|
any problem with friend with benefits??
I am 17 year old girl and is having a bestie from almost 4 years and I share each and evrything to him and last year on my bday he asked me for liplock and as I feel whatever he does is right so I did it and moving onwards we started being physical but not exactly sex and now he wants to fuck me and he says I promise their would be no harm and I wont do it that hard that your vagina would bleed...I want to know should I go for it or is their any harm?? And he knows my family as well ..he is even one of my faraway relative.but he never ever did anything wrong with me and I trust hi more than my parents.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
This man is manipulating you. HE should not be in control of what you do or don't do. YOU decide if you want to do this. Also, men of 23 years are not thinking of the well being of young females. You are quite a bit younger than this man and it may be easy to see how his way of thinking would make sense, but all he wants is sex. All men do. And they'll say a lot of things to girls to get them to have sex with them. If you trust him that much, go for it. But just remember, men do not mature completely until they are in their 30s. He may seem older and more mature, but he only has one thing on his mind.
]
When to have sex for the first time is a very personal question and not one we can give you a yes or no answer to you. Only you can know if the time is right.
Given that he is more than four years older than you and that we do not know the age of consent for your state. My advise would be to wait until your 18 and legally and adult. Right now if you became pregnant or if your parents somehow found out you had sex with him. They could put him in jail for statutory rape. If you are under the age of consent in your state then even if the sex is consensual he can be charged with rape. Statutory rape in some states can be a life sentence. It is better to wait until you are 18 because of the age difference between you.
while you are waiting checkout the following website, found at bottom of this page). I found this while answering a very similar question for another young lady. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location).
]
Before you do anything you need to realize that sex is a big step. It has to be something that you are ready for and you have to be sure you can handle the worst case scenario after the fact. Also, you almost need to look at it from a legal standpoint as well... I'm not saying it should stop you, but since you're under 18 and he isn't, you have to understand that by law he would be in the wrong. (Of course you could always just wait until you turn 18). And as for him saying you wont bleed... if you're a virgin chances are you will bleed (not necessarily a lot), but it is natural to the first time no matter how "hard" he does it. Also, since he knows your family well, you should consider how they would feel or what they would do if they found out (another good reason you might want to wait until you're 18). And finally, a bit of personal advice, you said he was a faraway relative... I personally wouldn't have sex with any one related to me, no matter how faraway. And please trust your parents, they may not seem to always know what they are talking about to you, but they really mean well and they want what is best for you! Hope this helped! :)
]
More Questions: |