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I have feelings for two girls what do I do?
I'm 22/M, average looking, and only had 1 real relationship in my life
I live in Centerville now but graduate college in 4 months, and move to Akron
Names and Towns have been changed.
Cora lives in Town B where I move to. She's kind of a player, but she likes me (has kissed me when I visited last time, I know she likes me) and talks to me online quite a bit. Kind of a drama queen and pretty wild. But I'm really attracted to her and her personality.
Kris lives in current town A. She's the exact opposite, really shy, kind of a different lifestyle than me, but just super sweet and nice (very similar to my personality). Much easier for me to talk to in person than Cora.
Basically I like to party a little too, but I fall right in the middle of Wild Cora and Boring Kris. I don't want to move and have something fall apart with Cora and never have tried anything with Kris. I also don't want to fall for Kris and then move, plus I'm pretty sure I'll hurt Cora's feelings if I get into a relationship.
I also don't want to sit here idly. I'm 22 and have had one hap-hazzard relationship while my friends are already getting married. So I want to try something. It's just weird because I have feelings for both girls. What should I do/Who should I go for?
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I know you wanna go for the wild party girl. But the sweet, shy girl might be a keeper. In the end, you might be better off with Kris. I know you know this, that Cora may not be the type of girl that's good for a relationship; but you don't want to miss out on the excitement of being with a girl like her. Maybe you could see Cora, and be sure that she knows that you arent trying to get too involved. and dont let yourself get too involved either. Satisfy your need for Cora before you get serious with Kris. ... Maybe even just being more intuned to how you're feeling about these girls will help you decide. You want both of them, but maybe you may find that you miss or crave a certain one more than the other. then you will be like "but i like the other one too....", but you should go with your initial feelings.
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I think you should go with the sweet shy girl. In the end, I bet she's the one you see yourself settling down with in a few years or so.
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well what i would do is wait till you get to know them both better. Kris could be actually outgoing and fun if you got to know her more,and over time if you talked to Cora,you'd feel more comfortable and more outgoing with her. Its all about what you want in a relationship and trying to match up your interests with theres. Get to know them as friends first,don't rush into a serious relationship just yet! Though being a player isn't really the best thing to notice when you first meet a person,she could change. But be careful not to fall for her too soon,if she's the player you say,she's good at this. Loyalty and trust are both big factors to think about.Get to know them as friends first and base a strong friendship first.That way you can decide which one is more of a friend and which is more a girlfriend.And when you do choose either one-the one you down choose can still be a good friend. Don't say you like either of them yet,or lead them on(not saying you would,but eh,who knows :p). You might just find out that Cora's more down to earth,and Kris is more outgoing. But hay,you're single! Don't limit yourself to just two choices for finding love. I'd play it out as just being yourself and see which one sways you :}. Like you said-just try it out.go with the flow,no rush! You'll know which one to choose-or if its neither of them-eventually. sorry I couldn't give you much more of an answer! hopefully I helped, good luck!
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communication is very important in every relationship. as a girl, i know face-to-face communication is something very important to most girls when in a relationship.
but no one can tell you who's right for you. that's all yours.
sorry i can't give you any more than that.
good luck.
JP
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I think you should go for the person who you feel more comfortable with.Hop I helped you somehow. :)
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Hi,
I feel that you should go for the girl who makes you feel the most comfortable. What i mean by this is go for the girl who you can be yourself with. In my opinion, that seems like Kris. It seems like you have a lot of things in common with her.
Cora is a challenge to you. She loves on the wild side and you like that, which is not unusual. It also seems like you want to live a little and have some fun. There's nothing wrong with that, but don't get into a relationship with Kris if you want to experiment with Cora.
Why not give them both a try and see which one is the right pick for you. Long as you do not have a relationship or committment with either one of them, go for it. I hope this helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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