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boyfriend back stabber?
Ohkay. So. I really need help here. I honestly dont know what to do.
Me and my boyfriend dated for a while before, (11 months) and we barely talked when we weren't together. But then he started talking to me again, and told me he still reaalllyyy liked me. Now we are dating again, and have been for over a month now.
The thing is, that i just figured out like last week that when we were dating before, (at the end, while we didnt talk as much and fought a lot)he told one of my really good friends that he liked her, and when he did he was trying to be all cute about it with her too. I just found this out a little bit ago and we settled all of that. but now im really concerned about something, he has a really good "best friend" that he always hangs out with, and stuff, and he told me that he liked her before, (while we werent dating or even talking) but the only reason he didnt date her was because they were 'too good of friends at the time'. He's ditched me one or twice for her, and she always get him to call her and stuff. Even today it seemed like i was partictly invisible, we were with other people, but him and i would be standing right beside eachother, and he doesnt even say anything. It seemed like he thinks that he HAS to hang out with me, not wants to.
Too add to all that, this 'best friend' has wanted to cheat on her ex before, while they were dating, and my borfriend is on and off. Somtimes he treats me sooo well, then other days he treats me not as well. He says he trys to do his best to make our relsationship work, but it doesnt always seem like it.
what do i do? :\
please help.!
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I'm definitely one who's all about communication in relationships. Talk things out before you decide to end it but not this time. You need to get rid of that boy. I'm tellin ya, any boy who has a best friend of the opposite sex definitely has a thing for them. ALWAYS. She doesn't seem like she plays a very innocent role either. She's probably provoking him to cheat on you anyway.
When you love someone, you don't ignore them when your out with other people either.
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Try talking to him, Tell him that you don't think you two communicate much and you want to try doing things together even if it's free. Walking, Going to the beach, Picnic etc. Try to find things you both like to do, Things that will put you in a situation where you would communicate. If he still likes his best friend then tell him straight up, It's her or you. You shouldn't have to put up with that afterall he is YOUR boyfriend. If he continues to text/talk/see other girls then he isn't worth your time. Communication is the key in every relationship and so is trust. If it feels like a burden for him to be around you then you shouldn't have to put up with that either and it might be time to move on and find someone who will enjoy being with you and doing things together. Remember, If it does go down that road it was his loss all along. If he actually tried to make it work then he would try to communicate and do things with you.
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First of all,put him in his place.
I know you might like him,but don't let him treat you like that.Stand up to him and show him your true feelings.The fact that he's sometimes treating you well,and sometimes not,says it all.
He treats you well to make you forget about all the bad things he's done.And if he's flirting with another girl(doesn't matter if it's a best friend or not)he's not true to you.He feels guilty for doing that,and therefore hangs out with you.I'm not really sure what he feels for you,but it's definitely not love.Are you going to stick around and wait to get hurt?Personally,I'd run as far away from him as possible.I think he just likes the idea of having a girlfriend.Find someone who'll treat you with respect,he doesn't even deserve to inhale the same air you do.
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