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Does not doing hard doesnt affect?
I am a 17 year old girl and is having 23 year old friend with benefit.We had done almost evrything like liplock ..boob suck he made to me and even he has done fingering to me and I trust him totally so allow to do him whatevver he likes and now he says me that he wants to fuck me and I said him that I cant loose my virginity as after marriage my husband would know so he said that he wolud just fuck harmlessly and wont let my vagina bleed and that too he says that he wont do anything that would affect my future...and I know we are just besties and not lovers to have sex ...what does he mean ...would his fucking really wont be harmful?? What should I do ???
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It sounds like you have intense religious beliefs. This boy is lying to you. There is no "harmless" sex. Its penetration, so there could be bleeding. If you are certain you want to wait until marriage for sex, that is YOUR decision and he has no right to try and manipulate you. Boys want to have sex, and will say a lot of stupid things to a young girl to get them to have sex. I'm not sure there is an actual way for your future husband to find out that you're not a virgin, but if this is what you really want and truly believe, you should probably cut off the whole friends with benefits thing. It usually gets pretty messy.
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Technically, any penis in vagina sex means you are no longer a virgin by todays interpretation of the word virgin. Not all women bleed when having sex by penetration (also called intercourse) I didn't for one. This idea that a show of blood is needed to prove a girl is a virgin isn't scientifically good solid proof for that reason.. However, before the world created birth control and paternity tests, men of long ago wanted to know if a child their bride wss carrying was really his to pass his estate on to and men came up wiht the idea that the only way to know was if a female was a virgin at the marriage bed. Unfortunately since a good many women dont bleed, many have been turned away or even killed for being 'tainted, not pure' anymore. I personally don't see anything wrong with sex before marriage. Any kind of sexual activity basically makes you no longer a person untouched as in the original meaning of the word like a virgin forest (someone no human has ever been) So fingering, touching oral sex actually makes you no longer a true virgin. But if its important to you to remain a virgin as far as penetration, then there is no way or style or technicality where he can enter you and you remain a virgin intercourse wise.
I am sorry to have to tell you that your supposed best friend is lying through his teeth. If it is important to you to have people as friends that you can totally trust, then if I were you, I would be breaking off friendship and sex with him immediately. The discovery of one lie means there is more where that came from. People hide what they know they are at core if it is rotten and bad but at some point it becomes too hard to keep a charade going and they accidently say or do something to reveal who they are deep inside. He must believe you to be very naive and stupid. Although you werent sure, you came here asking which actually proves you to be quite intelligent to be asking. I am glad you did. I have had guys lie to me like this too. Heck even in late 40s when looking for my 2nd husband, men will lie thinking its no big deal, just to get the girl they want or the sex they want. So far you've been willing. If you say no now, you can expect him to get angry, beg more or throw a royal tantrum fit. Personally, I'd lose him ASASP and go get yourself checked ford STDs, cus even something like oral herpes could have been transfered to you by now and you cant expect him to be truthful about that if he's making up stories about other stuff.
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If you really really wanna save your virginity till you get married, you shouldn't do it. There's no guarantee that what he does will not break your hymen if he's penetrating you. I wouldn't trust a horny guy to stop himself like he says he will. The urge is too great. Besides, how can he really know how far to stick it in without touching your hymen? and he's supposed to do this in the heat of the moment all horny and stuff? Yeeaah, don't think so. So if you want your hymen intact for your husband to break. Letting him penetrate you is not a smart move.
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