Name is Layne, age is 17, occupation is babysitter. still answering questions on here even after 3 years is awesome, right? no, just proves i don't have a life. so. if you have a question, feel free to ask it on here or you can IM me on my screenname. i can answer most questions about the categories i have listed. i don't know much about sickness or physical health, or stuff to wear when your husband just died but the man who killed him, whom you're having an affair with, is going to be at the funeral. :) have a wonderful day.
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Thank you for reading my question.
I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….
I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.
For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.
Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.
This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.
Thank you so very much. (link)
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I’ve heard of something called “gender fluidity”, meaning you don’t feel totally like a girl, but not totally like a boy. You can probably go to Tumblr to learn more about it and meet people like yourself, because you’re definitely not alone. And yes, it’s definitely different from being transgender. In this day and age, you can be WHATEVER you want and you’ll meet plenty of people JUST LIKE YOU, you just have to know where to find them. Like I said, there’s a lot of people like that on Tumblr, and you can probably get a lot better advice from someone who has your actual perspective. :)
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I'm an 18 year old girl from the UK- but I don't wear makeup or anything, I don't drink, I rarely ever wear dresses, and I don't do anything to my eyebrows either- so I kind of feel left out when conversations about makeup, fashion or partying comes up.
My friends find it really strange- they're like 'how can you be confident enough not to wear makeup?'- but it's nothing to do with confidence why I don't wear it, it's just something that's never appealed to me. I'm not a very confident person full stop, I'm very shy- so it annoys me when people confuse the two.
And they've also all, since becoming 18, transformed into massive extroverts who drink regularly- whilst they were previously very introverted like myself, and I don't know why they've suddenly changed. 18 is the legal drinking age in the United Kingdom, but they're too much of party animals for my liking these days- do you think I should stop hanging around with them? They often wonder how I can have fun at parties without drinking, and I just find that a sad mindset and am kind of sad to see that they've changed so much. (link)
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I don’t think it’s odd at all. My sister is the same way. She didn’t have her first sip of alcohol until her 21st birthday, (I’m in the US) she doesn’t wear makeup or do her hair or even wear jewelry. All sorts of people have different interests. For instance, my dad wasn’t interested in girls very much as a teenager. And it’s nothing to do with being unattractive to females, (obviously, because I’m here), he just had other interests that occupied his mind. I’m not into social media; I don’t have Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat or any of those things, which EVERYONE thinks is odd, but I’m not interested. And because of that, I have lost contact with a few friends that used to be close, but people drift apart, especially after graduating high school. It happens. The good news is there are PLENTY of people like you with your current interests. But don’t ever think you’re a failure as a friend or a woman just because you don’t dress up or act a certain way. People change, people drift, and it’s probably not the first time it’ll happen in your lifetime. It’s happened to me numerous times and I’m about 10 years older than you. The point is, don’t stress. Be yourself.
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How do I even say this😞. I’m 15, and I saw an old friend and and couldn’t quite grasp how I envy how she has the perfect curvy body. Among teen girls in school whether a friend or some girl I don’t even like,I have noticed and mildly accepted how much less of a voluminous body I have than them,every girl is more better than me if she is 1. perfectly skinny, with no breast or butt, 2. Has a little belly with big everything / and or perfect in all three areas.I already have low self esteem and won’t ever find myself settling for the body that I have (which I take as settling for less). I am even desperately trying to self diagnose myself as malnourished or some other explanation as to why I am so under developed, and am fully prepared to make money over the summer to order breast and butt growth pills. To which I don’t know how will impact my body, but I will dive headfirst into ingredients or impacts and whatever it takes to get where I want to. So what I’m asking is what do I do to myself should I go after what I want or find another path I need suggestions? I would much rather growth pills than plastic surgery in the future but I just need a second opinion. I also exhibit the passion to stay under 100 pounds for the rest of my life, and have intended to for no little than over a year. I did some digging online digging that wasn’t very helpful and don’t feel comfortable discussing it with anyone I know can offer up some other helpful advice without them becoming too worrisome about me. What could it be? (link)
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I'll go ahead and let you know that I barely filled a training bra until I was about 20. I was really skinny when I was 15. But there were movies and girls around us that make us think we're supposed to be a full C-cup by sophomore year. Plus, all those girls that have shapely figures at 15 probably aren't going to keep them. I've run into a few girls I envied from highschool and I was thinner than all of them, and I'm a B-cup and proportionate, and from the sound of it, you're probably built the same. You may think you'll never develop breasts, but you're only 15. Give it a few years before you do anything as drastic as plastic surgery or hormonal supplements. And also keep in mind, NO TWO GIRLS are the same. You can't constantly compete with other girls or you will lose your mind. Just be patient. Plus, plenty of guys like skinny girls ;)
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Is it possible for a second grader to get pregnent. (link)
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hopefully you're not having sex at such a young age, and hopefully you haven't started your period yet. the flow of menstrual blood is indicative of a girl becoming a woman who can carry a baby.
its very very very very very unlikely, but it is possible. stranger things have happened.
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im a blunt bold person, so I asked this guy out last year .....nothing happened, yet I still frequent the store he works at, super low prices ( he's a store manager there)....anyway he just stares at me everytime I go into the store, well today I needed some help finding something and he was the only one on the floor, so I went to him and asked where's the canned corn, he got up and I said thanks assuming he was going to help me, and he turns to me and says I didn't say I was going to help you, so I called him a fukker and he put his head down and showed me where the item was and walked away....wtf is up with his shitty attitude.....he doesn't like me that's fine, im over the crush.....wtf is he acting like such an azz towards me? thanks (link)
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some people just suck. and if he's a manager and acting this way towards a patron, its safe to assume he's either having a bad day. good news is you're over it so no feelings are hurt. but he shouldn't act like that towards a paying customer, so i personally would speak to his supervisor cuz thats just fukking petty.
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I talked to my ex about it, (cos I figured its a two way thing right? If I felt it, then he must have felt it too, though it was dry humping with underwear on), and he said he didn't penetrate, that there was never a time when we were together that he felt him inside me (link)
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if he hasn't penetrated you, its very likely your hymen is still intact.
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I am 17 year old girl and is having a bestie from almost 4 years and I share each and evrything to him and last year on my bday he asked me for liplock and as I feel whatever he does is right so I did it and moving onwards we started being physical but not exactly sex and now he wants to fuck me and he says I promise their would be no harm and I wont do it that hard that your vagina would bleed...I want to know should I go for it or is their any harm?? And he knows my family as well ..he is even one of my faraway relative.but he never ever did anything wrong with me and I trust hi more than my parents. (link)
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This man is manipulating you. HE should not be in control of what you do or don't do. YOU decide if you want to do this. Also, men of 23 years are not thinking of the well being of young females. You are quite a bit younger than this man and it may be easy to see how his way of thinking would make sense, but all he wants is sex. All men do. And they'll say a lot of things to girls to get them to have sex with them. If you trust him that much, go for it. But just remember, men do not mature completely until they are in their 30s. He may seem older and more mature, but he only has one thing on his mind.
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I am a 17 year old girl and is having 23 year old friend with benefit.We had done almost evrything like liplock ..boob suck he made to me and even he has done fingering to me and I trust him totally so allow to do him whatevver he likes and now he says me that he wants to fuck me and I said him that I cant loose my virginity as after marriage my husband would know so he said that he wolud just fuck harmlessly and wont let my vagina bleed and that too he says that he wont do anything that would affect my future...and I know we are just besties and not lovers to have sex ...what does he mean ...would his fucking really wont be harmful?? What should I do ??? (link)
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It sounds like you have intense religious beliefs. This boy is lying to you. There is no "harmless" sex. Its penetration, so there could be bleeding. If you are certain you want to wait until marriage for sex, that is YOUR decision and he has no right to try and manipulate you. Boys want to have sex, and will say a lot of stupid things to a young girl to get them to have sex. I'm not sure there is an actual way for your future husband to find out that you're not a virgin, but if this is what you really want and truly believe, you should probably cut off the whole friends with benefits thing. It usually gets pretty messy.
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I am an 18 year old female and my period has been really erratic lately and sometimes it doesn't come at all. Usually it's pretty regular and I can pretty much expect it at the same time every month. But now I just don't know. Should I go to the doctor? Could it be something serious or is it just a normal thing? (link)
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Irregular periods is a totally normal thing for all females. Things like weight gain/loss, stress, exercise, and eating habits can also make your period late. Don't psych yourself out! But if you're really concerned, you can go talk to your doctor about getting on birth control. BC can help regulate the period and keep better track of when its supposed to come.
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Can you get a girl pregnant by cumings in there mouth. (link)
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Only if you ejaculate in/near the vaginal area could she become pregnant. The mouth leads no where near the vaginal opening, and even if she swallows, it'll go right to her stomach, not her uterus.
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Okay well I guess my topic is self explanatory. I am confused on my sexuality. I am a 19 year old girl and it seems like everyone around me knows their sexuality. It frustrates me that I still haven't figured it out yet. I have liked boys my whole life or at least I thought so until I met this girl who I completely fell for when I was 17. The feelings were more intense for this girl. Nothing I had ever felt for a boy before. Now I am currently in deep like with this other girl. It seems like my feelings for girls seem to intensify and as far as boys it's more of a "oh he's kinda cute" type of deal. I was wondering if you can give me advice on how I can find out who I am? I'm just so confused and I wish I knew so I could try the dating life, but I want to figure myself out first before I do so. Any suggestions? Thanks (link)
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Ask yourself this: are you SEXUALLY attracted to males or females? When you see a cute guy, do you think about the possibility of a relationship and sex with him, or does the thought of sex with a male gross you out? Same with females, would you have sex with one if things got to that heavy point?
When I was your age, I had been dating boys all my life but eventually found a girl I had strong feelings for, as well. I've come to the conclusion that since I am sexually attracted to both male and females, I am bisexual. It sounds like you might be, too. Its also a lot easier to develop heavy feelings for a female because they are emotional creatures, just like you. Your intense feelings are returned with another female's intense feelings. On the other hand, a lot of males have been called "emotionally unavailable" because of their tendency to bury intense feelings they don't understand.
Anyway, don't stress too much. You're young, and whomever you find a relationship with, just as long as you're happy, its going to be okay.
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21/f I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now with no problems, except my boyfriend's crazy cousin. At the beginning of our relationship we got close, then she became a little crazy and always seems to have a problem. Long story short I drifted away from her a bit after a few freak outs she had on me for no reason; now it's extremely uncomfortable to be around her since we don't talk as much. Recently she invited my boyfriend out to a party in front of me and didn't mention inviting me at all, something she would have talked to me about had we been closer like before. It really upsets me, and my boyfriend agrees she's very rude. Should I talk to him about confronting her behavior? Or have him say something to her? She's just blatantly rude to me. Thanks! (link)
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Could it be possible she's jealous of how close you are to her cousin? Were they close before you were around? Even if she's not involved in the taboo way, she could be jealous. Especially now that she realizes you're not going anywhere anytime soon.
If I were you, I'd talk to her myself. Be like "I've done nothing to deserve this treatment from you, I feel like there is a personal vendetta I'm not aware of," blahblahblah. If all else fails, have your boyfriend talk to her.
And if you guys don't wind up getting along just swimmingly, oh well! You tried. Plus, in the end it's really only the immediate family's opinion that counts. Screw her. :)
Hope I helped!
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I'm writing a short story and I need a creepy childrens song to reference in it. I want it to be one that tells the child to keep quiet and not speak. Similiar to "hush little baby" only creepier? (link)
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Quiet child, it's time to sleep
Don't make a sound and don't you weep.
Cover up nice and tight in this slip,
This is not going to hurt a bit
I made up that one. This one is very creepy but it's not directed at a child. The Bell Witch said this:
Troubled like the restless sea,
Feeble faint and fearful
Plagued with every sore disease,
How can I be cheerful?
And "ring around the rosey" is notoriously known for being about the plague and death. :) hope I helped
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I'm in 8th grade and I take dance. My dance is like a mix of hip hop and modern/contemporary. Anyways.. I have a lot of trouble picking up fast choreography and everyone else in my class is able to do it better.. what can I do to improve? I even wear my glasses to dance and they do help but what are some other tricks? And I do practice at home but my question is how to pick up fast choreography when I'm learning a new move IN class? Thanks. (link)
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I danced with older teenagers when I was in hip hop, too. Obviously, practice makes perfect but in class, pay close attention to those around you. Idk if you're a visual learner but I found it easier to pay attention to the others and mimic them. And if possible, ask the teacher to show you something you didn't understand. It's like a classroom; don't be afraid to ask a question. If it embarrasses you, ask when the class is over. I hope I helped :)
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I'm a girl freshman in high school. My friend asked me if he could smoke me out and I said yeah. We're gonna go smoke but I've never smoked before. I don't even know if I need to bring my own piece or something. I don't know how to even smoke at all. I've seen it it seems with a pipe people put the weed in and light it and just inhale it. Seems easy enough. Any tips? Also any tips on how to hide it other than perfume & eye drops ? We're gonna smoke in a park btw. I don't want any hate comments, I could care less I'm just trying to get high man. (link)
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You've never a smoked before and you're "trying to get high man"?
Here's a tip:
Don't ask questions like that on here. I have nothing against marijuana, but you're going to get someone into trouble. Marijuana is legal in 3 states but that doesn't mean we can talk about it openly, let alone, tell you how to smoke it. Where I live, it's illegal.
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OK well here goes i have been thinking. i know other peoples life are worse which by the way you never tell some one they will just kill them self for being weak trust me. So i am only 13 and i already hate my life actually it started a long time ago as late as 5th grade. Then a lot of shit happened and i bottle everything up i self harm and have thought of suicide my mom found out about the scratches on my arm and started acting like a bitch telling me i was a freak and she doesnt know Y I do it she didn't even ask. And others dont see it i am in sports i have some of the highest grades in my class i just have given up hope for any change and i see a future of nothing does it get better?? At all?? (link)
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As you mentioned earlier, you are very young. Life does get harder and people get bitchier but if everyone decided to off themselves as soon as things get hard, half of the world would be dealing with death and loss everyday, and the other half of the world would be dead. There are people that need you and care about you and killing yourself is very selfish. I have suicidal thoughts too and I used to hurt myself when I was your age. But I came to the conclusion that my sisters, my dad, and a few close friends would probably lose their minds if I ended my life. Surely, there is someone close to you. Someone who will be sad. Someone you can talk to about these thoughts. If you have a school counselor, that would be a great way to start. Even if you determine that you can live through whatever is bugging you, suicidal thoughts are not gonna go away and they are not normal, no matter what your age is. I suggest you get some professional help. Don't talk to your parents, they won't understand. When they were your age, self harm was practically unheard of.
To answer your question, life really sucks and in my opinion, it's not worth living. But the people you surround yourself with make it easier and make life great. Keep your close friends and please speak to someone about your thoughts and self harm. I hope things get easier.
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Okay so I told you guys a while ago that I think I'm pregnant. 15/F. They say if your pregnant you get spotting but I think I have my period. Yeasterday it started and I puttes on a pad. And when I went to bath around 20:30 it was full. Then I putted one °̩n when I was done and woke up this morining with it overflowing. Is this a period or spotting? (link)
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Sounds like a period to me
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I can't tell you how many times I read questions about people who are asking about their self harming. I don't get why people would this. And the worst part is they ask it in a very matter of fact way. Honestly, it makes me really upset when I read these things. I almost tear up (link)
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It's a way for some people to feel like they are in control of their own life. When I used to hurt myself, I would do it because I was angry and I needed an outlet to channel my anger. Now I've found less harmful ways to deal with anger. It was also normal for girls back in the day to harm themselves if they had been sexually abused.
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I had unprotected sex around my most fertile days, it has now been 2 weeks since me and my fiancé had intercourse, my cycle is around about every 32 days. Anyway, on my 31st day of my cycle, I was woken up by these horrible cramps, they made me want to vomit, but as I went to the toilet to vomit, nothing was coming up but spit, I had hot sweats & it was really awful. I rested a hot water bottle on to my stomach and tucked my legs up and it went away within 2 minutes. The following next day, on my 32 day cycle, I was bleeding, I never knew I was coming on my period because I normally get cramps but I never experienced period cramps before my period. As I was bleeding, I was experiencing cramps & my period lasted for 2 days and now I'm experiencing brown discharge, which I have been told is old blood? My period is never 2 days short, never ever! It normally is really long, lasting 5-7 days. Could I be pregnant? And does anyone know how long I should wait to test, when the best time to take a pregnancy test is? Thank you. (link)
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That short period of bleeding could also be considered a "missed period". You could possibly be pregnant if it was a light, short period. It should be accurate if you take a test immediately.
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I am on Yaz and i didnt start taking the pills when my periodstarted, i started taking them before that. Am i doing it wrong? And what are the light pink colored ones for at the bottom? Help me please, i want to make sure i dont get pregnant:( (link)
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As long as you're taking the pill as regularly as you should, you won't get pregnant. (condoms help too, by the way)
I didn't take mine when my period started and I'm fine now. And I already answered your question about the other coloured pills.
You shouldn't have started taking the birth control without talking to your doctor about it first. Obviously, you have a lot of questions that he could have cleared up for you. Be sure to stay in contact with him during the first month of taking the pill. And watch out for antibiotics while on the pill. It can make the pill not work and you'll wind up getting pregnant.
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