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I'm a nineteen year old girl whos dreams are to help the world. But for now, I'll start on Advicenators :)I can't say I can relate to every question that comes my way (probably most though!), but I guarantee I'll understand. And sometimes that's all you need...a little understanding :)
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my clio palmperfect is a women's razor, and it says you can use it wet but it can not be submerged in water. but my sister dropped it in the tub (i don't know why she had it in the first place) anyways, now it's not working. is there any way i can fix this?
i've heard that if you put a waterlogged electronic in rice it will drain it of water and you can use it again?
Blow dry it with a hairdryer!
Me and my boyfriend just started going out.we were talking for probably about 6 weeks and started going out 2 weeks ago.He says he likes me a lot and i like him a lot too.but these things make me feel like he doesn't like me: he doesnt text me that often,and when he does ...its not for very long.We don't hangout everyday and on the weekends we will make plans and he will sometimes not even call me to cancel them,which thats usually on friday night.Saturday night we usually hangout all night and then he doesnt text me sunday (and if he does,its not much) then on monday i see him a lot during school and i have a class with him.I drop him off at home after school some days and some days we hangout after school,which is really good.but on the days i drop him off,i sometimes don't hear from him until late at night.He never really does cute things either .like i never get cute texts and such.He kisses me in school and stuff ,so i know he likes me.I just really want to hangout more and talk more and ive talked to him about it and he says "im sorry,im just doing stuff or sleeping or my phone dies" and i told him that when he can't hangout to just call me and tell me ,instead of not saying anything...and he says hes gonna change that but he still hasn't. Maybe its to early in our relationship,and i guess its good to move slow.But i just get the feeling that he forgets about me : /
Good news, your not married! :) Bad news, you never will be. To this boy, anyway. haha :)
He's not going to change when it comes to the cute texts and such. And the continuous lame excuses...yeah their still going to continue. He's either A) Just not that kind of guy or B) He's just not that into you
WHICH IS PERFECTLY FINE EITHER WAY!
If it's A, all that means is you two aren't meant to be and your both looking for something else in a relationship. That's what relationships are all about, right? Looking for what ya want and what ya don't want which eventually leads you to your true prince charming ;) Basically all it means if he's not your type.
If it's B, well, all that means is your just not his main squeeze. That's ok.
If you want my opinion, I'd break up with him for the soul purpose of "It's just not gonna work."
so my girlfriend and i both drink well we have our ups and downs just like every couple but when we fight its always my fault she will say i always am in a bad mood or get upset about somethin everytime we drink and if we hanging with ppl she will be like it was cool hangin guys but ig otta go cuz shes(me) actin dumb. and it always my fault i do this or that or i want everything my way and i dont. and i always hurt her but she can never hurt me. what can i do? i dont wanna leave her because i do love her.
This is where all couples go wrong. You need to have an open communication about your feelings. See, people are in relationships for a reason. THAT person we all choose to be with is there for support, to be your best friend, to be the person you know you can always go to when you feel the whole world is against you. If she's making you feel like shit about your self by always blaming you, you need to tell her how you feel. Tell her in a heartfelt way. Don't be defensive about it. If she respects your feelings and says something along the lines of "I'm sorry I made you feel that way and I'll work on it" then work it out :) If she proves she doesn't have respect for your feelings, it's time to end that relationship.
15/f. I'm sorry if this is all over the place and choppy, I'm just going to type things as they come into my head, which is really unorganized. Firstly, I know it's just a normal teenage thing, but I've been feeling the weirdest things lately. Like this morning, I was in a bad mood when I woke up, really happy when I got to school, and then went back into a terrible mood once second block rolled along. I haven't really been happy lately.
I've never exactly been skinny... about a year and a half ago, I started not eating much. I never went more than a day without eating, and it only lasted about a week, but in that week I lost sixteen pounds, and ten more in the next month or so. It made me feel accomplished that I had that kind of power over my body. I told my friend Corey first, who I now have a huge crush on... we aren't even really that close, and I don't know why I told him, I just did. I could tell he felt uncomfortable when I told him, which I think partially ruined my chances with him now. And I still think about starving myself.... Sometimes I'll go for a few days without eating a lot. I get upset and mad at myself if I look at the scale and it says I'm over 130.
Awkward jump in subject, my mom has a boyfriend. My parents split up when I was 7, so I only have a few memories of my dad living here. I feel really selfish, but I just don't like having another man here when I can barely even remember my own father in this house. Plus, I've heard him and my mom before... If you all get what I mean. Personally, I think that is extremely inconsiderate... not to mention gross. He sleeps over every weekend.
Another jump... I have mutilated myself before... as in cut myself. Not badly, and I've only bled once, but I have done it. I don't know how I feel about that. I have light scars on my arm, and I don't mind that they're there... I wasn't even really depressed when I did it. I mostly only did it when my mom and sisters would fight.... They'd be downstairs screaming and swearing at each other and it would just make me so mad. It still does. I just hate listening to them. I don't cut myself any more, but I do think about it. Sometimes when I get really upset and don't know what to do with the crazy feelings in my head, I'll bite myself... I know, that's really weird. I've never told anybody before... It just feels good to get my energy out like that. I'll usually bite my arms, and it doesn't leave a permanent mark. I only bite hard enough that I feel some pain and that's it. I've never bled because of it, and it's always gone the next day.
I'm sorry again to anyone who has read this because I understand if it's a waste of time. I just had to get some of that out, and I figured this would be a good way to do it. Sort of like an online diary. And I'm hoping that someone can relate to me.. I really feel like I don't fit in sometimes. I just hate it. I feel so stupid and insignificant sometimes, and like I'll be alone for my whole life. Haha, that's pathetic. Sorry again for anyone reading this. But thank you to anyone who's still with me and has read the whole thing. Does anyone know how I feel? Or have any ideas of how I can be a little happier, or just less insecure? I know I'm sort of unclear about my problems.
Thank you so much to anyone who can help me understand all of the things I'm going through and feeling :)
Sometimes knowing other people feel the same way helps a lot. So I hope I help when I say I can relate and know where your coming from :)
I've had my issues with eating disorders. My mother's had her fair share of boyfriends...and I hate it when they come around. Which I feel selfish about sometimes.
As far as your want to hurt your self...I think it all comes down to you feeling lonely and like you don't belong anywhere.
Best way to get over your fears, is to face them. There's no better way to do that than to GET INVOLVED! So I recommend joining stuff at your school or outside, doesn't matter. Just try to think of stuff your into and try finding a club that you feel you could be apart of. You know?
ok soo sometimes my boyfriend will get off really quick but then other times it takes him foreverr like my arm gets tired lol but i just wanted advice on like how to get him off faster...like what part should i concentrate on? and if i let him play with my boobs or do something that turns him on to me would it get him off faster or is that just like w.e.? thanks for your help.
Breath in his ear ;)
Hey Advicenators! I've been having some issues lately and it seems like blood sugar maybe, I don't know! And, so, I was hoping somebody knew something about diabetes. Like, what are the signs and symptoms of diabetes? How do I know if I have diabetes? And, heck, how do people get diabetes anyway? I know it's a disease and messes with blood sugars and stuff so ... yeah :\ I don't want to have it but if I do I guess I have to see a doctor
Its not something you can diagnose through the internet. You have to get blood work done. I have diabetes. Signs can be urinating a lot, drinking a lot, loosing weight.
What makes you think you have diabetes? You could be hyperglycemic or hypo.
ok so i don't know if this question should be in health or what but i need help now! me and my friend(lets call her "stacy") have been friends for a long time. But ever since she joined the track team, she's been OBSESSED with her weight! she's lost a ton of weight in only like a month or two of track. whenever we hang out she always complains about being fat even though she looks skinnier than she should be. she hardly ever eats much and complains the entire time about how much calories are in them. she once told me that she was skipping periods and i know thats because she's exercising sooo much and not eating enough. she exercises day in and day out and whenever i see her, she always tries to talk me into going for a jog or exercising in some way. her mom has once told her that shes worried about her and all of her friends think the same thing. what i'm trying to say is, what should i do?
I had an eating disorder for 2 years. Trust me, she has one too.
She's developed an obsession with perfection. You need to talk about this with her mom. If all this started due to track, she might need to take a break from track.
how can i spice things up with my boyfriend, weve ben together almost a year :) but its starting to go bleh.
We need more information. Like, how old you guys are. Are you intimate and if so, to what extent. Live together? WHAT?!?
Okay i used to live in E but I'm originally from S (i lived in E for 5 years but occasionally in summer break i would visit in S)
So suddenly my amazing (note the sarcasm) parents thought "hey why don't we send her to live in S, she might be a better person than a failure there", cruel fuckers? yeah i know
anyway back to the point I'm trying to make ... Every summer i used to come to Syria, i start having friends, but only hang out with this particular one which we will call T (he is a male), this guy is so cool and i love hanging out with him all the time, he is like my freaking idol you know and i've known him for 2 years even though we only spoke in summer breaks and hang out and no i never developed feelings towards him, he is just a friend but an idol also because he rocks ass
so when i moved here 2 months ago, i discovered he has a girlfriend which i got along with (it's really rarely because i don't get along with my own sex, i like hanging out with guys better) pretty fine.
but the first week i hang out with T , he was pissed at L (his ex girlfriend now), because after 1 year of dating, she asked for a break because she wanted some space and i thought he was one of those guys who is open minded and understands, but he was surprisingly the very opposite which was a surprise as you see
so while they were on a break, he was drunk and confessed that he's been liking me since i was dating his friend two years ago which was creepy for me, but anyways i made it clear to him that i don't date and i don't like him that way and i don't like this type of guys (I'm extremely honest i can make you uncomfortable), anyways we put that behind us and i got a c all that he and L is friends now and by time they will get back together which is awesome because he doesn't want me anymore so no stalking, which is great really
anyway we hang out a lot, and i really like L which is weird like i said i don't get along with girls much but she is different and cool enough for me to like her.
so one day suddenly i meet up with both of them and find them having a HUGE fight, like seriously, T was so rude to L i wanted to snap his head off and my idea of him being my idol changed completely, i mean he told her it's okay to have space and time to decide wether she wants to get back with him and then suddenly he goes like
"I don't care if you decide or not, because I'm leaving your bitch ass, you know L, you're like a pair of my shoes, when i finish with them i throw them away, and now i'm throwing you away"
That's like only 1% of the stuff he said to her which was horrible, but it's not my problem so i couldn't get in between them at all, like i had no right to speak so i watched him telling her horrible mean disgusting stuff for about two hours, i know I'm very patient, anyway but she was so scared of him she didn't say anything in return. I was disguised with them but i didn't really care you know
so the day after he invited me to a party where we all got drunk, and then while going back home, he was dropping me, he asked me "Did you talk to L today?" and i replied "No" and i was about to continue and say 'actually i was thinking about calling her' but he beat me to it and said "Good because i don't you to speak to a bitch like her", i stared at him shocked and said "you can't tell me what to do" and he said " i don't care, it's either me or L"
so i snapped (i was drunk) and start yelling stuff like "i don't care either she didn't do anything wrong and don't put me in this situation" and stuff like that but he was smiling at me all the time like giving me a look 'i-will-take-my-revenge-back-if-you-talk-L'
but i ignored him, said bye and got out of the cab
I didn't call him since but he never calls me because my phone is taken away from (yes I'm always grounded) he always waits until i call him
two days later which is today L called me and i went out with her and i told her what happened, it was slipped out of my tongue because i was pissed
Now i have no idea, a guy i know for 2 years and a girl for 2 months, but she is not wrong and he is wrong, and somehow I'm thrown in the middle, loosing my mind almost going to stop speaking to both.
Now i would like my faithful readers who read all of that for some very comforting advice because I'm going to snap on anyone who comes my way, thanks =]
WOW chick. Anyone ever call you hotheaded? I can totally tell you are just by reading this. Cause ya know, I'm a faithful reader and all ;) haha
ANYWAY. I'm blunt. Your idol friend is a dick. A controlling dick. He obviously has no respect for woman and walks around thinking he is the shit.
Considering L just sat there and took it, tells me he usually goes for mellow recessive chicks who would never dare stand up to him. That's cool for L and all, but your not that kind of person.
You know whats right and wrong. We all do. But you seem like the type of person who actually stands up for what she KNOWS is right.
Don't let that prick change ya know. I think you should stand by L' side on this. It doesn't matter how long you've known someone. What matters is the friendship they prove through out the time you have known each other.
I'm not here to tell you what to do. I'm here to give advice and you take as much as you can to use it to your best advantage. With that being said, I think you know what you need to do.
:) Hope I helped!
soo i met this one guy a couple months back and i have reallly stong feelings for him. but right before i bet him, him and his girl broke up. they had been going out for about two years on and off. and thats along time considering hes 19 and shes 17. and im 16 btw haha. anddd he lives in a different state :/ but ignore that fact haha.
anyways. we talk everyday. hes the type that goes out and parties so i get really lonely at night when we arent talking and he seems like hes interested in me cause he calls me babe and baby and stuff and he told me when im 18 i can come live with him and stuff. and when we like stop talking during the day cause hes busy or im busy he says love you and stufff. and he just gives my signs that he does. but at the same time i feel like he just does it to do it if you know what i mean? he the realllly horny type too so idk if what to think. and i dont wanna ask him cause we have never met and stufff so i dont wanna get all serious on him ahha
but today we didnt talk the whole day so i was like ok whats up with that? cause we always tlak. i texted him a couple hours ago and he said "sorry i dont htink of you. i dont even have time for myself. sorry girl" i dont really know what that is suppose to mean. and he was like acting really weird. and i asked him what he wss doing and he said thinking and im like bout what and he said everything. he was just giving me some weird answers. and im like welll ill leave you alone and he said im just gonna go try to sleep. and hes like sweet dreams babe.
so can someone help me out here. he tells me im beautiful and stufffand he makes me smile. and gives me hints that he likes me but at the same time im just like idkkk?
so what do you guys think of this or what i should do?
ps. dont say anything about us being in differnet states or that fact we have never met. thats not what im asking about so dont talk about that.
Your a sweet girl. One who obviously is too sweet to really read signs.
But you explained everything and I will...translate :)
He's a flirt. He has another chick on his mind. Your not his main squeeze. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing your really into him and he can have you whenever HE wants. That's a lot of power to give to someone.
Move on. And fast.
Hi :)
This may be a stupid question and I'm probably overreacting but lately, whenever I have my period, I get this weird pain down there when I have it put in or take out a tampon. It almost feels like a headache in my uterus. Weird, right? It only happens a couple of the days out of my period. For instance, I'll put a tampon in and then I get like a crampy pain. The same thing happens when I take it out.But after a couple minutes the pain stops. Is that common? Any advice is highly appreciated. Thanks for your time and help :)
The reason is because your not sticking the tampon in enough.
OR the tampons you are using are just a tad too short.
We're all differently angled "up there". It's normal.
15/F
i've like this guy for a while, since we just started being friends. Since then, we've become much closer friends. Although he is my guy best frien, i've developed strong feelings for him. A few of my other friends say he most likely has feelings for me to, but i don't know whether to believe it or not.Part of me thinks he likes me, but the other part questions that if he liked me, wouldn't he have said or done something about it by now? Should i tell him how i feel in chance that we may have a relationshio together, or should i remain silent, hoping my feelings will blow over and keep our valued friendship? Please help. Thank You :)
Personal experience: I've been with my best friend for 5 years now and I'm madly in love :)
But no, if he had the same feelings for you, he would definitely NOT do anything about it. As hard as it is to believe, guys fear rejection a hell of a lot more than girls. ESPECIALLY at your age.
I would personally say something. What's the worst that could happen? He'd say I'm sorry, I don't feel the same way. If you think about it, that's not really a big deal.
But if you feel that connection that he probably is feeling the same way, then I'm sure rejection won't ruin the conversation ;)
Good luck!
I'm 17. i just broke up with this guy who ive been on and off with since middle school. i thought i loved this guy but he ended up treating me like i was less than him and spreading semi private things about me. the worst part is, ive tried to move on by dating other guys but i don't feel that same passion and connection with them. i think my ex feels the same. I know i should just move on but i just cant get close to anyone but my ex. so what's more important, connection or getting along 100% of the time?
I'll be 18 in a few days and have been with my boyfriend since the 7th grade :) So thanks for coming to me with this question!
CONNECTION is more important. No couple gets along 100% of the time. But what's more important than connection is RESPECT. If he's spreading private things about you, that is disrespectful, immature, and not a sign that you love someone.
Obviously you still care about him very much and you think he feels the same way. Just remember, when it comes to love, you really can't help your feelings at ALL.
Here's how I look at:
You tried getting over him. You tried dating other people. It's just not working. Not saying you two will be together forever, but I just don't think NOW is the best time to end it. Communication is key in EVERY healthy relationship. It what helps get through those hard times and eliminates most future ones.
I think you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Everything. How you tried getting over him by seeing if you had a connection with someone else, but no one compared to the connection you only got with him. BUT this time you need to tell him things NEED to change. If he l loved you like he said he did, he wouldn't of disrespected you by spreading rumors and making himself seem better than you (WHICH by the way IS because he feels your more successful than him. He's jealous) But work it out. You need to tell him how you feel about why you love him, and what needs to happen so things could work.
Hope I help!
me and my boyfriend are one of those couples who break up and still act like couples evn though not together. which i dont like i do want to do the things we do if we're not together so i asked him to get back together he's like whenever we get back together we end so horribly.. just give it another chance im willing to try again i think it will work and he's like im sorry but i just dont think it'll work. i got in deep depression after that i mean i had sex with this guy when we weren't dating thinking oh yeah he loves you and he'll eventually ask you out again and what not but he didn't. and because of this depression i started to go out alot to try and get my mind off the pain but i only had guy friends girls tend to not like me much so i started hanging with guys and he got jelous and i'm like this is my way of getting over u so back off and he's like i still care about you be careful being just 1 girl with a whole lot of guys is dangerous. and i'm like stop caring for me if i feel you care about me i'm never going to move on just let me go. he's like i can't i want to get back together but we wont work. and i'm like whatever you believe is what is going to happen in our relationship you have to be positive and let us face these problems together talk and work it out. if you want it to work it will and he's like im sorry we just can't. so the next day we acted like total buddies we were just laughing and having a descent conversation over msn and phone. i tried jelousy on him i tried being angry and showing him that we can make it if we try i tried being a friend to him but should i just keep being like "chilled out" like a buddie to him and maybe later on he'll come back. be the party girl he worries about and he'll come back? or just argue and he'll come around because he'll think he's wrong? i don't know what to try to get him back!
Try the buddie buddie thing.
Party girl will not work. I mean, it could, but not in the long run. He'll only get back with you because he's afraid of you getting with someone else. That is what his whole mind set will be on "Don't let her get with another guy!!!" How to fix problem? "Ask her back out."
Don't forget, guys have a one track mind. When their faced with a problem, they simply think of an easy solution to solve it.
If that's what his one track is filled with and he solves it, the relationship is bound for destruction.
Which is why buddie buddie will work. You will eventually be able to discuss the issues you two had throughout your relationship and what happened for WHY it never worked. Discuss the thing you two need to change.
If he sees "Hey, maybe we both know what we need to work on, and we can be together again" then Good luck! :)
i'm 18/female. my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 amazing months. we've been best friends for several years and our relationship is awesome. it was an instant connection. we've even considered getting married in a few years because our connection was just amazing and our love goes really deep. we're both strong Christians and very open with each other. he'd told me when we first started dating that he'd struggled with porn. last night he told me that it had been gay porn and he still struggles with it. he said he thinks he might be attracted to guys and girls. he says he is still completely in love with me but wanted to be honest and didn't want this to break us up. i agreed to stay with him and try to help him though this. it's killing me though. i don't want to break up with him at all, but i have no idea what to do. i can't tell anybody because i'm the only one who knows so i'm doing this anonymously. my whole body is in physical pain struggling with this. i can't think straight. i need help. any advice from anybody out there would be great. tell me the truth please. that's what i want. please i'm begging. i don't know what to do or say. i want to "change" him, but i know i can't. it's his struggle but now i'm trying to help and i have no idea what to do. i don't want to turn him away anymore. i need him and he needs me. but i don't want to be used as a cover because he doesn't want anybody else to know. please help me. thank you.
Don't think of yourself being used as a "cover up" please.
WELL here's how I look at this. You said your both strong Christians. With that being said, I'm sure you also believe God works in mysterious ways and would never give you anything you couldn't handle.
FIRST you need to have a talk with him basically bluntly stating "I NEED to know, do you think your bi, or gay? You HAVE to be honest because it's only fair to me AND you too."
Weather he's bi or gay, he can't have you AND a man too. (I'm totally assuming you would NOT be ok him dating you AND a man) If you are considering that in order to keep the relationship, STOP.
You need to let him know, for your sake, he can never be with a man if he is dating you. There are too many disease out there, and that is still cheating.
Basically, I met a girl a few months ago and shes amazing, pretty, smart, funny, etc...
Anyways, after talking for a long time I tell her how I feel about her, and then she says she feels the same way. But, her boyfriend constantly treats her like garbage, he'll yell at her, tell her shes a dumb b**ch and a c*nt all the time. When she tries to stand up for herself, he says leave. They argue all the time but she doesn't want to end it because they've been together for 3 years going on 4. She's always crying to me about how big of a jerk this guy is to her, I'm telling her she's crazy to stay and she can do better. But she just doesn't see it. She ended up going home for a few days last week, I was excited and happy for her. Now she's just going right back into it.
He's never treated her right, he cheated on her, used to hit her, now its apparently just verbal abuse, but I have my suspicions.
She feels she's too in love with him still to leave, and it's just killing me. I've been trying to convince her to leave, we've talked about how we feel about each other numerous times but she doesn't want to seem to budge from this jerk off.
I know I should drop it and find someone else, but I don't want to. I believe she's the one for me. Any advice?
When a girl is getting abused like that, being lowered by words feeling as if though your just taking up space and are nothing to this world, well, the person who makes them feel that way, they almost want to try everything in their power to prove them wrong. By staying with them, answering to their every call, and trying to make THEM happy. Its a way of the abuser to gain control over them. The one getting abused looses complete control over their own happiness because their life is made up of their abusers own happiness.
So sad.
She is NOT in love with him. I hope you know that. I hope you also know he has NEVER stopped hitting her. She has simply just stopped telling you the times he has with fear that you may doing something about THAT kind of abuse. She'll still come to you with the verbal abuse though. She's gotta talk to someone.
There is my reasoning for everything. Now here is my solution:
A girl in her situation needs help of family and friends to get through something like this. Like a drug abuser. I think you should have an intermission with her mom, dad, brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts, uncles, best friends, just basically anyone who cares about her. Clue them in on the whole story, get everyone together and discuss what your all going to say to your friend who's getting abused. When someone is approached with all the people they care about and hear how their scared for them because of the way their life is going, it opens their eyes.
YOU also need to tell that jerk off to stay the hell away from her or he'll be dealing with you.
Key points to mention when your each talking to her during the intermission:
-You are ALL here for her
-SHE CAN GET AWAY FROM HIM SAFELY AND CAN START LIVING THE HAPPY LIFE SHE DESERVES
-You all love her
-She has a place stay
Remember, I do not know the whole situation when it comes to how her family is, and such. I just give the best advice I feel I can give with hopes you can use it, or at least work with it to the best of your advantage. If you find me to be of any use at all, you can always privately message me. Keep in mind, it's still anonymous.
Best of luck to you! :)
I'm roughly 5'4 and 14 years old (I'm going to be 15 in exactly one month) I weigh 115/120lbs, it fluctuates weekly. All my friends say I'm skinny and beautiful, but sometimes I really don't like it. I have a lot of muscles especially on my arms from sports, and I hate the extra skin on my stomach and my legs. How much should someone my age weigh? Any suggestions?
Perfect weight for your height and age AND the fact that you play sports.
okay, so when you give a guy a blowjob, i know you dont actually blow, but when a guy says suck his d*ck. does it mean actually suck it? what are some tips. thanks.
Yes. Suck it hard and fast.
hi,
i used to have front bangs.
then i started growing them out and didn't cut them.
the thing is they don't really look like side bangs.
do i have to get them cut (angled) like side bangs for them to look better/more like side bangs? (because I didn't cut them yet)
thanks!
Yes, but please don't do this yourself. Have a professional do it. Trust me, I learned the hard way. Spending 7 bucks get letting a professional do it is well worth it.
18/m
I asked this question last august and you helped me out hopefully you remember:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=547643
I talked to her about it and we plan on starting something up when she graduates.
Since then things have gone pretty much great. we've become even more close and talk even more frequently.
Every now and then something will come up but its usually just worry about the future. when ever she is feeling down about us I'll try to call her to talk to her about it and try to make her feel better (often she wont even tell me whats wrong) but she just ignores her phone. this is frustrating because i think thats when talking on the phone is the most important. she only will text which just frustrates things because she is so far away. I've tried to tell her how frustrating it is but she just tries to change the subject.
recently on aim she told me that talking on the phone was just something she didnt like. although she likes talking to me when times are good, she just doesnt like talking on the phone with people. i've asked her why and she says thats just how it goes.
i am 100% positive that she would never want to do anything to hurt what we have (she has said so) but phone is something that is very important in our situation. I cant come to her house at any time and console her and its next to impossible to show any emotion at all on aim or in texts. its not even that easy on the phone but thats the best we've got. ive asked her if her feelings for me have diminished and she says of course not. which makes everything ten times more confusing.
the other thing is often when things are good and i wanna just talk i have to persistantly urge her to get her to make time for the phone. im very lucky if i get one call every other week. it didnt used to be like this either. she used to talk often but now it had withered down to occasionally if she is alone and it isnt too late. or if i just call her she'll ignore it and then give some explanation in a text. idk its just insulting almost. am i overreacting? whats wrong with answering the phone and then telling me she cant talk? it really has started to get to me ever since she told me she doesnt like it. she said she cares about me. do i need to give her space? i really dont call that often, i try just maybe once a weekend or something.
ive thought about just not ever asking to talk again or even calling and just talking whenever she wants to. but im not sure if ill be able to do that. i really care about this girl. i want her to be happy and i want her to accomplish her goals. i havent really made a rukus about anything between us before cause i want things to work and pettiness isnt something that helps but this is something im just having a real hard time getting over.
im visiting her in 3 weeks for a week which is a real privelage. i hope things will change after the visit but im doubtful. its our first face to face since we met 2 years ago.
am i wrong?
what should i do?
does she need space?
(i dont think this is the case cause i talk to her all the time with other methods and if she doesnt want to call then we just text.)
talking to her about it is next to impossible. ive told her how frustrating it is and how it really bums me out but she doesnt answer.
sorry its so long
thanks for your help.
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I read all your stuff from last August. I personally would have answered the same way the other two Advicenators answered. Tell her how you feel!
But sadly, either choice you took whether to tell her or not, could be a downfall.
See, now that you two confessed you like each other, but are going to wait...well, its almost like being in a relationship that's not quite final. If you do date other people, you feel guilty, and the other would just get all mad. So, your basically in a nonfinal long distance relationship.
I bet that trip out there does change things for you. But if not, I think you both should have a talk about it is OK to date other people. I know that would be hard, BUT if its meant to be, in the end of the 2 year wait, you'll be together.