Hi everybody!I'm a 14,5 year-old girl who enjoys life to the max.I'm happy-I have good family,great friends,an awesome bf,I'm beautiful and smart...What more could a girl ask for?
Anyway,feel free to ask me for advice,I'm glad to give any help needed.
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like i have these issues. sometimes i think im ugly sometimes i think im the prettiest girl in the world. ok this might be a weird question but please take me seriously :/
soo like when i go out, pretty much every guy DOES look at me and a lot of them turn around too. but they never wistle or honk at me. like only sometimes.
so like does basically every girl get looked by almost every guy but only the pretty ones are talked too and stuff? because guys never really talk to me unless they know me. but still they check me out and stuff? like the entire year above me in school were fighting about who will ask me to this dance. but is this normal? of course i was proud i guess but then again, doesnt every girl get looked at when theyre out, no matter if they actually look good or not??
like i really dont get it? and please answer my question and dont tell me i shouldnt bother about that kinda stuff because looks arent everything. i already know that :/ and like i mean i have the feeling that every girl thinks theyre pretty because theere friends say so. like most girls in my class think theyre gorgeous but i know this is mean but almost none of them are even near pretty? so like they have to get the impression from somewhere right? so im just wondering am i one of those 'ugly' girls who thinks theyre pretty because guys look at her even tho guys look at EVERYONE? i dont knoww :/ and im really sorry for this question but its really bothering me and i am NOT trying to be offensive :/ thanks :) xxx (link)
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I've been wondering the same before,but I've come to a very simple conclusion.
First:those girls have their minds in the clouds.
Second:guys check out every girl because they are looking for a potential girlfriend.
And if a guy already is with a girl,he might cheat on her in near future.I don't know for sure,but let me just say I think most of the guys are idiots.Don't think low of yourself-no matter what other people say or think about you,you need to be comfortable in your own body.And besides,you're not one of those ugly girls.Remember-just be yourself!It's not always what others have on their minds when it comes to us.I've had this issue for years but now that I've concluded that unless I accept myself with all the flaws,I can't expect others to cherish me.
Most of the girls you meet will be like that.So stay strong!lol
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yeah i know wat your saying but im not that person alright i'm not like that. (link)
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What exactly are you talking about?Did I insult you somehow?
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Its like this I really like this girl but I'm not in her class or have never talked to her so here's the pitch I get someone to tell her that I like her not to ask her out I'll do that myself but just to see if she likes me back which I think she does You know the slight glance every single day at lunch time and so on and don't worry I'm not just imagining it in my head.I'm not a fool.I was going to ask her out myself but figured why risk getting rejected and embarrassed like that for no reason when I could get someone to see if and that's a Big If she liked me in return so then i would ask her out myself.Finally here's the question what I said above an ok way to go with it and secondly I'm 17 and she's 14 just wondering if that's alright.Bear in mind I'm from Ireland which has a completely different culture from America. (link)
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I think what you've done is ok,but...are you sure you want to date a 14 year-old girl,and you're 17?I don't think that's a good idea.If it turns out she likes you and your relationship takes off,sooner or later you'll get horny and she won't like it,since I assume she ain't gonna give up her virginity at that age.Not just that,but what about her and your parents?Would they approve your relationship?I think not.
You should find a girl your own age.Trust me,a difference in age is way too big for your relationship to work out.I hope this helped you realise a few things.
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Ohkay. So. I really need help here. I honestly dont know what to do.
Me and my boyfriend dated for a while before, (11 months) and we barely talked when we weren't together. But then he started talking to me again, and told me he still reaalllyyy liked me. Now we are dating again, and have been for over a month now.
The thing is, that i just figured out like last week that when we were dating before, (at the end, while we didnt talk as much and fought a lot)he told one of my really good friends that he liked her, and when he did he was trying to be all cute about it with her too. I just found this out a little bit ago and we settled all of that. but now im really concerned about something, he has a really good "best friend" that he always hangs out with, and stuff, and he told me that he liked her before, (while we werent dating or even talking) but the only reason he didnt date her was because they were 'too good of friends at the time'. He's ditched me one or twice for her, and she always get him to call her and stuff. Even today it seemed like i was partictly invisible, we were with other people, but him and i would be standing right beside eachother, and he doesnt even say anything. It seemed like he thinks that he HAS to hang out with me, not wants to.
Too add to all that, this 'best friend' has wanted to cheat on her ex before, while they were dating, and my borfriend is on and off. Somtimes he treats me sooo well, then other days he treats me not as well. He says he trys to do his best to make our relsationship work, but it doesnt always seem like it.
what do i do? :\
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First of all,put him in his place.
I know you might like him,but don't let him treat you like that.Stand up to him and show him your true feelings.The fact that he's sometimes treating you well,and sometimes not,says it all.
He treats you well to make you forget about all the bad things he's done.And if he's flirting with another girl(doesn't matter if it's a best friend or not)he's not true to you.He feels guilty for doing that,and therefore hangs out with you.I'm not really sure what he feels for you,but it's definitely not love.Are you going to stick around and wait to get hurt?Personally,I'd run as far away from him as possible.I think he just likes the idea of having a girlfriend.Find someone who'll treat you with respect,he doesn't even deserve to inhale the same air you do.
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I recently had my first really intimate moment, words cannot describe the way i felt at that moment. If anyone will describe their best intimate moment shared with somebody, i would love to hear it.
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My best intimate moment was on the night after my b-day when my ex bf and I were making love for the very first time.It felt amazing...
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Okay , well i'm turning 16 soon :) & This is a very special time for me! I want the party to go perfectly , and fun. I definatly don't want people leaving and saying " Her party was lame " Or it was boring , ya know ? So I have a couple of questions :)
1) I want party " theme " so give me some cool & good ideas for a theme for my party!
2) GAME! I need games to play , FUN and non-childish games that everyone girls & boys will like! & Easy to do ...
3) Give me some contest I could do , short but fun things ... & prizes
+ So , I need a creative person :) - Thank you so much! (link)
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A party theme could be "White sensation".I saw this at my bff's party,it was really awesome.Everyone was wearing white and the room was decorated with white balloons and the furniture was covered with white blankets,there was a white rug,too.What caught my eye was that white stars were hanging from the ceiling.
As for games,you could play "minutes in heaven"(you know,a girl picks a thing out of the hat and the guy who that thing belongs to goes in a closet with her for a certain amount of time.it is up to them what they want to do,but the point of the game is that they kiss or make body contact,something like that).Also,Truth or dare-it's always fun!I would also recommend a game named "Tag a boyfriend/girlfriend".Here's how it's played:Blind fold one of the sexes and send them off to tag a boyfriend/girlfriend. Once they have tagged someone they have to spend the next hour getting to know each other.It's really interesting.
Make sure you include a limbo contest to get things rolling.You could also make a dance contest.As for prizes,it could be a big piece of birthday cake,little stuffed animals,or for girls some piece of jewelry.
I hope some of my ideas will help you and catch your attention.
Oh,and HAPPY BIRTHDAY in advance!
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well, heres the situation. it is long because i am kind of an emotional wreck right now haha sorry. well, it all started 2 weeks ago when my ex decided he wanted to take a break. everything seemed to be going fine. i mean sure we had the occasional fight every now and then. but thats normal. then out of nowhere he just said he couldnt handle a relationship rite now. or he wasnt mature enough for the committment. i told him i was upset but i went along with the whole break thing. we got in a few fights while on the break because i said i would always love him. he said, "thats what i need a break from. the compliments, the i love yous, the i care u dont? i just need a break from all of that". so i tried to give him his space on this break but i was heart broken. he said he thought it was what we needed and it would be better if we didnt talk. so we didnt talk at all. then he asked me to come over. i said ok. we talked a little about the problems and we solved some things. then we started kissing...... he stopped and looked at me and said,"i dont want to send you mixed signals but i still want to be on this break" it had been a week so i was like ok thats fine. i was just so happy at this point because i hadnt hugged him in a week. so we talked some more and wen i went to hug him he shook his head. i hugged him anyway n he stood there but didnt put his arms out. i muttered something kind of rude and smiled as i walked out of the door. he smirked. this is kind of how we are in fights. well we started to talk a little bit and then yesterday, he told me that he doesnt want to date anyone right now. so this break turned into a break up. we talked about why the relationship wouldnt work and some things he said were
the mutual feeling of no compromise
his jealousy and temper
that we are too much the same
and the biggest one is that he says he doesnt think i speak my mind. he thinks that i change for what i think he wants and that i wont say something because im afraid of how he will react. he says he just wants me to be myself.
well i undersand all this. i feel like we could work out the compromising thing. i think that his jealousy and anger can be fixed and it really doesnt even effect the relationship. i didnt see how us being the same really has anything to do with it. other that the fact we are both stubborn obnoxious sarcastic assholes sometimes. the last one i do understand. i think that is the main reason, i get what he is saying because i think that sometimes i do say things because i think thats what he wants to hear. he says he just wants me to be completely honest with him about everything and i completely understand this now. i feel like i can totally start speaking my mind to him and i told him this. but he said it was too late. he didnt think it could be fixed. this really upset me because i know that i can just be myself around him and i realize now that i need to tell him exactly how i feel and not worry about what he will think. i know the relationship could be fixed because i love him more than anything and im willing to do absolutely anything to get back together with him. but he doesnt think the relationship will work. actually, he is convinced that it wont work. how can i make him understand this and want to be in a relationship with me again? i dont know what do do.
p.s he used to be a player.
we started out as best friends.
i am 18, he is 17.
we are both in love. well i am. he doesnt seem to be acting much liike he cares right now.
we text alot.
live right next to eachother.
arent the best at expressing our feelings somtimes.
he has ALOT of insecurities.
doesnt believe that i love him,
never has believed it. he has lied before in the relationship and never 4gave himself.
feels bad about himself.
have been dating for 6 months.
means the world to me.
please help me get him back.
thank you so much.
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Well,I think you just need to give him some time.I really don't know why he did that,from what you said,you are understanding and a good girlfriend.You said he used to be a player-what if he's playing with YOU?This is just a possibility.It happened to me with my ex boyfriend.He was my everything...He said he needed a break from all the romance,I agreed on that,because I loved him so much,eventually it turned into a break up and I was left heartbroken,and he played with me for almost a year.It turned out he was with me just so he could say he has a girlfriend.Unfortunately,I'm not over him yet,hehe...Your ex bf might not be like that,but be aware of it.Just leave him be.The best way to find out if a guy cares about you is to start ignoring them almost completely.Since you live right next to each other,if he sees you,he'll definitely notice something's wrong.Don't text him or talk to him for a few weeks.I know it'll be hard,but be strong.If he asks you to come back to him,then it's ok,but if he wants to go on a break again some time in the future,ditch him.You don't need a boyfriend who will only see you as someone he can always come back to.And if he doesn't ask you to come back to him,then you need to move on because you weren't meant to be.If it turns out that way,don't rush into another relationship.Give yourself some time to recover,meet more people,hang out with your best friends,and don't be alone.it will only be harder until you get over it.It kinda hurts to hear there are more heartbroken girls out there...But never mind that,no guy is worth our tears!You are young and most likely quite pretty,you'll find someone who will really love you.I notified you about the possible situations,the rest is up to you.I honestly hope I helped you.
p.s. Hold on girl!
Best wishes,
cuteblondegirl94
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Okay so 15 f. Ive had my period since I was 12. Its always been really red except for the really heavy blood clots which were like a dark maroon. Well a few days I got my period for a day and it was pretty light but more brown then red. Then after the day it went away for almost a week. Then today it came back and its really weird. Its like really dark brown basically black and instead of being a liquidy consistency its like pastyish and looks grittyish and then a really beige wetness. I'm not sexually active, so I'm confused. Is this normal?? (link)
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It most likely is.Something like that happened to me too.But if it begins to hurt,or if you're suspicious about it,I suggest you should go to see a doctor.
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my friend/ the guy i liked and he liked me back expelled and said he was gnna kill himself so i told the principal when we were getting questioned and he neede dproof so i showed him an mns convo where my friend lets call him bob said he was gunna kill himself and the guy who got him expelled and the principal got the police involved and now as far as i know i got him arrested. now i feel really bad and i think he hates me but i haven'/t been in contact wiht him but he has been on mns in the past couple of days what should i do? (link)
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First of all,you've done a good thing.
You've prevented your friend from killing that other guy and himself.I think he should be grateful.Anyway,try talking to him and see where it leads.If it doesn't work,let him cool down,then try again.I hope I helped you somehow.
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okay this is kinda long but I'm just desperate for answers. okay there's this guy that I liked since last May and before I started liking him, he would always stare at me, whenever I would pass by him, he wouldn't look at me until I turn around to look at him then I see him looking back at me and when I told him on msn that I liked him, he said he had a girlfriend but after that, he would still stare at me so we spoke on msn a couple of times after the incident. thing is, he's confusing me because sometimes it seems like he's avoiding me and sometimes it seems like he's not. we spoke on msn last december and we were talking fine, he asked me if I had a date in mind for prom and I told him not and I said: do you? and he said: I think so, then today I decided to msg him on msn and we spoke for a little bit then I said something last and then he set his status to away and he didn't reply for over an hour then he signed off...i don't know if I should just get over him or just keep trying to talk to him to get to know him better btw, he seems shy. my friend is planning on hooking me up with another guy who she knows and I think the guy is cute but he reminds me of my crush...they look too much alike:S I don't know if that's healthy for me...what should I do?
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First of all,you need to play cool.
If that first guy says he has a girlfriend,but still gives you some hints he might like you,it could be true.Do you know for sure if he has a gf?Maybe he's shy,and doesn't want you to know.On the other hand,he might not feel anything for you.If your crush talks to you and then ditches you,it's not good.That other guy could like you,and even though he looks a lot alike your crush,it doesn't mean that they are a lot alike.Frankly,no matter how much you like someone,if you have any pride,you will back away from him.But before you do anything,think about what you really want,to avoid any regrets.Personally,I'd let your friend do her thing...
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I'm not really sure how to put on makeup. I also don't know what would look good on me. I have brown hair and blue/gray eyes. anything can help! (link)
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Choose make-up that matches the colour of your skin and use only natural colors for the best effect.
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Is there any way to see if I am pregnant before my missed period? Waiting is soo nerve-wracking :( (link)
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Well,you could use a pregnancy test to know for sure.
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me and my bf just went on a break. he said he just needed some time away from the whole relationship love thing. i didnt really understand but i said ok. not like i could really make him change his mind. at 1st he said he still wanted to talk. just not hang out. so i was like ok then. then wen i told him how upset i was about the break he sed he couldnt deal with all the compliments and i love yous and i care u dont? so i guess maybe i was being too clingy? i dont know becuase he said all that stuff to me too and he seemed fine with it all until one day out of the blue he said he needed a break. but now we are not even talking at all because we were texting and he said well ill talk to you later. so i said ok? and he said yep bye. so i dont know but he seems mad and doesnt want to talk to me now. i am really upset becuase i love him alot and dont know where all this came from. could there be another girl? or is he afraid of commitment? should i talk to him or give him space? should i make him jealous? what should I do? i have so many unanswered questions and i just want to do the right thing because i really want him back because i love him so much and he told me he loved me too (link)
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The exact same case as mine was.Be careful,this could mean you'll lose him for good.He might love you,even though it sounds like he's not really into the relationship as you are.Give him some space for now.I say:don't do anything reckless like try to make him jealous or make a scene.Don't show him you're upset,play it cool.And don't talk to him too often-once a week should do.Or don't talk to him at all for now.
This guy definitely has commitment issues,just as my ex did.By the way,keep an eye on him-he might be trying to create the distance between you slowly so you don't suspect anything,because there is a possibility he likes another girl.Don't take this too seriously-this is just a thing you should be aware of.Stay away from him for a while-if he loves you,he'll ask you to be with him again.
p.s. If this kind of thing happens again after a certain amount of time,then he's playing with you.In that case,ditch him.
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last week i went on a school trip, skiing, and there i met this guy; nothing happened. but now, i can't stop thinking about him!!! and theres no way of contacting him or anything. but i can't get him out of my mind!!! do have anything you think i could try to get him out of my head? (link)
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You'll forget about him soon.You could do something fun-like dancing,going to the gym,listening to music,reading,etc.Use that to keep your mind off of him,that helped me when I was in a similar situation.Hope it helps you too.
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This is weird, but something Ive always wondered about. Ive kissed and made out with plenty of guys, but usually no longer than like five minutes. I hear about people making out for like hours and stuff. Seems like you would run out of breath and stuff. Is that an exaggeration? Doesnt it get boring? Maybe its just me, but I dont get it. (link)
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It might not be an exaggeration if you want to make out with someone for so long.It happened to me.It doesn't get boring if you try new things while making out,like touching different spots,sitting or lying in different ways,and so on.It all depends on what you want at the time.
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I'm 22/M, average looking, and only had 1 real relationship in my life
I live in Centerville now but graduate college in 4 months, and move to Akron
Names and Towns have been changed.
Cora lives in Town B where I move to. She's kind of a player, but she likes me (has kissed me when I visited last time, I know she likes me) and talks to me online quite a bit. Kind of a drama queen and pretty wild. But I'm really attracted to her and her personality.
Kris lives in current town A. She's the exact opposite, really shy, kind of a different lifestyle than me, but just super sweet and nice (very similar to my personality). Much easier for me to talk to in person than Cora.
Basically I like to party a little too, but I fall right in the middle of Wild Cora and Boring Kris. I don't want to move and have something fall apart with Cora and never have tried anything with Kris. I also don't want to fall for Kris and then move, plus I'm pretty sure I'll hurt Cora's feelings if I get into a relationship.
I also don't want to sit here idly. I'm 22 and have had one hap-hazzard relationship while my friends are already getting married. So I want to try something. It's just weird because I have feelings for both girls. What should I do/Who should I go for? (link)
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I think you should go for the person who you feel more comfortable with.Hop I helped you somehow. :)
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16 f, Long Distance Relationship.
I dated this guy for a few months and everything seemed fine. Every few weeks he'd come into town and we'd spend time together, we'd text and IM everyday, talk to eachother on the phone etc.. until one day he decided to break it off. He never really gave me a reason but I was heartbroken. I really cared for this guy. We decided we'd try and be friends and if it was meant to be we'd end up together again.
A few weeks later he tells me he misses me and wants me back. I told him I missed him to but if he wanted to be with me he had to really make an effort now. (Traditional dates, hanging out) and he agreed to it. Then a few days after that he broke it off AGAIN. I was fed up so I didn't talk to him for a week or so.
Now hes back, and I told him if he really wants me he has to TRY and until we can be functional again, i can't be his girlfriend. For the first few days he's sweet and caring and then afterwards you can TELL he loses interest again.
I'm so over all this back and forth. I DESERVE better than that. I deserve a guy who can make up his mind and be stable with me. Im sick of being toyed around with.
How can I really and truely stop going back to him. I feel like he just doesnt care as much as he thinks he does, and everytime he loses interest i just keep getting hurt. I love him with all my heart, but I need to move on.
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The same thing happened to me.I just stopped texting him and talking to him,and I was avoiding him for a while.Then I lost it and went back to him,but this time I ditched him,even though I still had feelings for him.He stopped asking to see me and that was it.Soon after I fell in love with another guy.So,the thing is keep him away from you and look for someone who'll treat you better,with respect.You may think you're in love with him,but as time passes you'll forget about him.Just as I forgot about my ex.There are plenty guys out there who won't be a total jerk to you like this guy is.Be strong and show him he can't play with you.If I were you,I'd ditch him for good.That's my opinion.Hope it helped. :)
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16/F I have a boyfriend (17/m), and he is wonderful. he is sweet, kind, fun, compgassionate, and everything i thought i would never find. Yes i know im young, there for i cant possiably be in love, right. Sorry thats bull. I cant really explain it, i just know you know? I love him. thats not the problem tho. we got in a little trouble together a while back. nothing illeagle or life threatening tho. The first time, i let him in the house when he wasn't supposed to be. Long story but he was covered in scraches and mud, i had to let him use the bathroom to get cleaned up. Poor guy, wouldn't you have helped him? the second time, i skiped a day of school. ya bad i know, but it was during finals, but i had already finished the finals for those classes, and it was a PARTY day. Beasides i DID plan to go back for rehearsal. so anyway, now my mom is soo hateful toward my boyfriend, she keeps telling me how she dosn't trust us, but mostly him, how he is SUCH a bad, stupid guy and she is always dogging him. you have no idea how hurtful it is to have your mom being so hateful toward the man i love. plus there are things i need her support on, things im supposed to be able to trust her on, and i cant. i cant trust or talk to my own mother. i dont know what to do. (link)
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I totally understand you.
My mom was like that with my ex.She knows what boys in your age do and she's afraid he might hurt you(or do something that would make you feel bad).I'm not saying he would,but that's certainly what she thinks.Give her time to accept him and let her know that even though she acts towards him as she does,you love him and that won't change.But be strong!It sounds like your mom is a sort of a person who won't give up on her opinion so easily.
If you can't get her approval,well,you'll have to live with it.Parents can't live our lives for us,there are things we must do alone.They aren't always right.If you are certain you love this guy,keep him by your side.And it's not true you can't be in love.Those are shallow thoughts of adults who weren't happy in love.The point is-keep the bf,no matter what happens.
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i got my period last night around 6:00, and it was very light and was only the 'brown stuff'. when i woke up this morning, i didn't have my period at all, and i still don't have it. i've been having every pms symptom i usually have.
will i still get my period? or was that it?
does it mean something's wrong or anything?
16/f
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There shouldn't be anything wrong.It happened to me too,and I got my period a few days later.So don't worry.:)
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Let me give you some background information: (If it helps any?)
I'm 21 yr old african american female, he's a 31 yr old caucasion male...
Here's what's up....
1) I've liked him since August of 2008.
2) We're pretty close (especially now)... we've been on 3 "dates"...
3) We haven't kissed, we simply hug...
4) Anytime we depart, he tells me to be careful and to have a good night...
5) He's such a gentleman... he holds the door for me, offers to carry my stuff, offers me his jacket, pays on dates and stuff...
6) He's always staring at me....and smiling too.
7) I find him always trying to get close to me... and when he does he touches me gently in non-provocative ways...
8) He's quiet (and when he is, he says cause I'm listening to you)
9) He took the time out to show me where he grew up and the schools he went too...
10) He's opened up to me about his past relationships...
Well I can't think of anything else right now... any ideas....
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I think he does like you.If you're not quite sure,wait for a little while to see if there will be any more signs.But judging by this,he likes you a lot.
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