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I'm torn between two friends seriously ... desperate
Okay i used to live in E but I'm originally from S (i lived in E for 5 years but occasionally in summer break i would visit in S)
So suddenly my amazing (note the sarcasm) parents thought "hey why don't we send her to live in S, she might be a better person than a failure there", cruel fuckers? yeah i know
anyway back to the point I'm trying to make ... Every summer i used to come to Syria, i start having friends, but only hang out with this particular one which we will call T (he is a male), this guy is so cool and i love hanging out with him all the time, he is like my freaking idol you know and i've known him for 2 years even though we only spoke in summer breaks and hang out and no i never developed feelings towards him, he is just a friend but an idol also because he rocks ass
so when i moved here 2 months ago, i discovered he has a girlfriend which i got along with (it's really rarely because i don't get along with my own sex, i like hanging out with guys better) pretty fine.
but the first week i hang out with T , he was pissed at L (his ex girlfriend now), because after 1 year of dating, she asked for a break because she wanted some space and i thought he was one of those guys who is open minded and understands, but he was surprisingly the very opposite which was a surprise as you see
so while they were on a break, he was drunk and confessed that he's been liking me since i was dating his friend two years ago which was creepy for me, but anyways i made it clear to him that i don't date and i don't like him that way and i don't like this type of guys (I'm extremely honest i can make you uncomfortable), anyways we put that behind us and i got a c all that he and L is friends now and by time they will get back together which is awesome because he doesn't want me anymore so no stalking, which is great really
anyway we hang out a lot, and i really like L which is weird like i said i don't get along with girls much but she is different and cool enough for me to like her.
so one day suddenly i meet up with both of them and find them having a HUGE fight, like seriously, T was so rude to L i wanted to snap his head off and my idea of him being my idol changed completely, i mean he told her it's okay to have space and time to decide wether she wants to get back with him and then suddenly he goes like
"I don't care if you decide or not, because I'm leaving your bitch ass, you know L, you're like a pair of my shoes, when i finish with them i throw them away, and now i'm throwing you away"
That's like only 1% of the stuff he said to her which was horrible, but it's not my problem so i couldn't get in between them at all, like i had no right to speak so i watched him telling her horrible mean disgusting stuff for about two hours, i know I'm very patient, anyway but she was so scared of him she didn't say anything in return. I was disguised with them but i didn't really care you know
so the day after he invited me to a party where we all got drunk, and then while going back home, he was dropping me, he asked me "Did you talk to L today?" and i replied "No" and i was about to continue and say 'actually i was thinking about calling her' but he beat me to it and said "Good because i don't you to speak to a bitch like her", i stared at him shocked and said "you can't tell me what to do" and he said " i don't care, it's either me or L"
so i snapped (i was drunk) and start yelling stuff like "i don't care either she didn't do anything wrong and don't put me in this situation" and stuff like that but he was smiling at me all the time like giving me a look 'i-will-take-my-revenge-back-if-you-talk-L'
but i ignored him, said bye and got out of the cab
I didn't call him since but he never calls me because my phone is taken away from (yes I'm always grounded) he always waits until i call him
two days later which is today L called me and i went out with her and i told her what happened, it was slipped out of my tongue because i was pissed
Now i have no idea, a guy i know for 2 years and a girl for 2 months, but she is not wrong and he is wrong, and somehow I'm thrown in the middle, loosing my mind almost going to stop speaking to both.
Now i would like my faithful readers who read all of that for some very comforting advice because I'm going to snap on anyone who comes my way, thanks =]
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WOW chick. Anyone ever call you hotheaded? I can totally tell you are just by reading this. Cause ya know, I'm a faithful reader and all ;) haha
ANYWAY. I'm blunt. Your idol friend is a dick. A controlling dick. He obviously has no respect for woman and walks around thinking he is the shit.
Considering L just sat there and took it, tells me he usually goes for mellow recessive chicks who would never dare stand up to him. That's cool for L and all, but your not that kind of person.
You know whats right and wrong. We all do. But you seem like the type of person who actually stands up for what she KNOWS is right.
Don't let that prick change ya know. I think you should stand by L' side on this. It doesn't matter how long you've known someone. What matters is the friendship they prove through out the time you have known each other.
I'm not here to tell you what to do. I'm here to give advice and you take as much as you can to use it to your best advantage. With that being said, I think you know what you need to do.
:) Hope I helped!
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Well wow. I would probably snap at anyone if I was in that situation too! That's just so messed up. Okay so he HAS been your friend for longer, but honestly from what you described he sounds like a total ass. Controlling, rude, and just a jerk. I guess if I was in your situation I would probably decide which one of them I would rather hang out with. And personally although I don't know the situation nearly well enough to tell you what you should do, I would stick with L. She really didn't seem to have done anything and honestly I always say sisters before misters. And in this case you don't even have feelings for the guy so it doesn't even matter. It just seems like you would be a lot happier hanging with L because T just doesn't seems like a cool person anymore to you. Well from what I read to me at least... so i would go with L. Guys suck! Good Luck, hope everything works out =)
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