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Thank you for reading my question.
I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….
I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.
For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.
Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.
This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.
Thank you so very much. (link)
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It sounds like you are gender fluid! Genderfluid is a gender identity which refers to a gender which varies over time. A genderfluid person's identity may change constantly, so it's always best to ask what they are in that moment. For instance: You wake up a girl, then you suddenly feel like a boy. This may change dramatically, and rapidly, depends on the person.
But also, don’t feel like you have to label what you are! You are you and it’s wonderful!
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i have been asked severel times if i play games on my computer i never used my own laptop for gaming and severel people have expected it from me and it made feel like not doing it was unacceptable i never thought it was. (link)
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Of course it’s acceptable! Everyone has different interests. Just tell them you’re not a big gamer and then tell them some other hobbies you have. Ask them about the games they play. Usually people are just looking for something in common to talk about so just show interest. If you are interested in getting into gaming, look up some beginner games or ask your gamer friends for suggestions. But if you’re not interested that’s no big deal either!
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What does that mean? (link)
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This means that when you leave a situation you are leaving with more than just physical things. Typically it means you have learned something new from the experience.
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I’ve been talking to a guy for about 5 months now (haven’t met yet). He constantly tells me that he’s certain I’m the one he sees a future with. Always treating us like we’re in a relationship. However, he’s regularly talking to other girls & even tells me about it. When I ask him if he wants to move on from me, he’s very firm on not letting that happen. He also has a very strong visceral reaction towards me interacting with other men. I’m not sure what I should do... (link)
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Red Flags everywhere! Do not get invested in this guy. Move on. You haven’t even met and yet he is already being possessive when he hears that you are talking to other guys. However, he not only does the same thing but tries to test you and make you jealous by telling you. You should never have to fight for someone, especially at the beginning of a relationship. That should be when things are the easiest. It will only get harder from here on out.
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well I have 7 months with my boyfriend my whole family is aqainst me havinq a boyfriend they tell me im to younq to be datinq im 13 , I mean yea im young but I really love this guy he cares bout me and we been thru a lot he's always tellinq me to sit down and tlk to my mother but my mother is a type that can't sit down and have a serious talk with , and I wwant her to meet him I want everyone to accpet hiim , my family is always thinkinq wronq they think that ima end up preqnant and I justt want my mother to accept him and I wanna know how can I have a serious talk with her im tired of this relationship beinq a secret. (link)
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I think you are right that you need to tell your family. If they find out you have been keeping this secret and sneaking around, it will just give them another reason to say you are too immature to be dating. There is really no easy solution. All you can do is sit your mom down when you are alone and there are no distractions and tell her you need to have a serious talk. Tell her you have met someone special who is very important to you and you hope she will give him a chance. Ask her if he can come over for dinner so she can meet him and see what he is like. If she does give him a chance, take it slow and prove that you are responsible. You could go on group dates or places with adults at first until your mom is comfortable with you being alone. You will have to prove yourself.
The only bad thing about telling your mom is that she may forbid you to see him. You need to be prepared for that. Don't get angry or freak out because that shows you are immature and she will just say "that's why you shouldn't have a boyfriend."
Unfortunately, the truth is you are young and your mother may not accept him even if he is a nice guy. Remember that she is just looking out for you. Your mom loves you and you can't blame her for worrying. You have plenty of time to date and hopefully it will get easier as you get older. Good luck and let me know how it works out!
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http://www.lacie.com/imgstore/product_overview/iamaKey_ring.jpg
I realize it looks like a horse shoe barbell you put in your ear...
However, does anyone know where I could order a keyring like that one?
Any suggestions or help would be very much appreciated :) (link)
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They have one on Amazon but it's kind of expensive...
http://www.amazon.com/Sterling-Silver-Horse-Shoe-Type/dp/B00024VSG4
Maybe you could just buy an actual piercing and use it as a key ring.
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I've never been dumped. I know weird thing to complain about but i dont understnad it, i'm not the emotional crying or overdramatic type ... but somehow all of my relationships have ended with a dissappearing acts with the few exceptions of the mutual agreement ones. When did dragging it out like that become better tahn a clean cut? and it is always sort of abrupt. we would make plans, then i'd never hear from them again. Is it me or am i just lucky? (link)
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A lot of guys can't handle the confrontation of breaking up with a girl so they just ignore and avoid her until she figures out what is going on. Guys always expect girls to sob and scream and be overly dramatic and they are afraid of that. You shouldn't take it personally. Just be glad you've never had someone be mean and hurtful in order to break up with you. I don't know how old you are, but the older guys and girls get, the more mature they get. Hopefully, guys will start being more honest with you in the future.
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Oh my goodness. Somebody please help me. I haven't slept all night because the guilt is killing me!
Okay, so yesterday I went to hang out with my cousin his girlfriend and a friend.
We all went back to my cousin's house and hung out there. Then my friend and I went downstairs to the living area to play the piano a bit.
I pressed on the 1st and left pedal, and since no one ever uses it (grand piano, long and elegant by the way), and i felt the piano move to the side a bit, but i didnt see or hear anything else. neither did my friend.
THEN as we were leaving and i was closing the lid... i saw a long crack on the top, whats itcalled, a cabinet? desktop? not sure
but above the lid.
and it was not there before!
they live in a very nice home and the piano must have cost them thousands.
my aunt and uncle are out of town, and we didnt tell my cousin either, i mean we're not sure that we did it, but im almost positive i did, i dont know i just hadnt noticed the crack...
can it be fixed? the top part (furniture part) replaced? what can i do? i bet its expensive damage.
please help me! im desperate! the guilt the guilt!
sincerely,
heirdusoleil (link)
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You should just tell your aunt and uncle what happened when they get back. There is a chance you didn't even make the crack and if you did it was obviously an accident. It doesn't sound like you were being rough with the piano. The guilt will make you feel worse than just telling the truth (especially if you find out you didn't make the crack).
If they don't use the piano then it's probably not a big deal and the worst case scenario is you have to pay them back for the damage some how.
The truth will set you free! :)
Good luck!
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are there any websites where it's an online diary?
and only you can see what you write? (link)
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There is also live journal. it can be public or private as well..
http://www.livejournal.com/
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I want to plant a vegetable garden in my new home! It will mainly be vegetable, as I said, but I may have some other types of plants. I wanted to know if there are any plants that may be dangerous to my two yellow labs? (link)
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Here is a list of the ten most common plants that can poison dogs...
http://www.greggaylord.com/memo/harmful-dogs/
Here are some more complete lists to look at too...
http://www.aspca.org/pet-care/poison-control/plants/
http://www.dogpack.com/health/poisonplants.htm
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I am planning on moving into a new home where the last owner had a cat and has since moved out (they moved about a month and a half ago now). I am very allergic to cats, but am planning to have the carpets deeply cleaned in order to try to get all of the cat allergens out. Is there any more I can do, or should I not even consider moving into the house? Any ideas or other people who have gone through the same thing? (link)
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Someone asked a similar question here...
http://www.allergybuyersclub.com/learning/cat-allergen-cleaning.html
It seems like the allergens will be around for quite some time (at least 6 months), but they recommend a HEPA filter vacuum and having your ducts cleaned.
Good luck!
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What's the difference between a vegetarian and a vegan? I heard about celebrities being vegans now and I am confused. Is being vegan the same as being a vegetarian or are they completely different? (link)
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Here's the difference...
Vegetarians do not eat meat, fish or poultry but they tend to consume dairy products and eggs. Vegetarians also do not eat products that contain gelatine or other meat-based products.
Vegans eliminate all animal products from their diet, including dairy and eggs. Those following a vegan lifestyle generally do not wear leather and avoid products made from animals such as wool, silk and down.
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We have a 9 week old Maine Coon kitten. He seems healthy (eating well, playful, etc.) but should I take him to a vet just for a check up? Are there any shots that he needs? Are there any good websites to find this kind of information on for future reference? (link)
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Yes, you should definitely bring your new kitty in to the vet. Your kitty will need shots for distemper, feline leukemia and rabies. Once you talk to a vet they will let you know what other shots your kitty may need and they will keep you posted on further shots as well.
Also, if you are going to have them spayed or neutered (always a good idea to help the over population of animals) you will have to wait a few months but you can at least discuss it with your vet.
Good luck with your new friend!
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Do the nutrient or mineral levels go down when you cook vegetables? Is eating cooked veggies pretty much equivalent to eating raw veggies?
I am bringing this up because it seems like all the nutritionists I see on TV say to eat raw vegetables but they don't explain why you can't cook or steam them. I don't even hear them say you can't but if they didn't want you to cook them then they wouldn't bother saying "Eat raw veggies" and would just say "Eat veggies".
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Many vitamins and minerals are lost when cooking veggies because they are destroyed by heat or absorbed into the water. Steaming will preserve more than cooking because there is less water soaking up the good stuff. That's why it's always most nutritious to eat them raw.
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how many calories are in one small piece of papa johns original cheese pizza?? i ate 2 pieces today i hope i didnt overload my calories? (link)
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This website lists the nutrition information for Papa Johns...
http://www.shapefit.com/papajohns.html
It looks like one slice from a LARGE original crust pizza has 270 calories and 9 grams of fat. The thin crust has 225 calories, but 12 grams of fat.
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Do you kno the author of the version u posted of this poem?? (link)
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The poem is considered folklore meaning that it was mostly passed on by word of mouth through the years. No one knows the original author or even the original version for that matter. There are many, many variations as you can see here...
http://www.folklore.bc.ca/Onefineday.htm
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Last night I had a dream, and I'm confused [16/f] ... -I was in school and I see this guy I like, who liked me, but then went with his ex girlfriend, we haven't talked for 4 weeks. and he was with his girlfriend and my other guy friend and I followed them into the gym, he kind of motioned me to follow them and said "c'mon". [the gym in my school also turns into a lunch-room. we have 2 lunchrooms] when we get into the lunchroom/gym, the bleachers are down and we sit in the middle. His girlfriend sits down and i sit across from her but 2 steps lower, on a dfifferent level. The guy i like sits infront of me on the level above mine, acrossfrom his girlfriend who is kinda far away from him. then my guy friend sits next to the guy i like girlfriend. So we are just sititg there and I think the guy that I liek was talking to me, and then i turn and i see 3 of my friends that I usually sit with on another set of bleachers next to me [wide stairs are seperating us] one of them is my bff and i text her and im like, "ask ---- [my other friends name] to come sit with me." [she wasn't sitting with them either. i out my cell away right after i sent the text and then the guy I like moved away from me and next to his girlfriend. I felt really awkward and didn't know if I should move up next to him, until his girlfriend, my guy friend, and the guy I like got up and the guy i like motioned for me to follow him again. so we are all walking in a straight line and I'm right behind the guy I like. we get to the other side of the gym and we are standing under this bleacher thing [all of us] and watching the basketball game. i was saying "this is so gay how they're making us play basketball" and the guy i like said, "yeah I know." and we started laughing. then i saw this popular guy who i don't talk to or like at all in real life and he picks me up and starts hugging me and lifting me up into the air and I'm laughing and the guy I like is watching me the entire time. but then the popular guy puts me down and he kisses my cheek. then i go back over to the guy i like and i say, "shouldn't you be with your girlfriend?" and he looked back at her talking with my guy friend and some other girl, her friend i think. and he looks back at me and says, "nah, she's not gonna notice." I liked it when he said that because he would have rather been with me. and then we go back to watching the game and some girl makes a basket ... that's all I remember though. so could someone help me out here? haha thanks so much. (sorry it was long but I appreciate those who take the time to answer this question for me and read it) (link)
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Well I'm no expert, but this is what I got from your dream...
A gym is a place of competition. It seems like you feel in competition with his girlfriend.
The placement of each person on the bleachers is also significant. Bleachers are like steps and you put him and her above you. You even put yourself behind him when you were walking in line. Throughout the dream you are also following them where ever they go. It seems like you don't feel as important as them and you don't feel in control of the situation.
Also, it seems like you felt uncomfortable with the situation in the dream so you were looking to your friends for support (looking over at them, texting them).
The fact that you didn't want to play basketball, but were being forced to would seem to suggest that you are being put in a position you don't like. Since this guy chose his ex over you he is essentially "forcing you to play the game."
Then the popular guy comes over and shows you attention. He is your way of making this guy feel the same jealousy that you have felt.
Then at the end, you get what you want... he picks you over the ex. At that moment, a girl makes a basket. That seems like a symbol of you achieving your goal... getting the guy.
I would say the whole thing is really about competition and your unresolved feelings in this tough situation.
Hope this helped!
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in geography when it says this stretch of coastline is opting for a 'hold the line' policy, what does hold the line mean? (link)
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Due to climate change, some coastal areas are at risk of being lost to the ocean. In many places, people have been forced to abandon their homes because the area will soon be flooded. When an area adopts a "Hold the Line" policy, it means that they basically are not going to give up yet. They will try to maintain or upgrade the level of protection provided by existing coastal defenses. They try to build different structures to protect the coastline from being destroyed.
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So I'm a 20 year old girl and I've been dating this guy for about 8 months now. I really love him, he loves me, and there's even talk of marriage. He's really sensitive so I know he'll want something from the heart, or at least something that has had a lot of thought put into it. We've been through a lot the past couple of months and I really want our first Valentines Day to be special. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to get a sensitive, caring guy? (link)
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You could make him his favorite meal or a really good dessert. Make cookies, brownies, etc. in the shape of hearts. Guys always like food! Make a collage of things that remind you of him or put pictures of the two of you into a frame. Get flower petals from a florist and write out something using them. Leave notes around where he can find them telling him what you like about him. You have to be sneaky but it's fun to find notes in your car or house.
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i forgot my straighter on, it fell on my white carpet. Got WAAY to hot and burnt my white carpet. Any suggestions? (link)
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Try using carpet cleaner on it first to remove as much as possible. Then get a straight edge razor and use it to gently scrap the fiber tops. As long as it didn't burn down too far you shouldn't be able to tell. If you google "burnt carpet" there are more tips and suggestions but these seem to work the best.
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