OK well here goes i have been thinking. i know other peoples life are worse which by the way you never tell some one they will just kill them self for being weak trust me. So i am only 13 and i already hate my life actually it started a long time ago as late as 5th grade. Then a lot of shit happened and i bottle everything up i self harm and have thought of suicide my mom found out about the scratches on my arm and started acting like a bitch telling me i was a freak and she doesnt know Y I do it she didn't even ask. And others dont see it i am in sports i have some of the highest grades in my class i just have given up hope for any change and i see a future of nothing does it get better?? At all??
In my opinion, there is something more going on. You hate your life for reasons that I don't know. Either way, you need to talk to a counselor. No one deserves to feel this sad and they will help you find better ways to deal with your problems instead of cutting.
I used to cut. My parents found out when I was 15. They called me names too, some people just don't understand and you can't really expect them too. Life isn't too bad and we're young so we should actually be happy and enjoy what we have while we have it. But since that's not always the case and they just don't understand.
Go talk to a counselor. You need help and everything will get better. [ lightoftruth's advice column | Ask lightoftruth A Question ]
teen answered Friday January 10 2014, 7:50 pm: Yes, your life will get better! You have to go through the storm to get the rainbow! Be patient and one day you will be so happy that you will regret even thinking and asking this question. Things will not always be good and things will not always be bad. Learn from your experiences. Don't regret anything that happens to you. You must be patient. Talk to someone. A friend, family member. teacher etc. GOOD LUCK! <33 [ teen's advice column | Ask teen A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Friday January 10 2014, 10:04 am: Let me start by saying I'm old enough to be your grandfather and it upsets me greatly that your mom called you a freak for the cutting you are doing. What mom does not realize is you are not a freak. That when young people cut there is a reason for it and one of them is cry for help. Another is that they are so stressed out that they need to feel something so they cut to feel something and relieve some of the stress they are under.
What scares me about cutting is, having spent my entire adult life in the fire service, is if a cutter cuts in the wrong place or to deep, they can actually bleed out before help arrives. That may not be their intention though unfortunately it happens and just as unfortunately I have seen it happen.
Cutting is also a sign of depression. Depression causes stress as well. You're depressed, which adds to your stress so you cut which adds to the depression and round and round it goes until you find a way to break the cycle. The depression you may be suffering is called clinical depression and is actually more a medical condition than a mental condition. Generally this is caused by the lack of one or two chemicals that secrete in the brain to stabilize moods.
Because this chemical is secreted into the brain the best doctor to prescribe for this is a board certified psychiatrist who is also a medical doctor. The psychiatrist generally prescribes medication to replace or add to the chemicals needed, actually they are hormones, and then sends you to a psychologist for talk therapy to get at the root cause of what is stressing you out causing the depression. Once the root cause is found the psychologist helps you find a better way to deal with it.
It has taken a long way to get to this point though I wanted you to understand where you are at. Given your age the clinical depression you may be suffering has another diagnoses called teenage depression. It is something that happens to many teenagers as part of puberty. At one time doctors felt it was a phase and kids would grow out of it. For the most part they were right. Today we know better and we or the doctors can make things easier for those afflicted with teenage depression.
If you cannot talk to mom and convince her you are not a freak but actually in need of medical intervention. Then please talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal about your cutting and how you feel. Everything you have written points to you possibly being afflicted with teenage depression, yes as young as the 5th grade for puberty can start that early.
I'm not a doctor so I cannot make that diagnoses. IF I am right there is no reason for you to suffer, not when the doctors can make you feel much better with a simple pill. So please talk to a teacher, your school principal, your father , Aunt or Uncle any trusted adult who can talk to your mom and set her straight. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
laynemayhem answered Friday January 10 2014, 9:22 am: As you mentioned earlier, you are very young. Life does get harder and people get bitchier but if everyone decided to off themselves as soon as things get hard, half of the world would be dealing with death and loss everyday, and the other half of the world would be dead. There are people that need you and care about you and killing yourself is very selfish. I have suicidal thoughts too and I used to hurt myself when I was your age. But I came to the conclusion that my sisters, my dad, and a few close friends would probably lose their minds if I ended my life. Surely, there is someone close to you. Someone who will be sad. Someone you can talk to about these thoughts. If you have a school counselor, that would be a great way to start. Even if you determine that you can live through whatever is bugging you, suicidal thoughts are not gonna go away and they are not normal, no matter what your age is. I suggest you get some professional help. Don't talk to your parents, they won't understand. When they were your age, self harm was practically unheard of.
To answer your question, life really sucks and in my opinion, it's not worth living. But the people you surround yourself with make it easier and make life great. Keep your close friends and please speak to someone about your thoughts and self harm. I hope things get easier. [ laynemayhem's advice column | Ask laynemayhem A Question ]
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