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why is x so rude?
i'm 16. my ex and i went out for 10 month. separated for four and then got back together for two weeks. I foudn out that he had turned into someone totally different/player. So anyway, he texts me again now two weeks after we break up. He was an ass to me. He was being so rude, i don't get it, it gets on my nerves. He said the most hurtful things, for example: I don't care that we aren't together anymore. He was my first real love, so ofcourse its gonna take a while for me to get over him. But wat the hel is his problem. Why does he have to be so freakin rude? what do you guys think?
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guys usually do things like this when they don't want to show their true feelings. He could be wanting to "get back" at you. He could be trying to proove something of himself-that he doesn't need you. when in reality, he really was hurt. But instead of opening up to you about it he wants to act like a jerk for a cover up. Or,it could be that he really has become a completely different person. Maybe he finds love a waste of time now? All in all its his loss. Don't even care about what he thinks-he's not the same guy you used to know. I'd stop talking to him-and if he keeps bothering you just be like "honestly, what are you trying to proove?" First loves are hard to get over,and no matter how much you miss the way he used to be-its not going to get him back. He's probably lost himself. Players are really insecure anyways,so don't worry about it! You'll find a guy totally worth your time eventually. For now just ignore this guy who obviously is trying to frount and create a "player" status,hah ! good luck :]
xkisakissx
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its hard to say. people do a number of things for different reasons. no two people think exactly alike.
but i can give you a list of ideas.
1) he's not over you but thinks there's no way you'll take him back so gets over his pain by hurting you
2) he really doesn't care and has no conscience so doesnt care if he hurts you
3) doesn't know how else to treat an ex
4) is scared cause he knows/thinks he did something wrong
hope this helps.
Good luck
JP
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alright so here is the thing im going through something similar with not one but two exs. I have delt with boys like this my whole life and this last ex hates me cuz i ended things before he got to hurt me. They are BOYS and this is what they do . . . they dont see past their own hurt feelings and they whine. Its the way we all acted when we were little kids only we grow up faster than them. Im sorry if u have feelings for him but you got to cut him off and get your pride back. I told both these boys who have put me through pain to never talk to me again this weekend and man i feel like a whole new woman. So will u, get control.
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Men are logical beings.
Thus, when faced with emotion, we pretend it isn't there. Thats the most basic gut level reaction we have.
He's being an ass because he does feel something and he doesn't want to. He's faking who he is because he thinks thats the best way to be. Many immature teenaged guys do this, because they don't like who they are.
So they try to be someone else. Usually very, very badly. Thats what he's doing. He's trying to be untouchable, to prove both to the world and to himself that he's fine when he isnt.
Cut off contact. He's an immature little brat, he needs to be shown that behavior like this won't win him any friends. Its time to move on.
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It could be that he was over you all along and just dated you because he was lonely and wanted someone to call his "girlfriend" I'm just guessing. If he treats you badly then he isn't worth your time and it's probably the best to move on. I understand it will take some time to get over him but trust me the fastest way to get over someone is to think about all the bad things they did to you etc. Think about what you could have with someone eles.
BahaiMa22
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That is a question I don't any women is going to get an answer to. Seriously, try to move on and get over him. He isn't worth your time, or heart any more. You have to brush him off your shoulder if ya know what I mean. Don't be totally mean or anything just say hi if ya see him and nothing else. Guys can get that way it is how you handle it. Don't cause drama trust me, don't. Ignore his text or phone calls. Good Luck!
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