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getting back together (quite long but worth it)
me and my boyfriend are one of those couples who break up and still act like couples evn though not together. which i dont like i do want to do the things we do if we're not together so i asked him to get back together he's like whenever we get back together we end so horribly.. just give it another chance im willing to try again i think it will work and he's like im sorry but i just dont think it'll work. i got in deep depression after that i mean i had sex with this guy when we weren't dating thinking oh yeah he loves you and he'll eventually ask you out again and what not but he didn't. and because of this depression i started to go out alot to try and get my mind off the pain but i only had guy friends girls tend to not like me much so i started hanging with guys and he got jelous and i'm like this is my way of getting over u so back off and he's like i still care about you be careful being just 1 girl with a whole lot of guys is dangerous. and i'm like stop caring for me if i feel you care about me i'm never going to move on just let me go. he's like i can't i want to get back together but we wont work. and i'm like whatever you believe is what is going to happen in our relationship you have to be positive and let us face these problems together talk and work it out. if you want it to work it will and he's like im sorry we just can't. so the next day we acted like total buddies we were just laughing and having a descent conversation over msn and phone. i tried jelousy on him i tried being angry and showing him that we can make it if we try i tried being a friend to him but should i just keep being like "chilled out" like a buddie to him and maybe later on he'll come back. be the party girl he worries about and he'll come back? or just argue and he'll come around because he'll think he's wrong? i don't know what to try to get him back!
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Try the buddie buddie thing.
Party girl will not work. I mean, it could, but not in the long run. He'll only get back with you because he's afraid of you getting with someone else. That is what his whole mind set will be on "Don't let her get with another guy!!!" How to fix problem? "Ask her back out."
Don't forget, guys have a one track mind. When their faced with a problem, they simply think of an easy solution to solve it.
If that's what his one track is filled with and he solves it, the relationship is bound for destruction.
Which is why buddie buddie will work. You will eventually be able to discuss the issues you two had throughout your relationship and what happened for WHY it never worked. Discuss the thing you two need to change.
If he sees "Hey, maybe we both know what we need to work on, and we can be together again" then Good luck! :)
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