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aboutFirst off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)
Hi! I'm 13 going on 14 and there is a guy in school that I like. He's not good looking to others (but is to me in a weird way) and all my friends turn up their noses at him. We flirted over Skype and in class for a while and he eventually asked me out.
I panicked. I was scared about what others would say and how badly this would go. I think I'm a commitment-phobe. So I made up this guy and said we were already dating. I know it's one of the worst things to do and I feel horrid.
We're still friends and we still flirt (after I said I broke up with that guy) and I thought he still liked me. A few days ago, he said over Skype that he was so alone. So I comforted him and did what anyone would do. He said all his friends were dating and I said I wasn't. It was the biggest hint I've ever given... -_-'
He didn't get it and went on to say the girl he likes won't ever like him. I'll spare you the long story but this was some complete bimbo who would never look twice at a sweet guy like him. I find that horrible.
Even though he likes this girl, he always says to me that I'm pretty on my worst days and that any guy would be lucky to have me. We still flirt all the time! I feel like he is sending me mixed messages though.
Do you have any advice to give me on any/all of this? I feel too embarrassed to tell my friends because none of them like him. Thank you in advance if you reply. Sorry about the length. I at least hope I entertained you with this. :)
You're still a baby! You need to focus on school, you don't need a boyfriend... You have your whole life to worry about that sorta thing, and don't need to worry about doing so right now. Besides if you really did like the guy that much to begin with you wouldn't let the negative comments from your friends to effect it at all. Just proves you have more growing up to do. Your probably a really sweet little girl, but honestly hon, you still have quite a bit of maturing to do. Nothing wrong with it; I was the same way at your age. You see your peers have boyfriends and you feel like you don't fit in because of the fact you don't have one. In due time you will find the right person. Just do things you enjoy right now. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up, cuz honestly it's not all it's all it's cracked up to be.
Please help!!! Worried about my boyfriend.
Well I ve been with this guy for like 8 months. It s a long distance relationship. He lives in a different state. . well he treated me like shxt and he says he does it because he's stressed out. And I was gon leave him a acouple of days ago and he said he was gon kill himself. Well earlier yesterday , he said he was in danger and that he needs me and to stay with him. He said something about people putting him in a gas chamber and that he gets gassed and he's going to die. Idk if that's another excuse of him trying to keep me in the relationship. I tried to call his phone but it went straight to voice mail. I haven't talked to him in a day. hes been stressed out. I can't stop crying im worried
If he has threatened to kill himself, I suggest you call the police and tell them what is happening. They can give him the help he needs;i.e. medications, counselors, etc. It's not your responsibility to stay with him and risk your own health & well-being which is what you're doing right now. You have a good heart but you need to take care of yourself too. Hope I helped.
I am a quiet person and i don't talk that much, I have been like this ever since i was born. My boyfriend is always complaining, saying that i don't talk about romantic things or emotional things, things that can strengthen our long relationship. he said that i always talk about every day mundane things. can you please advise me about romantic things or emotional things that i can talk about?
Sorry it's been a while. I have been in the same boat. I dated the same person for two years then he went to the military and things just sorta phased out. It's hard to keep a relationship going when you can't see them often as you would like. The best thing I can tell you is just try to let him know how much you care about him; maybe watch a movie that neither of you have seen and can talk about it after, or a book, maybe a tv show. Get on skype that way you can actually "see" each other. May not be the same as being with the person but it can be comforting. Hope I helped.
i used to go out with this guy who kept switching between me and my used to be best friend and i broke up with him about 5months ago (ex # 1)then he went out with my ex friend and they broke up i was in a relationship with my exs bff (ex # 2and we broke up now ex # 1 told 1 of my friends he wants to date me again but hes going to wait a while to make a move what should i do when he does make a move sorry if this sounds confusing
You're just a kid. Focus on school... :/
I am thinking about a career as a CNA, However I am worried about doing the dirty work and whether I can habdle it...
Someone told me home care is a good place to start off and that its mostly dirty work in nursing homes. How do I know if I can overcome this? How did you overcome it? Is it as bad as people say? Do you enjoy your job? Pay?
Sorry for so many questions but I'd like opinions so I know what I may be getting into.
I am a CNA and have been doing this type of work since I graduated high school; for 6 years. Honestly you just have to have a good heart and enjoy helping people. Also keep in mind that you are doing a good thing and treat people like you would like for them to treat you if you needed care and were dependent on others. I've always dreamed of being a nurse and helping others; currently enrolled in nursing school at the moment. Honestly the work is not for everyone. You gotta be prepared to work a lot of hours; if somebody doesn't show up you might have to stay. Also just like any job there will always be people you don't necessarily like working with. I overcame it by keeping in mind that I'm doing good, honest work, and honestly I just enjoy working with others. Your making a difference in people's lives for the better. I very much enjoy the work of being a CNA, and it can be bad but every job can be bad. You get over the icky stuff pretty quick if you stick with it. The pay is not that great but everyone knows aides never get paid well. I suggest trying it out, if it's not for you don't just walk out the middle of the shift, and if you do plan on it at least tell management or the charge nurse first before you do so. Just be honest with them and tell them it's not for you. They will appreciate the honesty. And as for the person below, you don't actually give meds as a CNA. Have to have your level one med aide certificate, CMT, or nursing license for that. Also, to actually become a CNA it's a course they they will make sure you are thoroughly prepared for. It's a 3-4 mth course that teaches you how to do things the correct way. Best of luck to you.
Do you have any suggestion for a birthday gift that ALL men like? I don't know him that well, but I want to give him something he will really remember. :)
A good pocket knife, or make him a good steak unless he's a vegetarian, or take him out to dinner if you can't cook. If he's a gamer get him a game he doesn't have. Maybe a subscription to magazine. Hope I helped.
I know this may sound like a dumb question but I have dark reddish brown hair and really fair skin (like the skin of most redheads) it has pink undertones and it's freckled. Most brunettes I know even if lighter skinned aren't as light skinned as myself...?
Your probably a nice person but you don't need to be tripping on color. How old are you? Lots of people find red headed folk very attractive.
I am a Christian and I'm working on being a better one, but I'll be the first person to admit that I'm far from perfect. I have debilitating guilt and shame about my past and even the way I came to Christ, even though that sounds strange now that I'm writing it.
I feel like everyone else has really great, inspiring stories and I have kind of a cowardice one. Long story short, I wanted to come to God for years, but thought that I was too bad to do so. Like God wouldn't want someone like me. I didn't have the courage to find out if that was true or not until I was sick and thought I might be dying soon. When I found out that you can be forgiven for anything, I asked Jesus into my heart. (I'm fine now BTW).
Getting to my problem, my dad will not stop judging me, or my family for that matter. He judges us for missing church and any sins we commit. He'll imply or flat out say that we won't go to Heaven because of certain things that he himself does.
I hope this doesn't sound like I'm being hypocritical and judging him, but he's got problems as well. He talks hatefully to my mom, he does rotten thing to people, he uses filthy language, he lies, he takes our things that don't belong to him and these are the kinds of things he judges us for. He'll come home from church and act this way. I've never habitually done all of these things and I've repented, but when I drop the ball, he's all over me. I'm not saying that my dad's a terrible man or that he's not going to Heaven, but I don't feel that he's in a position to look down his nose at me.
The worst is when he judges me for missing church. I admit that I've been bad about that, but church isn't the only place where I worship God with other Christians. I've heard that you don't have to go to church as long as you worship somewhere. It's not in the Bible. It's not that I don't like church, it's just a long story of why I don't go every single Sunday.
He's confident about his own salvation and that of certain people close to him. He just judges his household. It bothers me that he thinks I might not go to Heaven when he and some of the people close to him are no better than I am. It just plain bothers me that he judges me at all.
One reason I think it bothers me is because it makes me feel like such a loser. It brings back the guilt and shame I mentioned earlier. It also makes me wonder if I'll ever be the Christian I need to be. If my own dad doesn't have confidence in me, how strong of a Christian can I be?
What do you think of this situation?
Dude after reading your post I certainty don't think you're a loser. But my suggestion for what it's worth is to broaden your horizons. You seem like a sensitive, intelligent young person but fyi parents are not always perfect. Remain kind, sensitive,and patient with folks. Also find a spiritual path that may better suit you. Believe me there's no one size fits all. This may not be your cup of tea but check out the Catholic workers.
Hi im a 14 year old female, i know , young. But i have a boyfriend of 2 months and i like him alot but i feel like im starting to loose feelings , like i wanna be flirty with other people and not tied down, but if i do break up with him i dont wanna miss him. He gets mad over the littlest things and hes grounded so how am i supposed to have feelings if we can barley talk ?! If you were in my situation what would you do?
You're very young and will prolly have at least a dozen boyfriends in your lifetime before you finally find the "one" so it's really not a big deal. Just be kind, and break up with him in person, try to be as private about it as possible like after school or something. Just say it's not working out and that you care about him, just not in that way anymore. Eventually he'll get over it and you'll both be happier in the long run.
Hope I helped.
My younger sister is asked in my room doing something like jumping on the bed, trying on my jewelry, playing with my toys and electronics, taking things, playing with my trophies like they're dolls, out begging me to let her watch me get dressed. And everytime I invite friends over, she wants to tag along and tells my mom later,“I wanna have a play date with (friend's name) without (my name)" and acts like they're HER friends, not MINE. And when I go to my friends house without her, she throws a fit! You can hear her from across the street. And when I was watching a TV show, she ask of a sudden became a Jessie phsyco crazy mega long time fan. She always follows me, and when I went to a dance last night, she screamed and yelled and tried to steal my dress just because she can't go. And when I walk downstairs, she yells,“I WAS THERE FIRST" then cuts in front of me, and once she gets to the bottom of the stairs, she says,“I win I win I win I win" over and over again. When I'm sleeping during the day she kisses me until I wake up, and when I get dressed for a special occasion she starts walking like an elderly man who needs a cane and says that's how I'm supposed to walk, and then starts singing like a cat dying 9 times over, so loud that the people living downstairs start yelling. Any is my sister so annoying? I can never do anything without her wanting to tag along, and she never respects my privacy or items.
LOL! Little sisters and brothers are always annoying... I would know, I was one.. The reason I did it to my sister was I looked up to her and I loved her. I think it got to her and she finally broke down and told me that I couldn't act that way anymore and that she loved me very much but needed time for herself. After all, we even shared a room together.. LOL! Eventually she started making time for me. We would play school or she'd take me on bike rides just her and I. I loved that time where it was just her and I hanging out.. Now she's married with children and building her own life about 100 miles away from here... I see her & talk to her but not as much as I'd like for we are both busy! However I often think about the fun times we shared together just her and I. I know it's hard for you to comprehend this stuff right now, but eventually you miss that little annoying sister who is constantly vying for your attention, because deep down you know she just absolutely adores you and wants to just like her big sissy. One day you won't have that, you'll both be grown up and building your own families, or going to school, etc.
So my suggestion is do what my sister did with me. Tell her you love her very much but you have to have your own time. Ask her why she does this.. And then offer time where it's just you and her together doing girl stuff whether it be painting each others nails, playing school, barbies, or whatever you two decide to do together. Then explain to her that now sissy has to have her own time but remind her you love her very much and you two will spend more time together just you and her soon. I'm sure shew ill be a lot happier and you will too, and I'm confident she will not be quite as annoying... LOL notice I said quite... :) And then when you look years back at it, you will be so much happier and so will she that you had such a good relationship with your sister and love to have someone you can call up at any time just to talk or whatever your heart's desire. Hope I helped!
P.S. Remember she loves you very much and just wants to be your mini me! ^__^
person you actually met in real life rather than like a celebrity
My sister is about 7 years older than me. I actually have had crushes on a few of her guy friends. Also my dad has a few friends that are younger, like mid 30s; when I was younger I thought a few were pretty cute.
But I'm actually older then my manfriend I've been with for three years; by 28 days! :p
Hi everyone, id appreciate that if the person reading this would understand my points of views, my decisions and to try to understand how I think. Me and this guy really hit it off, we've been good friends for about 4 months and 2 of those months we started dating. We had intense chemistry, it was insane..we'd talk about how weird it is that we both feel so strongly about one another in such little time and how were shocked that we got close so easily. Now i know that some people believe that 2 months isnt a long time, and your right its not but this expirence taught me that no matter how little time you had with someone, sometimes 2 months can have more of an impact on both your lives than 2 years. What happened was that he was really affectinate and loving in the begining of our relationship, then he randomly stopped calling or being as sweet with me. I wont get into details because i dont feel its neccasary, he just randomly called me asking me to meet him cause he wanted to talk, so i said okay and went then he tells me he isnt happy, he feels like we arent sweet with eachther anymore Ofcourse i let him know that its his fault, and that im the one whos always trying to be cute and call and do and say sweet things but he never budges (which is completely true) so then i asked him this : I was like, "Do you love me, or do you just have some feelings for me, because i really do love you, a lot" then he was like "Look i have feelings for you for sure, but im not crazy about you, i think your more inlove with me than i am with you thats for sure" Honesty is the best policy, and i dont blame him for being honest, HOWEVER i am not the kind of girl that can be with someone that i love more or care for more, someone who believes he has the upper hand in the relationship ( and he has shown me that he thinks he does in many ways) so i ended it, i told him that i dont deserve that and that i should be loved in the same amount in return, why should i love someone any less? and why should he be with someone that he wants to feel more for? it makes no sense to me. Our break up wasnt terrible, we were both sad. But i made sure he knew that my dignity was above everything else and that no matter how much i love him, ill always love myself enough to walk away from anything that i feel isnt fair to me. He contacted me after a few days (4 to be exact) asking how i was, i said i was fine and he said he was great and the conversation just ended. You guys, i am so inlove with him i cant even explain, i dont know what to do or how to act anymore, i dont even know what hes thinking or have an idea about it, im really hurt and would love some guidance, please tell me what i should do? do you think him seeing how strong i am and independent will make him think twice ? Thank you all for reading this and please no harsh judgement :)
Honestly, no judgement intended but I really don't think anyone can fall in love in a short of time period as you too have been together. It's called "infatuation" which can feel like "love" when in fact it's not. If you two are broken up you need to just let him go and date other people. It may feel like your world is in crumbles right now but it's really not. There's TONS of other guys waiting to meet such a sweet compassionate person such yourself that you actually WILL fall in love with. Or who knows?? Maybe this guy is the "one." my boyfriend and I didn't talk to each other for six years, he was my first boyfriend, first kiss, and first date (dated each other for six mths and then broke up) but now we've been together for 3 years and I truly do believe he is the one and I love him SO very much. I am a true believer in the saying "If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was." So if your really love him, let him go, he just may come back and it will be better then ever before! Much love!
How? How on Earth do some people get hired? What can help me get hired? I swear they lie to us in high school about everything. I'm 18, college freshman. So far it's nothing what they said it would be. That's one lie. The second, branches out into many lies about lateness and "professionalism." I have friends who work at places such as McDonald's who show up late everyday, can barley speak English, have horrible attitudes, have no experience, go to interviews with ripped pants, smoke and drink, act ghetto, (My friend's manager uses the "N" word ON THE JOB!!" yet I cannot get one. Even after resume reviews and changes (Very short one at that as I have no experience) I've lost track of where I've applied to. The only interviews I've had were at Guitar Center twice. Nothing. It pisses me off even more when I see employees do things like text while talking to me, that happened at the movie theater. What can I do, resume, interview, action wise to improve my chances? And I'm not talking about some BIG suit and tie job. I'm applying for like dish washing and cashier jobs, minimum wage jobs. At my second interview, the guy said they have training for people with no experience so yeah. I recently applied for dish washing and had to answer over 220 questions. It requires 3 months of experience at a restaurant. But I mean c'mon most people have been washing dishes half their life by 18. It's really aggravating me. I put all this effort into optimizing resumes, knowing about products and the company, preparing for the interview, being better dressed than the interviewer and other interviewees. By the logic of my observation, if I show up to an interview late with wrinkled clothes, I'm GOING to get the job.
You should totally get into the line of work that I do! Either homecare or a nursing home. Plus, it usually pays more then minimum wage so that might be of benefit to yo as well. :) Only thing is you have to really have the heart and patience for it. A lot those type of jobs don't require you to have "experience." However they do check your references so be sure you have a few really good references such as ministers, teachers from your school, lawyers, doctors, etc. Good luck with everything.
Hi So I hooked up with this guy the other night and we texted all weekend and he said he was looking forward to hanging out with me next week and that he would call me on monday. It is now tuesday and he still hasnt called me. Who texts to say they are going to call and doesnt? It seems like a lot of effort when he could have just not talked to me after our fling.
I know this sounds cruel but you shouldn't hook up with a guy you just met anyway. As the old saying goes, "Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?" Not trying to offend you but that's the way it goes. He prolly was just trying to put you down nicely to try to avoid hurting you, and hoping you would get the point. Just try not to move things so fast next time; especially if it's a guy you really, really like. Hope I helped.
How do i get rid of dandruff. I have a bunch and im getting tried of it. When i wash my hair it comes out parctially. Whats the best way to get rid of themm
Use a dandruff shampoo. Also if you have itchiness in your scalp, which is often attributed to dandruff, you should put a small amount of vinegar in with your regular shampoo. I learned that in my cna class, and the last time I had an itchy scalp, I did just that and it really worked. Hope I helped.
i was into a relationship frm last 4 yrs.. N v broked up few mnths back.. V had sex on a normal basis..Now i gotta new guy n he thinks that m virgin.. Can anyone pls suggest me how to show d fake virginity..
Don't lie to him... There is no shame in the fact you had sex, it happens. You were with someone for a very long time who you probably had a lot of feelings for. If you feel like you have to lie to him, let him go. It's better off for you and him. Hope I helped.
So Everything was fine until I had sex with my boyfriend a month ago(used a condom). The day after we had sex around my vagina was very itchy but I thought it was just because I had shaved before. After I kept itching it, it got swollen. It was better the next day. Lately it has been itching a lot and if I itch it to much it starts burning. Now it is mostly just the left side that is itching and there is white/dry skin around it(not on the lips but the skin beside it). It seem really irritated especially after I shave. The last time I have had sex was a month ago and nothing since then. Could it just be dry? could I have STD's? Why is it itching so much now? How would I know if I did have STD's or not? (no unusual bumps, No abnormal discharge, normal period)
I would go to your doctor immediately and get checked out. No one on here is qualified enough to answer questions like that. However, it could just be a simple yeast infection without the discharge. I've had that before, but I STILL went to the doctor to be sure. Hope I helped
Can a guy get pregnant from another guy
Yes.. Here's proof!
I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now, we've been really good together but lately he's been acting a bit cold. He doesn't text me that often anymore, or when he does... It's always me texting and starting the conversation first, he's acting like he's not interested anymore. I will admit, I'm telling him what to do, well not necessarly telling him. But whenever he does something I don't like, whether it's hanging with girls or speaking to them etc, I tend to go moody and be really stressy. I have no idea what to do, I've tried to ask him if I've done anything wrong but he says I haven't and goes back to being cold. He's never affectionate towards me anymore, I never hear the words "I love you" unless it's me saying it and then he obviously says it back. I have no idea on what to do, I know you can't make someone stay when they want to leave but he's not said he doesn't want to be with me anymore, but that's how it feels. I don't want to lose him, I really don't, but I'll give it another month and I feel as though I will have lost him by then. Coming from a male themselves, and obviously a female, can you both give me your opinions on why he's gone cold and what I should do to over come this? I'd really appreciate it.
You are still very, very young. I know it's hard but it's probably best for you to just let him go. And I don't mean to sound cruel, but I don't think you really love him, you've only been dating each other for two months, but no worries.. Extremely common :) If it's meant to be you guys will get back together. My high school sweetheart and I ended up back together seven years later, but in high school we broke up of course, dated other people, etc. I wish you the best of luck hun. If this isn't meant to be, you will find someone who is.
I really like this 13 year old boy, I am a 11 year old girl but he likes me too(bf, gf way) he grabs my ass and wants to kiss, he also puts my hand on his dick. Should I make out with him? Only problem is other 13 year old boy likes me too and we all live on the same street and hang out alot. What do I do?Also please don't give me any of that choose who u like and follow ur heart junk!
This is one of the sickest things I've ever read on this site... No wonder there are so many stds, and unplanned pregnancies today! You need to talk to an adult.. like now and get all this resolved. These guys should not be touching you the way they are and you shouldn't be touching them either. I suggest you not talk to these boys anymore... This is disgusting....