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my friend, the pathological liar..
hi, you answered my question about my friend the liar. but i was wondering if you could further help me, because i found out more information today about it.. ok thanks :)
My friend sarah is the one who lies all the time. It was really small stuff, that I could handle, and she is so much fun to be with, so I would get over it. It would be like, I would ask, oh what did you do today? and she was like oh nothing. And I would find out she hung out with a a few people. I thought maybe she just didn't want to hurt my feelings (not that it ever would.) so I always over looked it.
Well, I have another really good friend, her name is Kelly. (this is where it might get complicated, sorry.) My friend Kelly is really inlove with this boy Jordan. She has been talking to Jordan since last summer. Well, I recently found out that Sarah has been pretending to be some girl named Christina and talking to Jordan, and saying horrible things about Kelly that aren't true. Since Sarah is my best friend, I would sometimes tell her things about Kelly, that she did. (I know oops..) I never thought she would tell anyone. Well, she would go and tell Jordan everything! So Kelly found out that it was Sarah the whole time. Pretending to be some fake girl. She did it for 5 months.. she never told me she did this or anything. I think she is doing this to someone else also.. (pretending to be someone else)
I know this is really messed up, and I just want to never talk to her again, that's how angry I am.
However, I was talking to Kelly, and Kelly was like, Sarah doesn't have a mom right? And i was like, yeah, she doesn't. And Kelly was like.. oh really, because so&so said how Sarah always talks about her mom and how they go shopping and stuff.
Sarah has no mom figure at all. No aunts, older cousins, anything like that. So, I kinda feel like there is something wrong with her, and may need some help? Kelly was also telling me how Jordan told her that Sarah would always talk about her mom and how great her mom was.
What should I do about this? I asked her about it, and she said she just felt bad for Jordan about whatever. So, I don't know what to do..
Also, I know Sarah is pretending to be another girl, and she has been talking to this boy for a year now.. i think almost two.. :/
And it's soooo tempting to tell this other boy. I don't know if I would be sinking to her level though then...
Sorry if that was confusing..
thanks.
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OMG not confusing at all really messesed up on Sarahs part though. I am telling you that is how my friend was. I would ask her the same little things like what did you do today. Her respnse "nothing" and of course I would find out she hung out with friends. I mean why lie about that seriously STUPID!!!
Ok so.... yes I would tell this other guy. I don't think it is sinking to her level at all. I also think that she will never change and trust me it is hard to have a pathilogical lier as a friend. I have tried and finally gave up. You will eventually never beleive anything. I mean like I said it was little stuff and then those little lies turned into bigger ones and bigger ones. She went to the level of telling me lies about my husband. You really don't want to have to deal with the bigger ones.
You sound like me.... that may sound weird but it is true. You sound kind and caring.
Ok so anyways this may be a confusing situation but you need to lose her as a friend. Sounds harsh I know but you have to. You could lose other friends becuase of her I know I did.
I know you may feel like she dosn't have a mom and I your her best friend and she needs you but truth be told it will hurt you in the long run!
Wow sorry this is so long! I hope you understand everything I have wrote. If you have any questions let me know. I hope this helps and good luck!!!!!!
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