Today my mom walked in on my boyfriend and I having sex and now she doesn't trust me at all. I'm not allowed to have guys over and I knew that before today. But now it's all awkward between my mom and I and she expects me to feel terrible about what I've done, yet I don't and I can't! I don't think sex is a bad thing and I may be young at 17 but it was my first time and I was safe. I know we'll never see eye to eye on this but I just don't want this to be all messed up anymore. I pretty much feel like an idiot though, and she's making me feel worse. But even though I broke the rules I still don't feel like my decision was that horrible. Help? Anyone? Thanks.
Ha sorry to laugh but it happens to the best of us. I had my mom walk in on me and my boyfriend not having sex but messing around and honestly go to her and say I did what I did and I can't take it back. I don't think sex is wrong and yes I know I am young but I was safe. I am almost 18 and you need to know tha tI am going ot make my own decisions weither you agree with them or not. Seriously I did that and it didn't solve everything but it helped. It opens there eyes to know that your not a child and your not stupid.
So...I hope this helps and next time make sure you don't get cought!!!! Good Luck!
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I miss my ex (we broke up about 2 years ago)
we are 'just friends' but really, really good friends; we share everything. EXCEPT that i still have feelings for him. and very strong ones...
should i tell him? if so help me about when/where/how
TELL HIM!! Whenever it feels right to you. You will know better then anyone when the right time is!! Good Luck!
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Do diet pills really work? If yes, which ones work the best? Do you need to be of certain age to get them?
If not diet pills, are there any other drinks etc. that will quickly help you lose weight?
If you are looking to loose weight look into the Weight Watchers diet. It is hard for me to loose weight but on this diet I lost 3lbs the first week with no exercise. IT REALLY WORKS! Also just exercise exercise exercise!!! Good Luck!!! Hope this helps!
Sorry it has taken me so long to get back to you but it is all point bassed. It goes from cal. and fat and fiber. You have a set amount of points your allowed per day like 26 or 32. Just search weight watchers online + how to figure out your points and then also weight watchers + point calculator. it is really easy and works amazing!
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Just started my cycle today. It usually lasts six or seven days, and is pretty heavy all throughout. I have swimming on monday, and I'm not good with tampons. Is there any way I could speed things up so that it's done, or not as heavy on monday? =/
I wish there was a way but there isn't. I know how you feel and I was in the same position at one time. On Sunday the day before swimming starts practice. Practice using a tampon. Sounds weird but getting used to that feeling of putting it in and taking it out will help. Also when it is in do something to distract you. Something with noice or a movie that makes you laugh. You don't want it to be quiet b/c your mind will keep going back to the tampon. Relax as well. Don't tense up. I hope this helps and Good Luck!!!
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18/M
Ok, here is my dilema. I have a crush both on my best friend and this sophomore.
My best friend is a senior like I am. We hang out a lot. She is single. She is really cool. But I'm afraid that if I ask her out or tell her how I feel and she doesn't feel the same that it will be awkward and we won't be as good of friends.
This sophomore is really awesome. Like I like her a lot. I recently asked her to prom and she said yes, pretty excitedly. Then I asked her out to the movies, She said that she would love to go, but she had to ask her mom. Which is understandable. We never ended up going to the movies, but it wasn't until later that I found out she had a boyfriend, even when she excitedly said yes to prom and movies. I'm afraid that if I don't ask her out when she is single I will lose my chance forever.
So Which should I choose.
My best friend or should i just wait until the sophomore breaks up with her bf?
Go with your bestfriend!! You are a senior and honestly it is going to be hard to have anything with a sophomore. She has already lied to you and kinda thought about cheating on her boyfriend. That is not someone you want to even date. If you tell your bestfriend how you feel the worst that can happen is her not feel the same way. If she is truely a good friend she will tell you how she honestly feels and if it isn't the same as you then she will get over the fact that you like her and still be your best friend. I say this only b/c it happened to me. My best male friend asked me out a few times and I said no and we are still great friends. So what can it hurt. Go for it! Good luck and hope this helps!
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i am a 20 year old female. I broke up with my ex after us being together for 4 years. it was a very emotional abuseive relationship. a week after he and i finally officaly broke up i went to meet a guy i had met on the internet he was honest with me about wanting sex..im not into that epecially so soon but after two days we did. it has been a week he hardly talks to me doesnt have interest in me or what i do and openly admits to not careing about me "cuz we hardly know eachother" am i rushing this and is this guy just using me..im so confused on what to do.. so was i wrong to meet this guy and wrong to jeprodize my morals for him??
Yes you were wrong to meet him. There are so many reasons why you should not meet someone on the internet. It is so dangerous. You don't know what he has, who he truely was, if he is dangerous and the list may go on. You said that he was honest with you about wanting sex so yes he used you and I would just let go of him and not go back and learn from it. I am glad to hear that you got out of the 4yr relationship! Be patient and try not to rush anything. The right man will come along and try to avoid internet men!!! Good Luck! Hope this helps!
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A boy from my class contacted me on face book . We had graduated 25 years ago and didn't know much about each other. He would write and talk to me all the time. Compliment me and make me laugh, he is married since 16 years and has a boy. I am seperated with two grown up kids. He made me feel real special with excessive attention. I jokingly told him that I would go out with him and he backed off. Although we haven't seen each other in 25 years as we are in diff states and were planning a reunion with friends. He had often addresses me while talking to me as love and his date. told me I was super hot and gorgeous. Now he is resereve and I miss my friend. What do I do I am46 years old attractive female.
I would just be straight with him. Write him and tell him that you were just joking around and it didn't mean anything and you miss talking to him. Try to joke around a little and nothing about dates, love, or anything along that subject. Try it and see how it goes! good Luck! Remember being honest is key!!!!
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hey,
well you see i really liked this guy named Robert on my cruise and he liked me. He was from tennesee and i'm from canada,
so it clearly doesn't work out and i tried to tell myself this and i still can't get over him,
he ment alot, and i haven't liked another guy since.. HELP .
I know how you feel. I meet someone on a cruise once and honestly you just have to hang out with other people and relize that there a ton of men out there. It took me a while but before I knew it I forgot all about him. Distract yourself by hanging out with other people as much as possible. Get out there and meet new people. I know it helped for me. I hope this helps!!
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hi, you answered my question about my friend the liar. but i was wondering if you could further help me, because i found out more information today about it.. ok thanks :)
My friend sarah is the one who lies all the time. It was really small stuff, that I could handle, and she is so much fun to be with, so I would get over it. It would be like, I would ask, oh what did you do today? and she was like oh nothing. And I would find out she hung out with a a few people. I thought maybe she just didn't want to hurt my feelings (not that it ever would.) so I always over looked it.
Well, I have another really good friend, her name is Kelly. (this is where it might get complicated, sorry.) My friend Kelly is really inlove with this boy Jordan. She has been talking to Jordan since last summer. Well, I recently found out that Sarah has been pretending to be some girl named Christina and talking to Jordan, and saying horrible things about Kelly that aren't true. Since Sarah is my best friend, I would sometimes tell her things about Kelly, that she did. (I know oops..) I never thought she would tell anyone. Well, she would go and tell Jordan everything! So Kelly found out that it was Sarah the whole time. Pretending to be some fake girl. She did it for 5 months.. she never told me she did this or anything. I think she is doing this to someone else also.. (pretending to be someone else)
I know this is really messed up, and I just want to never talk to her again, that's how angry I am.
However, I was talking to Kelly, and Kelly was like, Sarah doesn't have a mom right? And i was like, yeah, she doesn't. And Kelly was like.. oh really, because so&so said how Sarah always talks about her mom and how they go shopping and stuff.
Sarah has no mom figure at all. No aunts, older cousins, anything like that. So, I kinda feel like there is something wrong with her, and may need some help? Kelly was also telling me how Jordan told her that Sarah would always talk about her mom and how great her mom was.
What should I do about this? I asked her about it, and she said she just felt bad for Jordan about whatever. So, I don't know what to do..
Also, I know Sarah is pretending to be another girl, and she has been talking to this boy for a year now.. i think almost two.. :/
And it's soooo tempting to tell this other boy. I don't know if I would be sinking to her level though then...
Sorry if that was confusing..
thanks.
OMG not confusing at all really messesed up on Sarahs part though. I am telling you that is how my friend was. I would ask her the same little things like what did you do today. Her respnse "nothing" and of course I would find out she hung out with friends. I mean why lie about that seriously STUPID!!!
Ok so.... yes I would tell this other guy. I don't think it is sinking to her level at all. I also think that she will never change and trust me it is hard to have a pathilogical lier as a friend. I have tried and finally gave up. You will eventually never beleive anything. I mean like I said it was little stuff and then those little lies turned into bigger ones and bigger ones. She went to the level of telling me lies about my husband. You really don't want to have to deal with the bigger ones.
You sound like me.... that may sound weird but it is true. You sound kind and caring.
Ok so anyways this may be a confusing situation but you need to lose her as a friend. Sounds harsh I know but you have to. You could lose other friends becuase of her I know I did.
I know you may feel like she dosn't have a mom and I your her best friend and she needs you but truth be told it will hurt you in the long run!
Wow sorry this is so long! I hope you understand everything I have wrote. If you have any questions let me know. I hope this helps and good luck!!!!!!
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my friend is the biggest liar ever. her name is sarah. she did something recently, that is so close to unforgivable. it's really long so i won't go into detail and way to confusing. but basically to make it extremely short she went behind my back and my other friends back, and stabbed us both. what she did, was just so incredibly low.
Anyway, when we found out, she said she was sorry and would stop lying to us and wouldn't do what she did anymore. well, the other day, her other friend found out about it and asked her what happened, and she told her that it never happened and didn't know what she was talking about!!!
So she is continuing to lie. she is also lieing about really weird stuff. like her mom died along time ago. and she told this girl in her art class that her and her mom were going shopping. she doesn't have a step mom or any kind of mom figure in her life. (i'm her best friend, i would know.)
i don't know what to do. help?
Ok I had a friend like that KEY WORD had... It was the hardest decican of my life. We were the best of best of friends and finally I just couldn't handle it. All the lieing.... she tried lieing to me about my husband and how he dosn't love me and what not just a joke i'll tell ya. anyways enough about my problem all I was trying to say is wow do I know how you feel and I have been in this postition. I think the best thing is to end the friendship. It would be hard and it took me a long time and I miss her time to time but..... I don't have to deal with the lieing and backstabing and drama. That is a releif! Please do what your HEART is telling you but as you can see I have been in the same postion. Hope this helps. Good Luck! Oh and every time you think she is lieing or is trying to lie stand up to her and confront her. Again Good Luck!
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ok i got my period like 3 weeks ago had unprotected sex like 2 weeks ago and after that i took the morning after pill. Last week i was bleedin a little for 3 days and now im realy gassy and im really worried i mite be pregnant...HELP ME PLZ>>>
OMG I have the same problem that is crazy. Ok wow this is crazy. I wish i could help but being in the same boat i can't. good Luck!
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when i masterbate, i gently rub my clit. it feels amazing, but i also sometimes experience pain, but like a good pain. is this normal?
yes
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I just ended a 6 and a half month relationship with my girlfriend. I am 18 years old and a freshman is college, she is 21 years old who is not currently in school and has faternal twins the age of two. Obviously there is a good reason why i broke up with her. It has only been a week since we broke up and it is so hard. I love her and she loves me. What do i do? do i listen to society, my family and friends, the brothers of my fraternity? or my heart. do i look at my future or what. My heart is torn between choosing to date a girl i really love or what society tells me to do. She is a package deal which im not too excited for because no 18 year old freshman in college wants 2 kids. Also, she is still married to the other man but very close to getting a divorce. I really need some advice. Do i listen to my heart or society?
I am glad you asked. I can understand how you would be confused. By the sounds of it your just not deciding between heart or society you are decided between your heart and mind. You need to do what is best for yourself. You need to finish school and get a good carrer. Also being a parent at this age is HARD. I do know that for sure! Single moms are looking for a long term thing. Moving in taking care of each other and taking care of the kids. I know this from experiance. You are 18 adn not ready to be a dad of two and take care of them financialy or emotionaly.
Ok so to sum everything up I guess stay in school, finish school and when your done if she is still around then go for it, if not the right girl will come along and you will make an amazing fathre and dad then. Sorry this is so long!
I hope this helps though! GOOD LUCK!!
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What are signs if a boy actually likes me or is just trying to get in my pants? Please give specific details =) Thanks
I guess it is hard to say but... from my experiance and only my experiance, guys that have tried to play me would try to after only talking a couple min bring up something that has to do with sex or anything sexual. Also they only called or talk to me when there friends werent around. Um.... guys that were not playing me didn't bring anything sexual up, called me just to say hi even if with friends, my husband (this may sound silly but hey were married now) he asked if he could kiss me the first time we kissed rather then jsut doing it. Also if the guy has been with a lot of people or you notice him dating this girl then that girl then they are most likly trying to get in your pants.
I hope this helps!!! I am sorry if it isn't enough information. Good Luck and stay away from the guys that are trying to get in your pants. Oh and also sorry about spelling I am a horrible speller! Good Luck!
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So do guys expect a shaved vagina or is it normal to have your hairs still intact?
Should it just be shaved a little so that it's not a giant bush or should it be more shaved than that?
Do they care about the hair down there?
Every guys is different but from what I know guys like it to be at least trimmed down there. Some perfer completly gone so it does depend on the man. So I guess what I am saying is trim it up just so it isn't like WHOA! yea know? Hope this helps!
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is it "dependent upon" or "dependent on"?
It really depends on the last word here are two expamples hope this helps.
Dependent upon my mom
Dependent on the government
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15/f
I had sex with my boyfriend around the 21st of february i usually get my period the last couple days of the month its the 10th now and i still havent gotten it . we used a condom and i didnt think any went in me. i had unprotected sex with him on march 8th and he didnt even bust a load at all. and its now the 10th is it too early to take a preganany test ? or can i take one now ? because i hear that its 2 weeks after your last time ? but my real concern would be from feb. 21st
Yes it is to early. If you were pregnant from the Feb. 21st one you would have gotten your period still and then miss your next one. I would wait another 2 weeks and if you still don't get it then take one. You usually have to wait 3-4 weeks with a home pregnancy test.
I am going to tell you that I was 17 when I got pregnant and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Now I am married not to the father of my first and we have a baby. so I am 20 with 2 kids. I have no life AT ALl!! Do I regret keeping my kids of course not but I want to warn you to be careful and always wear protection. Always make sure the condom didn't break. Trust me with this one! I have 2 kids and had some type of birth control with both. It can happen. Ok that is all I am going to say I am sure you really don't want to be lectured. GOOD LUCK AND BE CAREFUL! Hope this helps
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Okay so I guess I don't hate being a girl, but it is really frustrating me!! And I wasn't sure what category to put this under but since it kind of deals w/ boys, I chose this one... Okay so I'm just getting really frustrated and I need a reminder of why being a girl is great. So first off, the whole period deal is just not fair! Its such a pain and guys don't have to go through it!! I put in my first tampon today and it hurt like he**! Its just not fair!! Also, I start swimming for gym class at my school tomorrow... I'm really nervous about that... Also, I get really frustrated by the double standard of morality thing. You know, the whole stud and slut reasoning. Why is it that boys can fool around and do all of these bad things and its snuffed off as "boys will be boys" and all the other guys consider him a stud? But if a girl were to do those same things, she would be labeled a slut and looked down upon by everyone else? I'm not saying I want to fool around or do those things but its the principle of the matter. Its sexist and totally bogus... Plus boys never have to worry about being raped or things like that because those things rarely happen to boys, its so lame and I hate it!! Please... Can anybody remind me why being a girl is good... Because I honestly don't think its so dandy at the moment...
I understand your frustration. I felt the same way when I was younger. Truth be told you are right. It is sexist and not fair that guys are the studs and girls sluts. That will never really change though. Second the tampon thing will get better. Don't give up. I remember swimming in school. OMG embarasing. By the end of the week though I relized that it really wasn't that bad. I got use to the tampon a lot faster then what I might have because I had to wear it. No one will know either. They can't tell, it isn't like you are just going to start bleeding and the water turn red or anything. You have to relax. For me, I relized being a girl was amazing when I had my first child. for us as women to be able to carry and birth a child is the best gift we could be given. I hope your no where close to that point but you have to keep in mind that there are a lot of stuff we can do that guys can't. We are more mature, smater (for the most part), sensitive,and much more. People have a higher standered for girls and it is really an honor if you think about it.
I don't know if any of this will help but I hope it does. Remember relax... be yourself and time will fly!!! Good Luck!
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ok im not going to sugar coat this or anything im just gonna straight up tell you how it is. i need to get something off my chest and i want to hear what you have to say about it. im putting myself out there so, try not to be too harsh :/ i really appreciate you taking the time to read this and help me out.
16/f
been going out with my bf for 1 year and 6 months. let me just tell you for sure we definitely are in love, no questions asked. we go to different schools but only live 15 minutes away from each other and we make it work. even though i truly do love him, i have mildly [nothing horrible] cheated on him on several occasions.
okay, back last year when we were going out for about 4 or 5 months, i started to talk to this guy, G. he was blatantly flirty with me all the time and i guess sweet talked me into a situation i did not want to be in. one day in school he texted me saying to 'go to the bathroom' and meet him outside in the hall. so i did, and we were just walking around the school talking. we sorta got slower at the staircase and he turned around and kissed me. i kissed him back but it was just 2 short pecks held out for 2 seconds each id say. it felt like the WEIRDEST THING ever, i didnt like it. but it was almost like he had me brainwashed because i kept talking to the guy. over a break like the easter break or something when no one was home he snuck over to my house and i let him in... i kept him in my room because my brother was home and if he saw some guy in our house he would get me in trouble. so he almost forcefully laid me down and started kissing me. no tongue or anything, just kissing, like long pecks i suppose? so i felt sort of violated because i was very hesitant and it made me feel uncomfortable. right after i got up and didnt let him push me down anymore and told him he had to leave and i made him leave my house. i only told my boyfriend about the kiss in the hallway and i twisted the story and said that the guy kissed me but i did not kiss him back. eventually i realized talking to this kid got me nowhere but into trouble so i ended all contacts with him. so that was over. my boyfriend was upset of course but forgave me because he still doesnt even know the whole story.
next incident came in the summer, we were going out for 8 months. i went on vacation with my family to the bahamas at a resort. i made out with/kissed 3 boys within the vacation. nothing was passionate it was just regular kisses. out of curiosity i suppose? spur of the moment? the feeling of carelessness that the summer gives you? i was on vacation and i would never have to see these people again? im not sure why i did it but these reasons seem logical. right after every time i told the boys that i had a boyfriend and that i felt horrible that i did that. the first guy, B, it was his last night. we were walking on the beach at night after a teen activity that the resort had, and it was my first night there so i was naive. he said that he had never slow danced on the beach before and he asked me to. i thought it was the sweetest thing ever so i did as we listened to a song on his ipod. he kissed me 2 or 3 times that night, nothing passionate, just kisses. and he was really shy and inexperienced and would ask me if i was bad and stuff. i told him i had a bf and we both felt really bad and he understood because he had been cheated on before. the next guy was a total jerk, i was going back to the hotel room to get ready for dinner and before that i was with a group of my friends. he said he would walk me back and i thought that he was just being a gentleman, the naive person i am. little did i know he had other intentions. when we got to my door he leaned in fast and kissed me and grabbed my ass. i was insulted by this so i pulled away after a second once i realized what was happening. then i left him and went into my room. he later told my friends from the resort that he made out with me 3 times and that i let him grab my ass a lot, which was obviously a lie. the next time was with a boy, N. my group of friends was in the poolside hot tub one night. he put his hand on my leg and eventually i sat on his lap playfully because we were all friendly like that i didnt see harm in it at the time, but now i realize that is completely leading on. my friends ditched us thinking we wanted to hookup. once they left we started making out, i did think he was attractive but his personality was a jerk and he just wanted to get with girls, but anyway, after 7 seconds or so he started to go into my pants [ i was wearing full tank top and jeans bc i got pushed into the pool with my clothes on before] and i stopped him right there. i realized then that it was wrong and definetly did not want to go any farther. we met back up with my friends. later on a friend told me that he had said that 'he wanted to f*** me before i left" and that insulted me. it made me realize he wasnt a good guy. so then i went home. i told my boyfriend i didnt do anything and that one guy B tried to kiss me but didnt and lied about it and the last guy tried to get in my pants but i didnt let him. thats all i told him, basically a half lie. still bad i know.
the last incident occured around christmas time, we were going out for 1 year and 2 months. this time i didnt do anything physically, but emotionally. my bf and i were fighting a lot, had a rough patch if you will. i just felt unhappy a lot of the time so i turned to another boy. we had just met and just started talking through insignificant means, like facebook, IM, and texting. he started to tell me that he liked me and would also sweet talk me as the first guy did. it sort of persuaded me into liking him. i did find him attractive and i did like his personality. but i learned from the past mistakes and knew i would not kiss him. we wanted to hangout one time to get to know each other, as friends of course, even though we had little crushes on each other, but he respected that i had a bf and didnt want to mess it up'. i felt my bf couldnt know about it because he would feel jealous or start worrying, couldnt blame him though. so it was originally set up that we would hangout at the mall with other people. he would bring some friends and i would bring some. i was supposed to bring my friend jenny but at the last minute she couldnt go so it was just me. he had 2 of his friends with him, and we saw other friends while we were there too so it wasnt any sort of a date. my bf thought i was just at the mall with jenny though, bc that was the original plan. but thats all he knew. anyway, this guy and i never kissed or did anything innappropriate. i did later admit to my boyfriend that this kid and i were talking and that i had developed a crush on him. my bf and i had a long talk and i eventually ended contacts with this kid and stopped liking him, and things between me and my bf got better. i am completely over that guy. but i can tell my bf is still hurt that i could like another guy so easily and he probably feels insecure, which is understandable, i would too.
so there it is. he really only knows half or even 1/3 of all of that. i have a terrible conscience inside that reminds me of this stuff constantly. i was in denial with my self for a while and would refuse to think that i did any of that stuff, i just couldnt deal with it, i was so upset with myself and still am. i know i should tell him one day... sooner is probably better. but i am SO scared. he told me a few times that if i ever cheat on me he would be so devastated and heartbroken and it would show that 'i never loved him'. but that is not true at all. i KNOW i love him with all my heart, i dont know what i would do if he broke up with me, i would be so incredibly upset. i dont want to lose him but i know that what i did was very wrong and i am truly sorry for it. it was a mistake and i meant nothing by it, i never loved anyone at any point in my life but my bf. i used to be so naive and curious and just stupid and i see that now, ...i know i will never do those things again. i am just so afraid that if i tell him everything that he will just start thinking... and it will end up with us breaking up or something to that horrible effect. i really need advice on this. thanks so much for your time.
I don't have the right thing to say but you do not truely love him if you can cheat on him. I would brake it off or tell him the truth and see from there. Good Luck!
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Wow,
I'm not a boot person but I LOVE these boots
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_YPLSyaja5vU/SSQkbn7klfI/AAAAAAAACaw/PgyiuLfbIP0/s400/hot+pink+peep+toe+hiking+boot.jpeg
I'm a 10wide or sometimes even 11Wide
Does anyone know where I can find these boots in maybe a smaller heel or even a boot that comes close to this design as I am 5'11 lol
Thank you!
I wish I could tell you right where to go but I can't. All I really wanted to say is wow those are awsome. I am not a boot person either but I love those. Try fredericks of Hollywood. Good Luck!!!
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