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It hurts so bad when my boyfriend trys to finger me...
f/16
My boyfriend rubs me down there and yesterday we did alot of first time things.
Its not the first time he has tried to finger me but everytime he tries to go near my sex hole it hurts bad and feels uncomfortable. He says im really sensitive down there and tight. He ever tried his pinky and it was soooo uncomfortable. Is not like there is no lube because i get wet but its just I dont know whats wrong. Is it because im uncomfortabe because we sneak around and do this but still when i try to relax I cant do it.
What should I do?
Whats wrong with me?
sorry for any bad grammar...
and thanks ahead of time
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First off nothing is wrong with you. its ok to feel pain/hurt. thats the beauty of the human body if it hurts its tell you something is not normal, even when you have sex and "loose Your virginity" it can hurt and if does thats your bodys way of telling you stop its hurting because this is not normal. now what can you do to make it less painfull? here are a few choises ...you might or may not like them either way you are more than welcome to ask for more of my opinion.
You let him know it hurts..yes again, and that its not getting any better and be honest are you ready for this? are you ready for this sexual experience? theres nothing wrong with waiting just like theres nothing wrong with you exploring but with either way you need to always have bounderies if you want. if you do not want him to finger you tell him thats a no no its just something that you are not ready for. people will not like this but you really may not be ready for his or anyones finger or penis or sex and again theres nothing wrong with that you are in no rush to have sex or explore this level when you do get fingered let it be because you feel like getting fingered will be your choice, what he really should be doing is slowing down and in my opinion stop!! hes a teenager he has no clue what he is doing I bet he cant name 7 parts of your vulva and he most likely doesnt know exactly why its hurting you, and its not cause your tight or sensitive...its because your tense!! and because he is not being patient with you or being supportive instead hes putting alot of pressure on you and i think that doesnt make you feel comfortable, you never imagined someone would touch you down there. like the way he wants to touch you and let alone let someone put their finger inside you or even a penis.. thats way bigger than a finger..now imgine how he is behaving and its his finger!! imagine if he can get you convinced just for one moment to let him slide your panties off and open your legs and put his penis in you imagine what support and pressure youll be getting from him. I really am not trying to judge you or him its just that i really think that you both should slow down and he needs to STOP!! i mean he can really really hurt you in many ways ..this issue is more sensitive than many think it is. for some its such an easy thing and thats ok but thats them and this is you and right now you dont feel 100% comfortable. I would like it if you read this part of my opinion before i can give you sexual advice, for right now read and think this over ok?? then if you still need sexual advice we will go from there ok.
I want you to please read this slowly
Theres nothing wrong with you, I know you are beautiful and sexy and attractive but thats not all. you are your much much more than special you are unique and you feel inside you that you really arent ready for this..this sneaking around and exploring sex in a way you ..well you just dont feel that its the right way. You are doing the right thing in expressing your thoughts and taking the time to read this besides being gorgeous you are incredibly intellegent and i know you will feel better if you slow down and enjoy sex being part of your life not sex being your life. He needs to also get some advice some really good advice. Id like also if at all possible ask you why do you want to get fingered? did he tell you about fingering? has anyone told you about the risks involving fingering? sex? oral sex? theres a whole lot more to sex besides feeling hot theres a whole lot to learn. id also like to ad just ask him this ask him ok? tell him hey when you get hard can strok your penis shaft dry with sand and salt on my hand with hot sauce and even if you tell me it hurts it will be ok if i tell you your tight and sensitive? ask or better yet tell him you want to try that and see his expression. If he keeps pressuring you let him go you dont need someone who will not care about you, or worry on your true feelings he should be walking down the street with you not across the street on the otherside and yelling "IM WITH YOU" oh and if he ever threathens to tell everyone about you and him dont ever let anyone try to make you their sex slave.
I hope this helps
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It took me four times of trying with my boyfriend before we could have sex b/c of how bad it hurts. not to mention all the times he tried to finger me, you'll eventually loosen for it to become pleasurable, he might have to take your mind off of it, like by using his mouth and or playing with your clit until you cum so your muscle with tighten then relax, you may be so very tight because your body is ready to orgasm so it's tightening.
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There's nothing "wrong" with you. Its normal to experience pain your first times being fingered. You really must relax your muscles down there so he can ease his fingers in more. I definitely suggest lube even though you get wet. It can help you out a lot. There is a chance you just aren't wet enough though. My best advice I can is you is simply endure the pain because you have to get past that to experience the pleasure. In conclusion, relax and try lube. Hope I helped.
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