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All my friends always call me anorexic and skinny and other stuff that really hurts my feelings.Im not anorexic im just really skinny but ive tried everything to gain weight and they didnt work.Can anyone please tell me how can i gain weight and fast???Thank you so much!!!!! (link)
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dont try to gain weight!!! then you will and you'll wanna loose it again but wont be able to and you'll be pissed. its a lot harder to loose weight then it is to gain it. y bother? you simply have a fast matabolism, which just means your body uses the calories faster. it has nothing to do with you and how much you eat. i have a friend like that. she could eat a whole cow if she wanted to and she wouldn't gain a pound. she's the size of a twig. she's not anorexic, she just has a fast matabolism. and the same with you.
dont try to change. be happy with what you were given. most girls i know would consider it a gift! maybe your friends are just jealous that they have to be careful what they eat and you really dont have to be as careful. granted, if you eat enough, you will gain weight, but you dont have to be as careful as they do and maybe this makes em jealous.
hopei helped.
JP
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I am a girl and i would like to buy a pair of sneakers, something like this:
http://www.fixins.com/blogtest/uploaded_images/DropSneakersNotBombs-752101.jpg
the thing is, i don't know what to wear them with or how.. i am not exactly the whole hip-hop type with the baggy clothes and cap, but is there any way I could wear them. maybe hip-hop with a touch of chic..?! any ideas..??
thanks. (link)
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Step 1- put on whateva the hell you want to wear
Step 2- put on a pair of socks, one to each foot
Step 3- put the left shoe on your left foot and tie the laces or stick the laces into your shoe after tying them loosely
Step 4- put the right shoe on your right foot and tie the laces or stick the laces into your shoe after tying them loosely
Step 5- go out whereva you were planning on going: school, work, mall, park, friends house, whereva
you can weat tham with anything and everything you want. that's the beauty of sneakers.
btw, those are some cool shoes.
good luck.
JP
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How do you know if your Cherry pooped? many people say you get it form maybe horseback riding or sports or other things, but how do you know if you have? what excatly happens. (link)
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first, i'd like to let you know, that you don't poop your cherry, you pop it.
now, to answer your question:
if you're not a virgin, then you're cherry is definitly POPPED. but keep in mind, not everyone even has one.
and also keep in mind, it gets POPPED not POOPED.
JP
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my boyfriend has depression. i feel terrible for him, i'm so in love with him and i was wondering if anyone knows anything i can do to make it better? he's one of those kids that you would never expect to have depression because he has tons of friends and is really outgoing and i just wanna know anything i can do or any advice to help him get through this. we're both 16. thanks soo much. (link)
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Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain. Now before you get pissed at that little comment, let me make it super clear that there is NOTHING wrong with depression.
The only way to treat depression is medication perscribed by a doctor for a person's special case of depression.
Talking to and listening to a depressed person will not cure the person...but it will help. Talking and listening to your boyfriend will be proof to him that someone cares, and may also encourage him to see a doctor about it if he hasn't already, or to start taking medication if he hasn't already.
But, and this is VERY important so listen CLOSELY, do NOT bug him about taking meds, or seeing a doctor, do not tell him what to do to help himself. Often this will make someone with depression feel in a way imprisoned by his disability--medically and mentally depression is considered a disability--and may do more harm than good.
How do I know all this? I'm studying to become a doctor and psychiatrist.
Now, depression is NOT curable. But taking medication will keep depression at bay as long as one stays on their medication. Often someone slips back into a worse and more violent depression because they stop taking their medication because they haven't fealt depressed in a while and feel that they've been completely cured. This is NEVER the case. Make sure he knows this all the time.
Good luck,
JP
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im a 16 female. and hes a 17 male. he acts normal but sometimes it seems like hes losing interest. just the other day he told me hes not having 2nd thoughts on us. so im not sure. but this girl txtd me and told me today that he told her last week that we broke up.well he plays around alot. and idont know if that was meant to be a joke. and sometimes he acts like hes going to breakup with me like if i ask him he goes along with it then says hes kidding. please help me! i really dont want him to break up with me. but i dont know what to do. please and thankyou in advance. oh. and if it means anything. weve been together for 2 months... since xmas eve '08 (link)
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if he wants to leave he'll leave. i'm sorry, but i'm just being honest. don't change at all to try to keep him like that other person said. it might prolong the relationship, but if he is planning to break up with you, when he does, it will just hurt all the more.
Good Luck,
JP
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My ex and I broke up several months ago and it was a messy breakup. We have barely talked since. Now, almost a year later, I have gone through old letters and pictures, and realize I miss him terribly. Our relationship was long and serious, and we had more great times than bad, so it's hard to even justify the breakup. I thought I was over him, but now tears are coming back! Should I just throw all these things away or contact him in any way? I don't know if I should really move on or if something could happen again. (20/F) (link)
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keep everything. one day, you'll be glad you did. but if it makes you sad to look at them, but them in a box, in your room/attic/closet. some day, you'll be happy to go through the old box and remember all the happy times, and you'll laugh instead of cry.
Good luck,
JP
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Now I know that everyone has their own personal preferencese when it comes to dating. My question though is, is there something wrong with a 17 year old guy going out with a 15 year old girl? I mean do you see anything wrong with it? I know i'm going to get many different answers and that's what i'm hoping for. There's just this guy that I really like, but he said that youngest he would date is 16, and i'm 15, and he's 17. He's a really great guy. We both have a lot in common, and are a lot alike. I'm not saying that because of these things that we belong together or something I just want to know everyones ideas on this. Any and all answers are greatly appreciated, and thank you in advance. (link)
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this is a tough question to answer, because, no, I dont think there's anything wrong with a2 year age difference, because how many couples are 3,4,5,6....9 years apart? the thing is, that next year, even though you'll be sixteen, your relationship would be illegal, and that would probably make things a little difficult.
good luck with everything.
JP
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hey.. i'm 16 yrs old and a female.
um basically i dont know who to go to anymore for help. so i'm giving anything and everything a chance. just so long i get some help. so basically my parents and i have had a pretty rocky relationship. and i've broken their trust alot. in the past few months i had gained it back.. then i made the mistake of lying where i was and going to a rave. i didnt do any drugs or anything. but somehow my parents found out i was there. i have no clue how. but they're PISSED. i'm completely grounded, got my phone taken away, cant go anywhere. i dont know what to do.. please help =( (link)
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I've been here before.
first thing i did, was apologize like HELL
then i just built up the trust agian. step by painful step. I say painful, because while building up my parents trust, there were things i wanted to do that i couldnt do b/c my parents said no, and i wasnt prepared to start all over again...again...again....
it's a really long process, but in the end, its totally worth it.
hope i helped, even a little.
good luck.
JP
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Hey Metal hads out there, i bought the new Lamb of God album from play.com (it came a day early! lol) long story shoooorrrt, the song off the album "Grace" is awesome, shivvers me up everytime i hear the first part turn heavy. was wondering if any of you knew of any other songs like this by other bands? or parts in the song that go soft then blast back through with an excellent riff?
anyways heres a youtube link to the song im listening to, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CR_9hXB3Xm0
thanks you's in advance, ill leave feedback as well seeing as most people dont seem to do it anymore :/ (link)
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well, this should be easy. i love this kinda music.
ok, well, theres "Life is Beautiful" or "Accidents Can Happen", both by Nikki Sixx.
A lot of Godsmack songs are like that. by Godsmack there's "Stress Situation", "Voodoo" and lots of other Godsmack songs are like this.
I hope i helped.
JP
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I'm doing a project for school which is due soon and this is college, so she canceled all classes for us to work on the project with our partners until it's due, so I won't see her to ask, and we've e-mailed but she hasn't responded yet.
Anyway, part of my project is "writing in the discipline" which is writing in my major.
As an elementary education & special education major, I have to answer a question about the toughest & easiest part of writing in the field.
Well, my partner and I decided that we would explain how tough those calendar things a teacher must turn in every summer and have approved are. However, we can't for the life of us remember what they're called.
No, they are not lesson plans (although somewhat similar)! No, they're not outlines. No, they're not really objectives either; however, they' are a mix of the three...
The teacher gets this HUGE calendar looking thing and has to write, in detail, every last thing he/she is doing that day: what book page, what objective, the lesson, the homework, the homework problems, etc. Every LAST detail to be approved by the superintendent or whomever else.
Does anyone know what those calendars are called.
[Yes, we google-searched it...]
Thanks if you do! (link)
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I thi nk it's very simply called a "monthly planning guide"
i googled it and found that. hope that helped.
Good luck with your report.
JP
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I'm 18/f and a college freshman.
I dated this boy on and off throughout high school, and we were still great friends when our relationship ended this past summer. He had been in a really bad, near fatal car wreck last March, but he was recovering and doing more than the doctors ever said he could.
I found out last Thursday afternoon that he had committed suicide last Wednesday night (he had ODd on his pain pills and they found a near empty bottle of everclear next to his bed). I still don't believe it was suicide... I mean, that's what they're saying, but I know him so well and just can't bring myself to believe it... he must have just been in a lot of pain.. IDK.. I guess it was suicide... Anyway, I've been really incredibly angry that he would do that (suicide or not... all those pills and alcohol!) to me, his mom, and his cousin - the three people who loved him most - not to mention any other friends.
A few years ago, his half sister was killed from drinking and driving, and I can't seem to bring myself to think that he would leave his mom all alone...
Rather than making me sad, I'm just .. pissed off that he would do this - leave us all here to wonder why and to pick up the pieces all over again. I'm even more pissed that he's left me here to deal with his sisters death all by myself (her and I were BEST friends, and I blamed myself for her death)...
Anyway... am I crazy for being so angry with him?! I mean, of course I'm sad that he's gone, but my anger is overpowering every other feeling I have... (link)
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I'm sorry for your losses.
but you're not crazy for being angry. any would be, as well as confused.
just remember, neither death had anything to do with anything you did, and that, even if you still feel that way, his mom could really use a friend now, someone who could tell her things that maybe she didn't know.
Good luck.
JP
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i have this really perverted teacher who is hitting on my friend and making really disgusting remarks to me and mt friends and its really starting to freak me out. should i go to a guidence counslor about it so she can do somthing about it? if i do than the problem is i went there last year about a teacher and she might think i have teacher problems. (link)
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this isn't something to keep to yourself. you should tell, and if she doesnt do anything, tell your parents. they will know what to do. just make sure the teachers REALLY hitting on you. he may just be being nice.
Good luck
JP
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I was wondering, AM I AN ALCOHOLIC?
Well, I've been noticing my weird behavior this days. And i really wanna know if i have a problem.
I love partying and drinking.
I love jack daniel and black label. I also drink wine sometimes but i drink beer more often.
I miss school sometimes because of my hangovers and for not sleeping well.
I don't communicate with people like before, i barely answer my phone, it's weird that i have new friends i don't talk to anyone.
I sometimes drink alone in my room, and sometimes i pass out.
i drink literally everyday, not drunk but even having at least 3 or 4 beers.
I do homework while drinking. I drink at school sometimes.
Sometimes i'm dying to get home from school to take a drink.
I hang out with friends more often than before, like i never stay home if i dont need to.
And when i say hang out, i mean chilling at a friend's house just drinking, and others smoking up hash.
I spend all my money on drinks. I would drink and not buy food.
And i've noticed that i drink more everyday to get my head fixed like the night before.
It's bothering me, the need for my drinks and everyday i woke up and go like "CRAP i did not do that yesterday" , or sometimes i just don;t remember some parts.
I got kicked out of a concert for picking a fight with a girl (im a girl), IT WAS embaressing
I made out with zillion of guys when im drunk.
I LOVE DRINKING, i love it's advantages but i can't deal with it's disadvantages, and my lifestyle is shit right now so i can't ask for help from doctor/parents, and if you're gonna suggest a close friend, EVERYONE DRINKS but not as much as me and my close friends.
Any kind of help. (link)
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maybe. seek help. talk to your friends and family. theyy know you better than i do. if they say yes, then seek help. research on line for AA info. friends and family will help you through this, but remember, you can only change if you WANT to change.
Hope this helps.
JP
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i am a 14/f and i was wondering what are some things to do or say when people make fun of you or crack stupid jokes or try to make you feel bad?? like something that will make it seem like i dont care or can laugh along with it rather then something that will make me sound or look bitchy or like a total idiot (link)
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"If you're going to talk to yoursef, at least do so when you're looking in a mirror. It makes you sound less crazy/retarded." is one of my favorite things to say when someone says something tp try to make me feel bad or make fun of me.
When someone cracks a stupid joke, I usually try to luagh, so they don't feel bad, unless it's about me, in which case i either say the above statement or something else. it all depends what the person says.
when i was in 4th grade, for picture day i wore this off-the-shoulder shirt, and my bra straps showed. this girl--who'd always given me problems--said i was a b**** and just trying to show off, so I told her, "yeah, your right. but at least I don't get my clothes from the circus."
She didn't get it at first.
I know you may be thinking, "I said I DIDN'T want to sound bitchy." but that doesn't sound bitchy, it sounds more...smart and quick to make clear that you're not going to take crap from anybody.
people actually may start to respect you, because you can stick up for yourself without violence but with a few simple words.
hope this helped.
good luck.
JP
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im a female, senior at highschool, im on the hockey team.. i'm the captain, well- i have a crush on one of my teammates brothers, who is also a senior at the same highschool as me, and he is also the captain... well it used to be the typical crush that you have but can't tell him. but lately we been talking everytime we see eachother..
it's mostly like "hey drake, you're garbage at hockey! paha" then all we do is just make a playful argument on who is better.. we don't really get a chance to have that much contact, physicaLly cuz we just started to talk. last weekend, he came over with a bunch of our other friends.. and we hung out the whole night..
we ended up going to applebees with everyone, i drove, and EVERYTIME we got in the car, he automatically went in shot gun. i think we have a competetive way of flirting, but it doesn't put eachother down.. i really really like him, he is so dreamy!
his birthday is friday.. i wanna do something so he knows i kinda like him, but not something that makes it seem like im coming on too strong..
heres an idea soo it makes it maybe a little bit more easy so you can branch off ideas.
-im thinking about fillin a balloon with helium writing "Happy birthday drake" on it, then tie the string onto a hockey puck, that has (link)
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I like your idea a lot, but "
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i'm 16. my ex and i went out for 10 month. separated for four and then got back together for two weeks. I foudn out that he had turned into someone totally different/player. So anyway, he texts me again now two weeks after we break up. He was an ass to me. He was being so rude, i don't get it, it gets on my nerves. He said the most hurtful things, for example: I don't care that we aren't together anymore. He was my first real love, so ofcourse its gonna take a while for me to get over him. But wat the hel is his problem. Why does he have to be so freakin rude? what do you guys think? (link)
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its hard to say. people do a number of things for different reasons. no two people think exactly alike.
but i can give you a list of ideas.
1) he's not over you but thinks there's no way you'll take him back so gets over his pain by hurting you
2) he really doesn't care and has no conscience so doesnt care if he hurts you
3) doesn't know how else to treat an ex
4) is scared cause he knows/thinks he did something wrong
hope this helps.
Good luck
JP
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I'm 22/M, average looking, and only had 1 real relationship in my life
I live in Centerville now but graduate college in 4 months, and move to Akron
Names and Towns have been changed.
Cora lives in Town B where I move to. She's kind of a player, but she likes me (has kissed me when I visited last time, I know she likes me) and talks to me online quite a bit. Kind of a drama queen and pretty wild. But I'm really attracted to her and her personality.
Kris lives in current town A. She's the exact opposite, really shy, kind of a different lifestyle than me, but just super sweet and nice (very similar to my personality). Much easier for me to talk to in person than Cora.
Basically I like to party a little too, but I fall right in the middle of Wild Cora and Boring Kris. I don't want to move and have something fall apart with Cora and never have tried anything with Kris. I also don't want to fall for Kris and then move, plus I'm pretty sure I'll hurt Cora's feelings if I get into a relationship.
I also don't want to sit here idly. I'm 22 and have had one hap-hazzard relationship while my friends are already getting married. So I want to try something. It's just weird because I have feelings for both girls. What should I do/Who should I go for? (link)
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communication is very important in every relationship. as a girl, i know face-to-face communication is something very important to most girls when in a relationship.
but no one can tell you who's right for you. that's all yours.
sorry i can't give you any more than that.
good luck.
JP
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so this is a little confusing,...so its gonna be kinda lengthy. bear with me. O.o
soooooo i guess it all started when my boyfriend M said he had a crush on my closest friend when he and i werent going out...the friends name is A. this kind of upset me a bit cuz shes so much prettier and smarter and a lot nicer than me. so it seemed pretty typical to me, but still upset me. and one night a few days before valentines day, we all smoked weed together and such. it was fun, but he looked like he was kind of flirting with her..to me anyways. maybe it was the weed, im not sure. but thats what it seemed like..
so yesterday, my ex, P sold me some weed at M's house, (and P just happens to of been good friends with M since they were really little.) and then we all got high together, and P and i kind of flirted a little, but i didnt know i was until i had started coming down from the high.
and M seemed really upset as soon as i had started to notice. he just laid on his bed and stared at nothing for 2 hours, and then fell asleep. P and i wanted to walk to P's house to get more weed, (i know im mentioning weed a lot, but please do not tell me to stop that. weed has NOTHING to do with my question.) and M said we could go without him. like he didnt even want to be around us. this upset me a bit, and when we got back, M's dad took me home and usually M gets out of the car to hug me and tell me he loves me, but this night he just stayed in the car and said "bye"...but he didnt say it meanly.
anyways, i think P is really cool, and i like smoking with him. but hes not the guy i fell in love with, and i think i was flirting cuz my subconscience was telling me to get back at M for flirting with A. i have no idea. but M usually invites me over everyday, and he hasnt called me yet and its almost lunch time for me. he usually asks at 9. and if, by any chance he DOES ask me over later, what do i say to him? (link)
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I'd tell him exactly what you told me. trust and communication are a big and important factor in every relationship. Its important you always tell each other how you feel and ask each other questions when you have them.
Good luck. i hope that helps.
JP
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My boyfriend and i just started having sex about a month ago. And a couple of times i have bleed. I did lose my virginity to him but i didnt bleed the first time. is it normal to bleed after the first time? we do it more than once at a time ...could it be that? please help (link)
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Yes, it is normal to bleed. It could just be that you were tense during sex. it will stop soon, eventually.
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My last period was on January 16th, my fertile days was on January30 to february 3th,i have intercourse on january 29th after on or two hours i start having some cramps on my lower abdominal through now(4.5 weeks), i supposed to have my period but no period,you think i might be pregnant?
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I'm no doctor, but its sure sounding like the demons pink cross. (watch Juno, you'll get it) it'll also give you some positive feelings.
i'd go to cvs and buy 3 pregnancy tests. don't freak until you know for sure.
2 out of three positives is usually a yes.
Good luck. I wish you well.
JP
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