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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and we recently starting dating again a few months ago. Yeah he's spectacular, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student. Not exactly sure what I want to do yet but I'll figure that out eventually. Sometimes I tend to have somewhat of a crude sense of humor, but that's okay. That's just me. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out. If you ask a stupid question though, expect a stupid answer. :)

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How do i get rid of dandruff. I have a bunch and im getting tried of it. When i wash my hair it comes out parctially. Whats the best way to get rid of themm

Use a dandruff shampoo. Also if you have itchiness in your scalp, which is often attributed to dandruff, you should put a small amount of vinegar in with your regular shampoo. I learned that in my cna class, and the last time I had an itchy scalp, I did just that and it really worked. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Hii
i was into a relationship frm last 4 yrs.. N v broked up few mnths back.. V had sex on a normal basis..Now i gotta new guy n he thinks that m virgin.. Can anyone pls suggest me how to show d fake virginity..
Thnx

Don't lie to him... There is no shame in the fact you had sex, it happens. You were with someone for a very long time who you probably had a lot of feelings for. If you feel like you have to lie to him, let him go. It's better off for you and him. Hope I helped.

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dottie4

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So Everything was fine until I had sex with my boyfriend a month ago(used a condom). The day after we had sex around my vagina was very itchy but I thought it was just because I had shaved before. After I kept itching it, it got swollen. It was better the next day. Lately it has been itching a lot and if I itch it to much it starts burning. Now it is mostly just the left side that is itching and there is white/dry skin around it(not on the lips but the skin beside it). It seem really irritated especially after I shave. The last time I have had sex was a month ago and nothing since then. Could it just be dry? could I have STD's? Why is it itching so much now? How would I know if I did have STD's or not? (no unusual bumps, No abnormal discharge, normal period)

I would go to your doctor immediately and get checked out. No one on here is qualified enough to answer questions like that. However, it could just be a simple yeast infection without the discharge. I've had that before, but I STILL went to the doctor to be sure. Hope I helped

xoxo,
dottie4

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Can a guy get pregnant from another guy

Yes.. Here's proof!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/07/03/thomas-beatie-pregnant-ma_n_110733.html

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F/16
I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now, we've been really good together but lately he's been acting a bit cold. He doesn't text me that often anymore, or when he does... It's always me texting and starting the conversation first, he's acting like he's not interested anymore. I will admit, I'm telling him what to do, well not necessarly telling him. But whenever he does something I don't like, whether it's hanging with girls or speaking to them etc, I tend to go moody and be really stressy. I have no idea what to do, I've tried to ask him if I've done anything wrong but he says I haven't and goes back to being cold. He's never affectionate towards me anymore, I never hear the words "I love you" unless it's me saying it and then he obviously says it back. I have no idea on what to do, I know you can't make someone stay when they want to leave but he's not said he doesn't want to be with me anymore, but that's how it feels. I don't want to lose him, I really don't, but I'll give it another month and I feel as though I will have lost him by then. Coming from a male themselves, and obviously a female, can you both give me your opinions on why he's gone cold and what I should do to over come this? I'd really appreciate it.

You are still very, very young. I know it's hard but it's probably best for you to just let him go. And I don't mean to sound cruel, but I don't think you really love him, you've only been dating each other for two months, but no worries.. Extremely common :) If it's meant to be you guys will get back together. My high school sweetheart and I ended up back together seven years later, but in high school we broke up of course, dated other people, etc. I wish you the best of luck hun. If this isn't meant to be, you will find someone who is.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I really like this 13 year old boy, I am a 11 year old girl but he likes me too(bf, gf way) he grabs my ass and wants to kiss, he also puts my hand on his dick. Should I make out with him? Only problem is other 13 year old boy likes me too and we all live on the same street and hang out alot. What do I do?Also please don't give me any of that choose who u like and follow ur heart junk!

This is one of the sickest things I've ever read on this site... No wonder there are so many stds, and unplanned pregnancies today! You need to talk to an adult.. like now and get all this resolved. These guys should not be touching you the way they are and you shouldn't be touching them either. I suggest you not talk to these boys anymore... This is disgusting....

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Can a girl get pregnant from precum if both of you are wearing underwear and there is no penetration, and you didnt ejaculate?

More than likely not but you do risk getting STDs like HPV so I suggest being extremely careful. HPV can be spread through any skin to skin contact, even with using a condom.

There are no tests now to test men to see if they have such a disease, but there is for women. As a result men can contract the disease, not show any symptoms, and spread it around to multiple women. They can find out through an HPV test or an abnormal pap smear.

Statistics state 3 of every 4 women get the disease at some point in their life. You need to be extremely careful nowadays, even with just fooling around.

You can go here for more information on HPV
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex/hpv-4272.htm

I don't mean to freak you out, but it's just the way things are. I suggest you and your partner get the vaccine (Gardasil) which protects you against two types of the main types of HPV that cause cancer and the main type that causes genital warts.

Better to be safe than sorry. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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so me and my bf were on a break and i was texting my guy friend about what i should do. I still really love him and i wanted to work things out. he looked through my phone and saw that i was talking to him and some other guy but they were just friendly conversations. it wasnt flirtatios at all. My ex got upset and broke up with me. He thinks that i was talking to these guys throug out our entire relationship. i wasnt. i really want to work things out with him. and he said we can start by being friends and work up from there. my question is how do i show him that i love him and that i want to work on us.

If I were you, I'd just let it go. If he acts this jealous because you happen to have a few male friends, you're better off without him. Unless you're going on dates, or having sex with these guys there is no reason why he should be acting like this.(Or if it's an ex) However, if that isn't the case, he sounds like an extremely irrational person and it also sounds like he's a control freak.

However if you really want to work it out with him, tell him how you feel. Explain to him he's acting unreasonable, and that you don't have interest in these guys on any romantic level whatsoever. If he's not willing to admit any guilt, let him go.In other words, walk away and let him find someone else who will let him manipulate them.

Good luck!

xoxo,
dottie4

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I have been battling suicide for as long as i can remember. It started because i was being abused by my brother and i had parents who didnt help me or support me when i tried seeking help.
My only outlet was self harm and taking my friends left over valium.
Neither seem to help block it out anymore. I have no coping resources and ive always felt like i dont belong here, like im an alien. I have wanted to kill myself for a while but i always chicken out. How do i do this?

No one here is going to give you advice on how to kill yourself. You need to seek therapy. Tell an adult you trust how you feel.
1-800-273-TALK (8255) Call this too, it's the National Suicide Prevention Hotline. You can message me anytime you need too.
You may fee like nobody cares, but I guarantee you that you probably have more people that care about you than you think.
You need to get a handle on these feelings. Please don't kill yourself...

xoxo,
dottie4

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I have best friend which is a guy, he did something that upsets me. Well, he just made me look like a foolish girl. He wants me to be his BFF again but i made a condition.He will write a letter to me of how important our friendship is, He didn't wrote any but we are normal friends.

And what is it you need advice on? I'm confused...

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i like this guy he never to me everytime he sees me he stares or he just look away so

Give him a goofy face next time he stares at you and then smile, maybe wink at him after...I did that with my manfriend now and we've been dating for almost a year. :)

xoxo,
dottie4

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I am on my fourth girlfriend and all of the rest broke up with me saying they dident even like me, I am in middle school I found this girl that I really she could be the one but that's what I thought about the others what should I do?

Haha! I saw this and had to post something.It brought back memories of my youth. :) Coconutcatastrophe is right, don't worry about girls yet. If it makes you feel better I didn't even have my first boyfriend till I was a freshmen in high school. Inevitably, just like most relationships formed in highschool, we broke up. We didn't realize we were meant to be together until 6 years later. LOL! But yeah, just get involved in hobbies. If you would like to learn an instrument get in band. If you want to learn a sport do that than. You are VERY young and have your whole life ahead of you. If you see a cute girl there's nothing wrong with hanging out with her, but don't get your heartbroken if it doesn't work out. Right now you should be enjoying your life, not worrying about having a date on Friday night even though it does sound like you are VERY popular.

xoxo,
dottier

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m/26 gay,well I have a boyfriend whom I relly love with all my heart and been dating for almost three years now,but over the whole last year we've been going through a lot of hardships,a lot of arguments and problems,we are not happy anymore I reckon,I'm really sad 'coz he has tried to dump me like a hundred times,and I've always begged him not to do it.Currently, I cannot stop crying bc I have realized that he no longer cares whether I'm out of his life or not,so I'm seriously thinking about moving on with my own life and just forget everything about him but it just freaks me out the idea of being alone again and miss him too much,help?THANKS!

I can definitely relate to this one... I was dating the same guy for 3.5 years, not much longer than you and this one. What ended up happening was he left for the military and we ended up breaking up. Things happen, and people move on with their lives. As you can imagine for the first 6 months I was heartbroken. I didn't want to be with anyone, see anybody, or do anything. However I knew I had to go on with my life. I got involved with volunteer work, joined clubs on my campus, and started hanging out with friends, etc. Just start doing things for yourself and don't be afraid of being alone. If you like music, start going to see live shows, just put yourself out there. You won't regret it. Hope I helped out a little.

xoxo,
dottie4

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im 13/f, im 85 pounds, and i can call myself pretty(: its okay to think your pretty and fit right? Never have i ever hugged a cute boy, dated, had my first kiss, made out, lost my virginity, humped, nothing! is that bad? im 14 in 5 months. i feel like everyone has! especially dated, hugged, or had their first kiss! i havent, is that bad? plus my parents are super awkward, and i would never talk about boys in front of them. if i dated though, it would be a secret. should i be worried?

Nothing to worry about dearie. Don't be in a hurry to grow up. Enjoy your youth while you still have it. When you hit high school I am sure you'll tons of boyfriends.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I need help my wife s getting "bored" with our sex life how can I spice it up a bit to keep her interested?

Try it while she's on her heaviest flow.. That oughta keep you from being bored. ;)

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Well i have my period and i dont want it to leak during school. What Should I Do

Plug it up!

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hi i am a good looking 58 year old man in good shape. i enjoy smelling my morning breath when i wake up in the morning.i will put off brushing my teeth for awhile. while i enjoy the smell of my morning breath.i am single i never married.did you ever hear of that.thank you.

That kind of thing will happen to folks.

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Ok well we live hour away not to bad of a drive I love her so who cares about the drive and go see her offten maybe every two weeks or week and how can you make her happy and when she's upset how to comfort her on the phone or txt I really love her she's my world I would not be able to handle the breakup if we brokeup ? Help me ideas anything ????

For one an hour is not that far away and I would not consider that a long distance relationship... I don't mean to sound harsh, but that's the way I look at it. Anyway this type of thing should not even be going through your mind (a possible break up) if your serious about this person. If she does not seem happy, I would just let her go. I would say skype with her, send her sweet text messages saying how how much you love her, and maybe even a letter every once in a while. Nothings compares to the old pen to paper. ;) You'll figure it out. Good luck.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Well hey everyone!(:

This is going to happen tomorrow night! So please answer(:
So my really good guy friend said he wanted to have sex with me. He's been flirting a lot lately and has asked a lot. I'm 14 and he's 15 but we have been friends forever! He said cause its a new year I should do something new?! So I agreed and all cause he's nice and stuff and like we've been friends for a while and idk if he's gonna get mad if I say no or something. He also wouldn't stop asking. I'm just worried I won't know what to do cause I'm a virgin and he's not. He said not to use a condom. So can I get pregnant? I don't think I want a baby! That'd be bad. I don't think I can get pregnant because I have two weeks until my period and I heard its the worst time to get pregnant or something. I am also really petite so I don't think I would be able to like have the baby. He also said because its my first time I can't get pregnant. Will I bleed? I don't want to cause I'm scared of blood! Will it hurt during and after? Please answer(: Any other tips/advice/help would be great! I don't know lots about this haha! Thanks!

Thank yaa all(: Please answer(: Don't be rude!

Sweetie, don't let this guy convince you to do something you will regret later. Your too young, and you could get pregnant even if is your first time. Your first time should be with someone you really care about, not just some "friend" who your afraid to say no to. He sounds like a real jerk and you need to get rid of him ASAP. Your still very, very young and have many years ahead of you and will do many things you regret. Please, please, please, please, please don't make this one of them. Tell this guy to get lost. If you need anything else message me any time.

xoxo,
dottie4

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so i like this guy. he was in my school and passed out this year. i am a year junior to him so i'll pass out next year!
i have been talking to him for quite a while now.. and i really like him. he likes me too. he asked me out recently.(though we both are confused on what to do because.. the problem is he is going to another country :/ for his college! and yeah well he would come back to where i live cause his family is here, but still i mean i dont know what i should do?)

Choose what you want. He won't be there forever. Personally I'd go for it.

xoxo,
dottie4

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