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boy dilemma
I'm 17. i just broke up with this guy who ive been on and off with since middle school. i thought i loved this guy but he ended up treating me like i was less than him and spreading semi private things about me. the worst part is, ive tried to move on by dating other guys but i don't feel that same passion and connection with them. i think my ex feels the same. I know i should just move on but i just cant get close to anyone but my ex. so what's more important, connection or getting along 100% of the time?
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I'll be 18 in a few days and have been with my boyfriend since the 7th grade :) So thanks for coming to me with this question!
CONNECTION is more important. No couple gets along 100% of the time. But what's more important than connection is RESPECT. If he's spreading private things about you, that is disrespectful, immature, and not a sign that you love someone.
Obviously you still care about him very much and you think he feels the same way. Just remember, when it comes to love, you really can't help your feelings at ALL.
Here's how I look at:
You tried getting over him. You tried dating other people. It's just not working. Not saying you two will be together forever, but I just don't think NOW is the best time to end it. Communication is key in EVERY healthy relationship. It what helps get through those hard times and eliminates most future ones.
I think you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Everything. How you tried getting over him by seeing if you had a connection with someone else, but no one compared to the connection you only got with him. BUT this time you need to tell him things NEED to change. If he l loved you like he said he did, he wouldn't of disrespected you by spreading rumors and making himself seem better than you (WHICH by the way IS because he feels your more successful than him. He's jealous) But work it out. You need to tell him how you feel about why you love him, and what needs to happen so things could work.
Hope I help!
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