperm.

It also protects you from abnormal breast growths, cancers (ovarian for example), PMS symptoms, anemia (iron deficiency) and vaginal dryness.

If you're going to do it, then go to a pharmacy and buy plan B. I wouldn't make unprotected (condoms!) sex a habit, every so often.. is alright if you're taking the pill daily AND have BACK UP *ready*

Women still get pregnant while on the pill, esp. if there's no condoms. A least 1 in 100 yearly.


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15/F
I normally just use a plain face wash by Neutrogena or something, and it's impossible for me to tell what my skin type is. I think it might be combination.
Well on my face, ESPECIALLY on my nose, cheeks, and chin, I have really big pores. They look like a lot of little black dots. I think it's causing me to break out a lot.
Are there any products you would recommend? Something I could find at WalMart or a local drugstore, please.
Home remedies are great, too.
Thanks so much! :D

You'll need a toner. I personally like Clean and Clear's astringent because it doesn't burn the crap out of your skin. And I'm comparing to like Ponds Toner. I had a couple of my friends try that out and it feels cold at first, then your skin suddenly becomes red. if you want to reduce pores, you'll need to do mask or try putting an ice cub on your nose. Pore strips for your nose is great too!

but it's important to tone. Think honey, oxy pads, etc.

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