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Hiii everyone (= im Brianna but people mostly call me bee & im the sweet 16. i was born 9 - 9 - 90. i have two younger brothers which makes me the only girl and the oldest. im in 10th grade at HAHS. i plan to either be a pediatrican or an accountant. i have a problem trusting boys. just boys in general. i think because of my past relationship, it made me realize how easy it is to believe a lie. but dont get me wrong, i will give a boy a chance, i just learnd not to believe everything someone says unless its proven to me. i dont really have a best friend actually i consider my mom my best friend. i tell her everything and i cant picture myself hiding something from her. i plan to get married eventually but no kids. im a unique person and i could be trusted with anything. i like to help people out and make them realize things from a different view. so thats what brings me to this site. if you have any questions or need help with a situation, im here (=
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I want to let you know this might be long...
I just moved to a new town and made a bunch of friends, there is this one in particular(JADE) that I really connected with.
So around Decemeber she found a note in my backpack that had all my thoughts on it, like the stuff I'm going through like self esteem issues, frienship issues all the stuff I havent told anyone ever.
So i was mad at her but eventually we smothed things over. Our frienship was going alright for a while but lately she has been acting weird.
She won't talk to me as much, she seems a little disconnected with me. Not just all of her friends becuase she still talks to them and does things with them just not me.
I tried to talk to her about it but she just pretended like i hadn't asked.
I'm really confused as what to do becuase I want to talk to her about this and see whats going on but that dosent work very well becuase I have tried before.
I hope you can help, if you have any questions about anything just ask me! Thanks!
Well i guess to start things off, the thing i ask myself in the beginning is why was she looking in your backpack ? she had no business to be in there AND take something from it to read. but since yous` patched things up, it shouldnt really matter.
I think she is acting like that because now shes actually thinking about what the note said. like everything that you wrote, shes realizing what it all said. which is making her " turned off " & maybe making her see you different.
I know you already tried to talk to her but i think you should try one more time. Maybe ask her to sleepover or call her on the phone, or even take a walk. which ever way is easier for you, but make sure its just you two, then you can see how she reacts and you have a better chance of getting the truth.
Start by bringing up the day she found the note but try not to say it like " member the day you went into my backpack " just say something like " im glad you found the note in my backpack " let her know that something like that should bring you two closer. friends need friends especially in tough situations. tell her that you wish she could explain how she feels. maybe you two could switch stories about your life so it wont be awkward ?
If this time is still not working and shes paying no attention, im very sorry, but i dont think she wants to be friends anymore. and all you can is at least i tried. if shes going to be stubborn and not want to understand that everyones` life is not perfect, then she is very stuckup and she needs to find friends like her because your not like that. there are so many other people out in this world that will be there for you without having to lie and not spending time with you.
-sorry that this was so long, i really hope that i helped. good luck & take care.
today i smoked my first joint. nothing happened except my pupils got REALLY big and i felt jittery. then about 20 minutes after, i jugged a freaking beer within a minute. now that i think back about it, i did it only to dispite my parents, and it was a real immature & dumb decision to make. my question is, is how can i control myself from not doing it again? now that ive tried it, i know im going to want to do it again because im not going to be scared next time it's around me.
also, i've noticed my attitude has changed once i got into highschool. last year i was a straight A student and was such a good, stable, smart kid. but now i feel like im throwing my life away... i drink when i can and could care less about school. how come my attitude changed so much, i dont hang out with different kids either; it's just we discovered "alcohol".
another thing; i've noticed ever since the first time i drank, i've only gotten drunk off of hard liquor (maybe 3 times a month). how can i control this habit?!? it seems like nothings fun anymore unless i drink! and i dont want to start partying this hard especially cause it's only my freshmen year!
15/f in need of desperate help! im finally noticing im throwing my life away :[
I can think of two reasons why you might want to keep drinking & smoking. one, because most of your friends do it & since you hang out with your friends, your going to want to do certain things so that you dont feel left out. or maybe you had a bad day / things arent going your way and this is your way to make it all better and solve situations. i know types of people like you in my school, and if i ever got the chance to talk to him i would probably ask them where do they plan on getting in life ? does drinking & smoking involve getting somewhere to accomplish what they wanna be ? im guessing no so why do those kind of things. bascially what im trying to say think about where you want to be after college, what do you want to be doing. when you see these types of things around you, just simply tell yourself its not for you, its not going to help you, its certainly not making you feel any better. also try patching things uhp with your parents, then maybe you`ll feel better about yourself. another thing is that if you go hang out with your friends and you know theres gonna be smoking and drinking then tell him you have other plans. catch uhp on some school work or something. just know those kind of things dont get you anywhere.
I don't really know how to start this off so i'll just go from the begining.
So, I liked this guy (g) for a while, and my mate (j) found out about this and started acting all funny with me. Over time i kind of went off G and starting having feelings for J. So I got my friend to tell J (who still thought i liked G) "You know she don't like G any more...she likes someone else"
Right after she had told J, I walked into our form room (this was at school) and he shouts my name, calling me over and says "what was all that about?" and i just said dont worry.
So, next lesson he was like messing around with me and that (so i thought J got the picture i like him). As I said before, when J knew i liked G, he was being all weird with me. Now, i won't be seeing J for a week now, due to school holidays, but I was just thinking about this situation, what should I do? Is there anything I can do?
We speak online and everything, but I'm not sure if he knows i like him or not, i got my friend to ask him if he got what she had said to him earlier but she still hasn't replied.
Thanks xxx
I think ( J ) does like you, since the way hes acted towards you changed. he probably wants to give you hints about him liking you so that you can make you be the bigger person and ask him if he wants to be with you. since your friend already told him that you dont like your boyfriend and that you like someone else that was probably his little " cue " to move in. you know ? Since you wont be seeing him for a week, make sure you keep the contact, try not to talk to him 2 times in that week. like maybe on the computer, talk as long as you can & flirting always helps. also ask him for his number & talk to him at night before you two go to sleep. theres always movies & the mall or something. so this way when you two go back to school, the communication will still be there. and hopefully one of you two will make the first move, not in that way but telling one another that you have feelings. as for the other guy, girl get him out the picture. cause i dont think you like him enough to still be with him especially when your thinking about someone else. good luck!
Hey. Well, I don't mean to seem stuck up or concieted(sp) but everyone has always told me I'm wicked mature for my age. And when I go out or something with my friends, they often do things I know are wrong, but I really want to do anyways (not like smoking and stuff, just drinking on a very rare occasion.) And like, I really wanna have a fun time with them, like when we all have our boyfriends with us [on the rare occasion I have a boyfriend] and they're all like attached and stuff. I don't know if that information really helped, but I'm wondering if there's a way I can make myself loosen up and get a little bit less uptight. Help! Thank you :)
My best advice would probably be to stop thinking about it so much. i think when you see your friends doing certain things, you always think about " what if this happened " or " what are they gonna think, " so when you see them doing something that you would like to do, go for it. try it & if you feel that you dont like it or its not for you, you have a mouth and just say something or just stop. for the drinking part though, drink alittle a day at a time so that you can get used to it, and really see if you like it or not. also, see how your friends act after their done doing things like this and realize if thats how you wanna act after you do it too. i hope i helped.
well ive been going out with this boy for about a year now and i really love him, i do. We are best friend. but lately i have been having feelings for my ex. i cant help them and i dont know why im suddenly feeling this way. im not going to tell my current boyfriend because it will just ruin everything..can anyone give me any advice on what i should do? how can stop these feelings? why am i feeling like this? ughh its so fustrating!
i cant really relate to this at all. so i will try my best to give advice that might help. i agree with you though that you shouldnt tell your boyfriend that you feel these feelings for your ex cause it could ruin something so good and another year down the drain. i think your feeling like this just because of flashbacks. since you have a year with your boyfriend, you may think if you and your ex stayed together, would yous` make it this long ? where would you too be if you two stayed together ? something you will never. really i think its something you have to live with, you know how people say they loved someone but that person broke their heart ? thats life, unfortunally & we all go through it. im not saying these feelings will go away cause only god knows. but just know its normal to always have some kind of love in your heart for another person. maybe your first love ? who knows. just try and remind yourself that if you made it a year with the person your with now, he must be doing something right. he must be treating you the way you want to be treated and you dont want to ruin something that you are fortunate to have.
I'm a 16/f and one of my really good friends, Matt, is a 16/m. Now, I became really close with him last year, and now I sit at a lunch table with him and 8 other guys (I'm the only girl). Well, at my lunch table, there's this other guy, Tyler, that is also in my homeroom. I've become pretty good friends with Tyler this year, but no where near Matt and My relationship. Now, Matt has a girlfriend of over a year, but a lot of my friends are convinced we have something going on. But my friends also think that Tyler and I may develop into something, and I'll admit that I've been thinking about Tyler a little more romatically lately, but I swear I don't show it.
So today I told Tyler that I got him a shot glass in South Carolina (because he asked me to). And Matt looked at me and said "You've Changed so much since last year." and "you used to be so nice to me, you're just so different" (I'm never mean to the kid at all) and he was like "You're all over Tyler. You should just date him already, its not like things would be different" (no one was listening, so he didn't call me out in front of everyone or anything). Then I asked him if he was mad and he was just like "I don't know.." and looked away. He seemed more hurt than mad. And It broke my heart because I adore this kid, and I don't know what to do.
So my questions- What do you think brought all of this on? & How should I approach him about this tomorrow? Thanks so much for your help.
Honestly what i think is matt is jealous. i really do. i think he liked having a real close relationship with you. but maybe when matt got a girlfriend you two came apart not alot but alittle. thats what you might not realize especially when you have someone else on your mind. matt just has to realize that he has a girlfriend, and you cant spend your time up his a^^ all of the time. i mean after all you deserve a love life of your own right ? those words he decided to say, were out of jealousy. maybe he didnt mean them but i can tell thats what hes feeling. tomorrow confront matt ( private ) and tell him that you both deserve your own love lives although that doesnt mean you cant talk about it with eachother, just that you two are really good friends and if you end uhp with tyler, it wont change the relationship you and matt have. which brings me to my next advice, see how things go with tyler. get to know him more and dont push him away. you never know what could happen! best of luck.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months. We've been having a hard time lately because I've been very angry with him about stupid things. =/ He just told me it bugged him today & he actually broke up with me.
He's "broke up with me" in the past. But, it seems like he's serious this time, like he kept saying no when I'd say please.
I want to be with him, so bad. I'm seeing him tomorrow & I was thinking about making him something. Can you give me some ideas? Please.. Or just what to say to him.
Thankyou
I dont really have any ideas for you to get him something but i do have a couple things in mind for you to say to him. when you see him try not to cry, be as strong as you can. also dont jump right to him when you see him. wait alittle then approach him. ask him if you two can talk in private if theres other people around. tell him that you truely are sorry from the bottom of your heart for making him stress and for getting angry over stupid things. explain to him that hes the one you want to be with and no one else. tell him how is he gonna throw away everything you to have and say that if he was in your position, you wouldnt wanna break it off over a situation like this. ask him to try one more time, sometimes love deserves a second chance. i wish you all the luck in the world. keep your head up.
I have this friend Jessica. She used to be my best friend, a few years ago, and I was always good friends with her until recently because I've realized she is just not a good friend... I've always known she wasn't the greatest friend but I still liked hanging out with her before. I'm friends with mostly guys, and her and a few other girls are my only girl friends really. So whenever I hang out with my other girl friends she gets mad at me. And whenever I talk to my guy friends she thinks I'm flirting... she has no idea what flirting is obviously? She's so annoying... I mean she gets mad at me if I don't call her to invite her somewhere. She shouldn't expect me to invite her anywhere. First of all, I never invite anyone anywhere, I just go along with the plans I hear from my friends (and I tell her this all the time), and second, she is always such a jerk! She literally asked out the guy I said I liked the same MINUTE I told her I liked him. I was shocked. I'd never do that to anyone, let alone my "best friend". She disses a lot of my friends too, who I love to death, mostly my best guy friend. I tell him everything and he's really important to me, but if he just gives me a hug or something she'll be like "oh my gosh stop raping her!" WTF?? She also tried to convince me to get back with my ex boyfriend who just used me, and was pretty much the definition of an asshole, after it took me so long to break up with him. I know I am the kind of person who lets people walk all over them, I know I am too nice, but I don't want to change myself. I can't stand hanging out with someone who gets mad at me every other day for no reason, insults my friends constantly, and can't watch out for me correctly. I don't know if it's jealousy maybe? I have a lot more friends than her because not many people like her, and I am not trying to be conceited in any way, but I've heard plenty of guys say I'm hot and I don't think she's ever heard a guy say that to her. I never get mad at my friends, I watch out for them, I love them and I'm always there for them. I expect my friends to do the same, and she has been really ridiculous lately. I can't keep ignoring her calls and blowing off our plans because she keeps getting angrier and my whole life would just get thrown off balance and everything would be really awkward because our parents are friends and since we were good friends before we've had a lot of traditions. I just want her to know that she can't expect me to trust her with my secrets and to hang out with her every chance I get if she's going to be such a bitch to me and all my good friends. Really, none of my friends like her... she thinks they do... it's kind of sad. I feel bad and I guess that's half the reason I don't completely ditch her... I don't want to leave her friendless. She's the type of person who will not take anything as a lesson, she only hears what she wants to and she thinks she's better than everyone else in every aspect, and if she isn't she'll be mad. She asks me for advice, and when I tell her what I think but it isn't what she wants to hear she gets mad. I'm so sick of it. I can't tell this to her face. I have no idea how to go about this. Help?
Sorry that was so long!
This happened to me a week ago, not to long ago huh ? i hated being in this situation and i was so torn for the longest time. i dont really talk to alot of girls neither, maybe two or three, the rest are all boys. and i think of them as brothers honestly. ive been pretty close with this girl for two years now. i slowly realized her changing this year. everything i did, she had something to say about it, and it wasnt nothing nice. everything i said, she had to add something to do it. & if i didnt do something a certain way, i would get criticized. i started talking to a girl who i used to hate but just kinda grew uhp and realized that i shouldnt be holding a grudge well turns out my best friend didnt like her and was telling me that she is a sl^t and that i should stay away from her. i honestly think she is trying to control my life. also i started likeing a boy and when we got together, she laughed in my face and told me how its gonna be a disaster and how he is just going to break uhp with me. i couldnt deal with her anymore. i couldnt deal with her snotty comments or her bitchy remarks. i didnt even tell her that i didnt wanna be her friend anymore cause she doesnt listen. so when i started to do is not picking uhp when she calls, not answering her ims over the computer and not hanging out with her. i still say hi and bye when i see her but thats it. and i refuse to be consider best friends when the relationship we had was nothing close to best friends. i really think you need to get away from this girl. she is going to cause you even more stress if you keep putting uhp with her crap. i should really get this girl to be best friends with the girl that i know. then they could realize what type of person they are. really people like this are rediculous. the only thing that i can tell you, is stop talking to her. stay away from her the best you can. i hope she will get the hint, she may not get it right away but hopefully soon! im so sorry and i really hope i helped. i wish you the best of luck.
Well they say two wrongs don't make a right. I was told that you cannot prove a person guilty of something with evidence you were not given permission to collect. Does the same go for relationships? I found out by logging onto my girl-friend's email that she asked her friend for advice about a guy she said she liked. She denied she did this to me. The law says to let it be since I had no rights to find out on my own about it but will the same apply here in this situation? If I did not sign into her account, I would not have found out about this guy in the first place.
I know that was wrong for you to do that. but ive dont it before =x and trust me, i saw / read things i didnt want to see. but unfortunally it was for the best. i realized what he was doing behind my back and realized that i wasnt the only girl that he had feelings for, so i had to be strong and end it. not something i really wanted to do, but im not gonna be in a relationship if its a lie ? and you shouldnt be neither. if she is having feelings for someone else, why is she still with you ? she cant even say its love because when your in love, the thought of another person doesnt even cross your mind. i dont care if you had to be sneaky to find out soemthing like this because how else would you know ? obvisiously she wasnt gonna tell you if shes denying it. be a strong person and realize what you gotta do.
14/f well i really need advice soon please..Well on Friday afterschool..i was hanging with my friends as always, and this guy comes..and i never met him in my life..but he kept flirting with me and asking me whats my number and if i wanted to "bone". (He was just joking though,just to make me laugh) he was really cute..he kept asking me out and for my number but i was too shy, i wanted to tell him yes..but i didnt.i think on he is coming to where i hang out next frieday...so i need advice,do u think he was serious when he said he wanted to bone...cuz i thought he was joking but i wasnt sure, please give me tips on how to flirt with a guy and show him that i like him..in a sexy way.thanks in advance
Both of us cant tell if he was joking or not, its too early to tell. since you dont know him and you probably dont know his past, dont be quick to judge. so if you happen to go to that place and he is there, try not to get so worked uhp just act natural. you know like you were before he walked uhp to you and asked you for your number. i would say wear something cute but not showing too much because he might get the wrong imperession of you. and im sure if he did really did mean " bone " then you dont want him to get that impression. so when he gets there ( if ) dont walk uhp to him. let him come to you and if he asks for your number again, give it to him. because who knows, you too can end uhp together but just know that if ever you get the wrong vibe or when you start seeing the " real " him and you dont like it, theres always a decline button on the phone ;) also, try not to flirt to much, make him wonder because they love to have curiousity. just alittle tip! well good luck with everything.
Ok so i have this problem,my ex boyfriend says he doesnt want to know nothing about me anymore and that i should go and f*** another man...he tells this to my friend,he says that all i do is chase him around which is not true because i dont even call him...even though i still like him i dont communicate with him.So i dont know wat to do i believe he was super mean to my friend and he deserves for me to call him and tell him off,or should i just ignore him and let him say all those things about me.Please help thanks
You see this is exactly why i changed my whole outlook on boys. this is why the way that i am. i dont trust no boy with my heart and i probably never ever will again. stupid a^^holes for real. i went through that. my ex thought he was the shit or something and he was telling everyone that i stay calling him and that im on his d^ck 24 | 7. you know what, let them tell everyone whatever they want, if that makes them feel better about themself, then so be it. we just know the truth and thats all that matters right ? they just need to get lives and grow uhp already. damn boys these days really needa act their age and not their shoe size. anyways, honestly, i dont think you should call him. girls are strong and if he hurt your friend, you needa say " does he matter to her " my guess is probably no & if he doesnt matter then who cares. mind over matter! let him act the badass all he wants, just know it aint gonna get him no where. and you`ll see who comes out on top (= amen!
Aright I have this friend and we get in aruments ALOT were fine by ourselfs but not around our other friends i dont know why it's so gay... and people tell us and i know its gonna get worse in our middle teens... please help♥
Thanxs
Me and my best friend well ex best friend i guess always had this problem. when we would have sleepovers with just us two, things would be fine. we would laugh, smile but nothing close to arugeing. but when it came to being in school @ lunch sitting with our other friends, we would argue, pretty much about anything and everything. mostly stupid little things though. what happened to me was eventually i couldnt take it anymore, i couldnt stand arguing and all though sometimes i do miss the times we had together, i cant stay aruging everyday of my life. and i know what you mean by it only getting worse. thats what i told myself and thats why i did what i did. i just keep distance from me and her. i mean i still talk to her because i could never have the hear to just drop her like that especially since we were such good friends, but when you look at it, you cant spend everyday aruging especially over stupid little stuff ? its just going to cause stress and eventually make one or both of you cry & someones` feelings will get hurt real bad. just try and look for someone else that you have a lot in common with. im not saying get another best friend or something like that but you can never have more then one friend!
okay so , this is actually really comnplicated but i'll try to make it short & sweet & not waste too much of your time. Once upon a time i fell for one of my friend's boyfriends (don't worry i told her about it and she was cool with it & liked the idea of us being together)Things were going great and according to my friends he was planning on asking me out he was just wating for the perfect moment (which was a blind date Xmas present thing) well he never did and i later find out that thigns statred to get complicated and confusing for him right around xmas break (the time he was suppose to ask me out) & then i find out that there was sorta another girl he liked at his school & his ex girlfriend started to feel things again (i knew that would happen & he always felt stongly about her & it took some time but i was the one to change his mind and make him move on) so i got frusterated because he didn't know what he wanted and backed out of the picture so i pretty much slowly backed out of the picture so he could have time to himself and figure things out. And well we don't really talk so much anymore, & my firends don't really care for him anymore. But i just want to find out reasons, why he didn't jsut ask me, if he liked me that much, why did he hesitate, and yet im still crazy about him, I mean i try to avoid him but i secretely still want him. Does that make any sense, And he is my first major crush in a very very long time. How do i get his attention again, & how do i get those answers to why he changed his mind? Anyway thats BASICALLY it, Theres more detail but you don't really want to hear that,s o yeha, does anybody know what i can do???
18 yrs old
hmm where to start! first off lemmie say i have alot of respect for you for getting away from him and making distance with him. because not alot of girls are that strong to that. you did the right thing especially since things were getting hard for him. Because sometimes when a person is overwhelmed, it can lead to things being said but not being meant. i think that even if your friend didnt have feelings for him again, it would change the outcome. because look, they`re not talking anymore so what is holding him back from talking you again ? i have so many thoughts about why he could of changed his mind, since i really dont know the person, you could probably pick out which one it is sicne you know him better. maybe he was scared to have another serious relationship ? like scared to catch alot of feelings for a girl since the last relationship turned into them not being together anymore. another possibility could be that he lost feelings, sometimes people realize that they just dont want a relationship and they want to be single. i guess what im trying to say is that if he really liked you and wanted a relationship with you, he would be the one to come to you and say that he still likes you and say sorry for what he did. you cant really bother him too much just incase he gets annoyed. just give it time and if nothing happens, then let it go. i really wish you the best of luck.
I really like this guy and he knows but he said I'm not ugly he just dont want a gf right now, and hes not really aloud, but he does anyway! but i dont know what do do I'm not sure if i know what love is but i think I'm in it...
What do i do?♥
Let me start off by saying love has no age. love can start at any age, so with that said, you could be in love - then again you may not. But to be honest, hes not the one to share your love with. he could really mean that you are pretty but i doubt that he cant date obviously since he got a girl. he just wasnt man enough to tell you that he didnt have feelings for you but now look where you ended uhp right ? unfortunally broken hearts end uhp from situations like this, but there is nothing you can do as bad as it sounds. you just have to move on and eventually you will meet someone who will want to be with you and wont lie to you. just always remember, what doesnt kill you _only makes you stronger!
Hey. Well I'm thirteena and in seventh grade and I like someone who's14 in 8th. See, I don't know if I like him or not. Becuase like, somedays, [when I was going out with him] I'd be thinking and I'd just be like "Uhg, I really don't wanna be with him." Then other days I really like him. What's wrong with me?
I been there before. actually it happened to me in the same grade, except the boy was in the same grade as me. What happened to me was when i was going out with him, i felt like i shouldnt be with him because i didnt have alot of feelings for him. but before that, i " acted " like i had this HUGE crush on him. the reason why i used the word acted was because after i broke uhp with him the feelings were gone. i think at the time, i just had to have a boyfriend. maybe i was sick of being single or something, i really honestly dont know what it was. but my point is i really dont think you have feelings for him because if you did then you would stay with him through whatever. its true what they say, girls want what they cant have. so maybe when your not going out with him, you want him just to have him. you will eventually grow out of that but until then just keep reminding yourself of this. best of luck.
i like these two guys, one of them is my really good friend, the other one is mh friend but i don't see him very much and i don't really see him outside of school. so both of them have girlfriends... which really sucks. the one that i'm really good friends with has a really happy relationship... they're soo cute... so he's off limits... but he's a huge flirt and he makes moves on me and stuff... and it's really hard for me to not come back at him and flirt right back. so how can i keep my self control when it's sooo hard to do with him? and the second guy is even more of a flirt! and i really like him, and i think he likes me. but he's with another chick, i really hope they break up... which is totally messed up, i know! so forgive me for asking this but is there anyway that i can get them to break up so he's avalible? and if you're going to tell me that i should just get over him or something like that please just don't say it.
Well for the first guy that you like with the amazing relationship, since hes a big flirt, maybe he just wants a " peice. " because i mean if he liked you then he would break uhp with his girl and be with you, you know ? you just cant make someone like you so honestly distace yourself far away from him as you can. because trust me i know its hard not to flirt back with someone who you have feelings for. i know you heard it so many times but there ARE other fishes in the sea, ones who have the same feeling that you have for them. you just cant break uhp something that two people have, thats life. There are ways to break two people uhp but im sure that after its done, you will feel like a horrible person. really, i dont think that you could live with what you done because i know i couldnt. i mean what if they did break uhp ? how are SURE that he will go right to you ? would you want to see either of them unhappy ? just have patience and you will see that you`ll find a boy who you can have a great relationship just like the two boys that you know. i really hope i helped.
me and this boy have been together for 9 monthss.. i like him so much! theres this other guy though, we talk alott.. and we hang out every now and then, and i have feelings for him too. When he wont talk to me it hurtss mee.. and when we do talk i like him, but sometimes more than others..
I cant just stop talkin to him though, cause i like himm... even though i know its wrong, because i have a boyfriend who i also like a lott.. i dont want to leave him he treats me so good, i feel like such a bad person though for having feelings for someone else
what can i do.. or what should i do?
ah i really need help : (
unfortunally, ive been in this situation before. and i felt like the worse person, not only because of what i was doing to my boyfriend but also thinking to myself " this aint me. " because i know i wouldnt like it done to me. your best bet is to probably break uhp with your boyfriend, as bad as that sounds because i know its something you dont want to do. but i just looked at it this way, imangine if the boy your liking found out you have a boyfriend OR what if your boyfriend found out that had feelings for someone else ? if you break uhp with your boyfriend, tell him you still want to be friends and keep a real close relationship. also still stay talking to the boy you like. because that is no where near cheating. in the end, you will find out who you like more, your " ex " will still see how amazing you are and the boy you like could end uhp as your new boyfriend. best of luck!
So I've always been really mature for my age, and sometimes I feel like I'm one of the only people in my school who actually is mature. But now it's really starting to get to me. I mean, I'm sitting there in English class trying to get work done while all of the obnoxious people in my class are yelling and talking about how drunk or high they were last weekend and I just get so angry! I want to turn around and scream "shut the hell up" to them but I know this will just make matters worse and I'd probably just get picked on or something.
Also, when i was in middle school, I was really excited to go to high school to get a nice, unannoying boyfriend, but in fact, all of the guys seem to go after all of the ditzy, slutty, obnoxious girls that crave attention in high school. Well, I always used to think that in high school, people would be more mature, but in reality, they are just as obnoxious. I sometimes think that things are going to be so much better when I'm in college, but I really dont know, college could actually turn out with even more immature people who are even more obssesed with getting drunk.
So, my question is, will I, a person whose felt like she was too old for her age, fit in more in college? Or am I just too mature and serious, and I'll have to be less responsible and less mature to ever really fit in? I know this is really long and I appreciate anyone who took the time to read it.
i can relate to your situation. to start, i have alot of respect for myself, more then anyone in my school. people start to call me prude and stupid names like that but honestly i can care less. i have never smoked before or gotten drunk and im 16. to me, all the outcomes and possiblities of what can happen, is NO WHERE near fun. i get the same feeling when i hear someone saying how " high " they were or how " fxcked uhp " they got over the weekend. theres no point really ? what fun do they get out of it ? we are very mature and we can thank every outcome of sitautions like that. we learned from other peoples` mistakes and thats why have the knowledge we have. just dont EVER think for a second that you need to be doing what everyone else is doing. im sure sooner or later you will meet someone just like you. so you are no where " too " mature or serious. there are other people like you and your not alot. it`ll just take time to find someone as special as you and who sees views like you. keep your head up!
I have mass friends at school, but recently I come to find out, several of them are getting pregnant, and having kids. It's not like they are twenty or something. Otherwise, I wouldn't care because they're old enough (I think). They are ranging from 14 to 17 years old.
I find it seriously ridiculous that my friends are just having sex like it's nothing, and end up getting pregnant. In fact, a few of those people are Christians, and told me so many times they would never do that and it's pathetic. Months later, they find a guy, have sex with them, and they leave my friends. Later on coming to find out they are pregnant and have the kid.
If it was like 1 or 2 people, I would understand. But it's becoming an epidemic almost at my school. Approximately 10 girls are pregnant (whom are my friends), and another 5 had their kid within the last year.
Don't criticize me of my opinion though because I really can't help it. I am a Christian, I love my friends, I still pray for them, and support them. But I just get so mad thinking about it, like they basically ruined what was going for them. A friend of mine wanted to leave her house (family problems) and become a Vet. Now she got pregnant, and she is stuck there in poverty. Can't even afford a decent meal for her and her child, since her family is stuck on welfare and social security for paying for other things. Her boyfriend like left her, so there is very little for her and her son. She is battling for the father to pay for child support.
Please don't get me wrong to whoever has been in that situation of getting pregnant at an early age. I can see the struggle in it, and the effects, but seeing my friends make bad choices just angers me because I want them to have self-respect, and do something successful. I am quite prude, so don't judge me on that, and you can't blame me at some extent. I feel guilty for basically not trying to understand the reasons why it happened, and the circumstances. It's hard to understand.
So, my question is, how can I get over this?? I've been trying for a long time to get over it, but more people getting pregnant, so my anger comes back.
Please remember I am not here to judge, criticize, or offend anyone here, so don't take it personally. I just need advice, please. Thanks!
You are no where near wrong on having your opinions. everyone has their opinion on something, thats what makes the world go round. to be honest, i agree with you. Its something that happens alot in my school, and its not because of an accident, girls actually want a baby at their age and to me its not right. to keep you from getting into situations you dont want to be, keep your opinions to yourself. but everything you said, i can relate to. ive never been kissed or had like any sexual intercourse so believe me i know what your saying. like to me, girls should have alot of respect for themselves and realize they have a whole life ahead of them to do that stuff. but some just dont get it. and i dont think nothing will change their mind. cause look they see it happened to other girls so why arent they learning ? its just one of those situations that they need to find out on their own. i know their your friends but all you can do is sit back and watch. in the end, it will make you so much stronger, i believe in that 100%. maybe try writing also, to get your thoughts out. if you can think of anything else to help, notify me too. since i feel the same exact way. good luck with everything and always remember you are your own person and you have your own thoughts.
well i've been friends with this girl name elizabeth since kindergarten after alittle while i got mixed up classes and had a new friend name victoria we play basketball together football we go to the movies and all the bff stuff victoria is also friends with elizabeth me and her dont want to hang with her because she dosent want to do what we want to do what should me amd victoria do
Well for one thing, i really dont think that you & victoria should leave out elizabeth. especially since your best friends with her and no one deseverd to be ditched. my suggestion is maybe ask elizabeth likes to do, ask her what she would like to do one day and since yous` are all friends do what she wants one day and then the next you and victoria pick what yous` three are going to do. by taking turns, no fights should occur and no one will be left out. maybe yous` will learn to like what each one of yous` like to do. good luck!