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Okay, so my mom just saw me publicly swear in a comment of a picture I was tagged in and now she's all up in my grill because I said the f word on Facebook. Aside from this, it's really annoying how all my family members are friends with me on Facebook. I seriously don't know what to do. I feel like I'm choking. I'm thinking about making a new account and just add family members there, but that'd be too obvious. What's the right thing to do?? Please help! I'd appreciate it bigtime.:(
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Well, I had a sorta similar situation. My father that lives in a different state thought it would be cute if we kept in touch through FB. I was fine with it, until he kept commenting on my statuses about "studying" or "you're my favorite daughter." So, I kinda warned him politely. I told him that if he didn't cut it out, he would be defriended. I guess he didn't take me seriously, and he found himself unfriended. He was mad for a little bit, but he got over it, so tell your mother and family that FB is not a place to keep their eyes on you, if they don't accept it and keep making references to it, then just simply delete them, as harsh as it may sound.
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You could either delete family members or start an account with a different name only ur friends would know. Get a nickname. Just an idea
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to prevent future things, you should put some privacy settings on, seriously. don't forget that your parents can see your comments on another person's facebook profile if their privacy settings aren't preventing them from seeing them. enable wall posts by friends and create a list on facebook with your family members and prevent them from seeing your wall posts and don't forget your statuses and such.
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Just like the others said before. Don't use it. Facebook is a public place, obviously, and if you don't want certain people seeing what you say then just don't say it.
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Jada Lynne is right; it is a poor man/women who cannot get there point across without using curse words. Sure it is fine in a bar; if you are old enough to be there it might even be okay to use them in the privacy of your own home. It is not okay to use them where other people, people you are not talking to, may hear you and you should never write anything down you do not wish others to see or know about.
Facebook is a public square where depending on the settings you have set anyone can read what you have written. Future employers may judge you based on what you say and how they perceive you to be based on what they may see on facebook and other forums like it. Be honest with yourself, would you hire you if you looked at your facebook page.
I have a gentlemen I volunteer with who when speaking every other word out of his mouth is a curse word. He was twice warned of his foul mouth and if he could not express himself in less vulgar manner he would have to leave the organization. He feels that the way he speaks is how real men talk. If he only knew how many of the jobs he didn’t get were because the reference checks to our organization included the fact that he may be a great person and does what is asked of him very well, if only he could speak without cursing every other word. We all consider him a friend; several of us own businesses and he has asked to work for us. I will not hire him; I cannot perpetrate him on my customers. When he asks for a job I tell him I don’t hire friends or extended family.
The closer you get to college age the more you will be judged. I’m sure your mom knows all the curse words and had probably used more than a few herself. She is trying to watch out for you as she knows that whatever you write can and will be used to judge you. Even if it is just facebook, if you are writing something it will last forever in cyberspace. Remember one thing when writing anything, be it on paper or cyberspace; use your best grammar and spelling. Expect that someone other than the person(s) intended can or will see what you have written. That someone will be judging you based on how you write.
Long story short: You want to get into a good college keep the street language where it belongs, in the street away from others who may someday decide your future.
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Because Facebook is a public site, I would suggest that you behave in there the same way you do anywhere else publicly. You never know who's watching!
My father always told me, 'If you don't want it seen, read, or repeated... don't write it down!' That's very old but very good advice in today's world where everything we say and do is recorded somewhere on the internet!
You should be able to converse with others without swearing...especially in print.
As much as you want that freedom, I suggest that you curb your behavior in public forums. Your family will thank you and someday, you'll be glad that you did. Everyone from college professors to future employers can view your FB...think about what you say on there BEFORE you say it!
Best regards,
Jada
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