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Mom walked in on us
Today my mom walked in on my boyfriend and I having sex and now she doesn't trust me at all. I'm not allowed to have guys over and I knew that before today. But now it's all awkward between my mom and I and she expects me to feel terrible about what I've done, yet I don't and I can't! I don't think sex is a bad thing and I may be young at 17 but it was my first time and I was safe. I know we'll never see eye to eye on this but I just don't want this to be all messed up anymore. I pretty much feel like an idiot though, and she's making me feel worse. But even though I broke the rules I still don't feel like my decision was that horrible. Help? Anyone? Thanks.
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Apologize for breaking her rules and her trust. Acknowledge that you shouldn't have had a guy in her house without her permission and that you made a bad judgment call.
Let her bring up anything else. At 17, you're legally old enough to be having sex most places, and at this point you've made the decision, she doesn't really get a say.
If she doesn't want you bringing guys over, thats her right, and its your responsibility to respect that (or to make damn sure you don't get caught again). I'm not going to pretend a guy won't ever end up over at your house again, but at the very least she deserves to believe you're being obedient and have some trust in you.
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Well she will trust you with time just sit down and talk to her. tell her how you feel and that you guys were safe, it was your first time and your sorry she had to see that. but would she rather you be doing it when your at some party with some random guy because you were stupid and felt like it was right, or would she rather have you do it at your house with protection with someone you care about. Just talk to her most moms will understand and if not dont worry she will get over it. Hope i helped =]
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Your mom will get over it with time. It may seem like she'll never trust you again, but she eventually will. Just explain to her that you were safe and how bad you feel about it. I'm sure she'll be understanding in time.
xoxo,
dottie4
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Ha sorry to laugh but it happens to the best of us. I had my mom walk in on me and my boyfriend not having sex but messing around and honestly go to her and say I did what I did and I can't take it back. I don't think sex is wrong and yes I know I am young but I was safe. I am almost 18 and you need to know tha tI am going ot make my own decisions weither you agree with them or not. Seriously I did that and it didn't solve everything but it helped. It opens there eyes to know that your not a child and your not stupid.
So...I hope this helps and next time make sure you don't get cought!!!! Good Luck!
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